FabSwingers.com forum: Long time users with no verifications

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know there's a lot of people that are on here just to chat and perv at the photos and post their own which is absolutely fine.

There are a growing number of users that have been on here for over a year that say they are looking for meets but with no verifications.

I know you can filter out all the profiles with no verifications but that leaves out all the new users that could be potentially a lovely meet!

I've wasted my time having protracted conversations with people that have no intention of meeting. I know this is one of the pitfalls of Fab but it's kinda annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the difference between someone with a year old profile that will never meet, and someone with a new profile that will never meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the difference between someone with a year old profile that will never meet, and someone with a new profile that will never meet?"

I don't know, what is the difference between someone with a year old profile that will never meet, and someone with a new profile that will never meet? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take any notice of verifications...I've only had one time waster. I don't feel the need to advertise my sexual history, I feel that it's private, if someone dismisses me based on my decision, I understand and accept that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the difference between someone with a year old profile that will never meet, and someone with a new profile that will never meet?"

12 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are clear that they are not here to meet then that's fine

I think the op is saying it's the ones who pretend they are up for meets who actually have no intention of playing

I too find this frustrating

I guess the clues are there but.......

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

This is why I set timescales from initial chat to a meet. If no meet within a few weeks I move on. In my experience people are quick to say "soon" but have no intention to meet.

Yes the flip side is the other person may be busy or may want to chat more etc.. but that ultimately is their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then there are those that meet plenty and choose not to be verified.....I've met guys with none who do very well on the meet front and in clubs....verifications don't mean a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about "

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met over a hundred newbies , that's to say those with no veris and new to the site .

However , we wouldn't waste our time with users who have been on the site for ages with no veris , or just cam veris .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually steer away from those,or ones with one verification from over a year ago. Although if the profile catches my eye I may chat a little and see how I feel about it. Someone who has been here a year or 2 months,who just wants a wank,will have roughly the same modus operandi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

Bowing to your ability to judge a complete stranger from a message on a screen

Impressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

Bowing to your ability to judge a complete stranger from a message on a screen

Impressive "

I haven't been wrong about all those I've met in 4 years so I'd say i know what I'm talking about....or do you think maybe I'm just really really really lucky?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

And I like you just a little bit more.

How about verifications from cam? Doesn't mean they will meet. Or 9 verifications from the same person.. again, why? Verifications that are 12+ months old....

I don't do verifications. My choice. Maybe I "miss-out" on all the people that set so much store by them.. my loss. But are they a good indicator? To me a photo veri, proves gender, that's all I need to know. The messages I will have with a potential meet will prove the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

Bowing to your ability to judge a complete stranger from a message on a screen

Impressive "

I would say we have fairly good judgement, but as we are having to make a judgement on a complete stranger, we like to have as much information as possible, and we personally find verifications invaluable. In fact the only times we have made mistakes is when we relax our rules about verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

And I like you just a little bit more.

How about verifications from cam? Doesn't mean they will meet. Or 9 verifications from the same person.. again, why? Verifications that are 12+ months old....

With the trust levels being as they are on this site

I would suggest anyone could say 'I don't want verification'

Could be true

Could be a big smelly fib

We will never know

Anyway I find a good verification is quite gratifying and I reach my latter years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really feel the need to advertise my sexual activity people know who they are if we have met also I like to find quality not quantity it's hard to find decent ppl on here to build trust and friendship with before a sexual meet up nsa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

And I like you just a little bit more.

How about verifications from cam? Doesn't mean they will meet. Or 9 verifications from the same person.. again, why? Verifications that are 12+ months old....

With the trust levels being as they are on this site

I would suggest anyone could say 'I don't want verification'

Could be true

Could be a big smelly fib

We will never know

Anyway I find a good verification is quite gratifying and I reach my latter years

So now I am lying... sheesh.. you do like to grind an axe.

Never mind. I manage my profile the way I manage it...if people don't like that. That's their choice and above everything; I applaud choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

And I like you just a little bit more.

How about verifications from cam? Doesn't mean they will meet. Or 9 verifications from the same person.. again, why? Verifications that are 12+ months old....

With the trust levels being as they are on this site

I would suggest anyone could say 'I don't want verification'

Could be true

Could be a big smelly fib

We will never know

Anyway I find a good verification is quite gratifying and I reach my latter years

So now I am lying... sheesh.. you do like to grind an axe.

Never mind. I manage my profile the way I manage it...if people don't like that. That's their choice and above everything; I applaud choice.

Darling amazing pauly

Please tell me where I called you a liar

Please please please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest anyone could say 'I don't want verification'

Could be true

Could be a big smelly fib

We will never know

Darling amazing pauly

Please tell me where I called you a liar

Please please please "

About there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at verifications and would tend to ignore a long term member with non or only cam veries.

We don't mind if it just says a social, at least we know they will meet up. We have some displayed but wouldn't display hundreds of we did have them. A few shown gives a clear indication you're not a fake or just around to perv at pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us prefer to keep our sexual history private.

It is soon obvious if someone is not going to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose not to show my Verifications.. take me or leave me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I choose not to show my Verifications.. take me or leave me

Same here. Ive had 3 nice meets and Im really not bothered about having veris. I also say take me or leave me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once got chatting to couple that profile said they where BI and looking for BI guys only but had out of 15 veris 14 where from st8 guys!

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

I have been on here over 5 years been off for 2 but left profile open if you look i have met 18 people but only have 2 veris so to me it does not mater but to every one isend message to it does i will start a forum onhere now lets see how many reply to it

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"I don't take any notice of verifications...I've only had one time waster. I don't feel the need to advertise my sexual history, I feel that it's private, if someone dismisses me based on my decision, I understand and accept that. "

well said,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree

In my opinion verification is a good indicator

There are too many fakes about

True. Some need to use them as a good indicator. Others just have very good judgement.

And I like you just a little bit more.

How about verifications from cam? Doesn't mean they will meet. Or 9 verifications from the same person.. again, why? Verifications that are 12+ months old....

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it rude not to display verifications?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it rude not to display verifications? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust my own judgement over someones elses (via a verification) every time. I'd hope people I'm interested in meeting are the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it rude not to display verifications?

No"

Ok, thanks. I always thought that if you don't display them, the person who wrote them might feel like you're embarrassed of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it rude not to display verifications?

Ok, thanks. I always thought that if you don't display them, the person who wrote them might feel like you're embarrassed of them

I make it clear to those i meet that they don't have to write one unless they feel the burning desire to do so and that i probably won't display it most of the time anyway. I wouldn't meet someone who's going to be a drama queen over veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would not consider meeting anyone with no verifications regardless of how long they have been on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot depends on where you live too. It's impossible to get a meet here. I'm sure fab is used more in certain parts, and less in other parts of the uk also?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest anyone could say 'I don't want verification'

Could be true

Could be a big smelly fib

We will never know

Darling amazing pauly

Please tell me where I called you a liar

Please please please

About there..."

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it rude not to display verifications?

Ok, thanks. I always thought that if you don't display them, the person who wrote them might feel like you're embarrassed of them

Definitely this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot depends on where you live too. It's impossible to get a meet here. I'm sure fab is used more in certain parts, and less in other parts of the uk also?"

Yes it is....the southwest is a dead zone....most of the guys I've met have been London or Midlands based.

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By *otJustAnotherMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Interesting topic, (i've chosen not to show verifications). But I do wander whether people not giving a chance to an older profile with no veris is part of the reason I have noticed some profiles close down to then start an identical one...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it rude not to display verifications?

Ok, thanks. I always thought that if you don't display them, the person who wrote them might feel like you're embarrassed of them

Some might, but it's your profile and you run it how you want not how anyone else wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have any meets on my profile because ive not had any meets and thatsnot for the want of trying . Id love a meet but not just for the sake of it . I am genuine and hopeful .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot depends on where you live too. It's impossible to get a meet here. I'm sure fab is used more in certain parts, and less in other parts of the uk also?

Yes it is....the southwest is a dead zone....most of the guys I've met have been London or Midlands based."

Most of the ladies I meet are from the Midlands and London, we could car share!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot depends on where you live too. It's impossible to get a meet here. I'm sure fab is used more in certain parts, and less in other parts of the uk also?

Yes it is....the southwest is a dead zone....most of the guys I've met have been London or Midlands based.

Most of the ladies I meet are from the Midlands and London, we could car share!!"

Deal....I'll even let you eat all the aniseed twists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot depends on where you live too. It's impossible to get a meet here. I'm sure fab is used more in certain parts, and less in other parts of the uk also?

Yes it is....the southwest is a dead zone....most of the guys I've met have been London or Midlands based.

Most of the ladies I meet are from the Midlands and London, we could car share!!

Deal....I'll even let you eat all the aniseed twists

I will introduce you to my Spanish friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one I would meet if can find someone willing to meet attached but on here single a smoker and 49yr which aren't many in my area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's the difference between someone with a year old profile that will never meet, and someone with a new profile that will never meet?

I don't know, what is the difference between someone with a year old profile that will never meet, and someone with a new profile that will never meet? Lol"

Nowt.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"What's the difference between someone with a year old profile that will never meet, and someone with a new profile that will never meet?"

A year

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's not about 'advertising your sexual history'. If someone has some nice verifications saying how great company they were, good fun etc. then you've got a pretty good idea they're not a nutbag and a decent person and above all serious about meeting up. That's what they're there for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to chat for weeks before meeting so had our time wasted a lot easiest way to flush them out if your suspicious is to push for a social or meet and gauge their reaction

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

"It's not about 'advertising your sexual history'. If someone has some nice verifications saying how great company they were, good fun etc. then you've got a pretty good idea they're not a nutbag and a decent person and above all serious about meeting up. That's what they're there for..."

No they aren't;

They simply say that you are the sex you say you are; that you look roughly like your picture( if you have one); and that you turned up:

The rest is simply subjective opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no verifications but had five meets in a row cancel at the last minute so gave up on meets. Just chat and have the craic here now

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By *obluvs2playMan
over a year ago

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It's hard enough to chat let alone to get verified on hear as a single straight male, a lot of couples and women seem bombarded with choice or my chat is crap lol.

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over a year ago

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Well I rarely meet. My verifications may appear new but they were written by two friends I have known a long while. They wrote the verifications very kindly quite recently although I never requested them to. Just a nice gesture. However because they were written and published recently doesn't mean I have had recent meets. I am fussy and right now. ..happy to chat until /unless I feel the time /person is right.

Either that or I am a psychopathic nutcase who you should meet!! I like to meet about 3 am in a dark car park behind Lidl!!!! I'll be wearing a pink fluffy dressing gown and slippers. I probably won't have showered or made any effort. In fact I rarely clean my teeth as I don't believe in being too clean! Also don't worry about condoms. I have already got every infection going anyway so I doubt you can give me anything I haven't got! The scabby bits do fall off eventueally though.....

Now... who wants to go first? ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I rarely meet. My verifications may appear new but they were written by two friends I have known a long while. They wrote the verifications very kindly quite recently although I never requested them to. Just a nice gesture. However because they were written and published recently doesn't mean I have had recent meets. I am fussy and right now. ..happy to chat until /unless I feel the time /person is right.

Now... who wants to go first? ??

Sounds like the stereotype fabber that you will find on the site? lol.

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Now... who wants to go first? ??

Sounds like the stereotype fabber that you will find on the site? lol."

Oh dear! I would duck for cover after that comment! Haven't you seen how gorgeous some people on here are?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now... who wants to go first? ??

Sounds like the stereotype fabber that you will find on the site? lol.

Oh dear! I would duck for cover after that comment! Haven't you seen how gorgeous some people on here are?????"

Very few and far between.

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By *xplorecpl25Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"I know there's a lot of people that are on here just to chat and perv at the photos and post their own which is absolutely fine.

There are a growing number of users that have been on here for over a year that say they are looking for meets but with no verifications.

I know you can filter out all the profiles with no verifications but that leaves out all the new users that could be potentially a lovely meet!

I've wasted my time having protracted conversations with people that have no intention of meeting. I know this is one of the pitfalls of Fab but it's kinda annoying!"

This was a problem for us until recently, we had a genuine reason as to why we had no verifications and we got alot of questioning and douting from some people.

It takes a long time for people to find the right people to meet, for us a connection needs to be formed and thats a rarity really, so were some are playing a game, alot just haven't found there match yet and i guess its up to you to work it out x

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