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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After a few discussions of late.. I thought I would post this..

Not asking if you enjoy it... more what makes it rough for you.. is it a hand in your hair? a slap perhaps.. held down, the way the man/woman rides or fucks you...

What is your idea of rough sex.. To be fair I would like to get to the stage of telling a guy.. back off a bit.. but as yet in swinging that has never happened.. not even group situations..

Also.. when would you think that it was to much??

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy nearly broke my jaw and blacked my eye....that's what I call too rough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy nearly broke my jaw and blacked my eye....that's what I call too rough."

Jesus. Hope you gave him one bacl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy nearly broke my jaw and blacked my eye....that's what I call too rough.

Jesus. Hope you gave him one bacl "

It was only supposed to be a good night kiss at the door....thankfully my friends heard me struggling and came to help me throw him out......he turned from a gentleman to an animal within seconds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy nearly broke my jaw and blacked my eye....that's what I call too rough."

That's not rough, that's abuse

Sorry you had to experience that

There's no excuse for that sort of behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy nearly broke my jaw and blacked my eye....that's what I call too rough.

That's not rough, that's abuse

Sorry you had to experience that

There's no excuse for that sort of behaviour"

That was a non-swinger encounter....no wonder I prefer the fab friendships and encounters. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kate likes "rough play" sometimes, but I don't like it, it's just not me.

She likes to swear and goad her playmates and I find that very uncomfortable, and it's one of the reasons we like seperate room play, so that I don't stop her "enjoying herself"

She can be a bit of a handfull sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few discussions of late.. I thought I would post this..

Not asking if you enjoy it... more what makes it rough for you.. is it a hand in your hair? a slap perhaps.. held down, the way the man/woman rides or fucks you...

What is your idea of rough sex.. To be fair I would like to get to the stage of telling a guy.. back off a bit.. but as yet in swinging that has never happened.. not even group situations..

Also.. when would you think that it was to much??

Katie. x"

For me it would all depend on who im with.

I like building up to quite rough sex and especially being held down when im coming, but my partner knows exactly how much force to use to keep it sexy.

If i was with a stranger id need to feel that any force used was not about power or disrespect, a tricky level to find i think!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not found a guy yet where ive had too much. I am pretty vanilla when i first meet someone new or in a club. Just because im into something doesnt mean im going to do it with just anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tra likes rough sex but to be honest she gets more excited at the threat of rough sex.

she likes to be dominated but loves to be told beforehand exactly what's going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy nearly broke my jaw and blacked my eye....that's what I call too rough.

That's not rough, that's abuse

Sorry you had to experience that

There's no excuse for that sort of behaviour"

So true Jack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not found a guy yet where ive had too much. I am pretty vanilla when i first meet someone new or in a club. Just because im into something doesnt mean im going to do it with just anyone. "

We have friends that we see occaisionally and the guy is quite powerfully build. Kate loves him to throw her around, it really gets her going, and he is happy to oblige, lol.

Weird isn't it, we been together 30yrs, married for 28 of them, and I've only just found out my wife likes it rough?

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

I like rough sex when in the mood, love bondage play also like spreader bars. My partner is only just getting into it as never done it before he met me. The first time i asked him to spit on me his face was a picture, but he is getting used to me now. Dont mind a good slap across the face and that sort of stuff. Never done it with anyone else but maybe one day we will try, also dont like rough sex all the time. Dont mind bruses or marks either, as a nice reminder of a good nights rough sex. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A guy nearly broke my jaw and blacked my eye....that's what I call too rough.

Jesus. Hope you gave him one bacl

It was only supposed to be a good night kiss at the door....thankfully my friends heard me struggling and came to help me throw him out......he turned from a gentleman to an animal within seconds. "

That sounds bloody horrendous ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A guy nearly broke my jaw and blacked my eye....that's what I call too rough."

would say that could be deemed a little excessive.. Although for some play I do like bruising.. but thats consential.. not obviously what happened in your case.. which is shocking..

I dont really think my limits on rough can be defined.. as yet I havent found a guy on here that was rough in bed..

Even sexually.... I do love rough play but its not something we would do with a casual encounter..

For me to rough would be me needing hospital.. guessing thats when its over stepped the mark... but not really going to get close to that on here.. ( if they did they would be needing hospital after)

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like rough sex when in the mood, love bondage play also like spreader bars. My partner is only just getting into it as never done it before he met me. The first time i asked him to spit on me his face was a picture, but he is getting used to me now. Dont mind a good slap across the face and that sort of stuff. Never done it with anyone else but maybe one day we will try, also dont like rough sex all the time. Dont mind bruses or marks either, as a nice reminder of a good nights rough sex. x"

It would freak me out if a lady asked me to spit on her and slap her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pain and pleasure are not that different in that they both release endorphins (neurotransmitters -- the body's natural painkillers). Experiencing sexual pleasure releases endorphins and so does a spanking. Endorphins are likely released amid experiencing pain in order to soothe the mind. But then again, the pain Im referring to need not be intense. It all depends on what the two of you are up for.

You can be tame or you can get wild...Light spanking whipping is good but should never hurt, Biting: If done right, biting can provide for some incredibly erotic pleasure. Slowly kiss and eventually start nibbling on different parts of the body including (but not limited to) her neck, shoulders, hips, outer thighs, and buttocks. Depending on her reaction, begin biting with more intensity, but don't break the skin -- that's not your intention.Hair pulling foreplay I could pull on it while in doggy position or Hold her/him down by wrists there are times when wants to move hands all over your body, but don't let her/him. Pin her/him arms down by the wrists and don't allow her/him to move them at all. The best place to do this is up against a wall. The next time she enters your lair, hold her/him wrists above her head with one arm and use the other to place your fingers inside of her while you kiss her intensely or around is cock holding it hard and rubbing it . A great lead-in for fourplay. Theres loads you can do to make sex Hard and rough... bondge toys and whips and all sort can help x i like kinky sex its just finding people who are into it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult to fight when you've got a hard on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's difficult to fight when you've got a hard on "
thats just how i love you men jake HARD X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like rough sex when in the mood, love bondage play also like spreader bars. My partner is only just getting into it as never done it before he met me. The first time i asked him to spit on me his face was a picture, but he is getting used to me now. Dont mind a good slap across the face and that sort of stuff. Never done it with anyone else but maybe one day we will try, also dont like rough sex all the time. Dont mind bruses or marks either, as a nice reminder of a good nights rough sex. x"

Oh I am with you there... on the marks.. mmmm yummy to have them and feel them fade over days.. thinking nooooooooooooooooo then get them topped up.. however wouldnt do that with a play mate.. but slapping mmm yummy..

Katie. x

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

i like it rough sometimes,as in having my hair pulled ,pinned back and sometimes a hand round my throat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think Jo is right. Rough can be exiting but you need to know your partner and the point to which you need to go to provide pleasure. I think if strength is guaged then pain does not have to be involved. It's much more about showing who is in control and taking someone to that point of "submission or release" whatever you want to call it.

Passion is often rough and does not have to involve pain or marks.

Meets have sometimes grabbed by hair. Now if tiger did this he would know how, but meets have not got it right and it is in effect a turn off when that happens.

My particular dislike is when a guy tries to forced you down on his cock too hard. I like to be in control when giving head.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Passion is often rough and does not have to involve pain or marks.

Meets have sometimes grabbed by hair. Now if tiger did this he would know how, but meets have not got it right and it is in effect a turn off when that happens.

My particular dislike is when a guy tries to forced you down on his cock too hard. I like to be in control when giving head."

I think actually for me with a meet the difference is I am not looking for the pain side.. if Master were to pull my hair it would be a delightful sensation and as it carried on it would get painful..

I left your last bit on because that is something again I enjoy with Master.. but prefer to be in control with someone else.. but with Master I like nothing better than to be shown that I am his.. and that its not me in control.

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like rough sex when in the mood, love bondage play also like spreader bars. My partner is only just getting into it as never done it before he met me. The first time i asked him to spit on me his face was a picture, but he is getting used to me now. Dont mind a good slap across the face and that sort of stuff. Never done it with anyone else but maybe one day we will try, also dont like rough sex all the time. Dont mind bruses or marks either, as a nice reminder of a good nights rough sex. x

It would freak me out if a lady asked me to spit on her and slap her "

a man better run fast if he did either to me.

spitting is a demeaning act...i find it possibly more offensive than a slap...

my friend got spat on once by her ex. he'd been physically abusing her for months....that was the straw that broke the donkeys back though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like rough sex when in the mood, love bondage play also like spreader bars. My partner is only just getting into it as never done it before he met me. The first time i asked him to spit on me his face was a picture, but he is getting used to me now. Dont mind a good slap across the face and that sort of stuff. Never done it with anyone else but maybe one day we will try, also dont like rough sex all the time. Dont mind bruses or marks either, as a nice reminder of a good nights rough sex. x

It would freak me out if a lady asked me to spit on her and slap her

a man better run fast if he did either to me.

spitting is a demeaning act...i find it possibly more offensive than a slap...

my friend got spat on once by her ex. he'd been physically abusing her for months....that was the straw that broke the donkeys back though. "

If he did it to my missus it would be the punch that breaks his fucking nose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One guy got too rough squeezing too hard and generally being too rought to the point where he was hurting me. Asked him to ease up but he didn't so jumped up threw him his clothes and asked him to leave. He looked a bit shell shocked and just left without saying a word. Got an apology the next day and he asked for a second chance.

I declined.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

When we do bondage play im more of a humiliation slut than a pain slut. So spitting is very humiliating so forfills my pleasure in being very submissive. We dont always go all the way, sometime he may put a hand around my throat, over my mouth, other times its nothing more than hair pulling. Only time i dont like rough sex is oral, i also like to be in controll when giving head. Once every now and then my partner can be a bit rough and im fine, other times i dont like it.

Its all about the mood at the time on how far we go with the rough sex.

I do have a very dark side that sometimes can even scare me, we dont do this it just stays as a fantasy.

But Verierty is the spice of life.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate rough play, I dont like my hair pulled, or held down or anything, Im a wimp. I like it very gentle, especially during oral. I also really hate guys who touch me too roughly around my delicate lady bits.

Spitting is disgusting. I hate it when I see people spitting on hands and rubbing it around their cocks, its vile. I also saw some girl on girl play at Chams once where a woman was on all fours and another woman was behind her, opened the womans bum cheeks apart and spat on her backside and it was a real full throated spit. It made me feel sick and I had to rush out of the room.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"I like rough sex when in the mood, love bondage play also like spreader bars. My partner is only just getting into it as never done it before he met me. The first time i asked him to spit on me his face was a picture, but he is getting used to me now. Dont mind a good slap across the face and that sort of stuff. Never done it with anyone else but maybe one day we will try, also dont like rough sex all the time. Dont mind bruses or marks either, as a nice reminder of a good nights rough sex. x

It would freak me out if a lady asked me to spit on her and slap her

a man better run fast if he did either to me.

spitting is a demeaning act...i find it possibly more offensive than a slap...

my friend got spat on once by her ex. he'd been physically abusing her for months....that was the straw that broke the donkeys back though.

If he did it to my missus it would be the punch that breaks his fucking nose "

I would like to say that we ONLY do this play between ourselves, he would never dream of doing it to anyone else. Unless things was talked about and arranged. He is a very polight and gentle guy on meets and with me

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

i dont like spitting think thats horrible,once had a man spit on my clit while going down on me and made me cringe

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"When we do bondage play im more of a humiliation slut than a pain slut. So spitting is very humiliating so forfills my pleasure in being very submissive. We dont always go all the way, sometime he may put a hand around my throat, over my mouth, other times its nothing more than hair pulling. Only time i dont like rough sex is oral, i also like to be in controll when giving head. Once every now and then my partner can be a bit rough and im fine, other times i dont like it.

Its all about the mood at the time on how far we go with the rough sex.

I do have a very dark side that sometimes can even scare me, we dont do this it just stays as a fantasy.

But Verierty is the spice of life.

x"

im the same i have a very dark side and sometimes my husband doesnt like trying things coz he's scared of hurting me coz i ask to do some weird stuff lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i like it rough sometimes,as in having my hair pulled ,pinned back and sometimes a hand round my throat"

I second that!

A

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate rough play, I dont like my hair pulled, or held down or anything, Im a wimp. I like it very gentle, especially during oral. I also really hate guys who touch me too roughly around my delicate lady bits.

Spitting is disgusting. I hate it when I see people spitting on hands and rubbing it around their cocks, its vile. I also saw some girl on girl play at Chams once where a woman was on all fours and another woman was behind her, opened the womans bum cheeks apart and spat on her backside and it was a real full throated spit. It made me feel sick and I had to rush out of the room. "

bldy cheapskates, you'd think they'd buy some lube. tut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a few discussions of late.. I thought I would post this..

Not asking if you enjoy it... more what makes it rough for you.. is it a hand in your hair? a slap perhaps.. held down, the way the man/woman rides or fucks you...

What is your idea of rough sex.. To be fair I would like to get to the stage of telling a guy.. back off a bit.. but as yet in swinging that has never happened.. not even group situations..

Also.. when would you think that it was to much??

Katie. x"
I've had to tell a few guys to calm in my time on here

I think some just get carried away and probably dont mean to hurt you but ive had a few who have just been to rough with my nipples usually, i really hate that, i dont like my nipples being sucked really hard and twisted, to be fair tho when i have mentioned it most have said sorry and calmed down, i did have one guy i had to tell a few times he was hurting me but he just laughed and said he knew and i liked it really so i ended up leaving

I think to me rough sex is when its becomes uncomfy and to the point in not liking it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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im the same i have a very dark side and sometimes my husband doesnt like trying things coz he's scared of hurting me coz i ask to do some weird stuff lol"

My dark side is that dark, not sure any light shines.. Luckily for me, my Master is happy to explore it with me...

as to someone mentioning slapping.. Is great between Master and I.. anyone else would get a slap back..

Spitting.. never had it done.. not sure Master would ever do that.. as we mostly do pain play..

I was more talking about rough sex, rather than pain play..

Katie. x

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"

im the same i have a very dark side and sometimes my husband doesnt like trying things coz he's scared of hurting me coz i ask to do some weird stuff lol

My dark side is that dark, not sure any light shines.. Luckily for me, my Master is happy to explore it with me...

as to someone mentioning slapping.. Is great between Master and I.. anyone else would get a slap back..

Spitting.. never had it done.. not sure Master would ever do that.. as we mostly do pain play..

I was more talking about rough sex, rather than pain play..

Katie. x"

even wen it is just rough sex he's abit reluctant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do love rough sex mind love to be bitten and bite claw back i dnt mind gentle slap on face but love my ass well spanked and bite very erotic ,love my collar and restrainer bar 2 lov e to be rstrained and blindfolded not knowing whats going to happen .......i love to restrain a man and have my wicked way ....i have dominated a sub with a ex partner and he wanted spat on 2 but wasnt for me spitting to be honest ....just love bondage ,kinky horny rough sex

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By *ominantPerv85Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

I find it very confusing. I'd never want to hurt someone to the extent of some of the stories on here. I do like to give it hard, but at the same time, I'd want us both to enjoy it. Yet to try hair pulling, and hand around throat hasn't appealed to me. My ex used to enjoy rough sex sometimes, we used to tease and wind eachother up till I'd end up just giving it to her lol.

But it gets tricky when they say no, or stop. There were times when she was deadly serious, so I stopped instantly, normally finishing myself off in the bathroom. There were times she'd say stop, i'd stop, and she'd laugh......

She never wanted to use safewords though :s

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its risky ground for a man to play like that.. non consential consent play is great.. but you have to know and trust the person very well.. I wouldnt recomend it ever without safe words...

Saying that we dont use one.. but Master knows when I need to stop before I do normally..

Gents need to be careful.. I have seen it happen where a woman after what she asked for has reported the guy.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have thought long and hard about why some women want to go so far with rough sex. I was asked by a girl I knew well if I would beat her up.... She got a huge sexual buzz from it and frequently got herself off on it too. We were walking in the countryside one day and if anybody had seen what we were doing I would have been reported. She liked having bruises as they were "like a sexual badge" Its not something I would really choose to do but she got a kick from it, literally. Just to say I never obliged with her request. Just a step to far for me.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

As others have said context matters massively for me.i fantasise about being really beaten by my master,not caning or whipping but a genuine left unconscious beating.

Anyone else who even raised a hand to me would discover how amateur castration felt,without pain relief.

Oh and before the judgement brigade leap on me,Master refuses to beat me to that extent....well so far

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"As others have said context matters massively for me.i fantasise about being really beaten by my master,not caning or whipping but a genuine left unconscious beating.

Anyone else who even raised a hand to me would discover how amateur castration felt,without pain relief.

Oh and before the judgement brigade leap on me,Master refuses to beat me to that extent....well so far "

in what way tho wud he make u unconsious?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As others have said context matters massively for me.i fantasise about being really beaten by my master,not caning or whipping but a genuine left unconscious beating.

Anyone else who even raised a hand to me would discover how amateur castration felt,without pain relief.

Oh and before the judgement brigade leap on me,Master refuses to beat me to that extent....well so far "

that is because our Masters know what our limits are better than we do and we have to trust them on that.. But I am sure eventually you would get what you desired.

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others have said context matters massively for me.i fantasise about being really beaten by my master,not caning or whipping but a genuine left unconscious beating.

Anyone else who even raised a hand to me would discover how amateur castration felt,without pain relief.

Oh and before the judgement brigade leap on me,Master refuses to beat me to that extent....well so far "

in no way meant in judgement, but i always feel concern when reading things like this.

my mom was regularly beaten and not once did she wish for it.

it truly amazes me that it can actually be someones fantasy....and i do actually find it sad. i know you don't want my sympathy, but i wonder what goes on to actually will that to happen.

i hope for all those concerned that the children are out of the house and never see the bruises...i'm sure you're children are well cared for, but they will never and could never comprehend how it can be acceptable for one partner to beat another...i say that from experience and not malice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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it truly amazes me that it can actually be someones fantasy....and i do actually find it sad. i know you don't want my sympathy, but i wonder what goes on to actually will that to happen.

i hope for all those concerned that the children are out of the house and never see the bruises...i'm sure you're children are well cared for, but they will never and could never comprehend how it can be acceptable for one partner to beat another...i say that from experience and not malice

"

I do not think that your post could be taken with Malice.. I remember my friends reactions when one day I could not sit down. But over time they have come to learn that I am really happy, and its not an act...

As to the kids.. Master would not even playfully slap me on the backside with kids around.. although we are very touchy feely.. but I mean in the general sense.. I may get a look.. or a gesture that goes way over the kids heads.. but in a similar way to the inuendo in things like toy story ( between bo peep and woody etc)

I know for those not into it, that it can be a bit difficult to comprehend and seperate from domestic abuse.. I was beaten by my first boyfriend... I learnt to hide things, walked into doors, cover the bruises etc.. but every one knew.. not because of the bruises but because of how I would flinch at a raised hand.. shy away from physical contact etc... I was very sullen..

That I think is now why my friends and family ( yes my Father knows) dont worry about me.. as I am super confident and full of life and happy.. In fact apparently my zest for life is almost infectious.

I think for me though back on topic.. Rough sex is hair pulled, maybe a playful spank, full depth penetration.. full force penetration.. and maybe held down.. but no one but Master holds me down..( as yet)

In general sex terms.. I think my day to day sex would be above most peoples idea of rough.. but with playmates I have yet to have to tell anyone to back it off.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i like it rough sometimes,as in having my hair pulled ,pinned back and sometimes a hand round my throat"

i love that too, or being taken doggy style and hair pulled. Sometimes only with mr sticky a belt round my throat... Would never trust another person (swing meet) to do that.

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"i like it rough sometimes,as in having my hair pulled ,pinned back and sometimes a hand round my throat

i love that too, or being taken doggy style and hair pulled. Sometimes only with mr sticky a belt round my throat... Would never trust another person (swing meet) to do that."

yes im the same wud have to really trust them to let them do that

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By *exytwoforfunCouple
over a year ago

North East

claire likes hard hair pulling forced down with a hand round the throat... SEXY..

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"As others have said context matters massively for me.i fantasise about being really beaten by my master,not caning or whipping but a genuine left unconscious beating.

Anyone else who even raised a hand to me would discover how amateur castration felt,without pain relief.

Oh and before the judgement brigade leap on me,Master refuses to beat me to that extent....well so far

in what way tho wud he make u unconsious?"

Breath play is probably the most likely,

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"As others have said context matters massively for me.i fantasise about being really beaten by my master,not caning or whipping but a genuine left unconscious beating.

Anyone else who even raised a hand to me would discover how amateur castration felt,without pain relief.

Oh and before the judgement brigade leap on me,Master refuses to beat me to that extent....well so far

in no way meant in judgement, but i always feel concern when reading things like this.

my mom was regularly beaten and not once did she wish for it.

it truly amazes me that it can actually be someones fantasy....and i do actually find it sad. i know you don't want my sympathy, but i wonder what goes on to actually will that to happen.

i hope for all those concerned that the children are out of the house and never see the bruises...i'm sure you're children are well cared for, but they will never and could never comprehend how it can be acceptable for one partner to beat another...i say that from experience and not malice

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Why do u find it sad? i orgasm from pain,being pushed to the limits of that experience is something i wish to try.

What i find sad is that because someone has different pleasures to you you imagine they have sex in front of their children

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Breath play is probably the most likely,"

Now thats a total other subject and a total dream when done right.. :D

Katie.x

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over a year ago

I dont the hair pulling and the nibbles and ass slapping but wont do humiliation or bondage stuff.

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over a year ago


"I dont the hair pulling and the nibbles and ass slapping but wont do humiliation or bondage stuff.

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I dont think we ever do humiliation.. apart from the odd bit of name calling.. I dont like other men slapping my arse.. makes me want to slap them... lol

yet love to be spanked.. go figure..

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others have said context matters massively for me.i fantasise about being really beaten by my master,not caning or whipping but a genuine left unconscious beating.

Anyone else who even raised a hand to me would discover how amateur castration felt,without pain relief.

Oh and before the judgement brigade leap on me,Master refuses to beat me to that extent....well so far

in no way meant in judgement, but i always feel concern when reading things like this.

my mom was regularly beaten and not once did she wish for it.

it truly amazes me that it can actually be someones fantasy....and i do actually find it sad. i know you don't want my sympathy, but i wonder what goes on to actually will that to happen.

i hope for all those concerned that the children are out of the house and never see the bruises...i'm sure you're children are well cared for, but they will never and could never comprehend how it can be acceptable for one partner to beat another...i say that from experience and not malice

Why do u find it sad? i orgasm from pain,being pushed to the limits of that experience is something i wish to try.

What i find sad is that because someone has different pleasures to you you imagine they have sex in front of their children"

i think you're incapable of reading what i wrote!

i find it sad because i saw things from a different point of view from you...i saw it as a child. my father was beating my mother many years before i saw him do it...he always did it when we were in bed and thought we wouldn't know too.

and i DID make a point of adding that i am sure if you are knowingly entering into this kind of play your children are cared for.

i find it sad that your life is so without any kind of real experience that you need to fake and fantasise about something so severe.

i find it sad that anyone can be with a man that, although you plead and beg him to beat you to within your last breath, hasn't got enough love, respect or whatever to say no and to actually, instead, gain gratitude for doing it.

i think this as, as i've said, i've seen it from a different point of view.

that is my opinion and one i am totally and unarguably have a right to have

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over a year ago


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i find it sad that your life is so without any kind of real experience that you need to fake and fantasise about something so severe.

i find it sad that anyone can be with a man that, although you plead and beg him to beat you to within your last breath, hasn't got enough love, respect or whatever to say no and to actually, instead, gain gratitude for doing it.

i think this as, as i've said, i've seen it from a different point of view.

that is my opinion and one i am totally and unarguably have a right to have"

I can understand your view point and I can understand you having seen it.. but I wrote a very long post on another thread about my relationship... and fail to see how you can judge a Master and Slave that enjoy mutual pleasure from that sort of play.. and trust me, most of us dont do this because we are bullied..

I enjoy my Masters most gentle touch.. but at times I crave other things.. Now this is coming from someone that has suffered the most horrendous abuse at the hands of men in the past. We are talking almost killed and raped on more than one occassion...

Many women have suffered Rape and abuse from men, Yet actually Rape fantasy is a very common female fantasy.. ( according to much research)

A comment you made, had me actually think hold on, I can see where your coming from but please dont think to suggest that a Master does not totally love his slave, or have total respect..just because they enjoy to be rough.

I wouldnt even call it rough play, because its something that people enter into for enjoyment.. Same as people on here are on here because they like sex..

Its not a fantasy for all... but I for one can not see how a woman would want to see two men together..or use a strap on with a guy or girl. Or piss on someone.. Now yes you could argue that no one gets hurt.. but I like the feeling I get when we get more rough.. its not a bad feeling.. its a powerful feeling.. its a buzz.. a high.. a sensation above what I normally get.. I love the total power exchange, the feeling that my Lifes in my Masters hands.. I have no control.

I dont go into details about what we do because this is a swinging site not a bdsm site.. and to be fair.. some things I personally enjoy, have even those on BDSM sites telling me its a little extreme.. but its my enjoyment... And Masters obviously

I was actually reading an interesting thread on another forum the other day.. and a girl was confused because she had a rape fantasy.. yet she had been raped..and thought she was not normal.. I think there was 200plus replies.. all from women that had suffered a similar fate, all saying how much they loved none consential consent play...

Reason.. because they were doing it under their own control.. they were taking back what they felt was taken from them.

Lots of people are into breath play too.. and yes I will admit it can be a little risky, but so is meeting a stranger off here for sex. So is having sex..( as you could catch something) so is crossing the road, driving a car... getting up, you see where I am going with it..

Yes personally I wouldnt have shared my inner dark desires ( mostly because it will shock and offend most people) but I certainly would not suggest someones life lacks real experience. I find my exploration of my body, my limits and my pain enjoyment a very big experience... As I am sure most that love that sort of play would agree.

I can orgasm from my Masters hand around my throat..( and he doesnt even need to have me hard..) its the power thing... Life in Masters hands.. now okay, I know that bottom line is my Master loves me more than anything in the world. ( bar kids but thats different) and that hurting me properly would devestate Master.. but.. when your in that situation. your senses are buzzing, you can hear your breathing hard and feel your heart beating so hard.. your bloods pumping so much you can hear it in your ears... wondering whats next.. waiting, needing it..

Its an amazing feeling..

I can understand what you saw... and yeah from time to time I have a bit of bruising here and there.. But thats why I took up kick boxing.. its a great cover all excuse for those that do not need to know more.

A woman in a loving, consential bdsm relationship, is a million miles from an abused woman.. its a partnership, and a unit, they mutually love, need and respect one another.

You say its lack of respect that a Master would not tell a slave no to what she is asking for, when it means a beating.. Its actually total respect.. and a Slave trusts totally in whats right for them... yes I know there are abusive, nasty, evil, sadistic Masters that have no care for their slaves, but same goes for all types of relationships.

I am not trying to say you cant have an opinion though, just trying to explain without being personal ( as I know some will be upset at your suggestions of no respect)

katie.x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am going to sit on my hands and not comment over what I think is very extreme "play" that has been described on this thread as I don't think I could contain what I write.

As for a bit of "rough" play.....yeah I don't mind that, but I do mean a bit of rough play, ie a slapped arse, pulled hair when in doggie , putting me into a position he wants etc etc......but I don't get off on anything stronger or what I would see as abuse. ( note I said what I see )

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over a year ago

I have only commented on the extreme side of things because in all honesty, it was not what I was meaning for this thread.. as rough sex and extreme violence play are different to me anyway..

I know how you feel as we have discussed it on several posts.. and please note that most of my posts are making it clear that there are those of us that truly enjoy it.. and its not done under duress.. or because we have no choice..

I personally would not give details..

Yes I like hairpulling, hand over throat etc.. and a brief mention of other stuff....

but I am currently reading a paper on bdsm : is it domestic abuse with consent.. and its making for a very interesting read.

But it does make clear differences between the two... mostly being the way in which such things are done. Ie planned, not done with anger.. but I have been on the other side of the fence.. I do have an understanding of both.

But I also know that like me, those that partake in extreme play, do so with pride and often find it hard to hold their tongues in a place that all sexual preferences are allowed as long as legal.

Katie.x

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over a year ago


"

i find it sad that your life is so without any kind of real experience that you need to fake and fantasise about something so severe.

i find it sad that anyone can be with a man that, although you plead and beg him to beat you to within your last breath, hasn't got enough love, respect or whatever to say no and to actually, instead, gain gratitude for doing it.

i think this as, as i've said, i've seen it from a different point of view.

that is my opinion and one i am totally and unarguably have a right to have

I can understand your view point and I can understand you having seen it.. but I wrote a very long post on another thread about my relationship... and fail to see how you can judge a Master and Slave that enjoy mutual pleasure from that sort of play.. and trust me, most of us dont do this because we are bullied..

I enjoy my Masters most gentle touch.. but at times I crave other things.. Now this is coming from someone that has suffered the most horrendous abuse at the hands of men in the past. We are talking almost killed and raped on more than one occassion...

Many women have suffered Rape and abuse from men, Yet actually Rape fantasy is a very common female fantasy.. ( according to much research)

"

i have never judged you, i have opined....totally different.

if i were to judge i'd be calling you personally and telling you that you are wrong.

the fact i cannot and never will be able to relate to it does not make me in the slightest judgmental...it makes my opinion different to yours...as is my right

as for rape fantasies...i would love these women to talk to women that had been actually raped, who's lives are permanently changed because of this...like the woman who was raped last week in front of her children whilst in the park...perhaps then they would re-consider either what turns them on or class is as something else.

rape is an act that is done without consent...that fantasy is with consent and it should not be called anything other than consensual sex.

rape is difficult enough for a woman to prove....the fact it is now considered play hardly does anything to help the cause

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over a year ago


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but I am currently reading a paper on bdsm : is it domestic abuse with consent.. and its making for a very interesting read.

"

again, that demeans women that are subjected to domestic abuse and plays it down as a bit of rough play. the two should never be associated

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

The last two posts have been removed, Admin don't want peoples personal experiences of illegal activity on the forums.

Taken from the rules.

Threads we remove

Threads containing racism, threats, nasty stuff like that will be removed and the posters banned or given timeouts. We also don't want discussions of serious illegal subjects like rape, child abuse, illegal drugs because inevitably someone will post about their own crimes / experiences of crimes and we can get hauled up in court to provide evidence. We do this for fun and we don't want the hassle, sorry.

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over a year ago

I like extreme play: but I have to say I do find some of these experiences uncomfortable to read.

Shaving a man's balls and rinsing them in my mouth full of brandy so it stings while I have my finger dipped in wasabi up their arse is erotic and sensual. It may make other's pale the same way the thought of a man beating and marking me makes me feel reading some of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must say some of the stuff described on here makes me feel queasy.

Maybe I'm too mainstream but I could never imagine hurting a woman even if asked to.

Live and let live I guess.

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over a year ago

Some things discussed here truly make me scared.....I guess I'm less adventurous than I thought.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont get this nonconscensal play. All play is consscensal. You have giving them consent to have no limits

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over a year ago


"I like extreme play: but I have to say I do find some of these experiences uncomfortable to read.

Shaving a man's balls and rinsing them in my mouth full of brandy so it stings while I have my finger dipped in wasabi up their arse is erotic and sensual. It may make other's pale the same way the thought of a man beating and marking me makes me feel reading some of this. "

mmmm me likes this idea , must remember 'the pain IS the pleasure '

when can i come over xx

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