FabSwingers.com forum: To swing or to stop!!???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Feeling"old" when is it time to stop swinging????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say either when you find its lost its fun or if one of you decides you no longer wanna play with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say either when you find its lost its fun or if one of you decides you no longer wanna play with others"

In a nutshell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I'd say either when you find its lost its fun or if one of you decides you no longer wanna play with others"

I agree with this....Have seen people of all ages at clubs, some well in to their 80's+ enjoying themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's an age thing if we honest. You go to a club and feel like a fish out of water!!! Swinging with peeps younger than your kids. It just not right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say either when you find its lost its fun or if one of you decides you no longer wanna play with others

I agree with this....Have seen people of all ages at clubs, some well in to their 80's+ enjoying themselves."

I agree. There's no age limit on having fun or being happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's an age thing if we honest. You go to a club and feel like a fish out of water!!! Swinging with peeps younger than your kids. It just not right. "

If they wanna play with you then why isn't it right ?

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

But I assume there are people there older than your kids too?

And when you get to a certain age...surely it doesn't matter so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feeling"old" when is it time to stop swinging????"

I do t think there's an age limit is there ?haha

A couple looked at us today aged 65 and 70

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feeling"old" when is it time to stop swinging????

I do t think there's an age limit is there ?haha

A couple looked at us today aged 65 and 70

Yeah ok...that's as maybe. But would you swing with them??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But I assume there are people there older than your kids too?

And when you get to a certain age...surely it doesn't matter so much"

Mostly alot younger than us...The offer's we/I get are from younger guys....flattered yes....but!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say either when you find its lost its fun or if one of you decides you no longer wanna play with others

In a nutshell

This

or just take a break for a while

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"But I assume there are people there older than your kids too?

And when you get to a certain age...surely it doesn't matter so much

Mostly alot younger than us...The offer's we/I get are from younger guys....flattered yes....but!"

Maybe you need to try a different club? lol

I think it depends on your own views and state of mind. You don't look too old AT ALL to me, and I've met people older than you.

But, none of that matters. What do YOU want, how do YOU feel about it, is what matters.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Take a break and think about other things. Time away will give you distance to make a good decision.

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

49 & 53 and only just started. Not looking at clubs as quite private people.

So far it's been an interesting journey and about to get a lot more interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone needs there ego boosting ..

Who cares about age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's an age thing if we honest. You go to a club and feel like a fish out of water!!! Swinging with peeps younger than your kids. It just not right. "

i feel like that sometimes too, for a variety of reason sometimes i juat feel out of place

i think you stop when you feel ready to stop, if its making you feel down there's no point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a question is this the male half or female asking and how does the other half feel about it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone needs there ego boosting ..

Who cares about age"

Nothing to do with ego at all !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone needs there ego boosting ..

Who cares about age"

Someone needs an English lesson

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Someone needs there ego boosting ..

Who cares about age

Someone needs an English lesson

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

I want to know when I was the "right age".

I've been meeting a long time..when I started I was too young. Now I often can't message people, that I think I'd have mutual fun with, because I'm too old.

Problem is...I can't recall being "just the right age" lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just a question is this the male half or female asking and how does the other half feel about it?"

Hi female...male half isn't particularly bothered about age...he's quite happy to play with younger females /couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I want to know when I was the "right age".

I've been meeting a long time..when I started I was too young. Now I often can't message people, that I think I'd have mutual fun with, because I'm too old.

Yes people stipulate age on here. They appeal to you. Then you realise your 10 yrs to old

Problem is...I can't recall being "just the right age" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when you start needing more than you are getting out of it i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone needs there ego boosting ..

Who cares about age"

Ahhh bummer Schoolboy error

They're...

I didn't delete it so some respect for that ? Lol

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By *irtydaddyfor youMan
over a year ago

corby

Dont think there is a right age when you think so to give up, Im 70 and enjoy meeting people of young and old, So age has nothing to do with it. Its when the person thinks that im to old, not when they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a question is this the male half or female asking and how does the other half feel about it?

Hi female...male half isn't particularly bothered about age...he's quite happy to play with younger females /couples."

is it that you are hung up on seeing your partner with a younger woman?

personally I love people around my own age, and making out with ladies young enough to be my daughter, just does not do it for me... flattered as I may be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just a question is this the male half or female asking and how does the other half feel about it?

Hi female...male half isn't particularly bothered about age...he's quite happy to play with younger females /couples.

is it that you are hung up on seeing your partner with a younger woman?

personally I love people around my own age, and making out with ladies young enough to be my daughter, just does not do it for me... flattered as I may be."

No ,no jealousy issues at all. He has free reign in a club to do as he wishes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is also the option of having a few friends around the same age that you enjoy spending time with and meeting at the club ?

For some the club can used for socials and to relax so play is only on the cards when you want too ?

Hope you get your mojo back and continue to have fun as that's what it's all about ?

Also I'm pushing your age and not had the experiences you have by now !!

Kev

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are full of cliques and maybe the people in these cliques are getting younger as swinging is beconing more mainstream .

But im sure alot of people in the clubs u go to appreciate u xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clubs are full of cliques and maybe the people in these cliques are getting younger as swinging is beconing more mainstream .

But im sure alot of people in the clubs u go to appreciate u xx"

Oh yes younger guys...like bees round a hive...lol...

Best experience I have had is with peeps mid 40,s...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feeling"old" when is it time to stop swinging????

I do t think there's an age limit is there ?haha

A couple looked at us today aged 65 and 70

Yeah ok...that's as maybe. But would you swing with them??"

our cut off is 45 x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feeling"old" when is it time to stop swinging????

I do t think there's an age limit is there ?haha

A couple looked at us today aged 65 and 70

Yeah ok...that's as maybe.

But would you swing with them??

our cut off is 45 x"

EXACTLY.......just because they are on here. Means nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a question is this the male half or female asking and how does the other half feel about it?

Hi female...male half isn't particularly bothered about age...he's quite happy to play with younger females /couples."

Then at 51 I would say you in your prime and your pics are great only you can decide if it's still right for you I have seen much older women than yourself at clubs and they were having lots of fun understand the younger than your kids issue and that's upto you where you draw the line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feeling"old" when is it time to stop swinging????

I do t think there's an age limit is there ?haha

A couple looked at us today aged 65 and 70

Yeah ok...that's as maybe.

But would you swing with them??

our cut off is 45 x

EXACTLY.......just because they are on here. Means nothing. "

It does it means there isn't an age limit to swinging haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feeling"old" when is it time to stop swinging????

I do t think there's an age limit is there ?haha

A couple looked at us today aged 65 and 70

Yeah ok...that's as maybe.

But would you swing with them??

our cut off is 45 x

EXACTLY.......just because they are on here. Means nothing.

It does it means there isn't an age limit to swinging haha

Ha ha ha

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

I don't care how old I am if I want to meet a man in his 30s then I will.

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

"I don't care how old I am if I want to meet a man in his 30s then I will."

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By *ockman3858Man
over a year ago

didcot

My Mrs stopped playing she lets me play with guys at greenhouse

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Oh gosh. I am 52 and love going to my local club and meeting loads of really lovely people. There are all ages there and I don't feel out of place. I don't play with people under 30 ish as a rule, but there are plenty of people in their 30, 40 and 50s there. But I definitely won't be quitting this lifestyle for a while.

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By *ockman3858Man
over a year ago

didcot

My Mrs stopped playing she lets me play with guys at greenhouse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was talking to a couple in the shop last year, he was 83 she was 84.

Still swinging happy, I was I had half they energy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel it's time to give up then it is. Go with your feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i feel similar.. I have a break. Am always drawn back. Hard to put the top back on once its been opened..Been this way for 15 years or so.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

You are too old to swing when people stop wanting to meet you.

That's why I stopped, but I still hang around on fab to chat to the nice people I have met in the past and to post rubbish in forums to annoy the hell out of the rest of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking for ourselves here I feel we have pretty much ticked off all the fantasies we previously had.

Additionally we are getting older and frankly the sex drive is also reducing.

I have this fear that if we don't actually set a date for retiring we will end up as this embarrassing decrepit old couple everyone will try to avoid at clubs.

Anyway we are retiring in March 2017. So until then we will have fun.

After that date we will walk away and not look back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feeling"old" when is it time to stop swinging????"
I saw a profile today hes 76 and shes 35 so which one do you think is having the most fun in that couple? age is only a barrier if you feel it yourself and if its the case you do feel it then I would say stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are only too old when YOU feel you are too old. Looking at your pics, I would say that could be some time off as far as I'm concerned....xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only just started on the scene and we are 47 and 49. We've had offers from 24 year old's!! A bit young but we are happy with couples from 30 up to mid 50's or maybe older if they are our type.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We've only just started on the scene and we are 47 and 49. We've had offers from 24 year old's!! A bit young but we are happy with couples from 30 up to mid 50's or maybe older if they are our type. "

Happy with cples in 40,s guys mid late 30,s ok. talking to a stunning guy on here the other day. Early 30,s...black guy my favourite lol...couldn't believe he would even give me the time of day. When I asked exactly what he saw in me...he says...."it's your eyes that do it".....yes well lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok if you're feeling nothing....your old...

I'm feeling quite alot...so that makes me roughly 30 not ooooeerr 51. I've got a sense of humour despite age pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are only too old when YOU feel you are too old. Looking at your pics, I would say that could be some time off as far as I'm concerned....xx"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are a married couple, 54 and 58 - we discovered swinging just over a year ago......we are too old for some yes that's true and many swingers are too young for us.....but we are still having fun, it's just a matter of being patient and finding people who you can make enough of a connection with, have mutual attraction and shared interests m x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I asked exactly what he saw in me...he says...."it's your eyes that do it".....yes well lol"

He is absolutely right, your gorgeous eyes are amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do clubs have specific age range nights? Would that be better maybe?

I've no idea but thought I read that on another post

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do clubs have specific age range nights? Would that be better maybe?

I've no idea but thought I read that on another post "

Not that I know of...other half loves the younger ladies...but hey that's men lol

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Do it until you want to stop.

Age is irrelevant. If they want you and you want them it makes no difference.

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

I understand you. Age can be a constrain. But:

1. You are still quite attractive (more than others in their 30,s)

2. If you are still comfortable swinging, instead of rolling dice in clubs, meet before with people with compatible profiles and go together

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do it until you want to stop.

Age is irrelevant. If they want you and you want them it makes no difference. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I understand you. Age can be a constrain. But:

1. You are still quite attractive (more than others in their 30,s)

2. If you are still comfortable swinging, instead of rolling dice in clubs, meet before with people with compatible profiles and go together"

That's not the way we play. But good idea if we did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps its like many things in life.We all occasionally get a bit jaded and need to recharge the batteries.

There you are you need a jump start!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Perhaps its like many things in life.We all occasionally get a bit jaded and need to recharge the batteries.

There you are you need a jump start!

Did someone say " jump " hahaha

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