FabSwingers.com forum: Looking for a woman to join us

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi,

We're looking for a woman to join us to explore F bi side but also play with both of us.

Can't seem to find anyone.

Give us a message if you're interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems we're all looking for the same.

We have looked behind every rock, left no stone unturned, yet still can't find one lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try clubs me and partner have been fortunate enough to find a few so they do exist oh and be patient let the female do most of the chatting otherwise they will think it's just to fulfill the males fantasy and don't ever try to pretend your the female half women have an intuition about these things the amount of single guys trying to be couples on here is amazing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We do go to clubs, we've been a good few times now. Only ever seem to find males to be honest.

Just a waiting game we have been doing this for a few years now on and off, just have to keep waiting and be patient I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They're there. "

Our sat nav is busted. Can you point us in the right direction

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They're there.

Our sat nav is busted. Can you point us in the right direction

Haha we know the feeling.

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

We have had that pleasure, however, now we find that another nice couple is just the same. Still can have girl on girl, or two girls on guy fun. Just provides an added bonus of guy & guy or guy, guy & girl fun etc ....

Good luck with your search though ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have had that pleasure, however, now we find that another nice couple is just the same. Still can have girl on girl, or two girls on guy fun. Just provides an added bonus of guy & guy or guy, guy & girl fun etc ....

Good luck with your search though ...

We love a couple, we've just had an amazing weekend with a couple from here and were arranging a phrase meet for the future.

We find it hard to find a couple we are both physically and mentally attracted too (luckily we struck gold with this weekend).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with your search though ...

We love a couple, we've just had an amazing weekend with a couple from here and were arranging a phrase meet for the future.

We find it hard to find a couple we are both physically and mentally attracted too (luckily we struck gold with this weekend).

You have just hit the nail on the head!

Imagine you are a single bi fem looking for a couple .....who finds it 'hard to find a couple who she is both physically and mentally attracted to'....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Patience is the key lol"

3 years later, still patiently waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they are out there but distance can be a problem im afraid

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

That's what we've said, we find it hard to find someone we're both physically and mentally attracted too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried clubs with specific nights for couples and ladies?

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

"Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

That's what we've said, we find it hard to find someone we're both physically and mentally attracted too. "

In that case, its either keep on searching for the ideal couple/single lady or maybe reprioritising your desires to those that might be more achievable?.... Just a thought guys x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you tried clubs with specific nights for couples and ladies? "

We can only go certain days a month because we have a family so we can't work it around certain events if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

That's what we've said, we find it hard to find someone we're both physically and mentally attracted too.

In that case, its either keep on searching for the ideal couple/single lady or maybe reprioritising your desires to those that might be more achievable?.... Just a thought guys x"

Thanks guys

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Good luck with your search though ...

Definitely works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried clubs with specific nights for couples and ladies?

We can only go certain days a month because we have a family so we can't work it around certain events if that makes sense. "

Totally that's like us, don't want to go to the aberdeen club so waiting until next year when we can take a weekend and go down to Edinburgh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you tried clubs with specific nights for couples and ladies?

We can only go certain days a month because we have a family so we can't work it around certain events if that makes sense.

Totally that's like us, don't want to go to the aberdeen club so waiting until next year when we can take a weekend and go down to Edinburgh

We won't go to any clubs that are to close to us either so we travel a couple hours away which also shortens the chances I guess.

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

Good luck with your search though ...

Definitely works for us

Our sort of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

It's very hard to meet couples to have a mental connection with both when you're a single bi woman. It's hard enough just trying to meet one person to have a mental connection with.

Far easier to meet a couple who you find are both moderately attractive, and hope they keep their mouth mostly shut during sex...

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

"Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

It's very hard to meet couples to have a mental connection with both when you're a single bi woman. It's hard enough just trying to meet one person to have a mental connection with.

Far easier to meet a couple who you find are both moderately attractive, and hope they keep their mouth mostly shut during sex..."

So you require semi attractive mute people

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

What wasp says. It's why I hardly speak. Better to be silent and be thought a fool than open ones mouth and it be proved.

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

"What wasp says. It's why I hardly speak. Better to be silent and be thought a fool than open ones mouth and it be proved. "

Each to their own, as the saying goes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

It's very hard to meet couples to have a mental connection with both when you're a single bi woman. It's hard enough just trying to meet one person to have a mental connection with.

Far easier to meet a couple who you find are both moderately attractive, and hope they keep their mouth mostly shut during sex..."

We'd rather steer well away from them if this was the case.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

It's very hard to meet couples to have a mental connection with both when you're a single bi woman. It's hard enough just trying to meet one person to have a mental connection with.

Far easier to meet a couple who you find are both moderately attractive, and hope they keep their mouth mostly shut during sex...

So you require semi attractive mute people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with your search though ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi,

We're looking for a woman to join us to explore F bi side but also play with both of us.

Can't seem to find anyone.

Give us a message if you're interested.

Hi guys!

I'm well outside your age limit but have played with couples at clubs and parties!

Looking at your profile I don't think the pictures would really attract a female. I'd hope to see plenty of attractive full body shots, lingerie etc and be sent face pictures straight away if messaged!

Also a regular at Cupids - feel free to say hi if you ever see me there! X

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

"Hi,

We're looking for a woman to join us to explore F bi side but also play with both of us.

Can't seem to find anyone.

Give us a message if you're interested.

Hi guys!

I'm well outside your age limit but have played with couples at clubs and parties!

Also a regular at Cupids - feel free to say hi if you ever see me there! X"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi,

We're looking for a woman to join us to explore F bi side but also play with both of us.

Can't seem to find anyone.

Give us a message if you're interested.

Hi guys!

I'm well outside your age limit but have played with couples at clubs and parties!

Also a regular at Cupids - feel free to say hi if you ever see me there! X"

Thanks for your advice, we won't put pictures of our bodies nor our face for public view as we have some very distinctive body art that will stand us out by a mile for people that we know and as we don't want anyone knowing that we do this we can't put any other photos on. It does state on our profile to send face pictures when contacting us and we will do the same so I don't think that's the problem. We go to cupids as our regular club so might bump in to you when we go next

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We also have all the photos you state in our private that we send in our messages if we're going anywhere

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

may i contribute? i hope you dont mind. im intending to help you from my point of view.

fruit salad..your profile...you say you want a female for both of you..may i suggest you rephrase that to something along the lines of..

"we would also love to experience an equal three way dynamic with a bi female. open to discuss such an arrangement where everyone leaves happy"

i wouldnt answer your profile, because of that 'both of you statement..i would also very early one want to know what you wanted..full swap, soft..fantasy..what? put a summary on your profile about what you are offering xx

frilly and midnight spice...you dont even mention you want a bi female on your profiles..that i can see in the skim that i just did..if its not offered, we wont ask..

we enter a couples world, most of us are ok with that as long as you are clear and honest about what you want/ dont want..but not mentioning it or saying its your biggest fantasy isnt enough..make it easy for us..to go..yes id like to experience that, with them xx hope this helps somewhat xx

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

and yes good photos of both of you available is necessary..if dont want them public, say you will send them in your first message or something xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We also have all the photos you state in our private that we send in our messages if we're going anywhere

Ok Hun! Good luck finding your lady! X

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Ohh yes we're definately here

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Ohh yes we're definately here

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nice profile and pics sweet x

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By *oredShitlessxxxCouple
over a year ago

luton

"may i contribute? i hope you dont mind. im intending to help you from my point of view.

fruit salad..your profile...you say you want a female for both of you..may i suggest you rephrase that to something along the lines of..

"we would also love to experience an equal three way dynamic with a bi female. open to discuss such an arrangement where everyone leaves happy"

frilly and midnight spice...you dont even mention you want a bi female on your profiles..that i can see in the skim that i just did..if its not offered, we wont ask..

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"Ohh yes we're definately here

nice profile and pics sweet x"

Thank you Suzy xx

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"may i contribute? i hope you dont mind. im intending to help you from my point of view.

fruit salad..your profile...you say you want a female for both of you..may i suggest you rephrase that to something along the lines of..

"we would also love to experience an equal three way dynamic with a bi female. open to discuss such an arrangement where everyone leaves happy"

frilly and midnight spice...you dont even mention you want a bi female on your profiles..that i can see in the skim that i just did..if its not offered, we wont ask..

Hiya, does "frilly" refer to us? If so, then we don't stipulate that we are looking for a single female for fun on our profile, because we aren't looking for a single female. Sorry ladies, we just want to try different dynamics of play for now. X"
i wasnt offering, i was attempting to assist those who wanted to find a single bi female, as you posted, i didnt wish to leave you out xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohh yes we're definately here

Bloody hell, where have all you lovely ladies come from lol. HELLO!!!

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By *elovetofuck2Couple
over a year ago

cannock

Hiya guys we to are still waiting patiently for a lovely lady to join us, for both of our pleasure, I myself (Mrs speaking btw) get off on the whole girl on girl as much as partner, full swaps are as much with the girls fun as the men for us but we are yet to find a lovely lady yet.. any couples up for the idea of the female going to the other couples house on separate nights for threesome? Example I go to urs for a threesome you come to ours for a threesome? Maybe this could be a option as so many couples are looking for the same thing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are out there.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are out there.....

Struggling to find them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just our little view point (again

) We place a mental connection higher than physical, although there has to be some physical attraction it doesn't necessarily have to meet the same standard, as that of mental attraction.

After all we see it as not requiring a life partner (we have that) but we certainly require fun times with those we can really connect with on a social element...

It's very hard to meet couples to have a mental connection with both when you're a single bi woman. It's hard enough just trying to meet one person to have a mental connection with.

Far easier to meet a couple who you find are both moderately attractive, and hope they keep their mouth mostly shut during sex...

So you require semi attractive mute people

It's very hard to meet people who match with you politically, intellectually, theologically, etc. It's much dasier to find someone you think is hot.

When we find people who match with us intellectually we tend to settle down with them and form partnerships - and that isn't easy! It took me 15 years of searching to find someone who I match with mentally. Why would I expect to find the same for a casual fuck on a swinging site? I'd be here forever without getting laid.

Physical attraction is easier to find, along with a personality that doesn't make you want to cheesegrater their face off. 'Relaxed small talk' is easier to find than 'mental stimulation'. Unless you have a very low bar for what you consider mental stimulation/connection. I find it very hard to meet people who are on the same wavelength as me mentally, so it's my big compromise area.

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