FabSwingers.com forum: The perfect message

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So there's a post probably daily (at least) which asks why someone isn't getting a response (I've done it). The replies are always the same... read the profile, find something to tailor your message, etc. Which helps but a lot of the time people are already doing this.

So here's a challenge, if you choose to accept it. Post what your perfect opening message would be - an actual message not what you'd expect from it. Interested to see what people put into theirs!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is a message you'd send to your own profile if you weren't you... Get it? Lol

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By *i Lady Next DoorWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

Personally (I know everyone is different) but when I get a message like this I tend to reply

"Hi lady my name is ? - I have read your profile and I match all of your preferences, if you would like to have a look at my profile and see what you think that would be great

I have attached a face picture would love one in return if you are interested in chatting a little more maybe leading to a future coffee

Happy swinging xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally (I know everyone is different) but when I get a message like this I tend to reply

"Hi lady my name is ? - I have read your profile and I match all of your preferences, if you would like to have a look at my profile and see what you think that would be great

I have attached a face picture would love one in return if you are interested in chatting a little more maybe leading to a future coffee

Happy swinging xxxx "

Makes it look so simple... I'm definitely over complicating things lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally (I know everyone is different) but when I get a message like this I tend to reply

"Hi lady my name is ? - I have read your profile and I match all of your preferences, if you would like to have a look at my profile and see what you think that would be great

I have attached a face picture would love one in return if you are interested in chatting a little more maybe leading to a future coffee

Happy swinging xxxx "

This

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By *i Lady Next DoorWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"Personally (I know everyone is different) but when I get a message like this I tend to reply

"Hi lady my name is ? - I have read your profile and I match all of your preferences, if you would like to have a look at my profile and see what you think that would be great

I have attached a face picture would love one in return if you are interested in chatting a little more maybe leading to a future coffee

Happy swinging xxxx

Makes it look so simple... I'm definitely over complicating things lol"

Everyone is different that's just my preference - if they have read my profile and refer to it in their message that helps and I like to see a face picture too and happily return one - none pushy is great and happy to chat too

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By *i Lady Next DoorWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"Personally (I know everyone is different) but when I get a message like this I tend to reply

"Hi lady my name is ? - I have read your profile and I match all of your preferences, if you would like to have a look at my profile and see what you think that would be great

I have attached a face picture would love one in return if you are interested in chatting a little more maybe leading to a future coffee

Happy swinging xxxx

This

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks. Very helpful!!

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By *i Lady Next DoorWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

"Thanks. Very helpful!!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

One straight deletion... Not a good start lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, here is a photo of the front and back of my credit card.

Feel free to use it to book a holiday, buy yourself whatever you want.

Maybe we could meet for a coffee and you could show me what you've bought

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One straight deletion... Not a good start lol"

Make that two pmsl

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

What would be easier is to tell you what not to write.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What would be easier is to tell you what not to write."

I have no idea, nothing seems to work!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything that follows the format

Hey, I'm -name-.

I liked -insert profile detail- on your profile and I'm interested in -insert interest-, I'd like to meet you and see how it goes im free uusaly -times and dates-.

*face picture attached*

That would then get me to judge if i fancy them if i do great lets go do -insert interest-

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Just be fit an offer it all on a plate at my convenience.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a job centre course about writing covering letters on your c.v in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the perfect message....

'hello, my name is _______,

well I saw your profile and I would love to say I read it but I'd be lying

your pictures are, however, perfect wank fodder...

how about meeting and I'll see how effective you are in person?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like a job centre course about writing covering letters on your c.v in here"

I'd probably have more luck at the job centre!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the idea of this thread. I'm guessing what will come out of it is that no two people are actually looking for the same sort of message - as much as most people seem to think it's easy and obvious to know what you should say, I'm guessing we've all got actually quite widely different ideas of what that obviously best way of messaging actually is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a message you'd send to your own profile if you weren't you... Get it? Lol"

Have all the cheese and wine!

My name is... I've read your profile and I'm going to give you all the cheese and wine in return for hot sex!

Many thanks!

For me. I like to giggle when I read a message. I like to see the person has read my profile but want to catch my attention. Hope this helps!

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Please note in the attached picture I'm standing next to my aston martin outside my third home in the florida

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"the perfect message....

'hello, my name is _______,

well I saw your profile and I would love to say I read it but I'd be lying

your pictures are, however, perfect wank fodder...

how about meeting and I'll see how effective you are in person?

Well I'm 6 and 0 today so far!! So this can't be any worse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than one sentence and some decent spelling will get a reply!

The perfect message will be witty, personal and polite. I'd hate to be too prescriptive, though... it takes all the fun out of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a message you'd send to your own profile if you weren't you... Get it? Lol

Have all the cheese and wine!

My name is... I've read your profile and I'm going to give you all the cheese and wine in return for hot sex!

Many thanks!

For me. I like to giggle when I read a message. I like to see the person has read my profile but want to catch my attention. Hope this helps! "

You grab your lingerie I'll grab my fondue pot and wine chiller

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Personally (I know everyone is different) but when I get a message like this I tend to reply

"Hi lady my name is ? - I have read your profile and I match all of your preferences, if you would like to have a look at my profile and see what you think that would be great

I have attached a face picture would love one in return if you are interested in chatting a little more maybe leading to a future coffee

Happy swinging xxxx "

Dam I've tried to pm you with a copied and pasted copy of your perfect guaranteed to work message and I can't as I'm blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a message you'd send to your own profile if you weren't you... Get it? Lol

Have all the cheese and wine!

My name is... I've read your profile and I'm going to give you all the cheese and wine in return for hot sex!

Many thanks!

For me. I like to giggle when I read a message. I like to see the person has read my profile but want to catch my attention. Hope this helps!

You grab your lingerie I'll grab my fondue pot and wine chiller

Perfect. But destination unknown! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy sent me a message saying he works locally and would I like to meet for a coffee, and signed off with "I'm not a swamp donkey I promise".

I met him on the basis of that. And he was definitely no swamp donkey.

A perfect message?

I keep seeing your profile on the local updates and found myself looking at your photos far too often. I was watching Top Gear, and I found myself looking at your profile again and not Jeremy Clarkson. And I really like Top Gear.

I'd like to meet you, for a coffee or beverage of your choice. I realise you probably won't even read this but I'd be really impressed if you did.

So yeah, I didn't write either of those but I met both the guys who did. And both were very nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally (I know everyone is different) but when I get a message like this I tend to reply

"Hi lady my name is ? - I have read your profile and I match all of your preferences, if you would like to have a look at my profile and see what you think that would be great

I have attached a face picture would love one in return if you are interested in chatting a little more maybe leading to a future coffee

Happy swinging xxxx

This

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a message you'd send to your own profile if you weren't you... Get it? Lol

Have all the cheese and wine!

My name is... I've read your profile and I'm going to give you all the cheese and wine in return for hot sex!

Many thanks!

For me. I like to giggle when I read a message. I like to see the person has read my profile but want to catch my attention. Hope this helps!

You grab your lingerie I'll grab my fondue pot and wine chiller

Perfect. But destination unknown! Haha"

Sure we cpuld strap a tent to the back of the bike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This would work on me:

My God you're fit.

That's pretty much it tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually this sounds like a plan.

Make the fondue at home pop it in a thermos, tent and a fondue pot ont he back of the bike (or boot of your car) head out to snowdonia set up camp maybe have a littl walk or ride then when the evening falls out comes the fondue set pour in the cheese and warm it up and have a starlit fondue and wine party under the stars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like a genuine non sex complement and a question.

For example - I just had to message to tell u u look amazing in that dress on the 4th of bla bla. U must get a lot of comments about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually this sounds like a plan.

This is the perfect fab meeting ever created. Where do I sign up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually this sounds like a plan.

This is the perfect fab meeting ever created. Where do I sign up? "

Let me know what weekend your free that it's not raining on and I'll go try to find a tent :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I keep seeing your profile on the local updates and found myself looking at your photos far too often. I was watching Top Gear, and I found myself looking at your profile again and not Jeremy Clarkson. And I really like Top Gear.

I'd like to meet you, for a coffee or beverage of your choice. I realise you probably won't even read this but I'd be really impressed if you did."

This one is brilliant I might use something similar next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and chuck us a picture of your face incase you've got 3 nostrils or something

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

Actually, there is no template for a "perfect" message.

Maybe one suggestion is to compose rhyme and rehtoric that is sincere, that shows you have taken the time to read the other profile and consequently understood the hopes and aspirations of the other party.

However, we may be wrong!

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By *nne BoleynWoman
over a year ago

Gateshead

A short and polite message is what I prefer...hello my name is xxxx, please have a look at my profile and message back if you'd like to chat. I've attached a face picture.

If I like the face picture I'll look at the profile and if it's complete, well written with a selection of pictures then I'd reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually, there is no template for a "perfect" message.

However, we may be wrong!

To be fair he didnt ask for a template of a perfect message he askrd you to read your profile and write your personal ideal forst message

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"Hi, here is a photo of the front and back of my credit card.

Feel free to use it to book a holiday, buy yourself whatever you want.

Maybe we could meet for a coffee and you could show me what you've bought

Lol

Trust you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This would work on me:

My God you're fit.

That's pretty much it tbh."

Hello seems to work on you. Actually no words at all, just pretty pictures.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Am thoroughly intrigued by your delicious profile and felt compelled to write and virtually introduce myself by means of a recently taken face picture.

We seem to have similar interests, therefore I would love to enjoy a friendly chat with you so we can determine if there's any mutual attraction.

I appreciate you must have many messages to read but I hope this one 'stands out from the crowd'

Ciao!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This would work on me:

My God you're fit.

That's pretty much it tbh.

Hello seems to work on you. Actually no words at all, just pretty pictures.

Hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck?

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

A "Thank you for Fabbing my photos" message has worked on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely the 'perfect message' is one between two people. You and the person you are messaging? Not copy and paste, but one that suggests you have read their profile and saying something about yourself?

I'd hope no two messages I send are the same, similar perhaps because if i am talking about what I can offer that doesn't really change.

What works for one, isn't necessarily going to work for another. I can see couples and females being inundated with messages along the lines of those on this thread that 'worked'.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

"A "Thank you for Fabbing my photos" message has worked on me

Sometimes less is more

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