FabSwingers.com forum: Discretion

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do some men on here thinks it's OK to upset the apple cart; so to speak. I make it quite clear not to send messages to my couple profile as my partner doesn't know about my secret meets. Obviously they don't want to meet me again. Why are they so stupid?

I thought you guys liked naughty girls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the sex was so great, they've regained integrity

I can see my comment receiving quite a lot of hate already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the sex was so great, they've regained integrity

I can see my comment receiving quite a lot of hate already."

Ouch lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone want a choccy lime?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the sex was so great, they've regained integrity

I can see my comment receiving quite a lot of hate already.

Ouch lol

I could have seen this coming. Well it was meant as a joke not a judgment of someone's choice.

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By *rystal2015guyMan
over a year ago

S E london / Kidderminster

I would of loved to of meet any of you girls xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the sex was so great, they've regained integrity

I can see my comment receiving quite a lot of hate already.

Ouch lol

I could have seen this coming. Well it was meant as a joke not a judgment of someone's choice."

Apologies for being so predictable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the sex was so great, they've regained integrity

I can see my comment receiving quite a lot of hate already.

Ouch lol

I could have seen this coming. Well it was meant as a joke not a judgment of someone's choice.

Apologies for being so predictable

You have done said nothing, that would require an apology. Everyone is entitled to an opinion and you've voiced yours liberally.

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By *rinceCorwinMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Ooh yes please and you can have one of my sherbet lemons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ooh yes please and you can have one of my sherbet lemons."

How did you know I've got sherbert lemons too?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sometimes I read a thread and I don't understand any of it

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ? "

Because she's 'naughty' remember! Wonder if her partner is 'naughty' too?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Ohh I get it now...lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ? "

I'm struggling to understand how the men knew her couples profile name

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ? "

He allow me to have big cocks scared they will destroy me. I only want one now and then. A girl has needs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

I'm struggling to understand how the men knew her couples profile name

Couple profile has face pictures, easy enough to find when they know what I look like

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over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

I'm struggling to understand how the men knew her couples profile name

Couple profile has face pictures, easy enough to find when they know what I look like "

Oh, is that why you've called the thread discretion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

He allow me to have big cocks scared they will destroy me. I only want one now and then. A girl has needs"

Ah right so he does know you have your own profile, its the discretion on meeting via your single profile? Sorry the way it was written implied you were cheating on him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cool story bro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every now and then there's a thread that reminds me how entertaining the forums can be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

He allow me to have big cocks scared they will destroy me. I only want one now and then. A girl has needs

Ah right so he does know you have your own profile, its the discretion on meeting via your single profile? Sorry the way it was written implied you were cheating on him"

This profile allows me to have the extra fun I need sometimes. I don't class it as cheating as we are both swingers. He doesn't understand why I need extra. He's not always here and sometimes I feel like I will explode if I don't get a release. Love him to bits, not intending to run off with anyone he's very insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

He allow me to have big cocks scared they will destroy me. I only want one now and then. A girl has needs

Ah right so he does know you have your own profile, its the discretion on meeting via your single profile? Sorry the way it was written implied you were cheating on him

I love that. 'I lie to my partner regularly about the fact I have sex with men he doesn't know about, but I'm definitely not cheating'.

It's a very liberal definition of cheating that you have there.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

He allow me to have big cocks scared they will destroy me. I only want one now and then. A girl has needs

Ah right so he does know you have your own profile, its the discretion on meeting via your single profile? Sorry the way it was written implied you were cheating on him

Hmm I wonder why he's insecure...

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all...".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might not see it as cheating, I'll bet my left nut that he does though.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all..."."

Look I don't know if this is a pisstake or not I presume he knows exactly what she does (doesn't he?!),but...oh I don't know what my point is I don't really care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And from the other thread yesterday, this is an example of why I don't meet one half of a couple on here.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all..."."
Maybe cause most of us know what it is like to be cheated on . And it hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that there's ever a good reason to cheat but if anything your situation makes it even more appalling because he allows you the freedom to sleep with others yet you still deceive him!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all..."."

Everyone passes judgements at some point on some level so don't act above it, it's human nature to do it. When you do something that challenges the possible conflicting morals of another person you need to accept their judgement as a consequence of your decision if you can't accept that don't do it.

This lifestyle choice to swing that I've made would be frowned upon by many, in the vanilla world or those that still think a promiscuous woman is a bad thing, that's fine I accept that

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all...". Maybe cause most of us know what it is like to be cheated on . And it hurts "

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all..."."

You would say that! You're a cheat too!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all...".

You would say that! You're a cheat too!"

Do not judge,do not judge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh my head - too early and too nice a day for this

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all...".

You would say that! You're a cheat too!"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Not that there's ever a good reason to cheat but if anything your situation makes it even more appalling because he allows you the freedom to sleep with others yet you still deceive him! "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

He allow me to have big cocks scared they will destroy me. I only want one now and then. A girl has needs

Ah right so he does know you have your own profile, its the discretion on meeting via your single profile? Sorry the way it was written implied you were cheating on him

I love that. 'I lie to my partner regularly about the fact I have sex with men he doesn't know about, but I'm definitely not cheating'.

It's a very liberal definition of cheating that you have there."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not that there's ever a good reason to cheat but if anything your situation makes it even more appalling because he allows you the freedom to sleep with others yet you still deceive him! "

Absolutely this ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You might not see it as cheating, I'll bet my left nut that he does though."

Only one nut? If I had nuts I think I'd bet both.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"You might not see it as cheating, I'll bet my left nut that he does though."

Yep i thought this too .Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No comment...well other than

again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You might not see it as cheating, I'll bet my left nut that he does though.

Only one nut? If I had nuts I think I'd bet both."

Lefty is my favourite lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you tell these indiscreet men your partner doesn't know you meet men on your own,and not to contact you on your couple's profile?

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

The question that hasn't been asked is - how d these guys even know you have a couples profile? Surely if you don't want them to know and you want to be discreet, you don't put that on your profile or tell them,

I am struggling to understand this...

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"I'm never sure why people judge others...especially on a site like this.

Single, attached, married, gay...blah blah...what does it matter?

If they doesn't work with your moral compass then that is cool...you aren't going to chat or meet.

Why pass judgement so freely, when you can never know the full story through a profile or a few messages...

The old saying...."if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all..."."

Are you judging others for judging others?

Sounds a bit hypocritical to me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The question that hasn't been asked is - how d these guys even know you have a couples profile? Surely if you don't want them to know and you want to be discreet, you don't put that on your profile or tell them,

I am struggling to understand this..."

I asked that question, apparently the couples profile has face pictures on it making the op easily recognisable once you've met her. Not sure why the men go trawling through couples profiles looking for her but as this thread so ably demonstrates, it takes all sorts.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

I am struggling to understand this...

Could that be because she has told them she is on here as a couple as well or...?

Well it's hard to stay discreet if you show face pics on here..

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

He allow me to have big cocks scared they will destroy me. I only want one now and then. A girl has needs

Ah right so he does know you have your own profile, its the discretion on meeting via your single profile? Sorry the way it was written implied you were cheating on him

No matter how you wish to pretty it up and justify your actions to yourself you know you are cheating . You can try and delude yourself all you like , but when you are hiding meets ,being deceptive and you know the consequence if he found out ...it's cheating !

As for the guys mailing your couples profile ..the only persons actions you can control are your own .If you are going to continue with your single profile you need to accept that some won't heed what you say and will mail what profile they like . Being brutally honest, it really makes zero odds to them if your secret comes out .

As for your partners insecurity... well he's validated as you are just doing what he's feared .

You proclamation of how you feel for him and love him are just empty words . Your actions show your only concern is what you want and your needs and him and his feeling be damned. Your deflection on to him ..he doesn't understand ohh he's not always here ... is just crass . If you want to fuck about behind his back then that's all down to you ..your decision at least own it .

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Is this one of those fantasy extra profiles that you both pretend that he doesn't know about, but he really does? If so, great. Nothing wrong with some fantasy play.

If its not however, and it really is a real secret profile, well its on a fab, so its not really that secret is it? Surely he could just stumble across it while searching, or see it on top fabbed maybe, or local profiles, or even on the forum of course.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is this one of those fantasy extra profiles that you both pretend that he doesn't know about, but he really does? If so, great. Nothing wrong with some fantasy play.

Ever heard of the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not tell your partner, why secret meets ?

Because she's 'naughty' remember! Wonder if her partner is 'naughty' too?"

And he never looks on fab for single women in his area. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not naughty. It's cheating.

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