FabSwingers.com forum: Gonna take the risk- Dominant women.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I know theae threads usualy go south pretty fast so I have already prepared my impenetrable bunker for the retreat.

My question is are there any dominant (or wanting to get into that side of bdsm) women out there who would be up for meeting me, as I have been missing that for a while now.

Now I think the main sticking points will be the usual; mutual attraction and distance but lets see how it goes ^_^

Hardlimits that aren't gonna change would be scat, permenant marking and public humiliation (outside of w club setting anyway).

Unlike most of these threads though there isnt really something i specificaly want as in all honesty i have no idea.

What i genuinly want is somome i can trust to just give up control to and it's up to them what we do completely. I miss being able to switch off the constant overthinking in my head and everything just be up to another person for a few hours.

Be it sensual sensation play or a more sadistic s&m setting or medical or whatever you want, that being the key thing i like the other person fulfilling thier fantasies, i like seeing where thier mind goes. Rather than constantly being asked questions.

Safe words and the usual sensible things can all be sorted out.

So yeah if it sounds interesting to you, have a read of my profile check out my pics (few more BDSM ones in private that can be sent too). And get in touch, either in PM or the forums if you're feeling brave lol.

I shall now beat a hasty retreat to the bunker (actually i have to do some work :p) and check back in a bit x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wasn't expecting that when i came in for a nosey. you explained yourself pretty well. usually these topics go to shit when some guy comes in and doesn't explain himself or is selfish.

good luck. took me forever to find people willing to make the effort to get to a level of trust i enjoy but it has happened with a few guys now.

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

If she says it monday on a Tuesday it is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you find her x marie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck

Tough to find I believe but I hope she reads this and contacts you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read what you had to say, and took a peek at your profile. You seem like a good guy, so, I very much doubt this thread will go south. You explained yourself perfectly. I hope you find what you're looking for on here, and hopefully the post will lead to an eager lady stepping forward for you.. Good luck xx

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Wish you luck mate

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"So I know theae threads usualy go south pretty fast so I have already prepared my impenetrable bunker for the retreat.

My question is are there any dominant (or wanting to get into that side of bdsm) women out there who would be up for meeting me, as I have been missing that for a while now.

Now I think the main sticking points will be the usual; mutual attraction and distance but lets see how it goes ^_^

Hardlimits that aren't gonna change would be scat, permenant marking and public humiliation (outside of w club setting anyway).

Unlike most of these threads though there isnt really something i specificaly want as in all honesty i have no idea.

Safe words and the usual sensible things can all be sorted out.

I shall now beat a hasty retreat to the bunker (actually i have to do some work :p) and check back in a bit x

Refreshing.

I wish you well in your search.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

It can be difficult to find people online that you click with, and building trust online I find nearly impossible. You would do well to go to fet events or munches and have a chat with the women there. This should give you a better idea of what kind of things you may enjoy too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It can be difficult to find people online that you click with, and building trust online I find nearly impossible. You would do well to go to fet events or munches and have a chat with the women there. This should give you a better idea of what kind of things you may enjoy too"

I actually had an idea on the trust front.

Fabric restraints are very strong (just ask Fenrir) simple nylon strap should be beyond the force most people are able to excert in ideal condition let alone bondage ones. And they usualy have reasonably strong steel clips. And hoops.

My thinking is a big bag of dirt cheap aluminium carabineers from ebay (keyring/attaching things to backpack type ones)

Advantage 1 quick and easy way of attaching cuffs and restraints

Advantage 2 strong enough to resit most struggling but will bend/break open with sufficient force cause theyre only pot metal.

Also handy is the dom is diabetic and colapses lol

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By *ylonSlutTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

You have put yourself forward really well and you do look good as the attention from the ladies on here has indicated but you are more likely to find what you seek on a specialist fetish site. Not that you won't find it on here being very fit and also coming across as intelligent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have put yourself forward really well and you do look good as the attention from the ladies on here has indicated but you are more likely to find what you seek on a specialist fetish site. Not that you won't find it on here being very fit and also coming across as intelligent."

Yeah i did once use the FL site but found it impossible to navigate.

Dont really know any fet sites tbh.

My friend did invite me to go to club pedestal in london which is a femdom club but annoyingly they're next event is on a thursday night so can't go.

Might make the next torture garden though

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Yeah i did once use the FL site but found it impossible to navigate.

Dont really know any fet sites tbh.

My friend did invite me to go to club pedestal in london which is a femdom club but annoyingly they're next event is on a thursday night so can't go.

Might make the next torture garden though"

Try fetlife again. Join some groups and get chatting.

That said I'm not a massive fan. Too many old 'doms' who think that 'suck my cock'messages work and think they can 'make' you a submissive.

.....on second thoughts give it a miss

Is collarspace still going?

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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago

The North / Party Hard Everywhere

Hello hot man. Get your sexy arse to Heathrow dungeon zone next Friday, I'll be with a fellow Domme and we're looking for kinky people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a Dom and I have same problem in not finding a guy who enjoys being dominated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am a Dom and I have same problem in not finding a guy who enjoys being dominated"

I'm surprised by that, there seem to be a lot of sub males on here.

Good luck in your search x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I am a Dom and I have same problem in not finding a guy who enjoys being dominated"

There are loads that claim to be but their opening message gives them away as wannabes. My taste are rather specific, but I've been lucky on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am a Dom and I have same problem in not finding a guy who enjoys being dominated"

Snap

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"So I know theae threads usualy go south pretty fast so I have already prepared my impenetrable bunker for the retreat.

My question is are there any dominant (or wanting to get into that side of bdsm) women out there who would be up for meeting me, as I have been missing that for a while now.

Now I think the main sticking points will be the usual; mutual attraction and distance but lets see how it goes ^_^

Hardlimits that aren't gonna change would be scat, permenant marking and public humiliation (outside of w club setting anyway).

Unlike most of these threads though there isnt really something i specificaly want as in all honesty i have no idea.

Safe words and the usual sensible things can all be sorted out.

I shall now beat a hasty retreat to the bunker (actually i have to do some work :p) and check back in a bit x

WolfRyder you should talk to me !

I will direct you in your search .

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By *issandMaxCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Hello hot man. Get your sexy arse to Heathrow dungeon zone next Friday, I'll be with a fellow Domme and we're looking for kinky people

What she said, I'm there too!

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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago

The North / Party Hard Everywhere

"Hello hot man. Get your sexy arse to Heathrow dungeon zone next Friday, I'll be with a fellow Domme and we're looking for kinky people

What she said, I'm there too!"

Mmm nice - ask Ruber to introduce us, he knows who I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Refreshing profile and post.

And simply gorgeous photos.

Hope you find her, because she will be on VERY lucky woman!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

This is something that I would love to explore OP.

Your opening post is very clear and your profile and pics are great.

I hope you find someone nearby

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hello hot man. Get your sexy arse to Heathrow dungeon zone next Friday, I'll be with a fellow Domme and we're looking for kinky people

Im afraid i wont next be in london till the 27th

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of luck with your search, OP.

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By *reakShow90Man
over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"So I know theae threads usualy go south pretty fast so I have already prepared my impenetrable bunker for the retreat.

My question is are there any dominant (or wanting to get into that side of bdsm) women out there who would be up for meeting me, as I have been missing that for a while now.

Now I think the main sticking points will be the usual; mutual attraction and distance but lets see how it goes ^_^

Hardlimits that aren't gonna change would be scat, permenant marking and public humiliation (outside of w club setting anyway).

Unlike most of these threads though there isnt really something i specificaly want as in all honesty i have no idea.

Safe words and the usual sensible things can all be sorted out.

I shall now beat a hasty retreat to the bunker (actually i have to do some work :p) and check back in a bit x

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hello OP just wanting to say good luck in your search and I do under stand how hard it is to find a Lady who is the right Domme for you( yes iam more Dom myself but when I feel sub I feel verrrry sub) but anyway best of luck to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would like a woman that I could Dom. Has happened before and would love to again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would like a woman that I could Dom. Has happened before and would love to again."

I recomend starting a thread detailing what you're looking for.

This one has gone surprisingly well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish you luck finding someone in the right location, your profile looks great so sure you'll find her. We're very interested in exploring the dom /sub dynamic so sure there are others out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you find what you're looking for OP. You explain your reasons for seeking it very clear...

Exploring Domme/sub play is something that really intrigues me but I've yet to take the plunge

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I've been searching for ages for a mistress . I've only got lots of scammers n messers . Wish u d best in ur search . I did chat to one mistress but she scared me n did not trust her . She was on here but think she's gone off at d moment . Don't want to put her name up here .

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By *ustanhonestblokeMan
over a year ago

northampton

I've been so lucky in finding an amazing Mistress on here.

Mutual respect and trust are so important. If it's what you really want make sure your first message makes an impact. Write it out first. Make sure your terminology is correct. You only ever get one chance to make a first impression.

Good luck in your search you seem to know what you want.

Neil

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By *addyandbabyCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

Op, BDSM munches are a great place to meet people, there are loads in London, and quite a few in your area

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op, BDSM munches are a great place to meet people, there are loads in London, and quite a few in your area"

Yeah sadly pedestal is on Thursday im there the day after on the 27th

Gonna go to torture garden with a friend though on june 3rd i think it is

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By *addyandbabyCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

Both of these are parties, a munch is quite different,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been so lucky in finding an amazing Mistress on here.

Good luck in your search you seem to know what you want.

Neil

See i will admit thats one point where i probbaly fall down i find all the pedantry with terms and capitals tedious.

It seems a creation of people who talk and fantasise about bdsm than actually do it.

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By *addyandbabyCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

I run a munch and yes at said much it's just chatting but I assure you what is talked about really happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How bizarre just been chatting about this very subject. Wondering if I can I'm tempted I have to say

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By *aughtymale1Man
over a year ago

Sandbach

CS is still going. Over 6 years I have made good real-life friends with 2 Dommes there. So it is time consuming to find the true gold that lurks there.

I have found FL better for events, although have also found 1 Domme friend there.

Don't give up, the connections can come but need persistence (in searching) and hope. Best wishes!

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By *ustanhonestblokeMan
over a year ago

northampton

"I've been so lucky in finding an amazing Mistress on here.

Good luck in your search you seem to know what you want.

Neil

See i will admit thats one point where i probbaly fall down i find all the pedantry with terms and capitals tedious.

It seems a creation of people who talk and fantasise about bdsm than actually do it.

I can assure you the punishment I receive is very real , and I have the marks to prove it. As I said I'm lucky. Seems you are looking for a woman to take control rather than a domme .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I run a munch and yes at said much it's just chatting but I assure you what is talked about really happens"

Yeah i know munches are just chating i used to go to the one in fab cafe in manchester (great place btw they have a tardis, cyber man and the deck of the enterprise :p)

I just mean the internet pedantry often seems to be a bit of the old lady doth protest too much.

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By *addyandbabyCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

"I run a munch and yes at said much it's just chatting but I assure you what is talked about really happens

Yeah i know munches are just chating i used to go to the one in fab cafe in manchester (great place btw they have a tardis, cyber man and the deck of the enterprise :p)

I just mean the internet pedantry often seems to be a bit of the old lady doth protest too much."

Yes I realised that after I posted sorry. Not used to how this site runs threads yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I run a munch and yes at said much it's just chatting but I assure you what is talked about really happens

Yeah i know munches are just chating i used to go to the one in fab cafe in manchester (great place btw they have a tardis, cyber man and the deck of the enterprise :p)

I just mean the internet pedantry often seems to be a bit of the old lady doth protest too much.

Yes I realised that after I posted sorry. Not used to how this site runs threads yet"

No worries it can be a little funy with no quote nesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you thought about removing some elements of play for starting off?

When I used to domme, I would start sessions with someone with the rule of no genital nudity, nothing sexual, no pain, no restraints and no protocol (no mistress/slave etc).

It helps you explore what you want without being overwhelmed and also builds up trust. It's also easier to say no to an activity to someone you can treat as an equal rather than someone who insists on you being treated as a piece of shit.

Hope it helps x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you thought about removing some elements of play for starting off?

Have to find somone to play with first

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well change of plans will be at club pedestal in london on the 26th :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you thought about removing some elements of play for starting off?

When I used to domme, I would start sessions with someone with the rule of no genital nudity, nothing sexual, no pain, no restraints and no protocol (no mistress/slave etc).

Hope it helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to to try being domme rather than sub. I'd be so crap at it though I think. I think I'm made to be submissive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So plans for the next few weeks are.

Club pedestal

Torture garden

Club antichrist

Should be fun ^_^

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