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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just a question for the ladys. a while ago we had a mfm the other half says she will only play if i am there. but i would like to know if she would enjoy the other guy more if i was not there in the room, there was one point when i needed to leave the room for the toilet. when i left her moans got louder and they were both more energetic with the sex, so stayed out of the room for a while and she had a real great orgasm. so am wondering if me being there is holding her back or is my presents stopping the other guy from giving her his all,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It could be either, or

he probably let loose more while you were gone and held back while you were there

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"just a question for the ladys. a while ago we had a mfm the other half says she will only play if i am there. but i would like to know if she would enjoy the other guy more if i was not there in the room, there was one point when i needed to leave the room for the toilet. when i left her moans got louder and they were both more energetic with the sex, so stayed out of the room for a while and she had a real great orgasm. so am wondering if me being there is holding her back or is my presents stopping the other guy from giving her his all,"

surely there's only one person who can answer this question

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

surely there's only one person who can answer this question

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but i dont think she will give a true answer. so as not to hurt my feelings,

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

surely there's only one person who can answer this question

but i dont think she will give a true answer. so as not to hurt my feelings, "

but the rest of us can only answer from our own perspective so you wouldn't be any further forward.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

surely there's only one person who can answer this question

but i dont think she will give a true answer. so as not to hurt my feelings,

but the rest of us can only answer from our own perspective so you wouldn't be any further forward. "

Your answers in your second line!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

surely there's only one person who can answer this question

but i dont think she will give a true answer. so as not to hurt my feelings,

but the rest of us can only answer from our own perspective so you wouldn't be any further forward. "
you may well be right. i should have asked the question a different way,would other woman not let on to there other half know they enjoyed the sex better when they were left alone,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

surely there's only one person who can answer this question

but i dont think she will give a true answer. so as not to hurt my feelings,

but the rest of us can only answer from our own perspective so you wouldn't be any further forward. "

What you are asking is what most of us guys ask ourselves over and over

End of the day you are a couple, you enjoy how you play.

Just enjoy the experience because over thinking it can make you a paranoid wreck

Trust me in that one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

surely there's only one person who can answer this question

but i dont think she will give a true answer. so as not to hurt my feelings,

but the rest of us can only answer from our own perspective so you wouldn't be any further forward.

What you are asking is what most of us guys ask ourselves over and over

End of the day you are a couple, you enjoy how you play.

Just enjoy the experience because over thinking it can make you a paranoid wreck

Trust me in that one. "
not paranoid about it . if i was sure she enjoyed it more if i was not there i would encourage her to try it,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

From 'the other half' the guy was more vigorous in his thrusting when alone and held my wrists, then in the morning it was because you were asleep...

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....

Personally, I find having hubs present is advisable for the first meet, for safety reasons, but if I was honest, id prefer him to be out of the room so I could concentrate on my partner and play together afterwards...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From 'the other half' the guy was more vigorous in his thrusting when alone and held my wrists, then in the morning it was because you were asleep... "

Seems being alone does the trick but then you're not playing as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its also a case of multitasking.

I or we (as in men) can't always do a proper job if we have more than two things in our hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask a question?

(Mr here)

Please feel free not to answer if you don't want to.

But during the session when you were present, what were you doing?

We're you on the peripherals and mire of a voyeur than a participant?

Or was you giving as good as he was?

The reason I say this, is maybe you need to raise your game a bit.

Or look at it another way.

Of course she is going to be more turned on by a stranger for a brief while isn't that the point?

Your indulging in fantasy/kink.

The idea is that you all get maximum satisfaction not just her.

Your in it together as a couple, I assume?

But we all have different turn ons.

I understand what you mean about her relaxing more, but if she can't relax properly when you are around, maybe a discussion is required to see what is making her tense?

Performance anxiety maybe?

I don't know just food for thought.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Its good that you gave a little freedom and stayed out but I wouldn't think too much of it. You never know what would have happened should you have gone back in. The guy would have probably lasted longer as he would have been swapping positions with you. Granted 1-2-1 is a little easier to enjoy play but mmf is equally as enjoyable as you have to swap and tease more.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

In addition to my last - that's the whole pint of swapping, you get to try new things. Being with the same partner you can and do get used to the feel of your partner. As soon as someone new is introduced, there is an immediate turn on as there is a new feel, new touch, new cock - whatever. It all depends on how good they are but simply having someone new often is turn on enough to get pulses flowing.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

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