FabSwingers.com forum: Pretenders and time wasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have been here now a few weeks and I cannot believe how many pretenders and timewasters there are. Thinking of leaving. Anyone found the same?

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth

No, not really. You have to have a bit of a 'spidey sense' but it shouldn't take long to develop a feel for the obvious fakes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you explain that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

any site you go to will have fakes its part of the site

an there is many topics about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would seriously question the way you are going about things if thats all you are experiencing on here

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Would these be the same people as the ones in your fucking timewasters thread that you started?

Personally I have never had a problem with pretenders,most genuine people stand out a mile and those that are'nt are easy to spot

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/49720

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"I have been here now a few weeks and I cannot believe how many pretenders and timewasters there are. Thinking of leaving. Anyone found the same?"

Welcome to the world of swinging! Seriously though it's not a sprint more of a marathon.

I see you have some friends here but if you are looking to improve your chances of meeting you may want to look at how you have structured and the grammer within your profile as it tends to start off negatively with the moaning about time wasters.

If you become more envolved in the forums it will tell people a little bit more about you and I would also say that if the only way people can see you is to become a friend it may well reduce your chances of meets.

As much as we may all like a FB you will tend to find that most couples or at least it seems will only play with genuine committed couples so maybe take that out of your main wish list and include in your profile details if it's that important to you. Do you have a club local to you? That's another way of getting into meeting more people. But I think make your profile a little more up beat and

have a pic so at least people don't feel compelled to have to become a friend to see if you float their boat.

just my opinions it's up to you; remember there are a lot more single men out there competing.

You could always browse a few guys profiles to see how yours compares and look at their success at meeting from the verifications.

Good luck and give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've spent time chatting online with dozens of people and never once have I thought that time was wasted nor have I been typing thinking what a fake. If they think that of me then how can I prove they are wrong? Online communication is supposed to be good fun and captures a moment of connection or months of continued camaradie.

You can't know if what they are saying is a true representation of their lives but if you are exchanging mails and enjoy that time together then whats the big deal?

I agree with other posters that you can spot someone who is not your cup of tea a mile off and you simply discourage any further communication. Its called gut instinct. You can't have everything handed on a perfectly presented plate for you - its not a natural part of any interacting with other humans.

Again I have to say I think the word timewaster is misused a lot and that some use it to describe the disappointment they feel when things don't pan out the way they want them to after having spent time 'chatting' to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Thinking of leaving. "

Bye then.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

" Thinking of leaving.

Bye then.

That is the response I was really tempted to give....

to the OP, if you put out "negativity"... that is what you are going to get back...

can i just let you into a little secret... come in close!!

whinging.... it isn't sexy!!!!

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By *tryxxCouple
over a year ago

central

" Thinking of leaving.

Bye then.

laughed and laughed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Thinking of leaving.

Bye then.

laughed and laughed

"
was going to say that myself

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

" Thinking of leaving.

Bye then.

That is the response I was really tempted to give....

to the OP, if you put out "negativity"... that is what you are going to get back...

can i just let you into a little secret... come in close!!

whinging.... it isn't sexy!!!!

* nods *

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

well i have been called a time waster as i refused to send a picture to a guy after 2 messages. also for refusing to meet /call/play on cam with a guy ive never spoken to before .or simply for daring to say i didnt wish to take things further after it becomes aparent through messaging we didnt click . if they wish to view that as time wasting then thats THEIR opinion . i however view it as my personal choice. so YOUR view of time wasting may well be poles apart from other peoples and thats just human nature . if its fake profiles causing you issue ,then just report em and move on ! better to find out sooner than later .theyve actually saved you anyfurther conversation or time setting up a meet ,time you can speakand meet the ment genuine folks on here .

if issue is people not turning up for meets again report em, move on ! also as said before id be revisiting way you do things if you get loads of people not turning up as arranged .

i find very easy to spot the liers and dreamers on here and as its been said the genuine folks do shine out on here .

maybe worth doing something posative rather then moan on forum .use the meny socials as way to get your face known and meet genuine folks on here . some people when given lemons will just suck em and make themselves look sour ..others will get out the tequila and salt and have a party !! up to you what type of person you wanna be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You got some good advice here.

Be positive,hang in there,and treat everyone with respect.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whinging.... it isn't sexy!!!!

I was just about to moan about the......

and ask why can't I.....

...and why do people.....

and say I can't stand it when....

DAMMIT!!! I thought I was on to a trick then

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"whinging.... it isn't sexy!!!!

I was just about to moan about the......

and ask why can't I.....

...and why do people.....

and say I can't stand it when....

DAMMIT!!! I thought I was on to a trick then

Phwoooar!! I love it when you winge...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Thinking of leaving.

Bye then.

Ta ta but I am sure you'll be back lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol well thank you one and all. This obviously a sensitive topic to some and to others part of the process. I think you can tell those that are here too meet and those who wish to collect friends and photos. All are obviously welcome as are your remarks. Happy browsing and thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8/10 people are here to meet others for sex,some are here for chat,it does not really matter,sorry the fact is your not getting anywhere on here and this is the 2nd post you have made about timewasters.

You will get timewasters in all walks of life not just on here. You need broader shoulders I think if you can't take knock backs,we all get knock backs it life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it is pretty sensitive to you as you opened the debate. Are you leaving now? Or staying a bit longer because of the responses? I need closure - its just the way I am.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but I may get slated for this but alot do this,ive had enough and I am leaving,why do they feel the need to tell us. Sorry but me for one won't be begging you to stay. But you'll be back as all sites are the same,even the ones you pay for.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

It isn't a sensitive subject , it is a repetitive one done every few days, as your previous thread shows.

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By *rs WhiteCouple
over a year ago

South

"Would these be the same people as the ones in your fucking timewasters thread that you started?

Personally I have never had a problem with pretenders,most genuine people stand out a mile and those that are'nt are easy to spot"

Maybe he thinks our wives,girlfriends and the lovely single ladies on here are unpaid whores, ready to shag him for free at a moments notice?

Just a thought....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you been offered a sympathy shag yet?

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By *ustylikesgentsCouple
over a year ago

North wales coast

If you kid yourself you will spend time on time wasters and become one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been here now a few weeks and I cannot believe how many pretenders and timewasters there are. Thinking of leaving. Anyone found the same?"

must admit that we dont take men who dont even support the site to the tune of a fiver a month very seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been here now a few weeks and I cannot believe how many pretenders and timewasters there are. Thinking of leaving. Anyone found the same?

must admit that we dont take men who dont even support the site to the tune of a fiver a month very seriously"

Then he can look at all the people that didn't look at him. I love that facility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol well thank you one and all. This obviously a sensitive topic to some and to others part of the process. I think you can tell those that are here too meet and those who wish to collect friends and photos. All are obviously welcome as are your remarks. Happy browsing and thank you xxx"
bit rich coming from a man with no verifications that obviously by his own comments cant attract a single person or couple for a meet

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