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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

People often say they don't want to be treated "like a piece of meat". It seems to be a term usually used in relation to 'no strings/ fuck n go' type meets.

However some people love these types of meet. If it's mutual fun then it's good.

So I'm wondering, if I feel like a piece of meat after one of these types of meets-

Is it down to me letting myself feel that way??..

Or due to them acting a certain (disrespectful?) way towards me??..

Or both....?

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Let's meet and find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's meet and find out"

You mean 'meat and find out'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean let her meet your meat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How the hell can we possibly Know the workings of your mind if you don't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I would feel like a 'piece of meat' if I let myself down by letting someone treat me disrespectfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love meat. Take it as a compliment

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By *itchfieldMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

This makes me think of the bit in American Pie where he wakes up after time spent with the band girl and says 'I've been used!' and then realisation dawns and he says much more excitedly 'I've been used!!!'.

Being treated as a piece of meat when you're out doing your Tesco shop would probably be irritating or tedious but that doesn't mean it's bad if sometimes you enjoy it. If you enjoy being someones piece of meat on a meet that's fine too. You can enjoy the attention you receive in whatever way you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello ladies, i have a little piece of meat for all of you!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How the hell can we possibly Know the workings of your mind if you don't? "

It's supposed to be a general discussion. Not literally about 'me'.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This makes me think of the bit in American Pie where he wakes up after time spent with the band girl and says 'I've been used!' and then realisation dawns and he says much more excitedly 'I've been used!!!'.

Being treated as a piece of meat when you're out doing your Tesco shop would probably be irritating or tedious but that doesn't mean it's bad if sometimes you enjoy it. If you enjoy being someones piece of meat on a meet that's fine too. You can enjoy the attention you receive in whatever way you want. "

I like that. Thank you.

"I've been used!!"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"People often say they don't want to be treated "like a piece of meat". It seems to be a term usually used in relation to 'no strings/ fuck n go' type meets.

However some people love these types of meet. If it's mutual fun then it's good.

So I'm wondering, if I feel like a piece of meat after one of these types of meets-

Is it down to me letting myself feel that way??..

Or due to them acting a certain (disrespectful?) way towards me??..

Or both....?"

I always say that people only treat you how you allow them to. So pork chop or fillet steak?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you are overthinking it? Or as this is a "general" discussion "they" are overthinking it.

I used to feel "hollow" after a meet, I would always come back to an empty bed ( I used to do booty calls, back in the day (lol, just lol))

I never felt nourished, just sated... SO I changed things around a little bit, went away for a little while.....had a think about the whole fab/swinging thing and now I am back and it feels different, I am different. Maybe if you feel used and you aren't getting out what you out in, have a break...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say I have never felt that way after a meet...

and I think that the day that it happens will be the day I stop meeting...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also I think we all go about this in the way that best suits us and enables us to look at ourselves in the mirror in the mornings. The bottom line is that we have sex with people we don't know very well no matter if we have a social first or meet in a car park and get down to it and to lots of people that's treating each other like pieces of meat. It's just a question of degree.

To me though if everyone goes away happy I can't see a problem.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I like one on one or group meets with those I have some form of connection with mostly but every now and then it's good to just get fucked. Do I feel like a piece of meat afterwards? Hell no, I got exactly what I wanted; we used each other.

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By *onbons_xxMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I'd say it's a combination of both. You (not 'you' but in terms of generalisation ) can't help feeling how you feel but that is influenced by others as well as how strong you are internally I say.

Self worth and respect go a long way to averting the knobs I reckon

Oh and decent lamb chops if we're putting it out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel free to use my meat an 2 veg

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I have my hubby for the loving & hugging. But like it with strangers for the thrill & ive never felt like a piece of meat or used for that matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People often say they don't want to be treated "like a piece of meat". It seems to be a term usually used in relation to 'no strings/ fuck n go' type meets.

However some people love these types of meet. If it's mutual fun then it's good.

So I'm wondering, if I feel like a piece of meat after one of these types of meets-

Is it down to me letting myself feel that way??..

Or due to them acting a certain (disrespectful?) way towards me??..

Or both....?"

If it was me left feeling like that I would wonder why I had put myself in that situation in the first place probably.

Go by your gut feeling about a person or situation as I find its usually correct in some way or another eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I get a great kick out of the odd blow and go and I've done fuck and go too in the past. I was always safe, satisfied and enjoyed myself.

Someone can only see me as a piece of meat if that's how I see myself first. As long as I can respect myself I don't need anyone else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like one on one or group meets with those I have some form of connection with mostly but every now and then it's good to just get fucked. Do I feel like a piece of meat afterwards? Hell no, I got exactly what I wanted; we used each other."

I think you have your answer OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmmmm meat, tasty steak.

Sorry got side tracked.

Beefy curtains mmmmmm

Sorry sorry.

Treaded like a piece of meat.

Curious phrase.

People smash and bash meat, before cooking it and cutting up into small pieces then eat it.

Why the hell would someone wanted to be treated like a piece of meat?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I've never felt like a piece of meat or used, even when we've arranged/attended parties where I'm the only female.

People can only do and or treat me how I allow them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos. "

When I first joined Fab, I got this a lot. My way of changing things was on insisting on a social meet first. I think by getting to know me a bit first and having a connection, they are more likely to want to make sure that I'd had an enjoyable time too.

The guys who were just interested in their own satisfaction were ones I'd met straight away for sex. I think they only saw me as an unpaid prostitute

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos. "

But were they always the same, and it's you/ your attitude that's changed?

This is what I'm thinking but I'm crap at explaining. The "no-one can make you feel inferior without your consent" quote.

-Is it them making us feel a certain way, or us allowing ourselves to feel that way?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos.

When I first joined Fab, I got this a lot. My way of changing things was on insisting on a social meet first. I think by getting to know me a bit first and having a connection, they are more likely to want to make sure that I'd had an enjoyable time too.

The guys who were just interested in their own satisfaction were ones I'd met straight away for sex. I think they only saw me as an unpaid prostitute "

I know what you mean.

What if you saw them as an unpaid prostitute? In your head YOU were using THEM as just a shag. Then you would feel differently about it.

Is it possible to force ourselves to change the way we feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos.

When I first joined Fab, I got this a lot. My way of changing things was on insisting on a social meet first. I think by getting to know me a bit first and having a connection, they are more likely to want to make sure that I'd had an enjoyable time too.

The guys who were just interested in their own satisfaction were ones I'd met straight away for sex. I think they only saw me as an unpaid prostitute

I know what you mean.

What if you saw them as an unpaid prostitute? In your head YOU were using THEM as just a shag. Then you would feel differently about it.

Is it possible to force ourselves to change the way we feel? "

Why would you even want to force yourself to change how you feel?

Especially for sex??

I just don't get it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos.

But were they always the same, and it's you/ your attitude that's changed?

This is what I'm thinking but I'm crap at explaining. The "no-one can make you feel inferior without your consent" quote.

-Is it them making us feel a certain way, or us allowing ourselves to feel that way?"

Well, i've had a lot of spontaneous meets that left me feeling great, with considerate guys who treated me like a person. We were both using each other and enjoyed it, mutual fun imo. Even if the meets were repeated and i was being used i was never left feeling used to the point where i meant nothing to the other person at all...to elaborate maybe i more mean where the other guy didn't care if i enjoyed it or not.

Very few guys have left me feeling like meat, but it's the ones who treat you like a service (that i never consented to) that make me feel like crap, and they do it pretty quickly then fuck off straight away, and it is me left feeling that way but because they made sure they were sorted then just fucked off and that's not what i agreed to.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Maybe you are overthinking it? Or as this is a "general" discussion "they" are overthinking it.

I used to feel "hollow" after a meet, I would always come back to an empty bed ( I used to do booty calls, back in the day (lol, just lol))

I never felt nourished, just sated... SO I changed things around a little bit, went away for a little while.....had a think about the whole fab/swinging thing and now I am back and it feels different, I am different. Maybe if you feel used and you aren't getting out what you out in, have a break..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think i get what you mean now you replied to someone else.

Being left feeling a piece of meat is being used non-consensually. Like an object without your own wants and needs.

Some people do actually enjoy that, but other (like myself) do not.

I get how NSA works, you don't really care about each other BUT you should be meeting for mutually enjoyable sex, not just providing a service to one person while the other is left unsatisfied and feeling used...like a piece of meat.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

ive walked out in the middle of several playing scenarios because of this, its either the "vacant/im somewhere else" look, the "i dont know what to do, ill leave it all to you", and the "i like it. so im doing it, so you dont matter" ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people just feel like a piece of meat if their meet even does go to plan. They need better aftercare, or maybe feel frustrated etc.

I've never felt like that, or left someone feeling terrible, mainly because when it's naturally comfortable or there's a clear connection then it really helps to just be on the same page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think i get what you mean now you replied to someone else.

Being left feeling a piece of meat is being used non-consensually. Like an object without your own wants and needs.

Some people do actually enjoy that, but other (like myself) do not.

I get how NSA works, you don't really care about each other BUT you should be meeting for mutually enjoyable sex, not just providing a service to one person while the other is left unsatisfied and feeling used...like a piece of meat."

Are these failure meets with the guys who have the profiles of promising you the best fuck ever?

I'm going to lick you and fuck you for hours and make you cum over and over again ?

Are those the ones you mean ? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's your decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos.

When I first joined Fab, I got this a lot. My way of changing things was on insisting on a social meet first. I think by getting to know me a bit first and having a connection, they are more likely to want to make sure that I'd had an enjoyable time too.

The guys who were just interested in their own satisfaction were ones I'd met straight away for sex. I think they only saw me as an unpaid prostitute

I know what you mean.

What if you saw them as an unpaid prostitute? In your head YOU were using THEM as just a shag. Then you would feel differently about it.

Is it possible to force ourselves to change the way we feel? "

Well as they didn't make me cum, I would have felt cheated

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos.

When I first joined Fab, I got this a lot. My way of changing things was on insisting on a social meet first. I think by getting to know me a bit first and having a connection, they are more likely to want to make sure that I'd had an enjoyable time too.

The guys who were just interested in their own satisfaction were ones I'd met straight away for sex. I think they only saw me as an unpaid prostitute "

I have felt like this with only 1 bloke that I met when I was a newbie. I met him a few times and each time he stayed less. So much so the last time we met he was here for 11 mins (and that included a wee). Yet I'm perhaps to blame cos i was too embarrassed to ask what about me!! Almost put me off fab but luckily I was also meeting a top bloke that's just the opposite and we still meet a year on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How the hell can we possibly Know the workings of your mind if you don't? "

Men have been wondering this about women for thousands of years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think i get what you mean now you replied to someone else.

Being left feeling a piece of meat is being used non-consensually. Like an object without your own wants and needs.

Some people do actually enjoy that, but other (like myself) do not.

I get how NSA works, you don't really care about each other BUT you should be meeting for mutually enjoyable sex, not just providing a service to one person while the other is left unsatisfied and feeling used...like a piece of meat.

Are these failure meets with the guys who have the profiles of promising you the best fuck ever?

I'm going to lick you and fuck you for hours and make you cum over and over again ?

Are those the ones you mean ? Lol"

Can't remember, i usually only look at the pics...yes confessing to that ok.

I get the idea they are married though and not even getting any sex so just happy to cum and dump then go back to wifey in a rush coz they only nipped out for some milk or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I get a great kick out of the odd blow and go and I've done fuck and go too in the past. I was always safe, satisfied and enjoyed myself.

Someone can only see me as a piece of meat if that's how I see myself first. As long as I can respect myself I don't need anyone else's"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos.

When I first joined Fab, I got this a lot. My way of changing things was on insisting on a social meet first. I think by getting to know me a bit first and having a connection, they are more likely to want to make sure that I'd had an enjoyable time too.

The guys who were just interested in their own satisfaction were ones I'd met straight away for sex. I think they only saw me as an unpaid prostitute

I know what you mean.

What if you saw them as an unpaid prostitute? In your head YOU were using THEM as just a shag. Then you would feel differently about it.

Is it possible to force ourselves to change the way we feel?

Why would you even want to force yourself to change how you feel?

Especially for sex??

I just don't get it ?"

My OP was about a comment someone made on another thread. I thought it was an interesting question. It's not about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit of both for me.

I froze twice when 2 different guys completely disrespected me. But afterwards i made sure i changed how i meet. 100% i will blame them.

Other times i was disrespected but in a way where you could actually excuse that, like the guys came really quick then fucked right off without me getting anything much, can't really blame cumming quick on anything as it is something that happens fairly naturally, but the fucking off without me being sorted is the disrespectful bit but i did nothing about it coz it was unexpected and you can't really ask a guy to stop getting dressed and make me enjoy it too.

So when being treated like a lesser piece of meat it isn't too bad, you just think the guys wanker. But being treated like you don't even matter is horrible and down to the guy but if you froze and didn't know what to do properly coz you had no experience then there's nothing to really blame yourself for there.

It's why i've gone off guys really, you don't know who is worth meeting or not and i'm not risking it any more. Had a great time the first year i was on here, then for some reason i just started meeting weirdos.

When I first joined Fab, I got this a lot. My way of changing things was on insisting on a social meet first. I think by getting to know me a bit first and having a connection, they are more likely to want to make sure that I'd had an enjoyable time too.

The guys who were just interested in their own satisfaction were ones I'd met straight away for sex. I think they only saw me as an unpaid prostitute

I know what you mean.

What if you saw them as an unpaid prostitute? In your head YOU were using THEM as just a shag. Then you would feel differently about it.

Is it possible to force ourselves to change the way we feel?

Why would you even want to force yourself to change how you feel?

Especially for sex??

I just don't get it ?

My OP was about a comment someone made on another thread. I thought it was an interesting question. It's not about me. "

That's ok then

I was getting a bit worried about you?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Good question. It could be because of your own 'cognitive dissonance' - ie you actually want 'a' and you're settling for 'b', or because of their disrespectful attitude towards you. That's one thing I like to suss by chatting - as soon as someone says something like 'do you dress to please?' I am turned off like a light because it's not about wanting to meet *me* anymore.

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