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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree, so you have to make the decision whether you go or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've travelled an hour and a half for coffee before, it was worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coffee and a chat in bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always insist on a social meet first...

that way its much easier to walk away if there is no chemistry

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Not for us...we don't need to know someone to play with them which is why we prefer the club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Esssential for us. There has to be chemistry, it's unfair to turn up on a date not having met before only to have to make excuses and leave. Having said that some of our party hosts have held socials at various locations and they have led to fun afterwards, so best of all worlds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun"

Decide whether the lady is worth the time and effort. If not, leave her alone.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If you have chatted with her and seen pics etc you must have an inkling if she would be worth it.

Social first for me, always

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By *thicalslutx69Couple
over a year ago

lincoln

We would be unlike to play on a first meet even if we get on well with the person or people we met. We say a social on a first meet so there is no pressure at all on either party and it gives both parties time to think and chat after a social. This is partly due to our inexperience but we are up front about that with any people we chat to. This fits in with what we are looking for as we aren't looking to meet people many miles away or on the other side of the country and are hoping to make longer term friends. But obviously we are all different on here and some you like to play on a first meet which is fine if all involved are 100% happy.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I prefer a social first to see if there is a spark.... if so then hopefully take it further later.

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By *ay BrowerMan
over a year ago

Oldham

Good company and good coffee is always worth travelling for

Whether they're good or not is an exciting gamble im willing to take

Getting on, clicking, having a connection whatever you call it will lead to better sex!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never meet up purely for any sex without either meeting for a drink first or at a club. Call us old fashioned but we need the attraction and chemistry too.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

It makes sense to have a social first really just incase you don't feel any attraction when you meet. It's why I don't like people travelling too far incase neither feels it.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

That is why we only do local meets. We would not expect a guy to travel miles just to have a drink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first - no movement on this.

A club is different because you know face to face if there's an attraction but that quite often doesn't happen outside.

As Lady Lick said - you have an idea but in person you just might not click.

Mx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you were both after regular meets a social would probably be worth the distance i reckon.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"if you were both after regular meets a social would probably be worth the distance i reckon."

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By *ristol_MTB_cplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Social first - no movement on this.

A club is different because you know face to face if there's an attraction but that quite often doesn't happen outside.

As Lady Lick said - you have an idea but in person you just might not click.

Mx"

And sometimes you click so well the ladies decide to scandalised the poor unsuspecting bar staff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never done a social and never will .

Complete and utter waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm all for a social first, especially if meeting a single female, they have to do a nutter reccy before being somewhere in a one to one situation with a guy they don't know.

But there are some serial socialites out there, "meet for a coffee " then "meet for lunch " then another coffee. Not long before you start to feel like a meal ticket!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"This guy is just a time waster anyway "

The op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm all for a social first, especially if meeting a single female, they have to do a nutter reccy before being somewhere in a one to one situation with a guy they don't know.

But there are some serial socialites out there, "meet for a coffee " then "meet for lunch " then another coffee. Not long before you start to feel like a meal ticket! "

That's possibly the first time I've EVER seen a single male post about the ladies safety being important!!

Have you any idea the stick you get if you mention a safety net to a single or couple?

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Always a social first, attractive pictures are one thing, present chemistry can often be a different matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first - no movement on this.

A club is different because you know face to face if there's an attraction but that quite often doesn't happen outside.

As Lady Lick said - you have an idea but in person you just might not click.

Mx

And sometimes you click so well the ladies decide to scandalised the poor unsuspecting bar staff "

Shhhhh - they'll all want a go.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This guy is just a time waster anyway

The op?"

Glad you asked that

Look forward to the answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This guy is just a time waster anyway "

Pardon???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social and never will .

Complete and utter waste of time "

so you keep reiterating

but a lot of us are not into the sucknfcuk meet/don't do clubs or house parties...

different horses for different courses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social and never will .

Complete and utter waste of time

so you keep reiterating

but a lot of us are not into the sucknfcuk meet/don't do clubs or house parties...

different horses for different courses "

We agree - not everyone "enjoys" your style of play.

If you're happy thats cool just stop ramming it down others throats when they say prefer to socialise first.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Never done a social and never will .

Complete and utter waste of time

so you keep reiterating

but a lot of us are not into the sucknfcuk meet/don't do clubs or house parties...

different horses for different courses "

They were just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social and never will .

Complete and utter waste of time

so you keep reiterating

but a lot of us are not into the sucknfcuk meet/don't do clubs or house parties...

different horses for different courses "

Ah .... so the reiteration of those who DO like a social is acceptable then ....

The op asked for an honest answer and we gave our honest answer .

Or perhaps you would prefer it if we didn't answer at all ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This guy is just a time waster anyway

Pardon???"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always insist on socials as like a lot have said physical attraction but also personality is important. Some people find it easy to sit behind a keyboard and be able to do banter but when you meet in person can hardly string a sentence together except for "when are we getting it on then"which we then find a big turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social and never will .

Complete and utter waste of time

so you keep reiterating

but a lot of us are not into the sucknfcuk meet/don't do clubs or house parties...

different horses for different courses

We agree - not everyone "enjoys" your style of play.

If you're happy thats cool just stop ramming it down others throats when they say prefer to socialise first. "

You clearly miss the point too .

We are just as entitled as anyone else to state our choice as to how we play .

Who are you to tell us to stop ramming it down anyone's throat ?

Rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rude?

No - just factual after reading a large number of your posts on any thread that it gets brought up on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like a social meet first too, as like many have said, chemistry is equally important to us as attraction.

We've often gone on to play with people we initially weren't sure about an attraction when we met because the chemistry was great.

Equally we've met some stunning people at a social meet but not gone on to play with them because there was no chemistry.

When meeting for a social we're honest to say we're happy to go on to play at that meet IF everyone is happy to and the sparks are flying, but whether it's a social or play meet, we don't meet with any expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm all for a social first, especially if meeting a single female, they have to do a nutter reccy before being somewhere in a one to one situation with a guy they don't know.

But there are some serial socialites out there, "meet for a coffee " then "meet for lunch " then another coffee. Not long before you start to feel like a meal ticket!

That's possibly the first time I've EVER seen a single male post about the ladies safety being important!!

Have you any idea the stick you get if you mention a safety net to a single or couple?"

I'm sure all the wrong sort of people give you stick, but anyone decent must surely walk in your La Bouton's for a minute and realise that a single female going to a complete stranger in an out of sight, intimate environment, is going to want to be cautious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rude?

No - just factual after reading a large number of your posts on any thread that it gets brought up on."

Is it any less factual than the same posters who say they insist on a social everytime it's brought up ?

I think not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm all for a social first, especially if meeting a single female, they have to do a nutter reccy before being somewhere in a one to one situation with a guy they don't know.

But there are some serial socialites out there, "meet for a coffee " then "meet for lunch " then another coffee. Not long before you start to feel like a meal ticket!

That's possibly the first time I've EVER seen a single male post about the ladies safety being important!!

Have you any idea the stick you get if you mention a safety net to a single or couple?

I'm sure all the wrong sort of people give you stick, but anyone decent must surely walk in your La Bouton's for a minute and realise that a single female going to a complete stranger in an out of sight, intimate environment, is going to want to be cautious?

"

Sadly not - couples here have been some of the worst for it.

"We're meeting YOU"

"We expect you to come to our house - we don't meet socially"

There's been more but those two are common replies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

still waiting for girl tuesday to explain her post about me being a time waster

just before i report it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always do a social first just a shame today's didn't show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate people that 'need' a social before meeting. When searching on my couples profile for meets it's other couples that want socials rather than anyone else. If you come to our hotel and don't wanna fuck us just leave. Instead of wasting time on a drink and a chat. I don't wanna chit chat. I don't want friends I want sex.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I always do a social first just a shame today's didn't show "

That's poo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate people that 'need' a social before meeting. When searching on my couples profile for meets it's other couples that want socials rather than anyone else. If you come to our hotel and don't wanna fuck us just leave. Instead of wasting time on a drink and a chat. I don't wanna chit chat. I don't want friends I want sex. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first for me personally that's the way I roll and that's what I prefer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate people that 'need' a social before meeting. When searching on my couples profile for meets it's other couples that want socials rather than anyone else. If you come to our hotel and don't wanna fuck us just leave. Instead of wasting time on a drink and a chat. I don't wanna chit chat. I don't want friends I want sex. "

Please don't think we're knocking you or your choice of how you like to play.

But could we ask, if you have fucked someone, then quickly afterwards after chatting that you can't really can't stand them or their personality, does it bother you that you've just let them fuck you?

Also how do you establish boundaries or trust or even a rapport without some interaction first?

Again, no critique, just genuinely interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy recently tell me it wasn't worth driving 45 minutes 'just for a coffee'. Really, if you think that my company is so poor then don't ask to meet at all....

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

This is an essential step for me. I wouldn't meet someone without a social first. Although at the moment I am not meeting new people outside of the club scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always do a social first just a shame today's didn't show

That's poo "

Was out n about doing my shopping anyhow so all's good. X

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By *irtydaddyfor youMan
over a year ago

corby

after over 20 wonderful meets with couples and singles without a social. This week have my first social with a lady first. Am happy to do this, and fully understand her needs for one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported"

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a young family, time is precious, and arranging an hour or two free time for a social, rather than a few hours for a play meet is far easier to arrange, i.e. getting a sitter and meeting at a local bar etc.

It can be a way to fit in a face to face meet, chat, see that we click and establish likes, dislikes and boundaries between us, so next time we meet getting down to playing is quicker and more relaxed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a young family, time is precious, and arranging an hour or two free time for a social, rather than a few hours for a play meet is far easier to arrange, i.e. getting a sitter and meeting at a local bar etc.

It can be a way to fit in a face to face meet, chat, see that we click and establish likes, dislikes and boundaries between us, so next time we meet getting down to playing is quicker and more relaxed."

This

Even with L being semi-retired, families, work, etc all need to be sorted long before playtime comes about.

So for us a social means that when you do orange a proper time out with no restrictions - the time isn't wasted if the chemistry isn't there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her "

you are priceless

i really do not understand why you are defending it but you have your easons

wierd though

please feel free to join a different forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't meet for a coffee. We always make an evening of it and have a few drinks. That makes a social more worthwhile. Also gives a chance for some flirtation to build up the excitement for next time. And if it is a good evening, a social can easily turn into more. But each individual has to decide for themselves how far they are willing to travel at the risk that there may be no chemistry. If you have really to know someone well on line or via text first, before agreeing to meet, then that reduces the chance of a bad match.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never done a social and never will .

Complete and utter waste of time

so you keep reiterating

but a lot of us are not into the sucknfcuk meet/don't do clubs or house parties...

different horses for different courses

We agree - not everyone "enjoys" your style of play.

If you're happy thats cool just stop ramming it down others throats when they say prefer to socialise first.

You clearly miss the point too .

We are just as entitled as anyone else to state our choice as to how we play .

Who are you to tell us to stop ramming it down anyone's throat ?

Rude "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't travel more than 30 minutes for a social, it would be a waste of time.

I do socials sometimes but not always. If they don't like how I meet then I don't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say social always first, although I have once before just gone straight into a full meet. There will always be an exception to the rule. Go with your gut feeling I hope it works out for the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

you are priceless

i really do not understand why you are defending it but you have your easons

wierd though

please feel free to join a different forum"

have you not realised by now that this is a public forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't meet for a coffee. We always make an evening of it and have a few drinks. That makes a social more worthwhile. Also gives a chance for some flirtation to build up the excitement for next time. And if it is a good evening, a social can easily turn into more. But each individual has to decide for themselves how far they are willing to travel at the risk that there may be no chemistry. If you have really to know someone well on line or via text first, before agreeing to meet, then that reduces the chance of a bad match."

Would you still want a social that involved an evening of drinking etc with someone who doesn't drink alcohol?

Just wondered if that would make a difference to who you choose to meet ?

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her "

So it would be ok for someone to call you a timewaster on a thread and not back it up?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't meet for a coffee. We always make an evening of it and have a few drinks. That makes a social more worthwhile. Also gives a chance for some flirtation to build up the excitement for next time. And if it is a good evening, a social can easily turn into more. But each individual has to decide for themselves how far they are willing to travel at the risk that there may be no chemistry. If you have really to know someone well on line or via text first, before agreeing to meet, then that reduces the chance of a bad match.

Would you still want a social that involved an evening of drinking etc with someone who doesn't drink alcohol?

Just wondered if that would make a difference to who you choose to meet ?"

No not at all. All our private meets from Fab have always been in a pub or a bar, and we always make an evening or afternoon of it. They have always proceeded to some fun at some point, sometimes that night and sometimes later. But I certainly don't have a view as to whether they have a beer or a Coke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We wouldn't meet for a coffee. We always make an evening of it and have a few drinks. That makes a social more worthwhile. Also gives a chance for some flirtation to build up the excitement for next time. And if it is a good evening, a social can easily turn into more. But each individual has to decide for themselves how far they are willing to travel at the risk that there may be no chemistry. If you have really to know someone well on line or via text first, before agreeing to meet, then that reduces the chance of a bad match.

Would you still want a social that involved an evening of drinking etc with someone who doesn't drink alcohol?

Just wondered if that would make a difference to who you choose to meet ?

No not at all. All our private meets from Fab have always been in a pub or a bar, and we always make an evening or afternoon of it. They have always proceeded to some fun at some point, sometimes that night and sometimes later. But I certainly don't have a view as to whether they have a beer or a Coke."

Cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

So it would be ok for someone to call you a timewaster on a thread and not back it up?! "

I feel it's a little bit unfair to publically describe someone as a time waster, on a thread that wasn't discussing time wasting. The OP didn't ask for an opinion on that matter. It seems a bit unprovoked, and if she had a good reason for a accusing him of that, maybe perhaps explain that to him privately. Just my view.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

So it would be ok for someone to call you a timewaster on a thread and not back it up?!

I feel it's a little bit unfair to publically describe someone as a time waster, on a thread that wasn't discussing time wasting. The OP didn't ask for an opinion on that matter. It seems a bit unprovoked, and if she had a good reason for a accusing him of that, maybe perhaps explain that to him privately. Just my view."

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"This guy is just a time waster anyway "

Not sure what your comment has to do with the subject being discussed.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

So it would be ok for someone to call you a timewaster on a thread and not back it up?! "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

you are priceless

i really do not understand why you are defending it but you have your easons

wierd though

please feel free to join a different forum

have you not realised by now that this is a public forum "

Go away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her "

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related...."

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related...."

Many thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

So it would be ok for someone to call you a timewaster on a thread and not back it up?! "

I prefer that to being called mental..what about you?

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun"

Have you tried asking them to meet half way that seems fair to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related...."

It's refreshing to see some good well adjusted people commenting on this thread.

Shame we don't see more of your posts on the forums

These are the sort of people I would enjoy socials with.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

So it would be ok for someone to call you a timewaster on a thread and not back it up?!

I prefer that to being called mental..what about you? "

No I'd prefer to be called mental rather than a timewaster as that's probably more apt to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related.... "

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

So it would be ok for someone to call you a timewaster on a thread and not back it up?!

I prefer that to being called mental..what about you? "

Maybe mental was the wrong word

Whatever the word is

Rest assured you can have it too

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

To the OP.....go for it, if you dont, you may always wonder...........what if!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post..."

Have you not realised you are swimming against the tide here

Please leave us to it

It's a good discussion

You are ruining it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

But there are some serial socialites out there, "meet for a coffee " then "meet for lunch " then another coffee. Not long before you start to feel like a meal ticket! "

That's dating, not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I don't usually have socials, instead a fuck the first date, but it depends what person you meet, last time I did have a social, wine and dined at her place then get down to business, we had pizza and wine, the date lasted longer and as well, we got to know each other abit more, which is refreshing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

EVERY meet I ever have starts off as a social. I know we have chatted online and maybe the phone, but there's that last "connection" required before I would play (don't ask what the connection is, can't define).

I have cooked meals in ladies houses and never played. Met ladies at coffee shops and gone on picnics... sounds weird (to some maybe) I just enjoy the company of women, meeting someone new. If we play... bonus

Expectations and I am not part of the "fuck and go" groups... not that there is anything wrong with that either...horses for courses

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By *r B1GMan
over a year ago

manchester

I don't meet for coffee I have coffee at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

So it would be ok for someone to call you a timewaster on a thread and not back it up?!

I feel it's a little bit unfair to publically describe someone as a time waster, on a thread that wasn't discussing time wasting. The OP didn't ask for an opinion on that matter. It seems a bit unprovoked, and if she had a good reason for a accusing him of that, maybe perhaps explain that to him privately. Just my view.

"

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

A social to determine a spark then a meet to ignite that spark. Although it's possible that it could just as easily be one big bedroom disappointment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the socials ive had we allways say we will meet for fun but not 1 as ever happened

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

After a cam chat we have always had social only meets and are happy to travel half ish the distance to meet people; always try and do this during the week so that a weekend play meet can be arranged. Always found that if all goes well the anticipation between social and play makes the fun even better. Anyway this has resulted in all our meets being fun and in 9 years we have had only a handful of time wasters.

Having said this, each to their own and there is no right or wrong way. Have fun out there xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"EVERY meet I ever have starts off as a social. I know we have chatted online and maybe the phone, but there's that last "connection" required before I would play (don't ask what the connection is, can't define).

I have cooked meals in ladies houses and never played. Met ladies at coffee shops and gone on picnics... sounds weird (to some maybe) I just enjoy the company of women, meeting someone new. If we play... bonus

Expectations and I am not part of the "fuck and go" groups... not that there is anything wrong with that either...horses for courses "

Me too fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post..."

It amazes me just how people make and accept such things as personal attacks, derogatory comments, judgementalism, being obnoxious, rude, accusatory remarks, cyber bullying, discrimination, etc all under the guise of "just sharing an opinion" and "it's a public forum".

When really it just comes down to good honest decent human interaction and polite social etiquette....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always have a social at the womans place of choosing, sometimes if its their house, we have ended up playing sometimes not, its always good to chat first on cam or phone, that way you know its not a man pretending to be a woman....or vice versa...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always have a social at the womans place of choosing, sometimes if its their house, we have ended up playing sometimes not, its always good to chat first on cam or phone, that way you know its not a man pretending to be a woman....or vice versa... "

Pretty much the best way... whatever makes the lady feel safe and happy... even if I have to sleep in the car.... eek!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun"

We refuse meets with quite a few people because we insist on a social first (that's down to me, Mrs N) and if they're too far away we don't feel its fair on them. Loads say they really don't mind a two hour drive for a drink but I feel it shifts the dynamic slightly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun

We refuse meets with quite a few people because we insist on a social first (that's down to me, Mrs N) and if they're too far away we don't feel its fair on them. Loads say they really don't mind a two hour drive for a drink but I feel it shifts the dynamic slightly."

Do agree, however for us, we usually arrange a social somewhere halfway between us and them, as for us it's easier to arrange a couple of hours for a social meet than a whole night for a play meet, and if the Sparks don't fly, then a whole night of baby sitting services (usually one of our parents lol) isn't wasted, but can be used for those we have met for a full night, already knowing fro a social meet that we all click and the Sparks are flying.

Must admit, going to meet someone for a play meet, having met socially and knowing there is a mutual attraction, and knowing you get on well is far less nerve wracking, and in our opinion usually sets the scene for a much more relaxed, easier going, and ultimately far enjoyable evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always insist on a social 1st unless the logistics prove impossible. However, in those instances we would have built up a rapport via chatting & if either of us don't feel the spark it's respected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

Many thanks"

Unfortunately, the fact that her comment was out of line doesn't mean you were right to claim she's mentally ill. That is equally out of line.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

Many thanks

Unfortunately, the fact that her comment was out of line doesn't mean you were right to claim she's mentally ill. That is equally out of line. "

And if you read more you will see I retracted that comment

Your welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the socials ive had we allways say we will meet for fun but not 1 as ever happened "

There are lots of people who say the same thing .

Not because there wasn't a connection , but because the social chat etc ... dampens the initial arousal .

We've met lots of couples who used to have the social first philosophy , but later changed to allowing play if all parties agree .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post...

It amazes me just how people make and accept such things as personal attacks, derogatory comments, judgementalism, being obnoxious, rude, accusatory remarks, cyber bullying, discrimination, etc all under the guise of "just sharing an opinion" and "it's a public forum".

When really it just comes down to good honest decent human interaction and polite social etiquette...."

Yes I agree with this last post. But this discussion (which unfortunately has moved from the subject) does raise the question as to whether we all have the right to post whatever we like about somebody on a public forum. The forum rules state 'don't badmouth other members or name and shame'. So when does expressing an opinion cease to be that, and become 'badmouthing' sometimes known as slander? Is there a difference between expressing something as a matter of opinion, or a matter of fact? Saying the OP was a time waster, came across to me as a fact not opinion, so if this fact untrue, then surely that come under the category of 'badmouthing', which is against forum rules.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

We'll social at a club first if you prefer. You usually know within the first few minutes if there's an attraction or not. If not you just move on, if there is you can move to a room, drink, chat more or dance, whatever. While we know it isn't all about the sex, it is the main reason we're all here after all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry

What was the subject matter for this discussion??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the socials ive had we allways say we will meet for fun but not 1 as ever happened

There are lots of people who say the same thing .

Not because there wasn't a connection , but because the social chat etc ... dampens the initial arousal .

We've met lots of couples who used to have the social first philosophy , but later changed to allowing play if all parties agree ."

We're very much as you described, initially we were always "just a social first", but have adapted that to "a social with a view to play if everyone is happy to" kind of view.

Maybe that kind of scenario shouldn't be called a social meet, because of the connotations? But it's not a play meet either?

What could it be called instead? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry

What was the subject matter for this discussion?? "

The subject was whether to travel for a social. But someone described you as a timewaster, so there was then a discussion about whether this was ok or not.

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By *ibertine_LifestyleCouple
over a year ago

Sheerness

Hmm dont mind a social but was put off after we met our first couple in a restaurant and they weren't our cup of tea at all..it was just cringe! So now we prefer to play in clubs and have a little chat there or just go straight to playing. The attraction for me is purely physical..I'm not looking for their life story lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And is it ok to call me a time waster by someone I don't know ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And is it ok to call me a time waster by someone I don't know ?"

I'm completely on your side!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her "

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By *andB6969Couple
over a year ago

Well worth a visit, East Coast, Norfolk

Such a shame when these threads get too personal and nasty. Anyway, we're very sociable and enjoy meeting people to see how we all get on (prior to a good fuck-fest!)

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun"

My profile says 'social only first', but it shouldn't be necessary to put this on my profile. EVERY SINGLE MEETING should come with no expectations of sex. This includes meeting with people who I have met before (if I'm not feeling it at the time, I won't have sex with someone, regardless of what he hopes for). And this is why I won't have even a social with a man who want to travel 'too far' to meet me. There is too much pressure to play.

Your comment "its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concerned is a goodun" makes me feel uncomfortable. Are you suggesting that more attractive women SHOULDN'T be allowed to refuse sex, when someone has travelled a long way to meet them? But it's OK for less attractive women to decline an offer of sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post...

It amazes me just how people make and accept such things as personal attacks, derogatory comments, judgementalism, being obnoxious, rude, accusatory remarks, cyber bullying, discrimination, etc all under the guise of "just sharing an opinion" and "it's a public forum".

When really it just comes down to good honest decent human interaction and polite social etiquette....

Yes I agree with this last post. But this discussion (which unfortunately has moved from the subject) does raise the question as to whether we all have the right to post whatever we like about somebody on a public forum. The forum rules state 'don't badmouth other members or name and shame'. So when does expressing an opinion cease to be that, and become 'badmouthing' sometimes known as slander? Is there a difference between expressing something as a matter of opinion, or a matter of fact? Saying the OP was a time waster, came across to me as a fact not opinion, so if this fact untrue, then surely that come under the category of 'badmouthing', which is against forum rules. "

As in turn is saying someone has a mental issue for making the comment anyway...

It's certainly a slippery slope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe girl tuesday has had personal experience of the op bring a time waster? .....and maybe she should of backed her statement up. ..and maybe she should of asked if anyone else had experienced the op being a time waster ...she did it all wrong bless her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun

My profile says 'social only first', but it shouldn't be necessary to put this on my profile. EVERY SINGLE MEETING should come with no expectations of sex. This includes meeting with people who I have met before (if I'm not feeling it at the time, I won't have sex with someone, regardless of what he hopes for). And this is why I won't have even a social with a man who want to travel 'too far' to meet me. There is too much pressure to play.

Your comment "its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concerned is a goodun" makes me feel uncomfortable. Are you suggesting that more attractive women SHOULDN'T be allowed to refuse sex, when someone has travelled a long way to meet them? But it's OK for less attractive women to decline an offer of sex?"

Good lord

Some people try so hard to wreck a discussion

Ridiculous assumption

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe girl tuesday has had personal experience of the op bring a time waster? .....and maybe she should of backed her statement up. ..and maybe she should of asked if anyone else had experienced the op being a time waster ...she did it all wrong bless her "

Didn't you'd you'd be backing me up

But thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post...

It amazes me just how people make and accept such things as personal attacks, derogatory comments, judgementalism, being obnoxious, rude, accusatory remarks, cyber bullying, discrimination, etc all under the guise of "just sharing an opinion" and "it's a public forum".

When really it just comes down to good honest decent human interaction and polite social etiquette....

Yes I agree with this last post. But this discussion (which unfortunately has moved from the subject) does raise the question as to whether we all have the right to post whatever we like about somebody on a public forum. The forum rules state 'don't badmouth other members or name and shame'. So when does expressing an opinion cease to be that, and become 'badmouthing' sometimes known as slander? Is there a difference between expressing something as a matter of opinion, or a matter of fact? Saying the OP was a time waster, came across to me as a fact not opinion, so if this fact untrue, then surely that come under the category of 'badmouthing', which is against forum rules.

As in turn is saying someone has a mental issue for making the comment anyway...

It's certainly a slippery slope "

If you bother to look you will see I retracted the comment. You and your mate have tried real hard to ruin this discussion

But sadly you failed

Now run along

Go play somewhere else

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now


"Your comment "its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concerned is a goodun" makes me feel uncomfortable. Are you suggesting that more attractive women SHOULDN'T be allowed to refuse sex, when someone has travelled a long way to meet them? But it's OK for less attractive women to decline an offer of sex?

Good lord

Some people try so hard to wreck a discussion

Ridiculous assumption "

I said.... I feel uncomfortable with what you said. You are welcome to clarify what you meant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your comment "its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concerned is a goodun" makes me feel uncomfortable. Are you suggesting that more attractive women SHOULDN'T be allowed to refuse sex, when someone has travelled a long way to meet them? But it's OK for less attractive women to decline an offer of sex?

Good lord

Some people try so hard to wreck a discussion

Ridiculous assumption

I said.... I feel uncomfortable with what you said. You are welcome to clarify what you meant."

All I meant is if you got on really well and you had clicked while chatting

That's my definition of a goodun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe girl tuesday has had personal experience of the op bring a time waster? .....and maybe she should of backed her statement up. ..and maybe she should of asked if anyone else had experienced the op being a time waster ...she did it all wrong bless her

Didn't you'd you'd be backing me up

But thanks x"

Oh I'm not backing you up believe me! !...just wished she'd contacted me and everyone else you'd fucked off first BEFORE she'd posted

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

This is going swimmingly.

We have travelled for just over an hour to group socials and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves but expectations are different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is going swimmingly.

We have travelled for just over an hour to group socials and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves but expectations are different."

I really enjoy a social, it's nice to chat with liberated people, whats not to like about meeting new people; apart from nutters... but, well in every life a little rain must fall..

I am quite surprised by the expectation level that some have on this site, but that surprise is diminishing..

Sometimes the social is as far as it goes, but so what? Does that mean I wasted my time... I don't think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post...

It amazes me just how people make and accept such things as personal attacks, derogatory comments, judgementalism, being obnoxious, rude, accusatory remarks, cyber bullying, discrimination, etc all under the guise of "just sharing an opinion" and "it's a public forum".

When really it just comes down to good honest decent human interaction and polite social etiquette....

Yes I agree with this last post. But this discussion (which unfortunately has moved from the subject) does raise the question as to whether we all have the right to post whatever we like about somebody on a public forum. The forum rules state 'don't badmouth other members or name and shame'. So when does expressing an opinion cease to be that, and become 'badmouthing' sometimes known as slander? Is there a difference between expressing something as a matter of opinion, or a matter of fact? Saying the OP was a time waster, came across to me as a fact not opinion, so if this fact untrue, then surely that come under the category of 'badmouthing', which is against forum rules.

As in turn is saying someone has a mental issue for making the comment anyway...

It's certainly a slippery slope "

Yes of course, 2 wrongs make no right. And the OP has acknowledged that he was wrong to react in that way when he felt provoked. We are all human, and it is indeed a slippery slope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe girl tuesday has had personal experience of the op bring a time waster? .....and maybe she should of backed her statement up. ..and maybe she should of asked if anyone else had experienced the op being a time waster ...she did it all wrong bless her

Didn't you'd you'd be backing me up

But thanks x

Oh I'm not backing you up believe me! !...just wished she'd contacted me and everyone else you'd fucked off first BEFORE she'd posted "

Bless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post...

It amazes me just how people make and accept such things as personal attacks, derogatory comments, judgementalism, being obnoxious, rude, accusatory remarks, cyber bullying, discrimination, etc all under the guise of "just sharing an opinion" and "it's a public forum".

When really it just comes down to good honest decent human interaction and polite social etiquette....

Yes I agree with this last post. But this discussion (which unfortunately has moved from the subject) does raise the question as to whether we all have the right to post whatever we like about somebody on a public forum. The forum rules state 'don't badmouth other members or name and shame'. So when does expressing an opinion cease to be that, and become 'badmouthing' sometimes known as slander? Is there a difference between expressing something as a matter of opinion, or a matter of fact? Saying the OP was a time waster, came across to me as a fact not opinion, so if this fact untrue, then surely that come under the category of 'badmouthing', which is against forum rules.

As in turn is saying someone has a mental issue for making the comment anyway...

It's certainly a slippery slope "

It certainly is slippery for those who don't understand English in contextual interpretation.

The OP didn't say she had a mental issue, he said it "smacks" of a mental issue, that's opinion based, but linked to the evidence of the statement made by the poster he responded to.

"This guy IS a time waster" is a statement of fact, linked to no evidential base (despite the OP giving ample opportunity to the accuser to verify and substantiate the statement)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just to put the record straight

dear girl tuesday

i have no idea who you are or why you call me a time waster when i clearly am not

why you have blocked me

smacks of a mental issue that perhaps you should address before you end up in a special jacket

you have been reported

she had an opinion..

she aired said opinion...

I'd hardly call that mental just because you disagree with her

It's hardly an opinion, more a direct accusation, which has been failed to be backed up.

Even more so an accusation completely out of context in a public forum, on a thread not even related....

getting personal about someone just because they made a random comment is rather OTT IMO, and slightly childish...

but you are correct, it is a public forum and people are free to post...

It amazes me just how people make and accept such things as personal attacks, derogatory comments, judgementalism, being obnoxious, rude, accusatory remarks, cyber bullying, discrimination, etc all under the guise of "just sharing an opinion" and "it's a public forum".

When really it just comes down to good honest decent human interaction and polite social etiquette....

Yes I agree with this last post. But this discussion (which unfortunately has moved from the subject) does raise the question as to whether we all have the right to post whatever we like about somebody on a public forum. The forum rules state 'don't badmouth other members or name and shame'. So when does expressing an opinion cease to be that, and become 'badmouthing' sometimes known as slander? Is there a difference between expressing something as a matter of opinion, or a matter of fact? Saying the OP was a time waster, came across to me as a fact not opinion, so if this fact untrue, then surely that come under the category of 'badmouthing', which is against forum rules.

As in turn is saying someone has a mental issue for making the comment anyway...

It's certainly a slippery slope

It certainly is slippery for those who don't understand English in contextual interpretation.

The OP didn't say she had a mental issue, he said it "smacks" of a mental issue, that's opinion based, but linked to the evidence of the statement made by the poster he responded to.

"This guy IS a time waster" is a statement of fact, linked to no evidential base (despite the OP giving ample opportunity to the accuser to verify and substantiate the statement)

"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe girl tuesday has had personal experience of the op bring a time waster? .....and maybe she should of backed her statement up. ..and maybe she should of asked if anyone else had experienced the op being a time waster ...she did it all wrong bless her

Didn't you'd you'd be backing me up

But thanks x

Oh I'm not backing you up believe me! !...just wished she'd contacted me and everyone else you'd fucked off first BEFORE she'd posted "

Tell you what

You tell the lovely people what I did

Then I'll have my turn

Could be interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe girl tuesday has had personal experience of the op bring a time waster? .....and maybe she should of backed her statement up. ..and maybe she should of asked if anyone else had experienced the op being a time waster ...she did it all wrong bless her

Didn't you'd you'd be backing me up

But thanks x

Oh I'm not backing you up believe me! !...just wished she'd contacted me and everyone else you'd fucked off first BEFORE she'd posted

Tell you what

You tell the lovely people what I did

Then I'll have my turn

Could be interesting "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe girl tuesday has had personal experience of the op bring a time waster? .....and maybe she should of backed her statement up. ..and maybe she should of asked if anyone else had experienced the op being a time waster ...she did it all wrong bless her

Didn't you'd you'd be backing me up

But thanks x

Oh I'm not backing you up believe me! !...just wished she'd contacted me and everyone else you'd fucked off first BEFORE she'd posted

Tell you what

You tell the lovely people what I did

Then I'll have my turn

Could be interesting "

How about steering it back to the topic in question.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op is taking a roasting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe girl tuesday has had personal experience of the op bring a time waster? .....and maybe she should of backed her statement up. ..and maybe she should of asked if anyone else had experienced the op being a time waster ...she did it all wrong bless her

Didn't you'd you'd be backing me up

But thanks x

Oh I'm not backing you up believe me! !...just wished she'd contacted me and everyone else you'd fucked off first BEFORE she'd posted

Tell you what

You tell the lovely people what I did

Then I'll have my turn

Could be interesting

How about steering it back to the topic in question....."

Yay

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op is taking a roasting "

Not really sure why

Did you see the original post?

What happened???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op is taking a roasting

Not really sure why

Did you see the original post?

What happened???"

I didnt mate. Your prob a new victim its usually me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'll have a white Americano please no sugar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll have a white Americano please no sugar "

Extra milk with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

"

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"Good company and good coffee is always worth travelling for

Whether they're good or not is an exciting gamble im willing to take

Getting on, clicking, having a connection whatever you call it will lead to better sex!! "

good advice

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I've dodged many a bullet by having a social meet. I can't imagine opening my door to someone older than their pic, poor personal hygiene, no social skills etc and having to say "no thanks" on my doorstep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've dodged many a bullet by having a social meet. I can't imagine opening my door to someone older than their pic, poor personal hygiene, no social skills etc and having to say "no thanks" on my doorstep! "

Couldn't think of anything worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

"

We have no intention of treating anyone like a piece of meat to satisfy our sexual urges either .

What we do enjoy is the meeting of like minded people to engage in NSA fun .

What we have found is that the better you get to know people , the more strings are attached .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

We have no intention of treating anyone like a piece of meat to satisfy our sexual urges either .

What we do enjoy is the meeting of like minded people to engage in NSA fun .

What we have found is that the better you get to know people , the more strings are attached .

"

Well you guys promised me dinner and drinks first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

We have no intention of treating anyone like a piece of meat to satisfy our sexual urges either .

What we do enjoy is the meeting of like minded people to engage in NSA fun .

What we have found is that the better you get to know people , the more strings are attached .

Well you guys promised me dinner and drinks first lol"

Well you are worth a compromise

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By *ougar_n_TILFCouple
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Got to be a purely social meet for us first to establish a connection/attraction, or at least a social element to the meet if we know we are physically attracted from the pics. (Unless said pics turn out to be 10 years old)

We've had advances turned down because a lot of couples want guaranteed play. Good luck to them but not for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate people that 'need' a social before meeting. When searching on my couples profile for meets it's other couples that want socials rather than anyone else. If you come to our hotel and don't wanna fuck us just leave. Instead of wasting time on a drink and a chat. I don't wanna chit chat. I don't want friends I want sex.

Please don't think we're knocking you or your choice of how you like to play.

But could we ask, if you have fucked someone, then quickly afterwards after chatting that you can't really can't stand them or their personality, does it bother you that you've just let them fuck you?

Also how do you establish boundaries or trust or even a rapport without some interaction first?

Again, no critique, just genuinely interested "

If I play and find out their an idiot after then I won't meet them again. Happened a few times haha.

I usually have a chat with them in messages I can usual gage if they're gonna be okay or not. It's worked well so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After" might well be too late.

Wouldn't be the first time we've heard of that here in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

We have no intention of treating anyone like a piece of meat to satisfy our sexual urges either .

What we do enjoy is the meeting of like minded people to engage in NSA fun .

What we have found is that the better you get to know people , the more strings are attached .

Well you guys promised me dinner and drinks first lol

Well you are worth a compromise "

Happy Meal for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

We have no intention of treating anyone like a piece of meat to satisfy our sexual urges either .

What we do enjoy is the meeting of like minded people to engage in NSA fun .

What we have found is that the better you get to know people , the more strings are attached .

Well you guys promised me dinner and drinks first lol

Well you are worth a compromise

Happy Meal for me "

Look - I know you're little but you're not THAT little

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

We have no intention of treating anyone like a piece of meat to satisfy our sexual urges either .

What we do enjoy is the meeting of like minded people to engage in NSA fun .

What we have found is that the better you get to know people , the more strings are attached .

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social meet first and most (but not all) of my first meets are but I appreciate that this is essentially a fuck site and that many will want to get right down to action.

Anyway, coffee anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a social meet first and most (but not all) of my first meets are but I appreciate that this is essentially a fuck site and that many will want to get right down to action.

Anyway, coffee anyone? "

Fancy a fuck?

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Choice is yours at the end of the day as to whether someone is 'worth it' however I need a social to get with someone - although that is bypassed in a club situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a social meet first and most (but not all) of my first meets are but I appreciate that this is essentially a fuck site and that many will want to get right down to action.

Anyway, coffee anyone? "

But this is supposed to be a swing site, not a fuck site? But then I suppose it depends on definition of swinging.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

we usually meet for social first but can progress there and then if we click. As others have said, in clubs it's different and can happen pretty quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to have a mo pressure social 1st. If it goes well and escalates then fine, but if no chemistry from either side its easy to politely leave it there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

We have no intention of treating anyone like a piece of meat to satisfy our sexual urges either .

What we do enjoy is the meeting of like minded people to engage in NSA fun .

What we have found is that the better you get to know people , the more strings are attached .

Well you guys promised me dinner and drinks first lol

Well you are worth a compromise

Happy Meal for me

Look - I know you're little but you're not THAT little "

I'm a cheap date and I like the toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like socials as I enjoy getting to know people and enjoying each others company as I like to treat people as human beings and not just pieces of meat to satisfy my sexual urges and kinks etc.

But as we know it takes all sorts to make a world and horses for courses etc.

It's all about doing what your happy with at the end of the day.

There's no right or wrong if your doing what your comfortable with with like minded people.

We have no intention of treating anyone like a piece of meat to satisfy our sexual urges either .

What we do enjoy is the meeting of like minded people to engage in NSA fun .

What we have found is that the better you get to know people , the more strings are attached .

Well you guys promised me dinner and drinks first lol

Well you are worth a compromise

Happy Meal for me

Look - I know you're little but you're not THAT little

I'm a cheap date and I like the toys "

Wonder what the toys would be in an adult meal?.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never wanted to do one on one socials... always turned down opportunities because in my opinion sitting down for a chit chat is boring... and as my friends now I have way too much energy for that!

I joined the site to make good friends I can have chemistry with and share a connection, which can lead to amazing sex as a bonus... but not compulsary. So I decided to stick to the club scene and big organised socials.

My 1st club experience was awesome and things just continued from there.

However...

A very witty and intelligent woman convinced me to have my 1st one on one social last night. Well actually I just wanted her to stop grrrr-ing at me so I agreed haha she is very pursuasive...

Her personality, sexy look and strong social qualities vs me... formed the perfect ingredients for a memorable experience. This has created the opportunity for our friendship to grow

If you have never been on a social, try to look at it from the other person's point of view. I wish I did, all this time I missed out !!

You have nothing to loose...

I feel lucky my new friend has shown me what I been missing out on! That does not mean she will help anyone else... she just felt sorry for a headless suit, that's all

Have a great day everyone, I am still smiling from last night's social ('',) Xx WOW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun"

We are very new to this as a couple, and prefer social meetings only

does this make us wrong just wanting to make friends, with the possibility of something in the future?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"wondering what everytone thinks about this and please be honest

i have no issue with a social meet as a first meet and totally respect and undestand the reasons behind it. what stops me is having to travel miles for a coffee. time is precious.

local socials are great but sometimes its just not practical which is a shame when the lady concrned is a goodun

We are very new to this as a couple, and prefer social meetings only

does this make us wrong just wanting to make friends, with the possibility of something in the future?

"

Quite the opposite in my opinion

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