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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so I get that couples and women in particular get hundreds of messages and need to filter them out.

What I never quite understand is when a message is read but not deleted but also not replied to either.

Obviously people might want to take their time before deciding whether to reply but I've seen some messages left read and not deleted or replied for weeks even though the recipient had been online regularly.

My question is what is the thinking behind this? Is it a test to see if I am genuinely interested and should message again or a test to see if I'm someone who will message again and again (I don't BTW)?

Ta

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It isn't a test at all, it's probably because they haven't got round to deleting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they didn't reply is the important bit.

sometimes people bulk delete messages after a while, sometimes people are gonna reply back but forget, all kinds of reasons but none of them are that they were interested enough to reply as soon as they read them.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London

Don't worry about sent messages just the reply if it ever comes

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

Maybe it's a terrible conspiracy against you and only just to mess with your head because they knew it would give you sleepless nights worrying about it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep that must be it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You can't know their reasons so don't bother trying to second guess. Send and forget. Don't bother looking to see if they've read it. Concentrate your energy on positive things not the negatives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can't know their reasons so don't bother trying to second guess. Send and forget. Don't bother looking to see if they've read it. Concentrate your energy on positive things not the negatives. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ahhh the mysterys of fabswingers eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so I get that couples and women in particular get hundreds of messages and need to filter them out.

What I never quite understand is when a message is read but not deleted but also not replied to either.

Obviously people might want to take their time before deciding whether to reply but I've seen some messages left read and not deleted or replied for weeks even though the recipient had been online regularly.

My question is what is the thinking behind this? Is it a test to see if I am genuinely interested and should message again or a test to see if I'm someone who will message again and again (I don't BTW)?

Ta"

My message folders are very neat and tidy, I delete after a while anything not ongoing, and delete previous iterations of the conversation as I go along.

My wife leaves everything as is, after she's read it, she lets it fall down the list until it disappears off the end.

As others have said the important part is whether you got a reply or not.

The person receiving can't tell if you deleted the sent message from your outbox, so to avoid your own frustrations any introduction messages you send out you're best deleting straight away then any replies you get are a happy bonus and you don't have to sit fretting about what they've done with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete your sent file, concentrate on what you can control not what you can't

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Ok so I get that couples and women in particular get hundreds of messages and need to filter them out.

What I never quite understand is when a message is read but not deleted but also not replied to either.

Obviously people might want to take their time before deciding whether to reply but I've seen some messages left read and not deleted or replied for weeks even though the recipient had been online regularly.

My question is what is the thinking behind this? Is it a test to see if I am genuinely interested and should message again or a test to see if I'm someone who will message again and again (I don't BTW)?

Ta"

I delete en masse.

Bit obsessive/stalkerish behaviour no?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Ok so I get that couples and women in particular get hundreds of messages and need to filter them out.

What I never quite understand is when a message is read but not deleted but also not replied to either.

Obviously people might want to take their time before deciding whether to reply but I've seen some messages left read and not deleted or replied for weeks even though the recipient had been online regularly.

My question is what is the thinking behind this? Is it a test to see if I am genuinely interested and should message again or a test to see if I'm someone who will message again and again (I don't BTW)?

Ta"

It means I haven't got round to deleting. I wait til the guy goes offline so I don't get abuse or a passive aggressive follow up message.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We also periodically bulk delete any that don't float our boats. Any that are particularly rude or offensive will get binned right away tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delete your sent file, concentrate on what you can control not what you can't "

this

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