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"As 9/10 introductions don't get seen I am of the opinion a quick hello and how are you is all I want to sent and if the person reading can have a look at the profile and likes it. Reply. Kinda wasting time writing loads only to be left . Thoughts???" Yes we agree to an extent  | |||
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"I ignore all 'hi' or 'how are you' messages. I honestly think that single men don't realize how many of those messages that women - and probably couples - receive on a daily basis." We get very few messages from people we don't already know but we always look at the profile before deciding whether to engage further unless the message is really beyond the pale. | |||
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"I don't initiate meet messages. " Does your bicep?  | |||
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"I ignore all 'hi' or 'how are you' messages. I honestly think that single men don't realize how many of those messages that women - and probably couples - receive on a daily basis. We get very few messages from people we don't already know but we always look at the profile before deciding whether to engage further unless the message is really beyond the pale." I'm the same, I always look at profiles before messages. | |||
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"Any one with a cock avatar will always be ignored by me " Also goes for crap profiles or lack of pics, this is not blind date and I don't like guessing games | |||
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"I don't initiate meet messages. Does your bicep? "It's my blue arse this evening. The bicep attracts messages like 'go to the gym, scrawny' etc | |||
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"That is right, sending an hi, how are you msg saves time. " It certainly does because the person who receives it knows not to bother wasting time replying  | |||
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"Agree. I dont write war and peace in opening messages either.. I think its just wasted. " 
I reply to all first messages even if it's just "hi" and they have no profile. There's a person behind every message. I've got chatting to some lovely people that way. | |||
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"That is right, sending an hi, how are you msg saves time. It certainly does because the person who receives it knows not to bother wasting time replying "Some do reply to it, some don't lol | |||
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"As 9/10 introductions don't get seen I am of the opinion a quick hello and how are you is all I want to sent and if the person reading can have a look at the profile and likes it. Reply. Kinda wasting time writing loads only to be left . Thoughts???" The law of diminishing returns? | |||
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"Here's a thought. .. How many people have been offered a good, well paid job after replying to a recruitment ad. saying "hi-ya. Please read my cv"?... If you approached everybody at a club or social event with the same one line and then just stood waiting for a reply could you really expect interesting conversations? If a profile or posting has caught your attention in a particular way then why not reflect that with your message? " Nah why bother? Most messages get deleted with no reply. Who needs that shit? Why waste time on a message when they will ignore it anyway? It's just a fuck. Why waste time on people that will ignore you anyway. | |||
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"Here's a thought. .. How many people have been offered a good, well paid job after replying to a recruitment ad. saying "hi-ya. Please read my cv"?... If you approached everybody at a club or social event with the same one line and then just stood waiting for a reply could you really expect interesting conversations? If a profile or posting has caught your attention in a particular way then why not reflect that with your message? " Good point.. flip side of it is when a man is at the bar does he give war and peace to a lady first ..or on most case breaks the ice with a hi.. or a smile. | |||
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"Here's a thought. .. How many people have been offered a good, well paid job after replying to a recruitment ad. saying "hi-ya. Please read my cv"?... If you approached everybody at a club or social event with the same one line and then just stood waiting for a reply could you really expect interesting conversations? If a profile or posting has caught your attention in a particular way then why not reflect that with your message? Good point.. flip side of it is when a man is at the bar does he give war and peace to a lady first ..or on most case breaks the ice with a hi.. or a smile." Agreed, some people have the charisma to be able to attract people with even just a wink (I hate those guys... I'm sooo jealous). Most of us need to put more effort in especially when we aren't with the other person in real time. The skill is being brief and friendly, polite with a sense of humour. Make your message appeal to the intended reader. Because everyone on fabs is different we all have different ideas for what is attractive. Your opening message is your chance to try and tune in to that. | |||
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"Any one with a cock avatar will always be ignored by me " I frickin LOVE the OP's avatar. | |||
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"I find opening messages so hard. I put quite a bit of effort into them so its hard to not let it get you down. Oddly I get more responses to the short dirty messages than anything else, but even harder is the follow up message where you get nothing to go on to keep the conversation going. Its like a bloody job interview sometimes and is really, on balance, not worth the effort. Which I suppose us why I haven't met anyone for quite some time. " I love it when you get 'lol' as a reply. No where to go from there | |||
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"I find opening messages so hard. I put quite a bit of effort into them so its hard to not let it get you down. Oddly I get more responses to the short dirty messages than anything else, but even harder is the follow up message where you get nothing to go on to keep the conversation going. Its like a bloody job interview sometimes and is really, on balance, not worth the effort. Which I suppose us why I haven't met anyone for quite some time. I love it when you get 'lol' as a reply. No where to go from there " Oh sometimes I get more than that, like "haha ty"  | |||
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"Agree. I dont write war and peace in opening messages either.. I think its just wasted.
I reply to all first messages even if it's just "hi" and they have no profile. There's a person behind every message. I've got chatting to some lovely people that way. "Great to see that there are still some nice people around on this site lol. | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. " I think as said before, they have the pick of the site tho as some get between 70-150 messages per day, so if they all say "hi how are you?" then they will naturally filter them out Ultimately, it's like a job interview - what makes you different/stand out and why should they talk to you? | |||
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"I find opening messages so hard. I put quite a bit of effort into them so its hard to not let it get you down. Oddly I get more responses to the short dirty messages than anything else, but even harder is the follow up message where you get nothing to go on to keep the conversation going. Its like a bloody job interview sometimes and is really, on balance, not worth the effort. Which I suppose us why I haven't met anyone for quite some time. I love it when you get 'lol' as a reply. No where to go from there " Perhaps that's the idea, they don't wish to take it further? I think the first message is important, you don't get a second chance at a first impression but having said that, many women look at the profile first before even opening the message so I'd say the profile is more important in grabbing someone's attention. | |||
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"Any one with a cock avatar will always be ignored by me I frickin LOVE the OP's avatar. "Fuckin' hell, on my phone it looked like a cock! I was. Even about to post that it kinda looks like someone's finger, and then I zoomed in. Buahahaha! | |||
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"Any one with a cock avatar will always be ignored by me I frickin LOVE the OP's avatar.
Fuckin' hell, on my phone it looked like a cock! I was. Even about to post that it kinda looks like someone's finger, and then I zoomed in. Buahahaha!"Just my little joke ??  | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. " Why on earth would anyone mail someone with no pics and shit text? I don't understand that at all. It screams of desperation. x | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. Why on earth would anyone mail someone with no pics and shit text? I don't understand that at all. It screams of desperation. x" How many messages do you get with your profile? That's not a shot across the bows I am genuinely asking as, well, you almost described your own profile! | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. Why on earth would anyone mail someone with no pics and shit text? I don't understand that at all. It screams of desperation. x How many messages do you get with your profile? That's not a shot across the bows I am genuinely asking as, well, you almost described your own profile!" Maybe, just maybe, she doesn't want any messages hence the profile??? | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. Why on earth would anyone mail someone with no pics and shit text? I don't understand that at all. It screams of desperation. x How many messages do you get with your profile? That's not a shot across the bows I am genuinely asking as, well, you almost described your own profile! Maybe, just maybe, she doesn't want any messages hence the profile???" Maybe she does? ?? (You used too many of these, have some back). Whatever her reason, the question I asked was "How many messages do you get with your profile?" - not "why is your profile blank?". I'm sure she can speak up for herself though dear | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. I think as said before, they have the pick of the site tho as some get between 70-150 messages per day, so if they all say "hi how are you?" then they will naturally filter them out Ultimately, it's like a job interview - what makes you different/stand out and why should they talk to you?" Not with message filters and a clear profile as to what we are looking for - we only get about 2 messages a day. But I'm still not prepared to answer a 'how are you' from a random guy. I mean what am I supposed to say to that, other than 'I'm very well thanks'. Not exactly a prelude to sex is it. But quite agree, hate to sound clinical, but it is like a job interview. Even with my paltry 2 messages a day, I still have choice as to who I sleep with, so the sender needs to convince me that he can give me what I can't find or get from someone else. Unfortunately 'how are you' doesn't do that, unless the profile is spectacular. | |||
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"As 9/10 introductions don't get seen I am of the opinion a quick hello and how are you is all I want to sent.. Kinda wasting time writing loads only to be left . Thoughts??? " "Agree. I dont write war and peace in opening messages either.. I think its just wasted. " Somewhere in the middle shows an effort has been made. | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. I think as said before, they have the pick of the site tho as some get between 70-150 messages per day, so if they all say "hi how are you?" then they will naturally filter them out Ultimately, it's like a job interview - what makes you different/stand out and why should they talk to you? Not with message filters and a clear profile as to what we are looking for - we only get about 2 messages a day. But I'm still not prepared to answer a 'how are you' from a random guy. I mean what am I supposed to say to that, other than 'I'm very well thanks'. Not exactly a prelude to sex is it. But quite agree, hate to sound clinical, but it is like a job interview. Even with my paltry 2 messages a day, I still have choice as to who I sleep with, so the sender needs to convince me that he can give me what I can't find or get from someone else. Unfortunately 'how are you' doesn't do that, unless the profile is spectacular." But if a message contains sexual contact it's usually blocked | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. I think as said before, they have the pick of the site tho as some get between 70-150 messages per day, so if they all say "hi how are you?" then they will naturally filter them out Ultimately, it's like a job interview - what makes you different/stand out and why should they talk to you? Not with message filters and a clear profile as to what we are looking for - we only get about 2 messages a day. But I'm still not prepared to answer a 'how are you' from a random guy. I mean what am I supposed to say to that, other than 'I'm very well thanks'. Not exactly a prelude to sex is it. But quite agree, hate to sound clinical, but it is like a job interview. Even with my paltry 2 messages a day, I still have choice as to who I sleep with, so the sender needs to convince me that he can give me what I can't find or get from someone else. Unfortunately 'how are you' doesn't do that, unless the profile is spectacular. But if a message contains sexual contact it's usually blocked " Doesn't it just haha!!! | |||
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"So many female profiles consist of a single line and a single pic that you have nothing to work with, so a "hi how are you?" will just have to do. Why on earth would anyone mail someone with no pics and shit text? I don't understand that at all. It screams of desperation. x How many messages do you get with your profile? That's not a shot across the bows I am genuinely asking as, well, you almost described your own profile!" I get about 1 a week from people that haven't mailed before. I don't know why they bother. My profile is this way to put people off mailing. That's why I made my comment, because I was indeed describing my own profile. | |||
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