FabSwingers.com forum: So so hard for a young guy here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello everyone im having a hard time trying to find a genuine meet :/ dont get me wrong i could get one but like everyone else i have standards.. Im not a shallow person so looks is not everything, Although there has to be an attraction, i look for people who can hold a conversation as i want to have fun sexualy but i would also like to have fun socially at a meet. But in the two meeta that i have had i tend to be used as a tool i.e arrive, no crack, sex, and then told to go... Anyone out there willing to give me advice on how to meet genuine nice poeple?? xxx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Edmund. I would say it is normal to want to meet someone that you connect with aswell as find attractive too. So that is perfectly normal.

I would ask why you have decided to swing rather than do the vanilla thing and go with the lads to normal clubs. Why swinging?

In my late teens I never considered swinging as was doing the normal clubs and the thought of swinging didnt come to me until mid 30s and I do this for very clear reasons.

So hope you dont mind me asking what your reasons are to swing as that could give some answers/assistance to you.

Remember tho some people will take advantage of you due to your inexperience in life so you do need to be careful x

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

This is not being disrespectful to you, but at 19, I doubt anyone would consider you; I know from postings, the majority of peeps on here have children older than you, however, I’m sure the odd one may find you of interest.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I duno it is just a sexual desire of mine i enjoy the lifestyle and the fun with older women and couples which is totaly different to meeting girls whilst out but still i do go out and meet girls and have fun x

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"I duno it is just a sexual desire of mine i enjoy the lifestyle "

As you can travel, plenty of socials around the Country, try making the effort and see whether you’re able to interact with fellow peeps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeh i will have to try that abit more the one benifit of being young is no ties lol

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"I duno it is just a sexual desire of mine i enjoy the lifestyle and the fun with older women and couples which is totaly different to meeting girls whilst out but still i do go out and meet girls and have fun x"

Well the sexual side you can get from the normal clubs and picking up a woman your own age.

Fun with older women is a different thing as many older woman as said before have kids your age so maybe the oldest older woman you would meet could be only maybe 16-20 years older than you. So yes older than you but dount if a lady older than 30 would meet you. As women in their 30s are mature normally and you wouldnt be on the same wave lenght probably.

You may find that this lifestly is better for you once you get more into your 20s-30s.

I am 39 and have young kids. You are nearer in age range to them than me. I wouldnt meet anyone your age for that reason. It would feel ooooo so very wrong.

Think in all honesty hunny you will struggle in this life. Unless your planning on only mailing ladies in their 20s for meets.

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

I disagree with _ruit on all the points she has raised.

I am into young guys, and have a lot in common with them BECAUSE I have sons of that age. I do not have a problem meeting guys of the same age as my sons because these guys are NOT my sons !

I cannot think of many scenarios in the vanilla world, especially in the 18-25 year old group, where a guy can have sex with couples, and an older woman ( of any age) would be the best person to give a young guy experience, skills and confidence. I think you will do well here because you are a thinking person and hold on to your standards.

Good luck

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the OP, may I suggest you set out your needs and wants too when meeting people. Just because you're young it doesn't mean you just have to go along with the suggestions of others.

I have playmates that I just use as a toy and dismiss when I've had enough, but that's how we play and that's what works for some. Others I have coffee, something to eat before going to bed, more coffee when we finish before we hug and they leave.

It's about finding what works for you. Yes, you may struggle as most of the people you'll be attracted to may have children your age and feel uncomfortable playing with you. As you say, you like to chat - people prefer to socialise with people around their own age group/who they feel comfortable with and it may/may not be you.

I do see Fruit's point a little, simply because I have a child your age that I still cuddle up to - and who at the weekend gave me notice that this cuddling lark will have to stop!

However, good luck, and have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello everyone im having a hard time trying to find a genuine meet :/ dont get me wrong i could get one but like everyone else i have standards.. Im not a shallow person so looks is not everything, Although there has to be an attraction, i look for people who can hold a conversation as i want to have fun sexualy but i would also like to have fun socially at a meet. But in the two meeta that i have had i tend to be used as a tool i.e arrive, no crack, sex, and then told to go... Anyone out there willing to give me advice on how to meet genuine nice poeple?? xxx"
hard for a lot of us looking for genuine meets,

it just take times an be patience

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

jane your more than welcome to your opinion and isnt it great to see different people with their own views.

My experience is from reading and participating on many threads about meeting very young men.

The majority of threads I have seen the general feeling was that when meeting very young men it reminded them too much of that the person in question is in the same year as their own child and has made it feel all too icky and familiar.

I must admit your post is one of the few(that I have read) where it has been said they are comfy because of the similarity to their own kids ages. Naturally it would be boring if we are all the same.

I would suggest to the Op that you search the threads for ones that are about meeting young men of similar age to their own kids. That will give you a clear view of opinions.

Some dont care what age the men are as long as they fuck and go maybe. others would like to have a conversation and not feel like they are chatting on the same level of interests as their own kids...interests,music....

It is also very true that your putting some thought into this and you are more likely to find a couple wanting you to join them in sex than in the vanilla world.

Best of luck xxxx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Just seen what you put sassy and have seen so many people saying they wouldnt as it seems just to icky a thought to consider.

I wouldnt meet anyone my parents age as that also seems icky to me,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And just to give u another slant on the points mentioned above.....

Im in my late 30's and have no children, so i guess i wouldnt be put off that you're so young, ur possible lack of sexual experience may do though? but thats an assumption on my part.

However, in order to prevent myself 'falling' for the men i swing with, i like to keep things to just 'play then leave'

I am a nice genuine person too!

And out of the various men i swing with, there is only one i would consider going to a social with, or letting stay the night.

As the above posters have hinted at, i also wonder if one of the 'dating' sites would suit you better, where it is more of a given that u socialize as well as have sex.

good luck

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just seen what you put sassy and have seen so many people saying they wouldnt as it seems just to icky a thought to consider.

I wouldnt meet anyone my parents age as that also seems icky to me,"

I agree with you there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And just to give u another slant on the points mentioned above.....

Im in my late 30's and have no children, so i guess i wouldnt be put off that you're so young, ur possible lack of sexual experience may do though? but thats an assumption on my part.

However, in order to prevent myself 'falling' for the men i swing with, i like to keep things to just 'play then leave'

I am a nice genuine person too!

And out of the various men i swing with, there is only one i would consider going to a social with, or letting stay the night.

As the above posters have hinted at, i also wonder if one of the 'dating' sites would suit you better, where it is more of a given that u socialize as well as have sex.

good luck

xxx"

I don't think you need to go on a dating site to socialise as well as have sex. With some of my playmates I socialise and have sex with them but I have no intention of picking out soft furnishings or cuddling up on the sofa watching dvds and drinking wine before walking hand in hand along the beach!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Dear Ed

On your profile you say it's probably eaiser for people to ask what you are into rather than you putting it on your profile.

I wouldn't ask.

I would take the view of "if he can't be bothered to write it once for everyone's benefit...... "

By taking the time to explain your likes and wants... not only would you be making it easier for people to identify with you... it helps people get a feel for who you are and your sexual maturity (or not).

If you had to choose between two profiles, one which had their stall set out and you could see you had shared interests and the second one just asked you to ask them.... which would be your priority?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

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As the above posters have hinted at, i also wonder if one of the 'dating' sites would suit you better, where it is more of a given that u socialize as well as have sex.

good luck

xxx"

Sorry but that is just classic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

face pics please cocks are ok ...... but you cant tell if you will like with out the face xx and myself i dont like alot of hair on mens bits ..... it turn me off ... i would look at pics first see that and not even read xx thats just me. xx i am sure your a lovely young man xx

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