FabSwingers.com forum: Is it healthy for a marriage to have a threesome?

By *ouple36DD OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.

Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.

Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?"

If both are in agreement and have a solid trusting relationship and will be happy to stop if one of you feels uneasy. Why not try it. X it has to be a mutual agreement not just one half calling the shots x

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

We have had a couple and couple of foursome if you both happy and pick the right couple of single fem or male give it a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a single guy I wldnt know much about couple dynamics, but when I eventually do find a partner then yes 'do think couples shld enjoy a 3some lol'

Just 1 of those things u just gotta have fun & give a try. I've enjoyed joining in 3somes & am sure will enjoy again with future partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely . What they say is true swinging will not save a bad marriage but it will enhance a good one . We've been married 26 years and Have a solid trusting relationship we love mmf threesomes and have fantastic sex life between the two of us after we have had one

. If you love and trust each other go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had quite a few threesome experiences with different people, and loved every one of them. We took our time exploring how we both felt about the idea before we decided to meet anyone, and when we did feel ready to take the next step, we spent time finding the right person, and our patience really paid off. We've met our first threesome tag-team partner quite a few times over the last few years and are planning to meet him again soon...he was definitely worth the time it took to find him, we've had the most incredible fun together over the years!

Lots of honest communication is really important, all the way along. It's so important to repeat each other's wishes, to only do what you both feel 100% comfortable with, and to never try and coerce each other into something you're not genuinely happy doing.

Exploring this kind of thing has opened up our relationship to a new level of openness and trust between us, and the sex that we have when it's just the two of us, has gone from fantastic to out of this world! It's quite wonderful how giving each other more freedom to express our sexual natures, has brought us so much closer, strengthened the bond between us and enhanced our relationship in a way we never expected, but wholeheartedly embrace.

As a couple who've been enjoying this kind of fun for 5-6 years now, and only had positive experiences, I'd definitely recommend exploring further if that's what you both want.

V x

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

It didn't work for me x

But ironically I've since met and been part of a number of couples 3 somes and it's been amazing and worked for them x

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

We've been talking about this for quite some time and if everything goes to plan will be finding out next weekend

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

"We've been talking about this for quite some time and if everything goes to plan will be finding out next weekend

Good luck x and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's something you both want to try, then why not go for it. You can always just start with soft play or always just do that if that's your preference. There are no hard and fast rules.

We enjoy the different dynamic a threesome with either another male or female can bring. Plus like others say - it turns us on together afterwards as well. Just go at your own pace.

Sarah

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

"If it's something you both want to try, then why not go for it. You can always just start with soft play or always just do that if that's your preference. There are no hard and fast rules.

We enjoy the different dynamic a threesome with either another male or female can bring. Plus like others say - it turns us on together afterwards as well. Just go at your own pace.

Sarah "

Definitely this

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.

Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?"

Depends on the marriage but it's only sex, no big deal.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.

Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?"

We've had and enjoyed threesomes.

We both have to be agreement and feel comfortable with the person joining us. It's important that they feel comfortable with us too.

They can be great fun with the right people.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

MFM threesomes are amazing fun when the right people get together for the right reasons.

Sometimes mfm's aint thought out by all involved and for one reason or the other aint a good experience. However as above whent the right people get together for the right reasons, quite amazing

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

Think we have just been very lucky as the lady in question contacted us and is everything we have been looking for.

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

"We've been talking about this for quite some time and if everything goes to plan will be finding out next weekend

Good luck x and enjoy!"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So long as it's mutual and you've set your priorities we've found it works very well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are still talking about it! Scares the bejesus out of us! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be as long as its what both parties want. after a lot of talking about it we finally got to try it last night and it was great fun

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By *otwife and MeCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"I see a lot of posts about couples fantasising or try to arrange a threesome.

Obviously there are risks but assuming husband/wife agree should you try it at least once?"

Oh yes we love it , and a bonus for me due to hubby not being that good in bed

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By *orshamcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Surrey / Sussex Border

We both enjoy threesomes together and it adds to our relationship. We both love spoiling the third person and watching each other having fun.

As others have said, communication is important, as is making sure everyone is up for going ahead. You have to be strong as a couple, as there can be moments where things get tricky. But talking and listening to each other before, during (to a degree) and after will allow you to both be confortable and everyone to enjoy themselves.

The moments you experience and the memories you create together can be out of this world. Making us both horny with flashbacks now

Must have another threesome soon...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always preferences 4 to 3 so I possibly lack objectivity to an extent. But personally I think 4 sums are far healthier for a couple to enjoy.

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By *iforfun999Man
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

It's healthy to have a truly open and honest relationship, able to discuss anything without fear of upsetting your partner. If that includes discussing fantasies and potential scenarios involving others, then that's the healthy part. If either have any doubts, then it's not healthy to go through with it regardless. Keep the communication open and one day that 3some is likely to come true.

At the very core of the relationship has to be a solid foundation of trust, love and respect for each other, with the focus on wanting to see your partner do whatever they want which will make them happy. There's also the ability to know the difference between love and sex. They are two separate things, each can be enjoyed without the need of the other, yet when the two come together, it takes you to a completely different level and puts a smile on your face and a warm, fuzzy feeling in your heart for days. It's as though everything has fallen into place, that final, missing piece of your jigsaw that you never realised had been missing and it all makes sense now. Reading each other's thoughts and bizarre coincidences are often experienced too, or is that just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it healthy as long as your both on the same page as a couple we've been married 16 years and been swinging 16 years works for us we are very very happy married

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Were still waiting for ours, after several let downs over a few months weve not fullfilled this yet. Its one of our fantasies to have.....

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By *ifuwMan
over a year ago

Hull

I agree it is healthy and as long as every one is on the same page. Other things have developed from having threesomes. We had a mfm and after that we found a couple at a club and had a full swap. We have that strong of a bond we allow each other to play solo with other people. We make sure that the other person is happy and as long as my partner says yes that's fine and soon as she says no you back off and see to her needs. But hey I have a horny wife and I haven't had her say no yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only strong bond you need is each other everything else is just fun no baggage

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Why not so long as all are in full agreement, rules are set and there is no undue pressure don't see it as a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yeah!!!!

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I think every couple is different. Some it works for some it won't.

Trust and communiaction would be key

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Threesomes are fun. You're not looking for a replacement male or female , you're looking for an added dynamic into the play. Most guys/girls here who are invited into that dynamic know and understand that it's not a relationship, just playtime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just play.....

Playing as a threesome, foursome or moresome....

The dynamic should be all on an equal footing, all enjoying the fun and you go home as a couple at the end of the night, if you have doubts about it, then talk, talk, talk. Jeolousy shouldn't come into it, it's just play.....

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