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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi were a couple who have been on here for a while now looking for a woman to join me and my partner... its our first time experience and want all 3 of us to have a good time?... weve talked to people but thats all its been, talk.. sometimes for weeks were we felt like we got to know them then boom, gone off site.... seems to be a weekend thing for most?.. were are we going wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just stay patient, your time will come most definitely, just don't rush it!

Good luck

Liam x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

offer socials (meets without play) to anyone you feel you're getting on with. this is less threatening than asking for a sex meet and can be done in public so that the people you want to meet feel safer.

genuine members are more likely to take up this offer than those who just want to chat or aren't here for long.

you could ask for cam chat but most people aren't that keen in case you're after cam sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think your better off going to a club where you can meet people face 2 face. Even if you don't play the first couple of times you will meet people you can chat to and maybe arrange a meet later.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"We think your better off going to a club where you can meet people face 2 face. Even if you don't play the first couple of times you will meet people you can chat to and maybe arrange a meet later. "

this is my advice too and add some more pics of you both, everyone wants a female to join them..add more to your profile if you can about what type of fun you like, because it is atm very generalised..instead of waiting for that elusive meet, get out there and enjoy what the rest of the scene has to offer x gain some experiences, it will help you know what you want from an ffm,,might be easier to arrange play with a couple being honest if you dont want the wait..broaden your profile have fun and good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also don't be afraid to meet others that you may not want to meet for play. A social is a good way to get known and also be verified. A lot of people on here like to just meet others for a drink and talk about the swinging scene when they can't talk about it to there "normal" friends. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe consider asking for a woman for fem to fem fun with him just watching and the emphasis on soft exploration. If it all feels right it could move on to mff fun at some point from there. Increase your chances by relaxing the criteria a little.

You might have more chance if your wife meets another woman for friendship evolving into sexual fun for the ladies leading to all three?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sometimes impulse may be best.. Check someone out for a bit you like and then one time their on looking, try chatting, but don't get to know them to much.this may be making them question it, you'll be fine ideally suggest a social asap, jump on the buzz of meeting someone new it will hopefully carry their thoughts along rather than draggin out over weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe consider asking for a woman for fem to fem fun with him just watching and the emphasis on soft exploration. If it all feels right it could move on to mff fun at some point from there. Increase your chances by relaxing the criteria a little.

You might have more chance if your wife meets another woman for friendship evolving into sexual fun for the ladies leading to all three?"

i disagreee dont change what you are looking for p;ay wise. its not worth moving your goal posts unless you are 100% sure thats what you want.

better to have 0 meets than 1 meet that you both regret.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been "in the scene" for over four years and are still yet to find the "elusive".

Your looking for gold dust so maybe take the advice given and go to a few clubs and have a little "dabble" in what the lifestyle has to offer, it can be fun in so many ways

Good luck guys xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys, seems like a club is the way forward but quite frankly dont know were to start ! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks guys, seems like a club is the way forward but quite frankly dont know were to start ! x"
There are quite a few in Greater Manchester and one on the Wirral too. Just go!

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