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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bravado or not?

I've just had my first meet and played it totally straight. I was nervous and let it show because I dont see any point in hiding it. Should I have faked it and felt like a knobhead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should never fake it.

The day I stop getting nervous before a 1st meet is the day I stop swinging.

For me its natural.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks I dont see the point on faking anything... somebody once told me "please yourself and you'll please everybody else".. it makes sense when you think about it..

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By *WLondonMixMan
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

Course not mate, every meet is like that whether it be a party or even one on one mEets. It is all part of the excitement and enjoyment of the scene it self. You will slowly gain confidence with more meets but those butterflies will always flutter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Course not mate, every meet is like that whether it be a party or even one on one mEets. It is all part of the excitement and enjoyment of the scene it self. You will slowly gain confidence with more meets but those butterflies will always flutter. "

Its good to know guys with ripped abs get nervous too.. Thanks.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

def best to be honest .we are all human after all. if youre not nervous it means it doesnt mean anything to you so nerves a good thing and natural ! x

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By *WLondonMixMan
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

Lol cheers. But I find it isn't all about looks on here, well written and considerate messages are essential as well as good conversations. If you remember you aint there just to fuck but stimulate eachother then it becomes easier and nerves take a back seat after the initial face to face smile. Or is that just me :S lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I found the time constraint hard to deal with! Your up against the clock, my best times are sundays, all day when you have a hangover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its natural to be nerves i have been swinging 10 yr still get nerves so dnt fake it be you self and will get better .Just go with flow enjoy we have all been there and still go there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never ever get butterflies before a meet i get bloody huge gert big elephants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get nervous before a meet. I've usually met socially a couple of times, been in contact so I'm meeting people I'm comfortable with.

Always excited...never nervous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about it as i do the social meet first that is when the huge gert elephants kick in so no not nervous on a play meet as already met them just excited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No dont hide it, just be natural, if you try and be all brave, you might have messed it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bravado or not?

I've just had my first meet and played it totally straight. I was nervous and let it show because I dont see any point in hiding it. Should I have faked it and felt like a knobhead?"

A confidant man always makes me feel more relaxed and at ease but if you are nervous then just be honest. People do understand and being your self is very important i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we all get nervous, biggest fear is not rising to the occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still get nervous we all do but once I've seen them and we Chattted the nerves go x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we all get nervous, biggest fear is not rising to the occasion "

There are a few who don't if they can't relax. That's why rushed meets are often not a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we all get nervous, biggest fear is not rising to the occasion

There are a few who don't if they can't relax. That's why rushed meets are often not a good thing."

not happened yet thankfully, but if it ever did my tongue would come into its own until one rises

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

we have been swinging for nearly 2yrs now and i still get nervous,dont think it ever goes and it adds to the experience i think

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"we have been swinging for nearly 2yrs now and i still get nervous"

We get nervous; Kid’s terrible just prior to actually meeting, nothing more stomach churning than sitting there chatting away to folks, and waiting for the 1st one to make a move!

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"we have been swinging for nearly 2yrs now and i still get nervous

We get nervous; Kid’s terrible just prior to actually meeting, nothing more stomach churning than sitting there chatting away to folks, and waiting for the 1st one to make a move! "

Same here that can be worse bit of a meet are they going to stay and play mmmmmm ,but once the butterfiles have gone think it would be time to give up with the swinging lifestyle

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire


" "please yourself and you'll please everybody else".. "

Not always accurate in a sexual situation

As per nerves, hell yeah still get them, nervous excitement!!!

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By *urton-bi-coupleCouple
over a year ago

burton

we were both nervous as hell on our first meet!!!!!

the thing is woman can still perform when nervous, but it does put extra presure on the guys performance when nervous.

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By *WLondonMixMan
over a year ago

Willsden/DollisHill

I wouldn't say nervous about 'rising to the occasion' however would say it concerns the mutual attraction as sometimes the pictures don't quite match the people, or the excitable nerves of the unknown and knowledge of what is to come. Confidence is key as one poster said earlier as it puts everyone to ease and you enjoy meetss so much more.

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