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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, having just perused some profiles, one hit me that the language, typos, and text speak in it were screaming out to me to.. red rag to a bull like.

Anyone else find this causes them to become disinterested in a profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah it puts me off sometimes, depends how bad they are. my grammar isn't perfect and i make spelling mistakes but usually notice and rectify them in my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me... Can't be doing with rubbish spelling, total lack of grammar and text speak.... Even "lol" puts me off.... If I get back "lol" to a message I've sent, it's basically the end of the conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they aren't for you, then just skip past their profile.

So many people here are actively abusive about poor spelling/grammar, but it doesn't come as easy to some as others.

Having taught for a while, and spent a lot of time reading about child development recently, there's hundreds of reasons why someone's brain struggles to put an eloquent sentence together.

We don't give people grief if they are left handed. It would be considered very bad taste to complain about someone not being able to walk properly.

We are *slowly* getting to grips with the idea that some people (eg. those on the autistic spectrum) find it much harder to relate to other people and read social cues correctly.

But can't spell/type/write? It's all your fault for not trying hard enough, and you are obviously a lesser person as a result.

*sigh*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pretend to be a language snob but use it as a filter. There has to be an intellectual connection as well as physical one when you're looking for more than a one off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not wonderful at spelling or grammer and tbh often text speak or abbreviations are easier to type. yes lazy probably but if someone is put off me because of this then may be they arnt the type of people I would want to meet. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they aren't for you, then just skip past their profile.

So many people here are actively abusive about poor spelling/grammar, but it doesn't come as easy to some as others.

Having taught for a while, and spent a lot of time reading about child development recently, there's hundreds of reasons why someone's brain struggles to put an eloquent sentence together.

We don't give people grief if they are left handed. It would be considered very bad taste to complain about someone not being able to walk properly.

We are *slowly* getting to grips with the idea that some people (eg. those on the autistic spectrum) find it much harder to relate to other people and read social cues correctly.

But can't spell/type/write? It's all your fault for not trying hard enough, and you are obviously a lesser person as a result.

*sigh*"

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I don't pretend to be a language snob but use it as a filter. There has to be an intellectual connection as well as physical one when you're looking for more than a one off."

Agreed. I don't mean silly typo errors but some messages /forum posts are difficult to decipher!

For me, sex DEFINATELY starts in the brain! A hot body helps but if you open your mouth and can't string a sentence together, it just turns me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just skip past it, if it's a filter for you. Some people might not be great at spelling , but face to face they are really switched on and engaging.

Being pedantic about it just seems anal - not in a sexual way. And here on the forum it's often pointed out with glee to score some kind of pointless point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't pretend to be a language snob but use it as a filter. There has to be an intellectual connection as well as physical one when you're looking for more than a one off."

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking

I do Chuckle when some of the so called Grammer Police make spelling and/or Grammatical errors

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it annoys you just move along...

we are all aware that there are people out there who think using text speak is cool (especially the over 50's for some reason ) but that is basically their choice and who are we to argue...

there are still others who have yet to realise that a well placed comma or a full stop greatly enhances the content of a paragraph...its usually the difference between 'come on everyone' & 'come on, everyone'

and then of course there are those who have dyslexia and dyspraxia and cannot properly help it but try their hardest anyway....

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I do Chuckle when some of the so called Grammer Police make spelling and/or Grammatical errors

Him "

I don't think that is what is meant. I would be the first person to admit to the odd typo /grammatical error. We all do that! But there is a huge difference between that and messages that are barely legible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they aren't for you, then just skip past their profile.

So many people here are actively abusive about poor spelling/grammar, but it doesn't come as easy to some as others.

Having taught for a while, and spent a lot of time reading about child development recently, there's hundreds of reasons why someone's brain struggles to put an eloquent sentence together.

We don't give people grief if they are left handed. It would be considered very bad taste to complain about someone not being able to walk properly.

We are *slowly* getting to grips with the idea that some people (eg. those on the autistic spectrum) find it much harder to relate to other people and read social cues correctly.

But can't spell/type/write? It's all your fault for not trying hard enough, and you are obviously a lesser person as a result.

*sigh*"

Not sure why A.S.D has been mentioned when we are talking about spelling etc. but totally get that people with A.S.D would struggle terribly in social/play situations. I have two children who have A.S.D and the times they have had me mortified by the things they've come out with.... I can laugh now because I know they can't help it.

"MUUUUUUMMMM WHY HASN'T THAT MAN GOT ANY LEGS!!!" Type things, trying to explain to the child why they can't ask that question so loud in front of said man.

As a single female, I met a bloke regularly, he was nice enough, just came out with the oddest things, it wasn't until I had to find out about A.S.D that I realised he had several traits himself.

Oh, and I'm left handed, I was actively encouraged to use my other hand to the point of not being allowed to use my left hand.... I was 5.... My dad came into school and had 'words'....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they aren't for you, then just skip past their profile.

So many people here are actively abusive about poor spelling/grammar, but it doesn't come as easy to some as others.

Having taught for a while, and spent a lot of time reading about child development recently, there's hundreds of reasons why someone's brain struggles to put an eloquent sentence together.

We don't give people grief if they are left handed. It would be considered very bad taste to complain about someone not being able to walk properly.

We are *slowly* getting to grips with the idea that some people (eg. those on the autistic spectrum) find it much harder to relate to other people and read social cues correctly.

But can't spell/type/write? It's all your fault for not trying hard enough, and you are obviously a lesser person as a result.

*sigh*

Not sure why A.S.D has been mentioned when we are talking about spelling etc. but totally get that people with A.S.D would struggle terribly in social/play situations. I have two children who have A.S.D and the times they have had me mortified by the things they've come out with.... I can laugh now because I know they can't help it.

"MUUUUUUMMMM WHY HASN'T THAT MAN GOT ANY LEGS!!!" Type things, trying to explain to the child why they can't ask that question so loud in front of said man.

As a single female, I met a bloke regularly, he was nice enough, just came out with the oddest things, it wasn't until I had to find out about A.S.D that I realised he had several traits himself.

Oh, and I'm left handed, I was actively encouraged to use my other hand to the point of not being allowed to use my left hand.... I was 5.... My dad came into school and had 'words'...."

I think it has been mentioned in the context of it is easier to accept why certain people cannot always read social cues such as those with ASD than it is to accept that some people cannot spell properly or use punctuation, or know how to write grammatically correct prose. But don't quote me on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeah it puts me off sometimes, depends how bad they are. my grammar isn't perfect and i make spelling mistakes but usually notice and rectify them in my profile."

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By *r Stagger LeeMan
over a year ago

torquay

I tolerate it to a degree but will reply to the slightly illiterate messages correctly.

As best I can.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees


"Agreed. I don't mean silly typo errors but some messages /forum posts are difficult to decipher!

For me, sex DEFINATELY starts in the brain! A hot body helps but if you open your mouth and can't string a sentence together, it just turns me off. "

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I consider myself fortunate to have had a good education. I have no interest in criticising those less fortunate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they aren't for you, then just skip past their profile.

So many people here are actively abusive about poor spelling/grammar, but it doesn't come as easy to some as others.

Having taught for a while, and spent a lot of time reading about child development recently, there's hundreds of reasons why someone's brain struggles to put an eloquent sentence together.

We don't give people grief if they are left handed. It would be considered very bad taste to complain about someone not being able to walk properly.

We are *slowly* getting to grips with the idea that some people (eg. those on the autistic spectrum) find it much harder to relate to other people and read social cues correctly.

But can't spell/type/write? It's all your fault for not trying hard enough, and you are obviously a lesser person as a result.

*sigh*"

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

I think OP is getting unfairly jumped on here.

He hasn't actually criticised anyone, he has asked if others are also put off by the points he raised.

I had little formal education and am far from perfect. I'm also too lax at proof reading my forum posts before posting.

I think I'm understanding of someone doing the best they can with the ability that have.

For so many though the limiting factor is not ability, it's effort. And if you can't be arsed to put the slightest bit of effort into a mesage you send someone why should they put effort into responding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a useful indicator. A well-written, literate profile might point to someone to whom I'd find it easy to connect.

A message to me full of errors just gets deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There

Their

They're ....even

Two

Too and

To get used incorrectly.

We do prefer someone who takes pride in themselves. Getting simple things like this wrong shows they have no pride.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it puts me right off. I have no intention of doing anything as cunty as picking people up on their spelling, punctuation and grammar in their messages, profiles or forum posts but written communication is important to me and if you're not good at it I'm extremely unlikely to be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There

Their

They're ....even

Two

Too and

To get used incorrectly.

We do prefer someone who takes pride in themselves. Getting simple things like this wrong shows they have no pride. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they aren't for you, then just skip past their profile.

So many people here are actively abusive about poor spelling/grammar, but it doesn't come as easy to some as others.

Having taught for a while, and spent a lot of time reading about child development recently, there's hundreds of reasons why someone's brain struggles to put an eloquent sentence together.

We don't give people grief if they are left handed. It would be considered very bad taste to complain about someone not being able to walk properly.

We are *slowly* getting to grips with the idea that some people (eg. those on the autistic spectrum) find it much harder to relate to other people and read social cues correctly.

But can't spell/type/write? It's all your fault for not trying hard enough, and you are obviously a lesser person as a result.

*sigh*"

Why does wanting to meet people with similar traits to yourself mean you think others are a lesser person? I don't want to meet people who aren't good at written communication. It doesn't mean I think they're lesser, just that experience has taught me we probably won't get on.

I'm shy - others might not want to meet me because of that and that's their perogative, but I don't expect them to change who or what they fancy because it might hurt my feelings.

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By *ubbykittenWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I think OP is getting unfairly jumped on here.

He hasn't actually criticised anyone, he has asked if others are also put off by the points he raised.

I had little formal education and am far from perfect. I'm also too lax at proof reading my forum posts before posting.

I think I'm understanding of someone doing the best they can with the ability that have.

For so many though the limiting factor is not ability, it's effort. And if you can't be arsed to put the slightest bit of effort into a mesage you send someone why should they put effort into responding?"

Couldn't agree more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A while back I got a message from a lady on fab. Her English was so wrong that I assumed she wasn't from here.

I asked her where she was from and it turns out she was English.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they aren't for you, then just skip past their profile.

So many people here are actively abusive about poor spelling/grammar, but it doesn't come as easy to some as others.

Having taught for a while, and spent a lot of time reading about child development recently, there's hundreds of reasons why someone's brain struggles to put an eloquent sentence together.

We don't give people grief if they are left handed. It would be considered very bad taste to complain about someone not being able to walk properly.

We are *slowly* getting to grips with the idea that some people (eg. those on the autistic spectrum) find it much harder to relate to other people and read social cues correctly.

But can't spell/type/write? It's all your fault for not trying hard enough, and you are obviously a lesser person as a result.

*sigh*

Why does wanting to meet people with similar traits to yourself mean you think others are a lesser person? I don't want to meet people who aren't good at written communication. It doesn't mean I think they're lesser, just that experience has taught me we probably won't get on.

I'm shy - others might not want to meet me because of that and that's their perogative, but I don't expect them to change who or what they fancy because it might hurt my feelings."

Prerogative

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