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By *iderry OP   Man
over a year ago

Derry

Hey looking a bit of help on how it would be best to bring up swinging with the other half or ease her in we t in what I would consider a stable relationship but would like to involve her on here any helpful comments would be great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a friday night, have a google with her and "accidentally" type fabswingers and say to her, what do you think of this idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell her what you know about it and let her make up her own mind. The last thing you want is to force her into it

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By *iderry OP   Man
over a year ago

Derry

Not bad like the Google idea make sure she don't look at my profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask her. I was in the same position with my ex. He said no straight away but now admits that he should of been more open to the idea if it would of saved our marriage. I don't know if swinging would of helped tbh. Xxx

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By *reenEyedWifeCouple
over a year ago

Market Harborough

Show her your Fab profile - if she is open enough to be partnered with a bisexual man then surely swinging is not going to be some "off the scales" request. She may or may not be interested but it shouldn't come as any shock (unless of course the relationship with her is not new, and you've been on here for over a year behind her back). That might take some explaining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be both careful then dead honest, but sow the seeds, discuss in your normal sex play time, then expand upon it - that's how my first wife did to me - yes you read correct - it was her idea and I pretty well went for it

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"On a friday night, have a google with her and "accidentally" type fabswingers and say to her, what do you think of this idea?"

Gets the from me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey looking a bit of help on how it would be best to bring up swinging with the other half or ease her in we t in what I would consider a stable relationship but would like to involve her on here any helpful comments would be great "

Just show her your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been on here more than a year and have verifications. How does she not already know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point in going round the gardens. Just ask the question. However, be sure to ask the question in the cold light of day, not in the bedroom. Swinging isn't for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggest watching porn together, start off with something vanilla, then ask her if there's anything she'd like to watch.

I did this with a very vanilla FB and she said rough sex, bondage and a MMF!

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By *urham couple a and lCouple
over a year ago

durham

Me and my partner had a conversations about it one day and decided to have a look and it's been the best thing we did. We both love a little play now and again. But you will have to be honest with her and after talking to her about it explain that you are a swinger

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Maybe try saying something along the lines of, "I've been fantasising about you having sex with another man, and it really turned me on have you ever thought about it?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is it with people judging the guy so what if he's been on her over a year,what has it got to do with any of you? He didn't ask how he should tell her he's on here did he.

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

A few questions before anyone can help:

1. Does she know you are bisexual ?

2. How long have you been together ( if it's only a month or so, it may be too soon!!)

3. Genuinely, and and without judgement, does she know about your profile on here?

If you cans answer these questions three, some more advice from us and others on here might be forthcoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with people judging the guy so what if he's been on her over a year,what has it got to do with any of you? He didn't ask how he should tell her he's on here did he. "

We don't know too much about his situation, that is true. For all we know, he met his girlfiend a week ago.

On the other hand, swinging generally involves trust where a couple is concerned. If she does not know that he has been swinging, that may well be a major issue.

It is not terribly judgmental but you are right that we are filling the gaps in.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hey looking a bit of help on how it would be best to bring up swinging with the other half or ease her in we t in what I would consider a stable relationship but would like to involve her on here any helpful comments would be great "

There is no substitute for talking in an honest and caring way. Trying by various ways and means to introduce her to something without being upfront will lead to misunderstanding and confusion with neither of you really knowing how the other feels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just show her your profile ffs. You say you have a stable relationship so it should be fine.

Or one could say that your "stable" relationship is obviously not that....or you would not have been on here, playing behind her back for over a year!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey looking a bit of help on how it would be best to bring up swinging with the other half or ease her in we t in what I would consider a stable relationship but would like to involve her on here any helpful comments would be great

Just show her your profile."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey looking a bit of help on how it would be best to bring up swinging with the other half or ease her in we t in what I would consider a stable relationship but would like to involve her on here any helpful comments would be great "

Why do you want to involve her? Serious question. Asking in what way you would like it to progress.

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