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Tired of getting denied because I'm Asian

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

not everyone likes everyone....

even you i am sure have preferences over who you would and wouldn't meet!!!!

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By *ob_daslerMan
over a year ago

birmingham

If people don't like you they don't like you, I don't like the French

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Chin up dr. Plenty of advice on former forums around this topic.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Black guys have it the worst lmao but hey im still getting tons of success.

Imo most people on this site don't care about race but about personality. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people don't like you they don't like you, I don't like the French "

French-Asians.. We have no chance then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, "

Might help if you put that across in your pictures.

Aome nice auited an booted ones etx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been on 4weeks, as others would say have a bit of patience. Look at more successful mens profiles and take a leaf out of their books.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet Asians either - so what? My choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "

I've seen women in clubs and parties with Asian men, sure there's plenty of opportunities out there if you are in the right places. And also, people are entitled to their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah dude don't worry so much. I promise it's not a racial thing as almost everyone on this site would tear anyone suspected of racism to pieces so maybe it's just a few needed tweeks or just patience you need but don't take it to heart and crack on sexy butt

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By *ogamuffinMan
over a year ago

slough


"not everyone likes everyone....

even you i am sure have preferences over who you would and wouldn't meet!!!! "

Just patience, treat people rightly. Don't tarnish everyone with the same brush. Take time and get to know each other, go to socials, clubs and get your face out there. Most importantly respect people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a preference and they are entitled to make that choice ,some prefer larger or smaller or older or younger too. The fact that you are asian is niether a turn on or off to me,the attitude however is a major turn off...you are a freaking doctor .....errrrr and your point is what exactly?(you are a doctor,so freaking what ?)

Take a look at your profile and your messages you send and see it from a females point of view .as mine is only one and many wont agree with me ,but my opinion is if the messages have any resemblance to the profile and indeed your post then there could lie some of your difficulties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah dude don't worry so much. I promise it's not a racial thing as almost everyone on this site would tear anyone suspected of racism to pieces so maybe it's just a few needed tweeks or just patience you need but don't take it to heart and crack on sexy butt "

Unfortunately I have noticed some overt racism on the forums before.

There's little point in pretending it doesn't exist. There are just as many bigots on here as anywhere else. Present company excepted of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try targeting people who are only interested in meeting Asian people....simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah dude don't worry so much. I promise it's not a racial thing as almost everyone on this site would tear anyone suspected of racism to pieces so maybe it's just a few needed tweeks or just patience you need but don't take it to heart and crack on sexy butt

Maybe there are a few bad apples but I think you'll agree that it definitely doesn't go unpunished x

Unfortunately I have noticed some overt racism on the forums before.

There's little point in pretending it doesn't exist. There are just as many bigots on here as anywhere else. Present company excepted of course. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's current 23,000 users online...they won't all be turned off because your Asian. Either have patience or start a positive thread to attract attention

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I doubt that your race is the issue, but cannot offer profile advice as if hasn't been requested.

Nita

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I'm also tired of being denied by the stunning 18yo girls I message just because I'm ugly and to old

How very dare they deny me ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm also tired of being denied by the stunning 18yo girls I message just because I'm ugly and to old

How very dare they deny me ??"

Same for us too Sam

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I'm also tired of being denied by the stunning 18yo girls I message just because I'm ugly and to old

How very dare they deny me ??

Same for us too Sam "

We need to stock together and stop these selfish people from having preferences

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Black guys have it the worst lmao but hey im still getting tons of success.

Imo most people on this site don't care about race but about personality. Good luck!"

In what way do "Black guys have it the worst"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm also tired of being denied by the stunning 18yo girls I message just because I'm ugly and to old

How very dare they deny me ??"
You can have the ones I keep rejecting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would, if that helps

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

I hit fifty last week and now we are to old

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

I went out with a Asian guy for years, and was totally loved up. So partial to the look but, I just don't like the one photo of your willy.... It's not something that would 'attract' me (just some feedback) xx

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By *ongton loversCouple
over a year ago

stokeontrent


"I wouldn't meet Asians either - so what? My choice "

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago


"I'm a freakin doctor "

Dont be expecting too much or assuming anything because of that. If you cant help that of course, oh well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had sex with Asian men, I've had sex with doctors. I've not had sex with an Asian doctor. I might one day though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it makes you feel better,I turned down a lot of non-Asian men today. I don't think they are that bothered to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be worse mate. How bad would it be if you were an ugly Asian?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Could be worse mate. How bad would it be if you were an ugly Asian?"

I think even more people would deny me than they do now ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"not everyone likes everyone....

even you i am sure have preferences over who you would and wouldn't meet!!!! "

This. I mean, I'm not interested in black women generally (though the odd rare exception does come along). It's just tastes dude! I also don't like severely overweight, very underweight or women with no arse cheeks. At least you have a race card to pull when you get knocked back I'm just a 30something employed average white dude with blonde hair and a mediocre penis, fuck all going for me and sod all cards to play about it! LOL! I just get "no thanks" when I ask

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By *ogamuffinMan
over a year ago

slough


"try targeting people who are only interested in meeting Asian people....simples "

Didn't know there was a search filter for race. You can search for their race, but not what race they are interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

"

Well make your profile look like that. Chat on the forums and put that personality across.

At the moment your profile looks like the only thing you have to offer is a generic penis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have entertained Asian men in the past but will not do so again. I know you shouldn't tar everyone with the same brush but the attitude of those we have met was simply awful. We gave it another go or two because thought "can't all be the same?" but, unfortunately, that's the way we found it. Think Asian men really need to look at their attitudes to women in general - it is quite a well known problem (and scientifically proven on the programme the other night - "What Asians Really Think"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have entertained Asian men in the past but will not do so again. I know you shouldn't tar everyone with the same brush but the attitude of those we have met was simply awful. We gave it another go or two because thought "can't all be the same?" but, unfortunately, that's the way we found it. Think Asian men really need to look at their attitudes to women in general - it is quite a well known problem (and scientifically proven on the programme the other night - "What Asians Really Think""

- this.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "

I have met Asian men, but as others have stated, it's about the person and not about assumptions for me. I like to get to know the person and I would initially get to know what they are I like by their profile .... You haven't asked for advice on your profile, OP, but perhaps you should, or seek advice by looking at the profile advice on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just dont be Asian. Everyone wins

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By *ongtalljonMan
over a year ago

North Wales

And I'm tired of getting denied because my cock is too big, or too small, or because people just don't want to meet me. Get real sunny Jim....

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Wow "a freaking Doctor" what an incredibly racist thing to say. You're Asian but a Dr so that must be better than Asians who aren't?

I work with lots of Asian Dr's and yep, your 'handwriting' and attitude fits the stereotype perfectly, one reason I'm not generally attracted to Asians

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

With single men I don't care what race you are, if you're not black you've got no chance. It's all about preference isn't it?

There's plenty of couples we fancy who wouldn't touch us with a 10ft barge pole because of our size, our colour, age etc. Should we cry about it or just keep going the same as we are? Don't know about you but I'm all out of tears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

Well make your profile look like that. Chat on the forums and put that personality across.

At the moment your profile looks like the only thing you have to offer is a generic penis. "

Agreed!

Far more public photos (not of just your penis) are needed - and id suggest you spell and grammar check your profile. When people profess to be intelligent/professional then I expect them to be articulate too! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have entertained Asian men in the past but will not do so again. I know you shouldn't tar everyone with the same brush but the attitude of those we have met was simply awful. We gave it another go or two because thought "can't all be the same?" but, unfortunately, that's the way we found it. Think Asian men really need to look at their attitudes to women in general - it is quite a well known problem (and scientifically proven on the programme the other night - "What Asians Really Think""

I have met lots of Asian guys, I find them polite, oft shy, respect boundaries, never had one with an attitude

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I've had really bad luck when it comes to Asian men, in my experience they have all been really crap in bed (8 for 8 so far) although its awful to say after a while it does become tedious and you get to the point you automatically think why bother it'll be shit, but if I got on with the guy I wouldn't mind seeing if he can break me run of bad luck in that area.

I wouldn't entertain a message from you though OP, because your profile does appeal to me, and as you've not asked for it to be critiqued I'm afraid I can't tell you why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough as an Asian myself (from Singapore originally) I don't really mind being rejected "because I'm Asian" anymore as I spend more time here on Fab. After all, it's not that different from others here who say "no blacks/no whites/no(add whatever criteria)".

What I do mind though, and it is something I've personally experienced before, is people using race as a stereotype against others here on Fab. Like saying "I won't meet Asians because their cocks are usually small". BELIEVE ME, I've heard such words uttered before, and to me I think this is what really grinds our gear as Asians on Fab. Asian men have to deal so much with so many physical stereotypings, and Asian women conversely face the same issue too (Except for them they're desired because apparently the stereotyping is Asian women = submissive, petite, kinky in bed).

I don't mind you rejecting me because my skin colour's not for you, or my region's not for you. But I'm definitely not ok for you to make assumptions about my character or my physicality simply because you're alright with my race, skin colour or nationality.

What do you guys think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*oops I meant to say "not alright" in my post above. Typo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "

Maybe it's not a race thing but rather a grammar thing as there is a stark lack of capitals and appropriate use of punctuations in your profile.

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By *r H and Good PetCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't think I'd respond positively to you, because your profile and your post here emanates an air of entitlement that's quite off putting. "I'm a freaking doctor!! How can anyone resist me?!"

So... yeah....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and some want asian only -

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I agree that 'advertising' yourself as a doctor is a bit naff. Who cares what job you have? It obviously makes no difference anyway otherwise people would meet you irrespective of skin colour etc.

You can't change your skin colour so why waste time and energy on complaining about those who make choices?

Seek out those who don't care about skin colour and meet people and have sex.

It will make for a happier and less stressful fab experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will and do dismiss men just because they are Asian,even after talking to them and showing interest. The man has pointed that out, and people are trying to turn it onto him; blaming him in fact. If a woman said she had been turned down because she was fat,she would be getting sympathy and not have her profile picked over.

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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago

Near enough


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "

I actually have it on my profile that I'm not into Asian men or black men and still get messages...and yes OP you actually messaged me too

Maybe its not because you are Asian but because much like many on here you simply do not read profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree that 'advertising' yourself as a doctor is a bit naff. Who cares what job you have? It obviously makes no difference anyway otherwise people would meet you irrespective of skin colour etc.

You can't change your skin colour so why waste time and energy on complaining about those who make choices?

Seek out those who don't care about skin colour and meet people and have sex.

It will make for a happier and less stressful fab experience. "

There are women who like professional men,in fact they only meet professional men,so advertising yourself as one by naming your profession should help shouldn't it?

Who better to play doctors and nurses with than a doctor

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I think you need to reply write your profile. If you have a face pic in your friends photos and presumably you cock pic is there too, how come you have only one friend pic and non on show at all.

Be patient. Rewrite your profile so you come across as being intelligent and articulate.

Write friendly and personal messages.

Don't act like you deserve plenty of sex because you are a doctor. It might put ladies off who have experienced rough treatment from idiot doctors

Get involved in the forums, go to socials and chill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've got a big chip on your shoulder your race makes no difference at all.

Pulling the race card just makes you look needy, desperate and will not help you on here.

Many treat everybody the same on here regardless of their race etc, It's just a question of finding them and changing your attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if you put some more public pics up? Might get more success as I for one hate chasing guys down for pics. If there's a profile with no pics then I just won't bother with them.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

OP, have those that have rejected you actually said it's because you're Asian, or are you just assuming?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area


"People will and do dismiss men just because they are Asian,even after talking to them and showing interest. The man has pointed that out, and people are trying to turn it onto him; blaming him in fact. If a woman said she had been turned down because she was fat,she would be getting sympathy and not have her profile picked over. "

The fact is people are often rejected due to being too short, too old, wrong colour skin. People have preferences.

I haven't picked over his profile. I have tried to suggest areas where he can improve his chances on here. He cannot become non Asian......so his profile, photos and how he comes across can be altered. Lizzy....Happy, always to help

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Oh, and *cough*reviewyourprofile*cough*

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By *t3_jalapenoMan
over a year ago

darlo


"we have entertained Asian men in the past but will not do so again. I know you shouldn't tar everyone with the same brush but the attitude of those we have met was simply awful. We gave it another go or two because thought "can't all be the same?" but, unfortunately, that's the way we found it. Think Asian men really need to look at their attitudes to women in general - it is quite a well known problem (and scientifically proven on the programme the other night - "What Asians Really Think""

Wasnt the programme called something else?

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By *londie bearWoman
over a year ago

Bexley-ish

I probably wouldn't meet an Asian guy again, purely going by past experience....but I never say never. What would put me off initially with you OP is the lack of pictures and the fact that you use the word freaking, just can't deal with that...or the word lush x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, have those that have rejected you actually said it's because you're Asian, or are you just assuming? "

I am one of those that rejected you and no you didn't ask why either.

You then make a post assuming it's because of your skin colour.

I have my preferences and know exactly what I'm looking for and quite simply you are not my type. Skin colour does not come into it. People are allowed to have whatever preferences they like and I'm sure at some point you will find someone that suits you

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By *iking.beardMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "

Try need a ginger lol

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By *londie bearWoman
over a year ago

Bexley-ish


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now.

Try need a ginger lol "

Orange is the new black

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By *iking.beardMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now.

Try need a ginger lol

Orange is the new black "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now.

Try need a ginger lol

Orange is the new black "

she got me with that. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

"

HAHAHAHA by the sounds of it they're just closet swingers or bisexuals. It's actually a lot harder to get Asians to be as self-accepting of their sexuality and I suspect the two Asians were just playing on holiday because they felt that they could get away with it in a country where nobody would know them.

Still, they could have been polite at least to acknowledge you lot, but I can understand the mental dissonance that they've displayed after all the hot and heavy stuff is done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been out for a walk and this was on my mind and ive decided i dont like the woe is me kind of thread - just saying

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

Perhaps trying to sell yourself as an Asian is your downfall? Try just selling yourself as

"Well educated, down for a bit of fun and frolics gentry" perhaps? Being Asian does that make you any less or more of a sexual attraction? No! Being comfortable in your own skin does!

Male half of us is of South Asian ethnic origin, we've never been rejected on this ground. You've just got to be comfortable in your own skin and respect other people's preferences if they do state no Asians.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly Asians have gotten a d bad press and i'm sure it might have had some impact - but I have met a lovely Asian women and a few Asian men (I'm bisexual lol ) and love my meets with them

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

"

So those guys weren't allowed to have a separate life from Fab and swinging? I've met people that will flat out blank me in any context that is outside of a sexual encounter. On a few occasions a couple I met several times would walk past me without saying a word and then message me later that day asking if I was busy.

Calling somebody out in a public place just seems kind of wrong

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

Cant you lie and say its a tan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

"

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic. "

What did I do wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic. "

The 2 guys were sucking on his cock 30 mins beforehand, then they looked at him like shite on a shoe , not even a nod and a wink and a smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

What did I do wrong ?"

Nothing but be in the same room and relay the story. But that won't stop the pitchforks!

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By *ustinCredible.Man
over a year ago

whitecross/sankey valley

Outing somebody in a public place just isn't cool.

What if somebody did the same to you while you were sat with family or friends that didn't know about your extra curricular activities?

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover


"

The 2 guys were sucking on his cock 30 mins beforehand, then they looked at him like shite on a shoe , not even a nod and a wink and a smile "

While I found the story amusing, it has to be said, you've assumed their action to be slight toward the rest of you when it could just be a need for discretion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have to respect and value others choice and the preference. I have not been denied but not get responded. Still waiting. Hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

What did I do wrong ?"

You found it funny. I find it pathetic and not acceptable. Out of curiosity,which of you comments on the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The 2 guys were sucking on his cock 30 mins beforehand, then they looked at him like shite on a shoe , not even a nod and a wink and a smile

While I found the story amusing, it has to be said, you've assumed their action to be slight toward the rest of you when it could just be a need for discretion. "

I didn't realise you were supposed to be mates for life after you fuck in a club.

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

Maybe need more pics DR

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

The 2 guys were sucking on his cock 30 mins beforehand, then they looked at him like shite on a shoe , not even a nod and a wink and a smile "

I once had someone squirt so much in my face she took all my make up off. But when I saw her in homebase the next day with her daughter, the cue she gave me was that she wouldn't appreciate being acknowledged, not that I would have done anyway because I was with me ma...whatever happened to "what happens in a club stays in a club?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

What did I do wrong ?

You found it funny. I find it pathetic and not acceptable. Out of curiosity,which of you comments on the forums?"

Mrs - only

How would you have reacted if 30 mins earlier a chap was licking your pussy ? Now you are shite on his shoe ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

The 2 guys were sucking on his cock 30 mins beforehand, then they looked at him like shite on a shoe , not even a nod and a wink and a smile

I once had someone squirt so much in my face she took all my make up off. But when I saw her in homebase the next day with her daughter, the cue she gave me was that she wouldn't appreciate being acknowledged, not that I would have done anyway because I was with me ma...whatever happened to "what happens in a club stays in a club?""

Pub next to the club where 90%+ customers had just come out of same club - was not B&Q

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

There are somethings you can't change ... You're race is one,

We're all rejected for one reason or another during our time on here,

find folk that will meet you. Much more fun ..

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By *overbullMan
over a year ago

Manchester / Salford

Unless your a gynaecologist with an outstanding knowledge of clits, your job doesn't mean that much in this context

I've seen numerous profiles stating racial preferences... My response is somewhere between "each to their own" or "eat shit and die" depending on which day of the week it is...

We all have our likes and dislikes, I guess - I always question why some people have to be rude in expressing them, though...

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "
complaining about it won't change it as that's not attractive,whether you be black white yellow or green with pink spots ps what has being a doctor got to do with anything??

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley


"

Pub next to the club where 90%+ customers had just come out of same club - was not B&Q

"

This is so irritating. If they were still in the club and they blanked you, then they were wrong. But if you're out in the general public then discretion is a must for some due to professional commitments and frankly speaking they probably just wanted to mind their own business in a pub

Who's to say this wasn't their regular pub and now your mate has ruined it forever for them. Not just that, they could be murdered in their ethnic communities who more than probably don't agree with bisexual play never mind swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the ratio of men to women is 100 to 1

Unless you are a ripped gym fit model with a chiselled jaw and a cock like a length of garden hose your going to experience rejection.

I get told I'm too old/bald/fat/young/short/white constantly play to your strengths if your a doctor then you should be articulate, personality charm wit and intelligence should be your weapons of choice, deploy them an stop moaning about being from a different ethnic group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

The 2 guys were sucking on his cock 30 mins beforehand, then they looked at him like shite on a shoe , not even a nod and a wink and a smile

I once had someone squirt so much in my face she took all my make up off. But when I saw her in homebase the next day with her daughter, the cue she gave me was that she wouldn't appreciate being acknowledged, not that I would have done anyway because I was with me ma...whatever happened to "what happens in a club stays in a club?"

Pub next to the club where 90%+ customers had just come out of same club - was not B&Q

"

But some people aren't out about being swingers, let alone being bi. Some people are positively ashamed of their extra curricular pursuits. A pub whether next to a club or not is the public domain. Discretion is expected for anyone but clearly not delivered...no wonder some people aren't keen about attending clubs if people think it's okay to behave in such a way outside of them

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

youve been here 4 weeks and your moaning u cant get a meet !

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By *reenEyedWifeCouple
over a year ago

Market Harborough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"youve been here 4 weeks and your moaning u cant get a meet !"

It means we have to stay here longer and longer,?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh, and *cough*reviewyourprofile*cough* "

Thanks for the hint

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade

brad pitt would find it hard on fab lol not that i like brad pit but stephen yeun wowser

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I wouldn't go with an Asian guy ever again. Why.... because at my age I have seen several white women used and lied too dreadfully by Asian guys.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Being asian myself can relate to the op in what he says but not how he feels.

I wish this type of woa its cuz i am indian is the reason i am not getting meets would stop (never will)

We have no right to question peoples preference for what ever reason. It is what it is. So...20 30 50% will not meet single asian males.. concentrate on the ones that dont mind.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Oh, and *cough*reviewyourprofile*cough*

Thanks for the hint "

I think the whole thread has been a hint. A hint painted on the side of an elephant marching past your office window

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I'm a freakin doctor "

People meet on here for fun and friendship, not to discuss the finer points of the latest NICE guidelines.

Personally I have very little time for the 'meet me I'm a [insert job title here]' messages. If you need to publicise your job to get you a meet, what does that say about what you personally have to offer?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"try targeting people who are only interested in meeting Asian people....simples "

What?!! Look for people interested in you opposed to those that aren't?!!

Don't be ridiculous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a bit of a doctor fetish - but it only extends to those with photos on their profiles who can spell.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I have a bit of a doctor fetish - but it only extends to those with photos on their profiles who can spell. "

Are you suggesting he's a tractor?

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

The 2 guys were sucking on his cock 30 mins beforehand, then they looked at him like shite on a shoe , not even a nod and a wink and a smile

I once had someone squirt so much in my face she took all my make up off. But when I saw her in homebase the next day with her daughter, the cue she gave me was that she wouldn't appreciate being acknowledged, not that I would have done anyway because I was with me ma...whatever happened to "what happens in a club stays in a club?"

Pub next to the club where 90%+ customers had just come out of same club - was not B&Q

But some people aren't out about being swingers, let alone being bi. Some people are positively ashamed of their extra curricular pursuits. A pub whether next to a club or not is the public domain. Discretion is expected for anyone but clearly not delivered...no wonder some people aren't keen about attending clubs if people think it's okay to behave in such a way outside of them"

I agree that once you're away from the club discretion must be used. I didn't find the story amusing and would have challenged my friend for outing the other guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't go with an Asian guy ever again. Why.... because at my age I have seen several white women used and lied too dreadfully by Asian guys."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a bit of a doctor fetish - but it only extends to those with photos on their profiles who can spell. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't go with an Asian guy ever again. Why.... because at my age I have seen several white women used and lied too dreadfully by Asian guys."

I'm just going to at this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

Discretion means nothing to you then. I find that behaviour pathetic.

The 2 guys were sucking on his cock 30 mins beforehand, then they looked at him like shite on a shoe , not even a nod and a wink and a smile

I once had someone squirt so much in my face she took all my make up off. But when I saw her in homebase the next day with her daughter, the cue she gave me was that she wouldn't appreciate being acknowledged, not that I would have done anyway because I was with me ma...whatever happened to "what happens in a club stays in a club?"

Pub next to the club where 90%+ customers had just come out of same club - was not B&Q

But some people aren't out about being swingers, let alone being bi. Some people are positively ashamed of their extra curricular pursuits. A pub whether next to a club or not is the public domain. Discretion is expected for anyone but clearly not delivered...no wonder some people aren't keen about attending clubs if people think it's okay to behave in such a way outside of them

I agree that once you're away from the club discretion must be used. I didn't find the story amusing and would have challenged my friend for outing the other guys. "

If guys had just waved, winked, or nodded, or said hi and turned away - no issue, or just said nothing all would have been fine

They choose to looked disgusted

You would have had to have been there

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I wouldn't go with an Asian guy ever again. Why.... because at my age I have seen several white women used and lied too dreadfully by Asian guys."

Oh yes...like no white or black guy has ever lied to a woman etc etc...WTAF!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physician heal thyself!!

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston


"I wouldn't go with an Asian guy ever again. Why.... because at my age I have seen several white women used and lied too dreadfully by Asian guys.

Oh yes...like no white or black guy has ever lied to a woman etc etc...WTAF!!"

the problem when a blanket approach is applied here

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Unfortunately due their behaviour in clubs, it is very doubtful we would ever have an Asian, eastern European or traveller join us...

Yes a few have spoilt it for the rest...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey everyone, thanks for all he positive advice, i really appreciate it. I have began to update my profile, bare with on on the public pictures . Can you guys please take a look and let me know what you think. Thank you.

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By *r OreoMan
over a year ago

Croydon

Asian guy here... and met my partner of 5 yrs on here, a partner who actually had 'no asians' on her profile!

Its all about the person in the end, not their skin colour.

We must be doing something right though as 5 yrs later were still rather happy with each other, and have been lucky enough to have other girls come and join us!

Now meeting single girls when your a couple... thats a proper challenge (esp when one of u is asian )

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Asian guy here... and met my partner of 5 yrs on here, a partner who actually had 'no asians' on her profile!

"

like many have said it is just a preference and preference's can change. Just because someone has it on their profile doesn't mean anything sinister. It's best to always keep an open mind and not take rejection so badly and read some thing into it that might not be there.

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By *rown ThunderMan
over a year ago

newport


"Wow "a freaking Doctor" what an incredibly racist thing to say. You're Asian but a Dr so that must be better than Asians who aren't?

I work with lots of Asian Dr's and yep, your 'handwriting' and attitude fits the stereotype perfectly, one reason I'm not generally attracted to Asians"

Nobody gives a fuck. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey everyone, thanks for all he positive advice, i really appreciate it. I have began to update my profile, bare with on on the public pictures . Can you guys please take a look and let me know what you think. Thank you."

Just had a look and if we were looking for straight guys there are still a few things in your profile that put us so we wouldnt reply.

Firstly you make a big thing about being a doctor/professional but then put the ridiculous disclaimer at the end of your profile which mist intelligent people recognise as a waste of time.

Mentioning you are not GAY or BI in capitals makes it look like you think it is something to be ashamed off. If its in there purely because men message you, then just block them. If you want to get across you are straight, just say you are straight rather than using negatives.

Then the bit where you say you can prove you have no STI's, how can you prove it? Any paperwork or texts of lab results simply prove you were STI free at time of testing, you could have gone straight from the tests and fucked some disease ridden person bareback for all we know, so stating that you can prove it isnt entirely accurate. Mention you have regular testing and it's clear is ok, but there is no definitive proof.

You mention you always reply and expect the same indicationg anyone who doesnt reply is not polite, well we all have different opinions on this on here, but the faq do state it isn'tt rude to nit reply and to take it as an indication of no interest.

Finally no public pics. Its so tedious asking guys who message for pics all the time, so much so we don't bother any more, no pics = no interest for us.

One, maybe two of the above we could ignore if the rest of the profile and pics appealed but when there's too many things that jump out at us we'd just pass you by.

This is just our opinion and you may think we are being picky, but there are many well written profiles on here that don't have statements that make us go grrrrr, so guess which we'd go for!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, just seen the typos in my post above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quote from profile:

Yes im a british born asian guy, if im not your cup of tea then no problem

Clearly it is a problem as you started this thread with some pretty much breathtakingly arrogant statement!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hey everyone, thanks for all he positive advice, i really appreciate it. I have began to update my profile, bare with on on the public pictures . Can you guys please take a look and let me know what you think. Thank you.

Just had a look and if we were looking for straight guys there are still a few things in your profile that put us so we wouldnt reply.

Firstly you make a big thing about being a doctor/professional but then put the ridiculous disclaimer at the end of your profile which mist intelligent people recognise as a waste of time.

Mentioning you are not GAY or BI in capitals makes it look like you think it is something to be ashamed off. If its in there purely because men message you, then just block them. If you want to get across you are straight, just say you are straight rather than using negatives.

Then the bit where you say you can prove you have no STI's, how can you prove it? Any paperwork or texts of lab results simply prove you were STI free at time of testing, you could have gone straight from the tests and fucked some disease ridden person bareback for all we know, so stating that you can prove it isnt entirely accurate. Mention you have regular testing and it's clear is ok, but there is no definitive proof.

You mention you always reply and expect the same indicationg anyone who doesnt reply is not polite, well we all have different opinions on this on here, but the faq do state it isn'tt rude to nit reply and to take it as an indication of no interest.

Finally no public pics. Its so tedious asking guys who message for pics all the time, so much so we don't bother any more, no pics = no interest for us.

One, maybe two of the above we could ignore if the rest of the profile and pics appealed but when there's too many things that jump out at us we'd just pass you by.

This is just our opinion and you may think we are being picky, but there are many well written profiles on here that don't have statements that make us go grrrrr, so guess which we'd go for!!

Thanks for the reply, i'll take it on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "

It's not a dating site so who cares here if your a Doctor it's all about who fancies who.Four weeks is no time at all.If a survey was done on here there would be hundreds of men in the same position as you,

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Physician heal thyself!! "

That's very witty

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

What the hell has being a doctor got to do with anything ? If you a nice guy,your a nice guy.if your a fuckwit you a fuckwit. Saying " I'm a freaking doctor" just smacks of illiteism. But while I've got your attention I have been getting this odd pain in my arse ......

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By *yeball91Man
over a year ago

southampton

Maybe put some pics up, then people can see what's on offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What the hell has being a doctor got to do with anything ? If you a nice guy,your a nice guy.if your a fuckwit you a fuckwit. Saying " I'm a freaking doctor" just smacks of illiteism. But while I've got your attention I have been getting this odd pain in my arse ...... "

Depending on whether this is Mr or Mrs, I may have a solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Four weeks to wait is nothing , try being one of your patients on the NHS waiting for a procedure doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Four weeks to wait is nothing , try being one of your patients on the NHS waiting for a procedure doing"

brilliant!

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

HAHAHAHA by the sounds of it they're just closet swingers or bisexuals. It's actually a lot harder to get Asians to be as self-accepting of their sexuality and I suspect the two Asians were just playing on holiday because they felt that they could get away with it in a country where nobody would know them.

Still, they could have been polite at least to acknowledge you lot, but I can understand the mental dissonance that they've displayed after all the hot and heavy stuff is done. "

"It's actually a lot harder for Asians to be as self accepting of their sexuality", !!!!! Is it?, all of them?, seems a bit .... Stereotypical!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This went well for the OP then lol

Not read every reply, be here for ever lol

Question for MEN and Bi Women - conversely, would you meet/fuck/have sex with a Asian Women ???

Just thought id throw that out there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This went well for the OP then lol

Not read every reply, be here for ever lol

Question for MEN and Bi Women - conversely, would you meet/fuck/have sex with a Asian Women ???

Just thought id throw that out there lol

"

I would most certainly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah dude don't worry so much. I promise it's not a racial thing as almost everyone on this site would tear anyone suspected of racism to pieces so maybe it's just a few needed tweeks or just patience you need but don't take it to heart and crack on sexy butt

Unfortunately I have noticed some overt racism on the forums before.

There's little point in pretending it doesn't exist. There are just as many bigots on here as anywhere else. Present company excepted of course. "

How is racism defined exactly ?? By someone saying there not into Asian men ?? Iv been called homophobic before now in the forums because I dared to say we wasn't into bi guys and TVs . Sorry but we like what we like and don't like what we don't like and if that makes us racist or homophobic so be it . The bloody worlds gone mad with it nowadays.

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


"What the hell has being a doctor got to do with anything ? If you a nice guy,your a nice guy.if your a fuckwit you a fuckwit. Saying " I'm a freaking doctor" just smacks of illiteism. But while I've got your attention I have been getting this odd pain in my arse ...... "
i'm a terrible hypochondriac you being a doctor may come in handy

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By *ampara2Woman
over a year ago

biggleswade


" Four weeks to wait is nothing , try being one of your patients on the NHS waiting for a procedure doing"
hahaha awesome answer

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Dear OP, the question to ask yourself: do you believe your being Asian or/and a doctor should somehow increase your chances?

If your answer is yes then I suspect (no proof of this) that this is where you could be going wrong.

Only thing you can do is sell your self with 2 things:

Qualities you can control (bring asian is not one)

Qualities you can offer from a swinging perspective (bring a doctor isn't one either)

Lol. The challenge is yours.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


" Four weeks to wait is nothing , try being one of your patients on the NHS waiting for a procedure doing"

To the powers that be, I nominate this reply of the year!!!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Ok, sod it. I'll take the bait since no one will.

Oo, so you proposition someone, and they have the Gaul to reply "Sorry, not into Asians".

Now what? What's your next move? Report them to admin? Report to EU court if human rights? Or move in and find someone who does want you, for being Asian or otherwise.

My point: I talk to people who don't want black guys on a daily basis. Do I cry about it? No. Why? Cause it's their choice who they play with, not mine or anyone elses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could be being denied for many other reasons....have people specifically said it is because you are Asian?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I don't think you've thought this through, my guess is you thought you would get sympathy sex, but it's gone pear shaped and you might just get denied by a whole lot more women now

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I wouldn't go with an Asian guy ever again. Why.... because at my age I have seen several white women used and lied too dreadfully by Asian guys.

Oh yes...like no white or black guy has ever lied to a woman etc etc...WTAF!!"

You have no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, sod it. I'll take the bait since no one will.

Oo, so you proposition someone, and they have the Gaul to reply "Sorry, not into Asians".

Now what? What's your next move? Report them to admin? Report to EU court if human rights? Or move in and find someone who does want you, for being Asian or otherwise.

My point: I talk to people who don't want black guys on a daily basis. Do I cry about it? No. Why? Cause it's their choice who they play with, not mine or anyone elses "

well said Sir. Nothing more off putting than someone moaning about lack of meetings and blaming others for racism.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The fact of the matter is that someone might have thought 'yum yum, an Asian' but then read on and thought 'oh for fucks sake, a bleeding saw-bones' and boom! Blocked!

The point being......neither being a doctor (of philosophy?) nor an Asian need be relevant to whether or not someone gets a meet. Or not. Just don't mention the EU!!

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

'Asian' is such a wide field.

I've worked with gurkhas, Sikhs, Hindus, Muslims, chinese and Japanese people.

Some, like the OP, were "British born" Each were individuals, but obviously have been shaped by their culture and upbringing.

Perhaps he should elaborate on his background, if it's not too much of an identifying thing.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple
over a year ago

Surrey


"Funnily enough as an Asian myself (from Singapore originally) I don't really mind being rejected "because I'm Asian" anymore as I spend more time here on Fab. After all, it's not that different from others here who say "no blacks/no whites/no(add whatever criteria)".

What I do mind though, and it is something I've personally experienced before, is people using race as a stereotype against others here on Fab. Like saying "I won't meet Asians because their cocks are usually small". BELIEVE ME, I've heard such words uttered before, and to me I think this is what really grinds our gear as Asians on Fab. Asian men have to deal so much with so many physical stereotypings, and Asian women conversely face the same issue too (Except for them they're desired because apparently the stereotyping is Asian women = submissive, petite, kinky in bed).

I don't mind you rejecting me because my skin colour's not for you, or my region's not for you. But I'm definitely not ok for you to make assumptions about my character or my physicality simply because you're alright with my race, skin colour or nationality.

What do you guys think? "

Make a lot of sense... Plus I can vouch for my ex having a rather large penis and being half Asian. Plus he was AMAZING in bed... Phew ! Hot!

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By *aramelMINXWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Bored of this post lol

People have different preferences it's part of life just accept n move on

I'm asian never fucked or even attracted to asian guys...

Is what it is...

Yawn

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Thanks for removing those posts Mods.

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Bored of this post lol

People have different preferences it's part of life just accept n move on

I'm asian never fucked or even attracted to asian guys...

Is what it is...

Yawn"

Wow, gorgeous boobs!

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"Bored of this post lol

People have different preferences it's part of life just accept n move on

I'm asian never fucked or even attracted to asian guys...

Is what it is...

Yawn"
let's be honest and don't kid yourself either if you truly did find these kind off posts boring you would never comment in these kind off threads yet I've seen you in these kind off threads countless times before saying and coming out with the same things and hiding behind the "oh I'm asian too" card. Let's be honest there are probably plenty off other kinds off people you don't see yet you always seem to get a kick out off showing you're disdain against asian guys In these kind off threads I wonder why that is?I personally don't care if you never find asian guys attractive at the end off the day each their own but it Seems to me it's more then just a preference with you it's more like a grudge...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "

I would never meet an Asian doctor

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"interested in Asian men?

I'm a very polite and well presented asian man, I'm a freakin doctor lol, a very naughty and exciting if i say so myself

I have sent so many messages to people but always get the same response, "you're a very good looking guy but not my/our type. Why? Because you're Asian"

Is anyone on this site interested in Asian guys or I'm i just dreaming right now. "
youve been on here 4 weeks..have you been to a social or a club? and add some more pics, no one can see you..everyone has preferences and you need to, not moan, get on the forums and chat, not post up threads complaining and keep positive and friendly...my suggestions x much love and ill take a look when youve got something i can look at

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By *rSuave88Man
over a year ago

Mirfield


"Bored of this post lol

People have different preferences it's part of life just accept n move on

I'm asian never fucked or even attracted to asian guys...

Is what it is...

Yawn let's be honest and don't kid yourself either if you truly did find these kind off posts boring you would never comment in these kind off threads yet I've seen you in these kind off threads countless times before saying and coming out with the same things and hiding behind the "oh I'm asian too" card. Let's be honest there are probably plenty off other kinds off people you don't see yet you always seem to get a kick out off showing you're disdain against asian guys In these kind off threads I wonder why that is?I personally don't care if you never find asian guys attractive at the end off the day each their own but it Seems to me it's more then just a preference with you it's more like a grudge..."

Well said, its all i ever see her saying around these forums. She deffo has a chip on her shoulder. Shes getting boring herself

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport


"

Well said, its all i ever see her saying around these forums. She deffo has a chip on her shoulder. Shes getting boring herself "

I know right some people need to just get over themselves . if you ask me as well in response to the OP's question the best way to approach this site is not to expect anything or cold message countless people..

stick to the forums/chatrooms or go socials/clubs and behave yourself..

As to being an Asian Guy part and the whole rejection thing I will weigh in and show my own prospective/look on it:

when you're dealing with people attraction wise or intimately you have to remember everyone is different in what they want or desire or look for in their mindset it can be one thing or the other not necessarily just because you're Asian there are other reasons too..

the reason why a lot of Asian men get a bad press is usually down to peoples views against them in their behaviour/attitudes or ways in conducting themselves now so far in real life and on fab so far what I have learned is the reason why people don't always go for them is the following reasons:

attitude, behaviour, experiences in clubs, cultural values, respect for women etc or something as simple as working along side them or something happened to their friends/family member or even for e.g. they probably just never really found them attractive or dated etc which is explainable..

hell could even be political with some as to how it can be seen as being more negative then positives coming in you know?

...I will say this it will be frustrating at times being seen as those things but it will be very bitter sweet in a sense you will come across a fair few beautiful women/couples who will show interest but at the same time you will be fighting off stereotypes etc..

everyone has role to play my friend in each society or group, we seem to have been selected by SOME people as being the villains. is it the most desirable or pleasant? nope but it's sort off love/hate in a sense we can surprise people in a good way too with those we meet..

reputation wise is down the gutter but we can only make a difference ourselves as individuals, big picture wise it's always going to be not the best but we make do with what we can and hope for the best.

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

p.s. it can also be psychological as well some peoples wants or desires if they associate a certain group with negatives due to experience or dealing with individuals it can be a put off for good for some..

negativity breeds negativity, don't let them win keep on fighting em off and have good experiences with the individuals off here you encounter in real life..

try not to always focus on things through a race factor look at other things too. be happy with what you are as an Asian Man, be bold and proud of you're identity but remember to be a gentleman most off all with people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In rios a few weeks ago, a group of us, white / Asian / TV / mixed all had some fun in the private room, everyone playing with everyone, all having a great time.

Fast forward, we are heading home and pop into nearby pub to wait on a uber, we see the TV at the bar (now dressed as a man), big beaming smile, welcomes us, we get the drinks in and have a giggle

Now into the pub comes 2 of the Asians we were all playing with also, they completely blank us to the point of rudeness, this did amuse us

So the big TV heads up to the bar and offers them a drink, they look horrified and hope the ground swollows them up they decline with a wave of the hand and pretend they don't know him

He then says in a very loud voice that he looks forward to them fucking him again the next time they are in rios

Lol - swift exit

"

That's awful.

If I went in a club and played with numerous people and the next day I bumped into them, I wouldn't want the whole pub to know who's cock I sucked the night before.

Discretion is a must

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Whats a freaking docter ....??

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol

If i can be frank, your profile is a little on the judgmental side, especially for a doctor. "Bedside manner" and all that. I dont think describing people as "bums" "looking for a shag" is putting you in the best of lights. Makes you look like you have a superiority complex and sounds a bit snobby and elitist....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


" Four weeks to wait is nothing , try being one of your patients on the NHS waiting for a procedure doing"

...in seven years I think this is the funniest response I've read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are people, they may not like your colour, hair, body, attitude.... etc...

...complaining about people having and exercising choice, is meh.... sounds a bit controlling

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By *izzlemoonMan
over a year ago

Bath

What people desire is a unique as them. Don't sweat those who aren't interest and enjoy those who are. Also the lack of interest isn't asian specific. I think ladies can be very select because of all the messages so you may not always come out on top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder who is telling fibs!

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By *izzlemoonMan
over a year ago

Bath

Also i read a few more posts and aggree somewhat. You seem rather focused on your achivements but that is egotistical and doesn't make the man. 1, you're not that special no one is and 2, swinging is a two way street. develop a personality and then i'm sure it we be attractive because all the other things you seem to care about are inconsciquencal really.

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By *rfeelgoodMan
over a year ago

london

Lol oh doc I bet you wished you never open your mouth now lol

If ur a good looking doctor you may stand a chance but if your a butters one I'd get different job mate

Being 5.8 I see loads of 6 to 7 foot only but you got know how to adapt getting so I'm getting some prince shoes, look how many hot women that dude fucked and was shorter than me lol women like what they like and you will never change that doctor or not

Asian or not

Btw could tell me what I can do about my bend to the left is it normal hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who dug this up again ??

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far

User no longer on site lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"User no longer on site lol "

You bumped a month dead thread for that?

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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago

far


"User no longer on site lol

You bumped a month dead thread for that?"
never said bump did i lol just looking at my old posts and for where as he gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had really bad luck when it comes to Asian men, in my experience they have all been really crap in bed (8 for 8 so far) although its awful to say after a while it does become tedious and you get to the point you automatically think why bother it'll be shit, but if I got on with the guy I wouldn't mind seeing if he can break me run of bad luck in that area.

I wouldn't entertain a message from you though OP, because your profile does appeal to me, and as you've not asked for it to be critiqued I'm afraid I can't tell you why "

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"User no longer on site lol "

Think he left and when he tried to rejoin he was denied because he's Asian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The older ones all get a bad deal. I'm not Asian so badly for now.

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