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Social meets - do they float your boat?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is anyone like myself a fan of just meeting socially? I like to post social meets on when I am away if I am free as I think it's great to have a chat and coffee/meal with someone new when travelling away! Sometimes they can lead to more but I'm often not fussed!

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Always prefer a social... what happens afterwards if anything happens.. or not does not bother me

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I enjoy social meets, bit generally as a prelude to something more.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We run a purely social group in fenland, it's great fun! Really good way to meet up and chat and make new connections. It leads to more on some occasions once we have left the building but it's a great group of people just to chat to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love socials whether it leads to more or not

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By *ames WhyteMan
over a year ago

Near Manchester Airport

Would love to facilitate this in South Manchester if anyone is interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials are always good for stimulating the mind in preparation for what may follow and if nothing follows, we use the built up sexual tension as soon as we get home and have one hell of a "session"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love socials, and repeat socials, some lead to fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fun social is always a nice way to start something even funner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes and no

if the opportunity is there on the social meet, I see no point dillydallying around.

I've met socially in my house,or at someone elses..sometime overnite/sleeping together and no sex(its been rare mind).

never any pressures to play..but having a good laugh is the main aim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i don't think i like them, was thinking about them today.

i'd prefer to meet guys for sex but have elements of socialising in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy a social .... Always interesting & sometimes lead to lots of fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i don't think i like them, was thinking about them today.

i'd prefer to meet guys for sex but have elements of socialising in them."

thats what I mean, sit, chat have a laugh..then if all happy shag..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love social meets best way to go for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i don't think i like them, was thinking about them today.

i'd prefer to meet guys for sex but have elements of socialising in them.

thats what I mean, sit, chat have a laugh..then if all happy shag.."

yeah. these have been my best meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I enjoy them always good to meet like minded people and sometimes there is more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have time for social only meets generally, I'd rather meet to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my socials turn into playtime anyway! !!!....I'm such a slapper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like meeting new people so social meets suit me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my meats are just social meets, coffee and a great chat with like-minded people. I love it, I've also offered coffee meets to people via the forum to get them verified, great way for them to get known as well, and if unverified or unsure a great way to introduce them to the world of swinging through chat

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like socials I always have one with the ulterior motive of deciding whether I want to meet up again for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like socials. Can have a drink, chat and a laugh. Then decide if in the future you all fancy playing.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not into socials as much and that goes outside of fab too, but it depends on who you meet and I have had few great socials, but the majority is fuck dates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a social meet or 3

Builds tension and a desire to fuck the brains out of each other

Kissing and touching before actually having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love a social meet or 3

Builds tension and a desire to fuck the brains out of each other

Kissing and touching before actually having sex"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a good social, it's all about the suspense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The sexual tension that can be built up in a social meet can be intense. Sitting there in a pub enjoying a relaxing glass of wine with my husband and potential lover. The new man flirting with me in front of my husband, and people in the pub wondering what's going on, as the man plays with my mind making me more and more horny. The best sex, whether that night, or at a later date, is always when there has been a build up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we would be. Can't even get that. We wanted to make some friends.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not me, I have real trouble finding evenings for socials, I would rather see my normal friends or dance or meet or swim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love a social meet or 3

Builds tension and a desire to fuck the brains out of each other

Kissing and touching before actually having sex

This "

The mind games you can play with each other, wondering who's going to make the first move etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy a social meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say 70% of people I have met are from a social first, whether a coffee or drink in a pub. Some prefer to socialise first prior to any fun taking place. I have had a couple of socials with a view to playing straight after if everyone is happy and had socials that have led to play at a different time. I have also had several play meets without a social. I can't actually think of a social that hasn't progressed to playing at some point.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I always have a social meet to decide whether I want to meet again for sex.

I have enough friends to go coffee with, plus I like my own company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always prefer to meet socially first and if things happen it's a bonus the sexual tension and flirting is amazing and leads to great sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no way we will ever even entertain a social .

We both work in retail so meet enough people through work to want to spend time socialising on here .

We are happy to chat and have a coffee before playing , but when people say they insist on no play on the first meet - we simply say no thanks .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely no way we will ever even entertain a social .

We both work in retail so meet enough people through work to want to spend time socialising on here .

We are happy to chat and have a coffee before playing , but when people say they insist on no play on the first meet - we simply say no thanks .

"

I'd love to see your faces if you met a couple who suggested a soft swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a social can be like foreplay .. the build up can be as much fun as the event itself .. teasing .. wanting ..I think it helps build the sexual tension

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By *ay BrowerMan
over a year ago

Oldham

I love socials. They inevitably lead to something a bit more exciting and the flirting always makes things more interesting and acts as a good build up to naughty fun

It also gives people the chance to bail if there's no connection / attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely no way we will ever even entertain a social .

We both work in retail so meet enough people through work to want to spend time socialising on here .

We are happy to chat and have a coffee before playing , but when people say they insist on no play on the first meet - we simply say no thanks .

I'd love to see your faces if you met a couple who suggested a soft swap "

You know what ? We have played soft swap more than full swap believe it or not !

It can be way more erotic and passionate , we love soft swap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what's not to like about coffee, cake and a nattter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what's not to like about coffee, cake and a nattter? "

There's nothing not to like , we do that at morning break , lunch and afternoon break 5 days a week .

But when we go out in the evening we like sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're pretty new to this, but have decided following our first few meets that meeting socially only the first time removes the pressure on everyone and establishes chemistry, making future meets more exciting. That being said we wouldn't rule out going with the flow if the occasion is right. In terms of meeting deliberately just to be social we definitely do and will do so - if you make 'friends' on here they can become real friends who we genuinely want to spend time with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what's not to like about coffee, cake and a nattter?

There's nothing not to like , we do that at morning break , lunch and afternoon break 5 days a week .

But when we go out in the evening we like sex "

Yep i agree. It takes long enough for me to find free time as it is. If i met for a social first we may not get another opportunity to meet again for another few months. How frustrating would that be?!

I guess if i had more time, no family etc then i would probably do things differently. I also have a problem with going for a drink/meal etc in that it just feels a bit date like and I'm really not here for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big fan of socials - love meeting new friends, enjoy flirting and the anticipation on possible fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We insist on meeting socially prior to agreeing to play but happy to play on first meet if all happy and up for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely no way we will ever even entertain a social .

We both work in retail so meet enough people through work to want to spend time socialising on here .

We are happy to chat and have a coffee before playing , but when people say they insist on no play on the first meet - we simply say no thanks .

I'd love to see your faces if you met a couple who suggested a soft swap

You know what ? We have played soft swap more than full swap believe it or not !

It can be way more erotic and passionate , we love soft swap "

Most of our socials end up being glorified soft swaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I insist on one too.

Sometimes the spark in banter just doesn't carry over to real life.

Pictures can be a little deceiving too.

I hate the expectation that you are going to play because you've agreed to meet, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love socials, that's why we organise them, great no pressure way to meet people

P and T x

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By *man91Man
over a year ago

Manchester

All my meets from here have been through socials, so I indeed do love a good social meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a social can be like foreplay .. the build up can be as much fun as the event itself .. teasing .. wanting ..I think it helps build the sexual tension "

Exactly

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex


"I insist on one too.

Sometimes the spark in banter just doesn't carry over to real life.

Pictures can be a little deceiving too.

I hate the expectation that you are going to play because you've agreed to meet, etc."

A social helps me to feel comfortable also

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Time is our limiting factor. Sometimes if we do a purely social meet and then decide to play it can take ages to find another date.

However we do love the social aspect of the scene so of we do have time then, sure we love a good social. Sometimes we'll do a social prior to an arranged club meet too. We've met some great people playing that way.

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By *ustCurious9966Man
over a year ago

cambridge


"Most of my meats are just social meets, coffee and a great chat with like-minded people. I love it, I've also offered coffee meets to people via the forum to get them verified, great way for them to get known as well, and if unverified or unsure a great way to introduce them to the world of swinging through chat "

I love your approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting socially leaves all options open. If there's chemistry then it naturally leads to fun (pretty quickly! After one drink, I'd know) but if I don't feel comfortable, it allows for pleasant conversation and polite exit.

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By *ustCurious9966Man
over a year ago

cambridge

Fascinating thread for someone new to swinging but not to dating. I love the idea that a social is part of the foreplay. I've always definitely had to click with my date -what I've always called the kissability factor- a mental and physical attraction. If you keep the outcome open-ended rather than predetermined it's much more of a turn-on to me -means rather than 'just' sex that there's an attraction both ways. I wondered how it might be different in swinging world and this post suggests that as ever it's down to personal preferences but people are more open about them. I guess I just need more dates... to get my hand in...so to speak!

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By *redAndWilma69Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"what's not to like about coffee, cake and a nattter?

There's nothing not to like , we do that at morning break , lunch and afternoon break 5 days a week .

But when we go out in the evening we like sex

Yep i agree. It takes long enough for me to find free time as it is. If i met for a social first we may not get another opportunity to meet again for another few months. How frustrating would that be?!

I guess if i had more time, no family etc then i would probably do things differently. I also have a problem with going for a drink/meal etc in that it just feels a bit date like and I'm really not here for that "

Perfectly sums up our ethos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on so many things.

I pretty much always have social meets. They vary depending on the circumstance though.

- On my own I tend to get coffee and then meet them seperately for sex if we click.

- With my partner we tend to meet for a social with sex if we all agree afterwards/

- For kink I usually met at a club, for a no pressure social and then potentially play if we had already discussed everything and it was working for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont mind but with time being limited we dont have many as just social - always open to play after we decide yay we all like each other

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I enjoy social meets, bit generally as a prelude to something more....."

I would only meet socially with some body who I would want to take things further with if we got on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like social meets, it allows you to find out a bit about the person and as stated before could be a prelude to something more exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes like social meets. As I like to get to know people before thinking about any hanky panty etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post social meets. Men aren't interested in meeting me socially.

I've had a string of bad meets so I guess I'll have to make them compulsory.

I feel they're not always necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love social meets . If we play, then fantastic, and it's based on some connection. If we don't, then at least we've had a nice time. Win Win!

x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We enjoy social meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We concur, socials are big reason plus for us

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I love meeting people, love sex as well tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a social can be like foreplay .. the build up can be as much fun as the event itself .. teasing .. wanting ..I think it helps build the sexual tension "

I have been thinking about the 'socials' topic over and over again in last few weeks. Really great opinions and experiences from both sides in this thread.

I prefer play meets at clubs or private. Also enjoy attending organised group socials because they are always a fun night out.

I have never been keen on one on one socials. If you meet a person and things don't go any further that is not a problem. But if you want to play, you can't! Due to time restraints, location etc imagine then everytime you login you chat to that person knowing you want to meet again, but your schedules don't match! That is torture and I cannot be dealing with that kind of frustration... noooooo way

However it is really important for me to build the sexual tension and have chemistry. This always leads to multi orgasmic experiences. Communication and connection is key, everything just feels right! If anyone has had this type of meet then you know anything less is not going to satisfy your needs

Therefore...

I am going to try a one on one social to see how it goes! OMG have I been converted?

Well... I get bored very easily, meeting just for a chit chat is not really ideal. So there is a catch to this... I will be putting my cheeky personality and twist into arranging this meet

There will be no expectations, just go with the flow. Now I need to find a suitable single lady to pick on... I mean meet for a social!

Wish me luck! Haha this will be interesting

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We're not really interested in social meets unless it's a large organised one where we can network a little. We enjoy the nervous energy of meeting face to face for the first time and getting down to play. Also we tend to have indepth message exchanges and talk socially at the meet, it definitely works for us this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

each to their own - personally we can't abide them - and won't attend them - we enjoy spontaneous sex if that makes sense - much more thrilling for us personally.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"each to their own - personally we can't abide them - and won't attend them - we enjoy spontaneous sex if that makes sense - much more thrilling for us personally."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a social can be like foreplay .. the build up can be as much fun as the event itself .. teasing .. wanting ..I think it helps build the sexual tension

I have been thinking about the 'socials' topic over and over again in last few weeks. Really great opinions and experiences from both sides in this thread.

I prefer play meets at clubs or private. Also enjoy attending organised group socials because they are always a fun night out.

I have never been keen on one on one socials. If you meet a person and things don't go any further that is not a problem. But if you want to play, you can't! Due to time restraints, location etc imagine then everytime you login you chat to that person knowing you want to meet again, but your schedules don't match! That is torture and I cannot be dealing with that kind of frustration... noooooo way

However it is really important for me to build the sexual tension and have chemistry. This always leads to multi orgasmic experiences. Communication and connection is key, everything just feels right! If anyone has had this type of meet then you know anything less is not going to satisfy your needs

Therefore...

I am going to try a one on one social to see how it goes! OMG have I been converted?

Well... I get bored very easily, meeting just for a chit chat is not really ideal. So there is a catch to this... I will be putting my cheeky personality and twist into arranging this meet

There will be no expectations, just go with the flow. Now I need to find a suitable single lady to pick on... I mean meet for a social!

Wish me luck! Haha this will be interesting "

Sometimes it's good to go outside of your comfort zone, you never know what it may lead too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on so many things.

I pretty much always have social meets. They vary depending on the circumstance though.

- On my own I tend to get coffee and then meet them seperately for sex if we click.

- With my partner we tend to meet for a social with sex if we all agree afterwards/

- For kink I usually met at a club, for a no pressure social and then potentially play if we had already discussed everything and it was working for us."

I have a very similar approach!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffo social first iron's out all of the pitfalls before we commit to the raunchy stuff. It's always worked for us. Even met a group of people in a restaurant who had invited us to a party Because that's how the host liked to do things. Nice touch!

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

Yes socials are a good way of finding out if we are compatable or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is anyone like myself a fan of just meeting socially? I like to post social meets on when I am away if I am free as I think it's great to have a chat and coffee/meal with someone new when travelling away! Sometimes they can lead to more but I'm often not fussed!

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I don't do social meets

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By *ecretgamesMan
over a year ago

the moon

I have a fetish for coffee!!! Socials are amazing, coffee enjoyed in the company of someone sexy where both flirting, chatting and if a connection .....

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"each to their own - personally we can't abide them - and won't attend them - we enjoy spontaneous sex if that makes sense - much more thrilling for us personally."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy socials, although i get more through ab unrelated fishing site than i do from here! Im always open to offers though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs: I love a good social, great way to see if you wanna take things further whether it's another night or the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My social life and my sex life are two quite separate things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love a social meet its nice to have a drink and some laughs

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By *rbusyhandsMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I did consider advertising for a social meet the other week when no one would come to see Batman vs Superman with me...

(Ended up going with family, quite enjoyed the movie)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am organising a social on the 20th May at Eurekas if anyone is interested xx message me

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