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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Here to find singles and couples. I have put pictures up and I send detailed typed messages to people but rarely get a response. Am I a minger or do I need a different approach?

Would really like some feedback as I am looking to meet with genuine types.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here to find singles and couples. I have put pictures up and I send detailed typed messages to people but rarely get a response. Am I a minger or do I need a different approach?

Would really like some feedback as I am looking to meet with genuine types. "

id say a different approach...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here to find singles and couples. I have put pictures up and I send detailed typed messages to people but rarely get a response. Am I a minger or do I need a different approach?

Would really like some feedback as I am looking to meet with genuine types. "
dont take it personally..most of us struggle to get contact on here I am finding. Have tried to be nice sincere witty abrupt dirty funny..just depends on how the recipient is feeling I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been on here Two weeks and are already verified! What more do you want man?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When most people receive messages they look at the profile. So you need to have a decent profile and pics available publically. If not then people won't reply regardless of the message content. I won't answer messages from people with no profile picture for example

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do I have a profile pic showing. I have set one to show.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What approach should I go for? I send sincere messages, fun messages, in fact all different kinds of messages but no real response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair your profile is very sparse...one para on the fact you're looking for 'genuine' people...and looking for quality over quantity...

I have to be honest...there's not much there to entice people to meet you...what IS genuine btw? Surely everyone on here is a real person? You see what I mean?

Tell people what it is about you that makes you stand out from the hordes of other single guys...

You do get points for having a face pic...but it's the only pic you have...what about a torso or ass shot? Show your meets a little something to excite them...

And lastly, you've been here two weeks...as Shag would say, patience is the key...

Hope it helps...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What approach should I go for? I send sincere messages, fun messages, in fact all different kinds of messages but no real response. "

Folk usually read the profile before deciding whether to respond. Yours is four sentences long.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks. I don't really know what to write on the profile. I am new to this and it is all a bit daunting. I'm just looking to meet nice (friendly) people to experiment with. I'm not here for notches but find it difficult to write much that I feel would attract people. Only other things make me sound arrogant and that is not what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks. I don't really know what to write on the profile. I am new to this and it is all a bit daunting. I'm just looking to meet nice (friendly) people to experiment with. I'm not here for notches but find it difficult to write much that I feel would attract people. Only other things make me sound arrogant and that is not what I want. "

Better to sound arrogant than not to stand out. Read some other profiles of successful men and you may get a better idea. Show your personality. It is no excuse to say you're crap at writing about yourself. Most people are but they make an effort. No one is going to "ask" about you. They will just move on to someone else with a better profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, going to change my profile now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have changed my profile now. fingers are crossed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quick change it back

I would think no one cares if you are a successful business owner who collects watches and don't even mention cars (unless it's about color)

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Have changed my profile now. fingers are crossed. "
it now looks like a dating site profile op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do I have a profile pic showing. I have set one to show. "

you have but you have not asked for profile advice....which is why I didn't give any earlier

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Profile advice please. X

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"You've been on here Two weeks and are already verified! What more do you want man?!"

Show some respect dammit!

He's already said he's "struggling on"

We salute you OP - God bless you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha well put. I am struggling on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha well put. I am struggling on. "

And struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few more pics that are public and say what you would like to do and what you don't want to do.

You could leave out the 'Successful business man' thing and just put professional. No one other than gold diggers are interested in your wealth but more so your personality and if things move further then your body and experience are more important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 wks - 1 meet already so I don't think that can be classed as struggling. Maybe you're expectations are too high ? Put them to zero and you'll feel much more optimistic

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Here to find singles and couples. I have put pictures up and I send detailed typed messages to people but rarely get a response. Am I a minger or do I need a different approach?

Would really like some feedback as I am looking to meet with genuine types. "

Use some of your business skills and intelligence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oohh and don't do get to add a cock pic or several ... One sure way to get interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like your profile! I like to get a witty message something that makes me laugh! They are the most memorable especially when you receive a few!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thanks. I don't really know what to write on the profile. I am new to this and it is all a bit daunting. I'm just looking to meet nice (friendly) people to experiment with. I'm not here for notches but find it difficult to write much that I feel would attract people. Only other things make me sound arrogant and that is not what I want. "

Your profile as it is makes you sound arrogant.

I don't know why I'm commenting. My profile is deliberately shite. Keeps the riff-raff away at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More pics

Broaden search

Socials

Clubs.

Keep struggling on.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

Sounds very much like a dating site profile, I would add more pics, 1 cock pic maximum! I'd maybe speak more about sex too, what your looking for, what yo like to offer sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi op your pro is far better than some but I would personally like proof of the athletic body type.......xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the help. Think I get what I have to do now

Certainly some variety on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And for all the guys on here that told me to try a gay relationship.....I'm ok thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And for all the guys on here that told me to try a gay relationship.....I'm ok thanks "

Go bi then - join us

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By *urvy_bi_honeyWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Although I don't meet single guys, firstly for me your verification - it looks like you joined 2 weeks ago, got verified immediately (how?!) and now you don't display it, which for me rings alarm bells. Show your veri with pride!

You look like a decent guy in your prof pic which is great - a few more pics would be good.

Drop the businessman spiel, and the fact you are in a different hotel each night as that makes it sounds like you are after a different woman every night of the week. (Which is fine if you are but us women like to feel like we are a bit more special than that).

Concentrate on what you look for in a woman, what sort of things you like, what They can expect from you, and use some humour.....

Hope that helps. Honey X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been on here Two weeks and are already verified! What more do you want man?!"
you're right.

Makes you wonder why there keep being single men who joins a Swingers site, but then all they talk about is meet, meet, meet...

Where do these hoards of single men get the idea from that an online profile on Fabswingers "gets them meets"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell us what you expected when you joined - because 2 weeks in and youve met a couple already - by what the single guys say thats pretty good going so far

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