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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It seems that most posts, messages and photo uploads from genuine couples are done by the fella. I think we have around a 70/30 split.

In the real life, ie meets then it is MrsJ that drives the show and that's how I like it. I've pretty much left boundaries and comfort zone levels for her to move as and when she's happy to. At first we decided that we were only going to look for girl on girl with the fellas only touching their own partners. MrsJ has now said she'd be happy to allow touching etc across other partners with couples we both like. This was mentioned after we met two couples last week. She said she wouldn't have minded the two blokes to join in as she really liked them and they were gents.

Who does the real deciding in your playtime?

MrJx

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Decisions jointly made, we have changed boundaries/parameters a lot in just over a year. One of us has an idea, we discuss, agree and then SOMETIMES in a club we'll mutually agree to go further. Either of us can say "no" at any point and the other one will back them up.

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

Mrs always decides what we do and whom we meet we started soft swap and moved on to a mff . We now full swap but only if everyone comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both read messages, updates and winks equally. Photo uploads are normally a joint decision, though we have both uploaded pics as well.

Snarkey replies to the ignorant men who message us are exclusively sent by Mr Rogue.

Any replies, of substance, to people we are interested in are 100% always a collaborative effort, unless we explicitly state in the message that one of us has replied independently of the other.

Forum posts are about 95% Mr Rogue. The sarcastic posts are always Mr. Rogue.

This reply was Mr. Rogue.

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By *andaCouple
over a year ago

co down

We decide together what can happen on a meet. We discuss with the couple beforehand so nobody crosses any boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Decisions jointly made, we have changed boundaries/parameters a lot in just over a year. One of us has an idea, we discuss, agree and then SOMETIMES in a club we'll mutually agree to go further. Either of us can say "no" at any point and the other one will back them up."

Yes. We both would always agree the "no" scenario.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr isn't all that sociable so mrs does most of the chatting, until we are face to face and he is comfortable then he's more a watch kinda guy. When it comes down to playing I always get his input before deciding anything though.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

When I was on here as a couple I did most of the messaging and chit chat crap. We talked about anyone I considered a potential meet and he only came on for a wank on cam (turns out he was a total wanker too!!)

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

I, MrH do most of the updates and messages and updates. MrsH reads them at the end of the day. I arrange social meets and then MrsH decides after that if there will be any playing. Same at clubs, MrsH decides who she wants to play with. As I am only a voyuer then that is the only way it works really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both decide. I tend to have more control over the profile, but Marc and I handle the inbox jointly. As for meeting people, it is all decided jointly. He is a bit more pro active about finding people to message on here and about planning club visits, though. I tend to get wrapped up on the forums.

-Courtney

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Our deciding is fairly equal, we don't see the point in going ahead if the other half is unhappy with the choice. We're like this with other couples too. There needs to be happiness throughout. -M

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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Have to be 100% honest and say that we have both made joint decisions over every aspect of our time in the scene; as a result we have only had a handful of negative experiences in the nine years of living this lifestyle. X

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By *iz_n_RichCouple
over a year ago

Malaga, Spain...

Liz told me to say that we both make the decisions !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both decide equally on here & wd never do anything the other wasn't comfortable with . Mrs fun x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm happy for MrsJ to take the reins ultimately since she's more realistic. If I didn't like the fella then she would still refrain. What I was getting at is I like that she will decide when things move on. Let's face it, I'm a bloke and have a bit of that caveman attitude especially when aroused! Having said that I am a gentle caveman if that suits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For single bi fem meets it's Sabrina who organises and chats . For all other meets it's me .

She knows she can trust me to sort what she likes .

To be honest she gets frustrated with the constant e mail back and forth , whereas I can be more direct .

Works well for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We discuss everything and the Mrs is in the driving seat. If she doesn't want to do something or meet up with anyone we don't. And that's what works for us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm happy for MrsJ to take the reins ultimately since she's more realistic. If I didn't like the fella then she would still refrain. What I was getting at is I like that she will decide when things move on. Let's face it, I'm a bloke and have a bit of that caveman attitude especially when aroused! Having said that I am a gentle caveman if that suits. "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm happy for MrsJ to take the reins ultimately since she's more realistic. If I didn't like the fella then she would still refrain. What I was getting at is I like that she will decide when things move on. Let's face it, I'm a bloke and have a bit of that caveman attitude especially when aroused! Having said that I am a gentle caveman if that suits. "

I (miss) now lead the majority of action on fab because Mr sounds just like your post and it has caused some whining from me in the past ha. Sometimes he will message but majority is me X

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We talk about all fab things but when it comes down to it I the female does most of the chatting.

I decide what happens to me and with whom.

I'm also responsible for 99 percent of form comments.

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