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By *hanWilliams OP   Woman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

In the fetish world there are pretty hard rules about what constitutes "Consent", and what doesn't. I wondered how it applied in the swinging world, especially in clubs.

Let me give you some examples.

1/ You turn around to a bloke and offer to give him a blow job. Have you just consented to him cuming in your mouth without warning you?

2/ You go into a grope box, undress and happily play with cocks coming through the holes. Someone puts their hand in and fingers your bum. Did you consent to this by going in the box?

I'm not after the "don't go to clubs" answer, or the one that says just scream at them after and tell them its not on, that's not what I'm seeking, its about the point of Consent, What and how much are you consenting to by being in that environment in the first place? Do we as players need to be specific, or should some things be discussed before the incident arises?

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By *otblondewife hornyMrCouple
over a year ago

Cambuslang


"In the fetish world there are pretty hard rules about what constitutes "Consent", and what doesn't. I wondered how it applied in the swinging world, especially in clubs.

Let me give you some examples.

1/ You turn around to a bloke and offer to give him a blow job. Have you just consented to him cuming in your mouth without warning you?

2/ You go into a grope box, undress and happily play with cocks coming through the holes. Someone puts their hand in and fingers your bum. Did you consent to this by going in the box?

I'm not after the "don't go to clubs" answer, or the one that says just scream at them after and tell them its not on, that's not what I'm seeking, its about the point of Consent, What and how much are you consenting to by being in that environment in the first place? Do we as players need to be specific, or should some things be discussed before the incident arises?"

If you take a cock in your mouth then if you haven't said not to then you can expect to get some cum.

If you go into a grope box then I'd say it's a fair assumption you'll get groped!!!

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I'd say, if you encourage play... then it's your responsibility to ensure people know your boundaries or that you'd like them to stop something.

Cal

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We would go with the following:

1. The guy getting the BH should say he is about to cum and then ask if it's OK to cum in her mouth

2. Grope box, tend to feel it is the same at the very least ask if it is ok to touch and what you want to do before you actually do it.

Some people will be ok with letting things happen to them, as are we at times but then many won't and you shouldn't assume permission.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Bj!!!!!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

In my "limited" experience of swinging clubs, I would say if a lady takes a cock in her mouth she would tell the guy to come over my tits / face etc if that's what she wanted. If nothing said, then she consents to him coming in her mouth.

In the grope box she consents to being groped unless again she states otherwise. If she doesn't want her arse played with, it is up to her to position herself bum to the wall.

Saying that she should be treated with respect and not manhandled in a rough manner.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Your fun, your consent, your responsibility

Or stop

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By *st timers 2012Couple
over a year ago

helmsdale

Isn't it just good manners to warn someone before you shoot your muck down their throat?

Give them enough time to say no or move their mouth?

Maybe I'm just old fashioned but if a bloke cum in my mouth without warning he'd wish he didn't!

Dave

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think everyone involved in any sexual activity should sort consent and boundaries first it's naive and dangerous to think that people will know without being expressly told.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

If you are going to give a BJ but don't want the guy to cum in your mouth, you say before you start "don't cum in my mouth"

And if you are in a grope box, expect to get groped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you are going to give a BJ but don't want the guy to cum in your mouth, you say before you start "don't cum in my mouth"

And if you are in a grope box, expect to get groped.

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Exactly , it's not rocket science is it ?

Whatever next ?

A gangbang where there's no fucking ?

A bukkake with no cum ?

It's a no brainer that if you enter a grope box you accept groping . If it's too rough or in your arse , and you don't like it you shout out .

If you offer a bj , and the guy cums that's perfectly acceptable . If you don't want him to cum in your mouth tell him first .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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1/ You turn around to a bloke and offer to give him a blow job. Have you just consented to him cuming in your mouth without warning you?

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No, you haven't.


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2/ You go into a grope box, undress and happily play with cocks coming through the holes. Someone puts their hand in and fingers your bum. Did you consent to this by going in the box?

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No, you didn't.


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Do we as players need to be specific, or should some things be discussed before the incident arises?"

Yes, we do.

Yes they should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If you go into a grope box then I'd say it's a fair assumption you'll get groped!!!"

"Groping" is not the same as "penetration".

Just like "fondling" is not the same as "fucking".

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

If he does come in your mouth without consent, what is the correct etiquette? Spit or swallow?

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"If he does come in your mouth without consent, what is the correct etiquette? Spit or swallow?"

Spit it back at him, after all it is his

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