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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi first post please be kind haha.

One thing i seem to struggle with is when i get absolutely gorgeous men message me and want to meet.

But i always say no as i think they are to good for me.

Im a bbw (size 20-22) so obviously lost of lumps and bumps. iv a outgoing personality but then when it comes to taking clothes i worry.

Wish i could get over this as it holds me back and i want to have lots of fun . Any advice ?

Hope it makes sense xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they didn't want you they wouldn't message xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi and welcome to fab, have a good time here x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone wants sex so if your profile page is correct enjoy all the fun fab can throw at you, just stay safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they didn't want you they wouldn't message xx"

True. Thanks for reply x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi and welcome to fab, have a good time here x."

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Everyone wants sex so if your profile page is correct enjoy all the fun fab can throw at you, just stay safe"

I will xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax and enjoy the site and get out there and have a rollicking good time.

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By *andlebarMan
over a year ago

South Northumberland

There are a lot of us that genuinely love bbw.. size 20-22 isnt really that big.. imho.. its just curvey.. just a shame you are so far away as id be happy to show you how much of a turn on we find curvy lasses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang on you have had two meets so.you obv ain't that concerned about your wieght.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hang on you have had two meets so.you obv ain't that concerned about your wieght.

There people i have spoke to a long time and got to know as friends. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hang on you have had two meets so.you obv ain't that concerned about your wieght.

There people i have spoke to a long time and got to know as friends. Xx"

And it was on my previous profile i had on here for a few months amd then took a break xx

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By *angbang junkieCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I'm a size 24 & I can say without a doubt that there are a lot of guys, including gym fit, muscle packed, gorgeous men who adore larger chicks. I've been to many sex/swinger clubs where guys have instantly been drawn to me BECAUSE I'm not slim/like all the others. If I had a £ for whey time a man said he preferred a curvy, natural or "normal" woman I would be rich. Quite often I think back to guys I've been intimate with & can't believe my luck. Isn't life worth living, enjoying & making the most of? Grab all opportunities, encounters as they come to you & as you wish. Grab the bull by the horns & go for it. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Relax and enjoy the site and get out there and have a rollicking good time.

xx"

Thank you for the advice.

I waw on previously for a few months before i took a break but it held me back then to. So want this time to just have fun xx

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By *windon2014Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Be confident! I, like many others find bbw's a massive turn on. Absolutly amazing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are a lot of us that genuinely love bbw.. size 20-22 isnt really that big.. imho.. its just curvey.. just a shame you are so far away as id be happy to show you how much of a turn on we find curvy lasses"

Aww thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hang on you have had two meets so.you obv ain't that concerned about your wieght.

There people i have spoke to a long time and got to know as friends. Xx

And it was on my previous profile i had on here for a few months amd then took a break xx"

So quit worryin n in the words of Austin powers "shag on".

Sorry for bein arsy overdose of look at me threads atm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be exactly the same and still do have those little doubts when an absolute fittie mails me but I've just learnt to overcome it, like others say they wouldn't mail and then meet you if they weren't interested. I always used to assume all big muscley gym buffs only wanted slim toned women who shared a similar lifestyle but you'd be surprised how many like thicker girls as well. Hey if we all liked the same type life would be boring!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a size 24 & I can say without a doubt that there are a lot of guys, including gym fit, muscle packed, gorgeous men who adore larger chicks. I've been to many sex/swinger clubs where guys have instantly been drawn to me BECAUSE I'm not slim/like all the others. If I had a £ for whey time a man said he preferred a curvy, natural or "normal" woman I would be rich. Quite often I think back to guys I've been intimate with & can't believe my luck. Isn't life worth living, enjoying & making the most of? Grab all opportunities, encounters as they come to you & as you wish. Grab the bull by the horns & go for it. Xx"

Haha you sound ace. Put it brilliantly.

I think im just going have to take plunge and go for it lol. Suppose i only live once .

Thank you for your reply.

Its mad especially when you get somone with a body like a temple. Maybe thats just what it is . I cant belive my luck

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm bigger than you hun and do OK with so-called hotties.

Some chaps have one type, most here seem to like different types of women. A pick n mix if you will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be confident! I, like many others find bbw's a massive turn on. Absolutly amazing!"

I will try thank you for reply xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hang on you have had two meets so.you obv ain't that concerned about your wieght.

There people i have spoke to a long time and got to know as friends. Xx

And it was on my previous profile i had on here for a few months amd then took a break xx

So quit worryin n in the words of Austin powers "shag on".

Sorry for bein arsy overdose of look at me threads atm.

Haha its fine . Dont worry about it . Its understandble i should of explained properly xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I used to be exactly the same and still do have those little doubts when an absolute fittie mails me but I've just learnt to overcome it, like others say they wouldn't mail and then meet you if they weren't interested. I always used to assume all big muscley gym buffs only wanted slim toned women who shared a similar lifestyle but you'd be surprised how many like thicker girls as well. Hey if we all liked the same type life would be boring! "

That is literally spot on to how i feel . Couldn't of worderd it better myself . It is surprisingly suppose i just need to belive it lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hang on you have had two meets so.you obv ain't that concerned about your wieght.

There people i have spoke to a long time and got to know as friends. Xx

And it was on my previous profile i had on here for a few months amd then took a break xx

So quit worryin n in the words of Austin powers "shag on".

Sorry for bein arsy overdose of look at me threads atm.

Haha its fine . Dont worry about it . Its understandble i should of explained properly xx"

I was the same untill I relised I could pull fitties now I don't give a shit lol. I ether get meets or I don't. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm bigger than you hun and do OK with so-called hotties.

Some chaps have one type, most here seem to like different types of women. A pick n mix if you will.

Definitely seems that way. Thanks for the reply xx

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By *londie bearWoman
over a year ago

Bexley-ish

I felt the same at first, couldn't understand why a hot adonis would give me the time of day. But, do u know what? I thought fuck it, if he's seen my pictures, he knows what to expect ....i am what I am...and what I am ....is a lover of cake x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hang on you have had two meets so.you obv ain't that concerned about your wieght.

There people i have spoke to a long time and got to know as friends. Xx

And it was on my previous profile i had on here for a few months amd then took a break xx

So quit worryin n in the words of Austin powers "shag on".

Sorry for bein arsy overdose of look at me threads atm.

Haha its fine . Dont worry about it . Its understandble i should of explained properly xx

I was the same untill I relised I could pull fitties now I don't give a shit lol. I ether get meets or I don't. X"

Haha love it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I felt the same at first, couldn't understand why a hot adonis would give me the time of day. But, do u know what? I thought fuck it, if he's seen my pictures, he knows what to expect ....i am what I am...and what I am ....is a lover of cake x

Thats how i want to feel. Sure i will get there.

Really made me laugh a lover of cake part haha

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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

Have you tried going to a swingers club? Not necessarily to play, but just to see what a wide variety of shapes and sizes are considered desirable. You would by no means be the largest there. And it's a pity to allow your body shape to hold you back.

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By *londie bearWoman
over a year ago

Bexley-ish

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By *londie bearWoman
over a year ago

Bexley-ish

You'll get there, most men love a sexy minded female with a sense of humour...you just have to keep reminding yourself you're just as good as anyone else, and quite possibly better than most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still suffer this same crisis of confidence, I feel that while somebody bigger wouldn't be their first choice, it's better than nothing! I've been on this site 2 years and have seen so many men comment on how they actually prefer BBW but I still don't believe it, curvy I understand but not overweight. Don't know if I'll ever just accept it as being true!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you tried going to a swingers club? Not necessarily to play, but just to see what a wide variety of shapes and sizes are considered desirable. You would by no means be the largest there. And it's a pity to allow your body shape to hold you back."

Im thinking of trying it but need to find a club buddy xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You'll get there, most men love a sexy minded female with a sense of humour...you just have to keep reminding yourself you're just as good as anyone else, and quite possibly better than most

Thank you very much xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I still suffer this same crisis of confidence, I feel that while somebody bigger wouldn't be their first choice, it's better than nothing! I've been on this site 2 years and have seen so many men comment on how they actually prefer BBW but I still don't believe it, curvy I understand but not overweight. Don't know if I'll ever just accept it as being true!"

Thats what im like. Your pics are lovely tho xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op. I think exactly the same as you and always have done.

I know some guys genuinely like bigger girls but I'm never going to believe all these young fit guys really find me sexy

I just make sure I just meet those I'm comfortable meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op. I think exactly the same as you and always have done.

I know some guys genuinely like bigger girls but I'm never going to believe all these young fit guys really find me sexy

I just make sure I just meet those I'm comfortable meeting "

Ah glad its not just me then.

Its so hard to understand isnt it .

Thank you for reply xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it!

I have a fuller figure too and have never had a problem. Mr Holme especially loves my wobbly bits

Mrs Time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op. I think exactly the same as you and always have done.

I know some guys genuinely like bigger girls but I'm never going to believe all these young fit guys really find me sexy

I just make sure I just meet those I'm comfortable meeting

Ah glad its not just me then.

Its so hard to understand isnt it .

Thank you for reply xxx"
Doesn't mean my view is right... But just so you knew you weren't strange.. I have an amazing time on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op. I think exactly the same as you and always have done.

I know some guys genuinely like bigger girls but I'm never going to believe all these young fit guys really find me sexy

I just make sure I just meet those I'm comfortable meeting

Ah glad its not just me then.

Its so hard to understand isnt it .

Thank you for reply xxx Doesn't mean my view is right... But just so you knew you weren't strange.. I have an amazing time on here. "

Definitely makes me feel abit better xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go for it!

I have a fuller figure too and have never had a problem. Mr Holme especially loves my wobbly bits

Mrs Time "

Haha

thanks for reply xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

Welch????? lol welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

Welch????? lol welcome "

Hahah Welch

thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it's all about your mindset and being comfortable in your own skin. There are many,many men that will truly accept and adore you as you are.

I've met someone that makes me feel like the only woman on the planet when I'm with him and that I'm his goddess.

As long as you're honest and upfront on your profile or when chatting before meeting, then no reason to doubt that the person that you're going to meet enjoys the company of a full figured woman.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To me it's all about your mindset and being comfortable in your own skin. There are many,many men that will truly accept and adore you as you are.

I've met someone that makes me feel like the only woman on the planet when I'm with him and that I'm his goddess.

As long as you're honest and upfront on your profile or when chatting before meeting, then no reason to doubt that the person that you're going to meet enjoys the company of a full figured woman."

Good advice thank you for your reply xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats what im like. Your pics are lovely tho xx"

Aww thank you! Going in for a hysterectomy on Monday and my confidence is pretty low right now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

You're from Manchester area, she's from Manchester area...just saying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me ages to get my head around guys being attracted to me at a size 22-24.

When I first started going to clubs I had tons of fun but felt like I was a weird fetish for blokes or that they were a bit mental but I soon I realised its because im bloody awesome so why worry, chill out, and enjoy!

BBW club events were great for me when I started out as the guys who go are genuinely attracted to BBWs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

You're from Manchester area, she's from Manchester area...just saying...

Hahahhaha

Good luck for your operation. Hope all goes well

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It took me ages to get my head around guys being attracted to me at a size 22-24.

BBW club events were great for me when I started out as the guys who go are genuinely attracted to BBWs x"

Ace attitude to it . I may try a bbw event thanks for that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP just enjoy it! You'll do things other ladies only sit and sigh over. I see some genuinely gorgeous guys and not just once either. Some I've been meeting for a few years now. I'm not slim and considerably older than you so even more disadvanged lol. Literally, enjoy the ride.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

You're from Manchester area, she's from Manchester area...just saying...

Haha you make a good point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP just enjoy it! You'll do things other ladies only sit and sigh over. I see some genuinely gorgeous guys and not just once either. Some I've been meeting for a few years now. I'm not slim and considerably older than you so even more disadvanged lol. Literally, enjoy the ride.

Aww haha that made me chuckle thank you . Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

You're from Manchester area, she's from Manchester area...just saying...

Haha you make a good point

So we are haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

You're from Manchester area, she's from Manchester area...just saying...

Haha you make a good point

So we are haha

xx"

I'm going to be out of action for ages so perhaps I can live through you guys for a while? Keep us updated! How about a coffee and chat (maybe a slice of cake thrown in) followed by a sweet goodbye kiss ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

You're from Manchester area, she's from Manchester area...just saying...

Haha you make a good point

So we are haha

Haha you can play match makers lol .

But in all serious hope it goes smoothly and you cant get back to action asap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You will find you get loads of attention on here because your BBW. Most guys prefer that type of woman (me inc)

Welch to fab and happy hunting

You're from Manchester area, she's from Manchester area...just saying...

Haha you make a good point

So we are haha

Hahaha cheers cilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they didn't want you they wouldn't message xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i felt the same when i first joined, would automatically think they had messaged me accidentally etc, guess us bbw types are more popular than we think.

just enjoy it lovey x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i felt the same when i first joined, would automatically think they had messaged me accidentally etc, guess us bbw types are more popular than we think.

just enjoy it lovey x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i felt the same when i first joined, would automatically think they had messaged me accidentally etc, guess us bbw types are more popular than we think.

just enjoy it lovey x"

Thank you lovely xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they didn't want you they wouldn't message xx

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