FabSwingers.com forum: Couples who meet women

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many of you gave rules about what the female and can't do with the male half.

Too many times I am messaged asking to play but then with a list as long as ur arm of dos and don'ts with the male but free reign with the female.

It puts me off as it makes me feel like they get the best of both worlds and I don't. So I don't meet them.

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we were lucky enough to meet a single female interested in us we wouldn't set any rules.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I'm guessing that its the fem of the couple that is setting the rules.

Jayne sets no rules at all, apart from one, and that is that we all play with each other, there are no "do's and dont's", nothing is off limits.

When we first started swinging, we discussed about things like maybe a "no kissing" rule, or "no anal" with another fem, as we had seen various similar rules on other peoples profiles.... but we couldn't see why we should limit ourselves, and in fact Jayne pointed out that having new or different experiences was why we got into swinging anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've only met with single women a few times, but we don't have any rules, no.

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By *ime 2 CumCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

The only rules we set are have fun and make sure everybody cums out of it satisfied

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met a few single woman and play equally. The only thing that myth insists on is that she gets to choose what to do with the money shot.

Greedy girl normally keeps it all to herself.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I have to think about this one a little more ... when I've met women its been part of group play and I've just played with them, at clubs, so nothing discussed first .... on the other side and as part of a couple, I do get a bit intrigued by the single women who want to meet my partner on his own ... he's not into that though, more into bi play. If we play at a club, we tend to play alone anyway, and go with the flow, no rules just go with the flow ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many of you gave rules about what the female and can't do with the male half.

Too many times I am messaged asking to play but then with a list as long as ur arm of dos and don'ts with the male but free reign with the female.

It puts me off as it makes me feel like they get the best of both worlds and I don't. So I don't meet them.

Thoughts?"
our rule is condom used and id not be impressed if she tried to monopolize Mr but we tend to both give to the lady but I do enjoy if the lady then enjoys turning the tables on Mr and us both being playful

Ita a 3sum for a reason... 3 of us and all should enjoy.

But really only real rule is safe sex with a lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our only rule is condoms and lots of fun and sharing is a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Condom used and no anal apart from that no rules

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Don't matter if it's mmf mfmf or mff only rule is we play bare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as rules are mentioned, we're out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't matter if it's mmf mfmf or mff only rule is we play bare "

apart from that one

OK we have one rule

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Threeway, threeways. We all have sex with eachother, only thing off the table is anal

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"How many of you gave rules about what the female and can't do with the male half.

Too many times I am messaged asking to play but then with a list as long as ur arm of dos and don'ts with the male but free reign with the female.

It puts me off as it makes me feel like they get the best of both worlds and I don't. So I don't meet them.

Thoughts?"

Certainly no rules here, we love a fully interactive experience where everyone enjoys themselves.

Cal xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While we don't have any rules excluding the girl as we find it a bit odd to set limits, playing devils advocate we do somewhat understand on people's mentality with what may come across as silly rules to an outsider.

At the end of the day as a single (male or female) you've gotta remember the couple are choosing to allow you to enter into their sexual relationship, they are the ones watching their partner (who they could have been with for years) having sex with someone else so their rules are their rules and should be respected, just as your rules are your rules and respected equally.

It could be something as simple as the female half wishing to explore her bi side but can't deal with the jealousy factor (at that time?) of watching her man with the opposite sex.

If it's not your thing move on, but i wouldn't try and dictate to others how they should play, everyone is different after all and have differing mentalities is what keeps swinging exciting.

M&M

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By *ickey and MinnieCouple
over a year ago

South of Bath

As others have said really

We have been lucky enough to have met a few lovely ladies for ffm fun and all we insist on is condoms for penetrative sex with the other lady and everybody plays

Minnie x

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"As others have said really

We have been lucky enough to have met a few lovely ladies for ffm fun and all we insist on is condoms for penetrative sex with the other lady and everybody plays

Minnie x"

this

I love seeing my husband kissing and licking other women and I know he loves seeing me doing it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope we have equal play - the only thing we say is that we play as a 3sum (unless one of us needs a breather or wants to just watch a while) - so all involved - but no one thing for her and one thing for me - i get the first kiss off him tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You all seem to be the exception not the rule. I've had can't kiss the guy, the guy can't perform oral or rim me, can't have penetration with the guy, must not use condoms if having sex (noooooooo) etc etc

I don't often meet couples and tbh I find sometimes two people are more into their own pleasure than giving a damn about what I want or need. It would take a lot to make me meet another couple here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know exactly what you mean OP I have had contact from several couples and they (she) states that its only girl on girl play and the male is only allowed to play with her! To me that's not a threesome and that's a straight no from me yes there's some rules I can abide with but that why what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on many swinginging sites never ever got to meet single fem for a cple most were fake or non gen .We e eventually got the Mrs newly discovered forced friend to play eventually and as we had been looking for so long NO rules other SS ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That should be divorced and not forced corrective text could be why lol

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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We have played with women lots in party or club situations and had a great time; the only rule we ever insisted on was to play safe, besides that it was all about pleasure for all. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes its the other way about - we met a lady who felt it wasnt her place to kiss W - took some convincing that we love the kissing and that its almost a deal breaker for us if people dont kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll find the vast majority of people who don't play like this are most likely new and still getting over that "jealousy" period which is kinda understandable although a little selfish.

As I said in the last post we enjoy a proper threesome which fully involves 3 people, just don't see the point in doing it any other way... But each to their own and we'd never try and belittle how others decide to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ute_n_sweetWoman
over a year ago

battersea

Worst is when the female half changes her mind while her hubby is enjoying himself....getting attacked by mad jealous wives is not fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst is when the female half changes her mind while her hubby is enjoying himself....getting attacked by mad jealous wives is not fun"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm meeting a new couple for the first time this weekend as a straight single woman, no "hands off" rules have been set. I've met two other couples in the past happy to play this way and again, no rules from the lady. It's not an extensive list I know but there you go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You all seem to be the exception not the rule. I've had can't kiss the guy, the guy can't perform oral or rim me, can't have penetration with the guy, must not use condoms if having sex (noooooooo) etc etc

I don't often meet couples and tbh I find sometimes two people are more into their own pleasure than giving a damn about what I want or need. It would take a lot to make me meet another couple here."

I don't get the point of the question then. You asked us and we are telling you what we do. Other people do whatever they want to do. Choose your couples better or don't meet them at all if that is what you want.

I thought this was a thread asking what couples who meet women do. I didn't realize it was another thread saying how shitty couples are with single women. Yet another reason why we have stopped contacting single women on fab (which, I am aware, is no loss to them).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't often meet couples and tbh I find sometimes two people are more into their own pleasure than giving a damn about what I want or need. It would take a lot to make me meet another couple here.

Very much this, came in here offering genuine advice, didn't realise it was a rant thread for women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them where to go

We have even had a couple message and say thier mrs doesn't play with men but he plays with the other woman!!

Gave them a big f off

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Our only rule is, all involved are comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have one - condoms at all times. Other than that we are free reign with a third or fourth person joining us (as long as all are comfortable with playing)

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Nope we have no rules of what a single female can't do, sadly we very very rarely see any though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many of you gave rules about what the female and can't do with the male half.

Too many times I am messaged asking to play but then with a list as long as ur arm of dos and don'ts with the male but free reign with the female.

It puts me off as it makes me feel like they get the best of both worlds and I don't. So I don't meet them.

Thoughts?"

We have no specific rules, should be mutual fun for all

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By *ash69Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

So why bother with rules, it's meant to be fun rock on enjoy the moment...

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By *ash69Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

Our only rule is no bareback with other females. Just with me

Mrs

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Generally, we don't approach single ladies. I feel that with so much "competition" that the ladies we'd want to message would believe (incorrectly obviously) that they could do better than us.

We have had some great fun with a few solo ladies at clubs

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And those reasons are exactly why I wont meet a couple! I'm not on here to be given a whole list of rules and to feel used in any way so if I want to see couples it will be as a foursome with my male fb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No rules from us, although we still need to tempt a single lady into joining us lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We've only met one single woman but no we didn't have a list of rules.

Then we don't have a big list of rules when we meet couples or single men either.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd play with more couples if it weren't for their damn rules.

I play with both or not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We played with a single girl last week. Too many restrictions.

Our only rule is condoms, apart from that anything goes...and we mean anything

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Only rule we have is condoms. No restrictions otherwise, love to all play together

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By *andS4funCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We meet single girls and there are no rules re play with S (male) other than condoms for penetrative sex.

As long as everyone is happy and satisfied

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Condoms for penetration is our only rule really, and that one is hard and fast.

When you meet a woman as a couple, you want your guest to feel free to enjoy herself to the point of complete satisfaction, and a list of 'dos and don'ts' kind of spoils that.

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

"We meet single girls and there are no rules other than condoms for penetrative sex.

As long as everyone is happy and satisfied

Same here. However for one of the beautiful ladies that we meet regularly, the question of "protection" has been removed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We regularly play with single ladies, there are no boundaries except condoms for penetration, for us it's about 3 people on an equal footing all enjoying each other xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We live in hope of finding a lady playmate who would be happy in our company and relaxed ,we will keep looking mutual satisfaction always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hard to find a straight woman to join us the majority of women tend to be bi and my wife is predominately straight she has tho has female attention given to her on one or two occasions when we have been lucky to have a woman join us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no rules (except safe sex) but our experience was that all the rules came from the single fem...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only rule we have is safe sex. We do quite well on here with single women, I think it is because we know ow how to treat someone with respect and not just like a sex toy.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"While we don't have any rules excluding the girl as we find it a bit odd to set limits, playing devils advocate we do somewhat understand on people's mentality with what may come across as silly rules to an outsider.

It could be something as simple as the female half wishing to explore her bi side but can't deal with the jealousy factor (at that time?) of watching her man with the opposite sex.

If it's not your thing move on, but i wouldn't try and dictate to others how they should play, everyone is different after all and have differing mentalities is what keeps swinging exciting.

M&M

Knew there would be one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no rules - but will negotiate activities in and out depending on preference and headspace. (Eg no unprotected sex, no kissing, no marks, etc)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and steer clear of the couples with loads of rules. There's a point where it's too regimented and stops being fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have preferences to the types we meet

But once we are together. Anything goes.nikki is free to do as she pleases.I encourage her to let her hair down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only rule we have is condoms always! again tho, very rare occasions of having a single girl wanting to join

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By *unknSoulCouple
over a year ago

dumfries-ish

No rules just fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never met a single female.however met couples and he prefers to soft swing or just watch whilst i have full ffm.

Mainly meet single guys again him watching.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The only rule we have is safe sex. We do quite well on here with single women, I think it is because we know ow how to treat someone with respect and not just like a sex toy. "

I think that's exactly x

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

We me & Kim meet quite a few single ladies on a semi regular basis & have never used different rules to when we swing with couples, don't let a couple of bad experiences put you of OP as it can be great fun.

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By *essThePirateWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I have taken bi off my profile as I just received approaches from couples who have signed up here expecting loads of bi females just aching to be granted 'permission to join a couple'...I quote...to play with the girl...who usually did not have the desire to explore her bi side by herself before she met her dream male partner...

So usually it is his idea...and she finds it exciting..but he cannot touch the extracurricular girl...otherwise it would be playing away

Oh..I could go on..

If I wanted girl play, I would want for myself..not one that was going to go home with her partner.

I would have thought it better for Fem bi curious couples to meet similar? A similar dynamic

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We've had 3 or 4 meets with so single ladies now. We always use a condom apart from that all 3 of us having as much fun as we can is our only concern.

The hardest bit we've found is finding a lady that feels safe enough and is confident enough to meet on her own. Which we'll openly admit, we'd struggle with! That's why most of our meets have come from clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ask the single lady what she would hope for , and whether she has any rules .

We don't have any so we will adapt to suit without any issues at all .

Works well for all parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus!

So many times..

Don't

Can

Can't

Etc

Etc!!!

I'd say 90%+ expect you to meet them alone.

Many at their home as "we live in a beautiful area and our family and friends all live nearby so we don't want them knowing what we do" ( seriously - had this only last week word for word)

I NEVER meet alone. It's always a social and my Guardian Angel is always nearby.

The genuine couples have all been perfectly fine with this.

Some have wanted to meet him too.

The others have all got really shitty over it.

Shows just how many are either a single "hiding" or it's being driven my just one partner.

Usually the male I find.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"We've only met with single women a few times, but we don't have any rules, no. "

One day we will disagree about something!

Whenever we are lucky enough to meet a single woman there are no rules except those set by the woman herself. Our goal is to ensure she enjoys herself as much as we do. It's a threesome not a twosome plus a plaything.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

So based on this thread, 99% of couples who meet women don't seem to have any rules other than wear a condom.

And the thread starter says most of the couple's contacting her have too many rules, which is why she doesn't meet them.

So, using science, I deduce that the couples meeting women are the ones we don't have loads of rules, and the women meeting couples are doing so because they don't have loads of rules.

These findings can be considered official!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Never met a single female.however met couples and he prefers to soft swing or just watch whilst i have full ffm.

Mainly meet single guys again him watching."

Exactly the same here. She plays and I watch regardless of the persons sex. In our experience it's the guys who are okay with this, not so the ladies but the search goes on.

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By *uvesmuffinCouple
over a year ago

Barking

"Worst is when the female half changes her mind while her hubby is enjoying himself....getting attacked by mad jealous wives is not fun"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Worst is when the female half changes her mind while her hubby is enjoying himself....getting attacked by mad jealous wives is not fun

Missed you!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We regularly play with single ladies, there are no boundaries except condoms for penetration, for us it's about 3 people on an equal footing all enjoying each other xx"

Absolutely this...We tend to have female friends that we happen to play with when the circumstances are right...approaching it from that point of view seems to work for us and our friends...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I NEVER meet alone. It's always a social and my Guardian Angel is always nearby.

The genuine couples have all been perfectly fine with this.

Some have wanted to meet him too.

The others have all got really shitty over it.

Shows just how many are either a single "hiding" or it's being driven my just one partner.

Usually the male I find."

To be fair, I wouldn't meet a your friend if I only wanted to have sex with you either, and I'm pretty genuine. And my partner and I wouldn't meet your friend if we just wanted to meet you either. And we both enjoy meeting people - it's not driven by one of us.

Plenty more people to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I NEVER meet alone. It's always a social and my Guardian Angel is always nearby.

The genuine couples have all been perfectly fine with this.

Some have wanted to meet him too.

The others have all got really shitty over it.

Shows just how many are either a single "hiding" or it's being driven my just one partner.

Usually the male I find.

Plenty more people to meet!"

Did I say YOU were meeting him?

No I didn't so perhaps read what I wrote rather than what you think I wrote...

As a single fem there is no way I am walking in to somewhere without a safety net.

Be it a bar or a hotel.

I've had couples with lots of veri's with the male show alone. "Oh something came up..."

Or the single fem with veri's that was 6' tall with hairy hands.....

For me and those I chat to most are more than happy I value my safety and have no problem with it.

Those that do or have a list of rules and demands - well they don't get to meet me and I don't give a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Know exactly what you mean OP I have had contact from several couples and they (she) states that its only girl on girl play and the male is only allowed to play with her! To me that's not a threesome and that's a straight no from me yes there's some rules I can abide with but that why what's the point? "

Soundss like the female is more worried about her OH enjoying himself too much.

Years ago I had this with a couple where the guy got all funny because he saw she was having too good a time LoL.

I don't know what he expected maybe that she not cum quite so hard

Needless to say she told me later that we could not have a repeat

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I tend to find making good friends first with single females works best for us, i also spend half my time photographing naked women so making them feel comfortable and safe is a no brainer.

Some of the women we meet we have been friends with for 10 yrs or more so when we do have sex its just 3 people having fun sex rather than having the single woman as the play thing.

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