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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

being regular readers of the forums on here, we find it incredibly surprising how many people are so judgmental.

Having an opinion on something is perfectly acceptable.

Differing opinions are great and it embraces the diversity of people.

Liking something or disliking something not a problem.

But for those that judge others on their likes, dislikes, opinions, activities, etc, surely within the swinging scene, which in itself is judged by the majority of society, that has to be wrong.

As long as a person is not hurting, or forcing others against their will to engage in something, why be judgmental about it? If your swinging your engaging in something that isn't considered part of the "norm", and by that standard surely it should be live and let live within this scene?

What's your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many try to impose their _iews on others in here..usually by being derogatory or sarcastic ....it's not clever in my opinion or open minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many try to impose their _iews on others in here..usually by being derogatory or sarcastic ....it's not clever in my opinion or open minded "

Some say sarcasm is the lowest form of wit

And am full of it

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By *azkinsWoman
over a year ago

leeds

is that a typo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I beg to differ than differing opinions are great...in my opinion.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Swingers are regular people, not some different enlightened breed.

Some people are judgemental. Some of those people are swingers.

A more relaxed attitude to NSA sex doesn't automatically mean someone will be open-minded about everything.

Some people on this site are the most unliberated, closed-minded people I've ever encountered. And coming from Norfolk, that's saying something!

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
over a year ago

Willenhall


"Too many try to impose their _iews on others in here..usually by being derogatory or sarcastic ....it's not clever in my opinion or open minded"

Sounds like religion...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"being regular readers of the forums on here, we find it incredibly surprising how many people are so judgmental.

Having an opinion on something is perfectly acceptable.

Differing opinions are great and it embraces the diversity of people.

Liking something or disliking something not a problem.

But for those that judge others on their likes, dislikes, opinions, activities, etc, surely within the swinging scene, which in itself is judged by the majority of society, that has to be wrong.

As long as a person is not hurting, or forcing others against their will to engage in something, why be judgmental about it? If your swinging your engaging in something that isn't considered part of the "norm", and by that standard surely it should be live and let live within this scene?

What's your thoughts? "

My thoughts? Oh the irony!

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"being regular readers of the forums on here, we find it incredibly surprising how many people are so judgmental.

Having an opinion on something is perfectly acceptable.

Differing opinions are great and it embraces the diversity of people.

Liking something or disliking something not a problem.

But for those that judge others on their likes, dislikes, opinions, activities, etc, surely within the swinging scene, which in itself is judged by the majority of society, that has to be wrong.

As long as a person is not hurting, or forcing others against their will to engage in something, why be judgmental about it? If your swinging your engaging in something that isn't considered part of the "norm", and by that standard surely it should be live and let live within this scene?

What's your thoughts? "

Agree 100%. But look at these forums you'll find so much intolerance of different _iews, it's hard to believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many try to impose their _iews on others in here..usually by being derogatory or sarcastic ....it's not clever in my opinion or open minded

Some say sarcasm is the lowest form of wit

And am full of it

"

me to im afraid

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Being a part of the Satan loving bareback loving lifestyle I'm no longer surprised at some of the narrow minded bigot comments made in here. I accept come judgement day I will burn in hell lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all judge positively and negatively, it's human nature and unavoidable.

I find people only have a problem when they or their opinions are being judged negatively. No one ever accuses people they agree with of being judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we ban the "bareback" threads as that's one that brings out the worst in people and the same arguments are trotted out on both sides each time.

Apart from the entrenched attitudes on both sides, it's very boring!!!

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Yes there's nothing like reading a comment you either agree or disagree with and then scroll down to find someone attempting to belittle it via sarcasm or a thinly veiled personal comment.

And then watch zombie sheep pile on top.

Just be nice, eh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With this forum (fab) whenever you cast a thought, opinion, idea, post a picture what ever that maybe you will have people who will judge comment or criticise or debate. The way I see it there will always be haters some will like what you have to say some won't don't worry about those that don't. As long as your happy and it's not hurting anyone that's the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You get judgemental people in there'll world and you get judgemental people on Planet Fab. Some are having a grumpy day and nothing will let the sunshine in, some are antagonistic keyboard warriors who deliberately goad people into a reaction, some have a particular touchy subject area guaranteed to ruffle their normally serene feathers, some are just moronic cock wombles. Sadly, this is just the way of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You get judgemental people in there'll world and you get judgemental people on Planet Fab. Some are having a grumpy day and nothing will let the sunshine in, some are antagonistic keyboard warriors who deliberately goad people into a reaction, some have a particular touchy subject area guaranteed to ruffle their normally serene feathers, some are just moronic cock wombles. Sadly, this is just the way of the world. "

Or even *the real world* - concentrate Heels.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I find this interesting because I dont come across too many of the so called judgemental people in the real world. I live and work in an environment of live and let live, where racism, sexism etc is dealt with swiftly and everyone is celebrated. Coming here is a shock at times ....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"We all judge positively and negatively, it's human nature and unavoidable.

I find people only have a problem when they or their opinions are being judged negatively. No one ever accuses people they agree with of being judgemental."

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"We all judge positively and negatively, it's human nature and unavoidable.

I find people only have a problem when they or their opinions are being judged negatively. No one ever accuses people they agree with of being judgemental."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being regular readers of the forums on here, we find it incredibly surprising how many people are so judgmental.

Having an opinion on something is perfectly acceptable.

Differing opinions are great and it embraces the diversity of people.

Liking something or disliking something not a problem.

But for those that judge others on their likes, dislikes, opinions, activities, etc, surely within the swinging scene, which in itself is judged by the majority of society, that has to be wrong.

As long as a person is not hurting, or forcing others against their will to engage in something, why be judgmental about it? If your swinging your engaging in something that isn't considered part of the "norm", and by that standard surely it should be live and let live within this scene?

What's your thoughts? "

There will always be people who put themselves on a pedestal using others as a staircase to a moral high ground .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being regular readers of the forums on here, we find it incredibly surprising how many people are so judgmental.

Having an opinion on something is perfectly acceptable.

Differing opinions are great and it embraces the diversity of people.

Liking something or disliking something not a problem.

But for those that judge others on their likes, dislikes, opinions, activities, etc, surely within the swinging scene, which in itself is judged by the majority of society, that has to be wrong.

As long as a person is not hurting, or forcing others against their will to engage in something, why be judgmental about it? If your swinging your engaging in something that isn't considered part of the "norm", and by that standard surely it should be live and let live within this scene?

What's your thoughts? "

This is always my point when people try to take the moral high ground on different subject matters. What we all are doing is at the very least unconventional and to some people immoral so surely by being into swinging we should be all be a bit more open minded about life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I judge you all.

I take careful notes and make unfounded assumptions about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find this interesting because I dont come across too many of the so called judgemental people in the real world. I live and work in an environment of live and let live, where racism, sexism etc is dealt with swiftly and everyone is celebrated. Coming here is a shock at times .... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forums can be very judgemental, especially on certain subjects. All it proves is that swingers are represented by all walks of life. Yes, for what would be frowned on by most 'in the real world' you would think that swingers would be more open to a lot of subjects, but then swingers are 'real people' too!

We all judge for one reason or another, whether its age limits, gender, physique etc. But then fab members are diverse, even if they may be a small part of a much bigger diverse society.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"We all judge positively and negatively, it's human nature and unavoidable.

I find people only have a problem when they or their opinions are being judged negatively. No one ever accuses people they agree with of being judgemental."

Oh so true.

Disagreeing with someone on here is an insult in their _iew.

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By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

If we were all the same life would be boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's amusing when I hear people describe others as judgemental, what is that but a judgement?

We all make judgements on others, all the time, to some extent it's a necessary survival tool. Whether or not we express them is a different matter....

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"I think it's amusing when I hear people describe others as judgemental, what is that but a judgement?

We all make judgements on others, all the time, to some extent it's a necessary survival tool. Whether or not we express them is a different matter...."

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We all make judgements & assumptions it's human nature. Just not everyone will admit to it.

I know I do!

Just on the forums some people are far more vocal about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately..alot of ppl on here have their heads stuck up their arses! Narcissism springs to mind!

I was involved in a forum discussion about a particular subject..and clicked with a woman on here (no flirting..just both on the same wavelength & havin a laff) when this bloke came on & said that i shouldnt be chatting her up on a forum bcoz "its wrong on so many levels" ... ooh get you..i thought! ...hahaha...wot a sausage!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately..alot of ppl on here have their heads stuck up their arses! Narcissism springs to mind!

I was involved in a forum discussion about a particular subject..and clicked with a woman on here (no flirting..just both on the same wavelength & havin a laff) when this bloke came on & said that i shouldnt be chatting her up on a forum bcoz "its wrong on so many levels" ... ooh get you..i thought! ...hahaha...wot a sausage!"

Jeez yeah, get a room, will ya

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I am happy to judge, equally happy to be judged.

no skin off my nose what other people think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am happy to judge, equally happy to be judged.

no skin off my nose what other people think "

same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You get judgemental people in there'll world and you get judgemental people on Planet Fab. Some are having a grumpy day and nothing will let the sunshine in, some are antagonistic keyboard warriors who deliberately goad people into a reaction, some have a particular touchy subject area guaranteed to ruffle their normally serene feathers, some are just moronic cock wombles. Sadly, this is just the way of the world. "

I must admit that I have a couple of of subjects that I can get quite steamed up about, and with hindsight I often think I've gone too far.

I never deliberately set out to upset anyone, but I know I do at times. Maybe I'm a cock womble.

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