FabSwingers.com forum: Bareback outside of swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like a lot of guys on this site I don't get much attention...but in the outside world I do get asked on dates quite a bit which is flattering....maybe I come across better in person than on a website.

But in the last 2 months I haven't taken things further with 4 ladies because not 1 of them wanted me to use condoms....all the ladies were between 35 and 45....I find it a little worrying ...or am I just being to over cautious....would love some feedback on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they want to play roulette with their lives it's up to them, you stick to your rules - at least until you know them

Sara

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By *asy247888Man
over a year ago

Kent

Condoms all the way, I certainty wouldn't bareback with a person I'm not in a relationship with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't judge and do only what you want to do ...easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like a lot of guys on this site I don't get much attention...but in the outside world I do get asked on dates quite a bit which is flattering....maybe I come across better in person than on a website.

only you know what's best for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal choice but stds so are one thing. Maybe they want ur babies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"don't judge and do only what you want to do ...easy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"don't judge and do only what you want to do ...easy "

sense....roulette was mentioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This really surprises me as I just assumed the 'norm' is to use them but I guess everyone has their own preferences x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprises me too! We didn't go without condoms until we were serious and a trip to the gum and that was 12 ish years ago. Never considered bareback together

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What worries you about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was criticized on line for refusing bareback with a young lady even though her fellow wanted me to do it. My health comes before anything. Do whats best for you

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"If they want to play roulette with their lives it's up to them, you stick to your rules - at least until you know them

Sara"

2nd post for the Russian roulette! That's got to be the record there!!

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Personally I would probably have said no problem and fucked bareback but it's all about what you are comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the 10 years before Mrs J and I got together we both played the field pretty extensively.

Not once in all that time did I ever come across a woman who suggested condoms.

This was across all walks of life including doctors, nurses, lawyers, lapdancers and stay at home moms.

Mrs J had a similar experience with guys

Neither of us got an Std in that whole period.

Not making any wild claims here. Just saying.

We now sleep with fewer strangers now that we are swinging than ever before.

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By *ack with a bangCouple
over a year ago

Hastings

From an article in a newspaper this week condom sales in general are basically in decline and there still a stigma about buying them and this was an article which condom makers durex had a big input in. Think with porn being so easily available to view the youngsters of today see it as the norm to not wear a condom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they want to play roulette with their lives it's up to them, you stick to your rules - at least until you know them

Sara

2nd post for the Russian roulette! That's got to be the record there!!"

Haha. That was my thought exactly. At least it was a proper game of roulette this time, rather than Russian. Though if you're just getting on colour then your odds and just below 50:50 vs. The 30-ish to one on a number. Maybe accounts for subgroups of people you might meet from? :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From an article in a newspaper this week condom sales in general are basically in decline and there still a stigma about buying them and this was an article which condom makers durex had a big input in. Think with porn being so easily available to view the youngsters of today see it as the norm to not wear a condom. "

Go to the GUM clinic tell them you're a swinger and come out with double the number of condoms for free.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Russian Roulette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just spin the wheel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wear all 3 condoms from the packet. That's just how safe i am.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I always wear all 3 condoms from the packet. That's just how safe i am."

That is not how one spells 'stupid'; xxx

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Bareback is bareback (yours and her's choice no one elses) and the risk/results of it are the same swinging or vanilla non swinging. I'm sure you know that

Be careful either way as there's various reasons for girls goading for bareback, Up to you to suss and decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the 10 years before Mrs J and I got together we both played the field pretty extensively.

Not once in all that time did I ever come across a woman who suggested condoms.

This was across all walks of life including doctors, nurses, lawyers, lapdancers and stay at home moms.

Mrs J had a similar experience with guys

Neither of us got an Std in that whole period.

Not making any wild claims here. Just saying.

We now sleep with fewer strangers now that we are swinging than ever before."

Yep, tend to agree with this, of course everyone knows condoms are the safest way, but from our experience a very low percentage use them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience of catching STIs, I find them not too bad lol...

I've had chlamydia twice, warts and herpes... You just start to get a few symptoms and then get yourself off to the Docs to be cleared up... No harm done..

I appreciate there's a risk of dying from AIDS but we are in a western country that has pretty much got it under control, not like Africa..

I think a lot of peeps consider the risk of dying from a STI is a lot higher than what it is...

I'm sure I'm going to get a bashing but the forums are for opinions, and that's mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only time we bareback is with each other after twenty year married think we safe lol ,our health is more important than not to be safe

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

But there is no cure for herpes. Or is there ?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"Only time we bareback is with each other after twenty year married think we safe lol ,our health is more important than not to be safe "

Have you developed immunity after 20 years?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

herpes can come along at any time, it's in your system... It just chooses to come out when you are feeling down... It can be caught by sexual contact if it's ripe! lol

You can go on a course of antibiotics over 12 months that will get rid!

So i'm told by the clap man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"herpes can come along at any time, it's in your system... It just chooses to come out when you are feeling down... It can be caught by sexual contact if it's ripe! lol

You can go on a course of antibiotics over 12 months that will get rid!

So i'm told by the clap man"

Herpes is a virus, antibiotics won't touch it, they act on bacteria. Anti viral drugs might help get rid of an attack a bit quicker, but nothing cures or prevents it completely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Condoms if not a regular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"herpes can come along at any time, it's in your system... It just chooses to come out when you are feeling down... It can be caught by sexual contact if it's ripe! lol

You can go on a course of antibiotics over 12 months that will get rid!

So i'm told by the clap man

Herpes is a virus, antibiotics won't touch it, they act on bacteria. Anti viral drugs might help get rid of an attack a bit quicker, but nothing cures or prevents it completely. "

The last time I was at the clinic, he gave me a course of 5 days of pills to sort it... I asked if I had to confront the wife and he said NO, it can happen!!!

He even advised that I should avoid sex even with a condom as it won't stop spreading the infection...

This is only what he told me...

Guess what, I'm still living!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if the herpes come back often, that is when the put you on the 12 month course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if the herpes come back often, that is when the put you on the 12 month course"

Your clap man is wrong. There's absolutely no point giving antibiotics for a virus. It's like taking a jellybaby for a headache - useless. Google it if you don't. believe me.

Oh and change your doctor!!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"if the herpes come back often, that is when the put you on the 12 month course"

"Genital herpes virus is passed from one person to another through sexual contact. This happens even if the person with the virus doesn't have symptoms or signs of infection.

Once the virus enters through the skin, it travels along nerve paths. It may become dormant (inactive) in the nerves and remain there indefinitely.

From time to time, the virus may become active. When that happens, the virus travels back along the nerve path to the surface of the skin, where additional virus is shed.

At this point the virus may cause an outbreak of symptoms. Or it may remain undetected.

In either case, the active virus is easily passed from one partner to another through sexual contact. Even wearing a condom may not protect the uninfected partner. The virus can be present on skin that remains uncovered.

The number of recurrences or outbreaks a person can have may vary."

Brake fluid will be as effective a 'cure' as antibiotics will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"herpes can come along at any time, it's in your system... It just chooses to come out when you are feeling down... It can be caught by sexual contact if it's ripe! lol

You can go on a course of antibiotics over 12 months that will get rid!

So i'm told by the clap man

Herpes is a virus, antibiotics won't touch it, they act on bacteria. Anti viral drugs might help get rid of an attack a bit quicker, but nothing cures or prevents it completely.

The last time I was at the clinic, he gave me a course of 5 days of pills to sort it... I asked if I had to confront the wife and he said NO, it can happen!!!

He even advised that I should avoid sex even with a condom as it won't stop spreading the infection...

This is only what he told me...

Guess what, I'm still living!!"

You were given antiviral drugs not antibiotics, and quite frankly not telling your wife is irresponsible.

Of course youre still living, its not life threatening, unless you are immuno supressed, or a baby etc, then it can be.

It amazes me tha ignorance on here, even from people that have had it and had treatment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if the herpes come back often, that is when the put you on the 12 month course

Your clap man is wrong. There's absolutely no point giving antibiotics for a virus. It's like taking a jellybaby for a headache - useless. Google it if you don't. believe me.

Oh and change your doctor!!"

tbh, they might not be antibiotics, they are some sort of pills...

Maybe he is wrong, I'm only saying what I believe he advised me to do...

I've held my hands up and said I've had an STI, maybe somebody has the courage and been on the 12 month course and can sed more light on this matter???

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"if the herpes come back often, that is when the put you on the 12 month course

Your clap man is wrong. There's absolutely no point giving antibiotics for a virus. It's like taking a jellybaby for a headache - useless. Google it if you don't. believe me.

Oh and change your doctor!!

tbh, they might not be antibiotics, they are some sort of pills...

Maybe he is wrong, I'm only saying what I believe he advised me to do...

I've held my hands up and said I've had an STI, maybe somebody has the courage and been on the 12 month course and can sed more light on this matter???"

Cold sores around the mouth are caused by the herpes simplex virus. It is quite common, and can be transmitted by kissing, unless of-course, one uses a condom

Zovirax Is an antiviral cream which can ease the symptoms but it is not a cure. Infact, there is no cure for herpes

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"In the 10 years before Mrs J and I got together we both played the field pretty extensively.

Not once in all that time did I ever come across a woman who suggested condoms.

This was across all walks of life including doctors, nurses, lawyers, lapdancers and stay at home moms.

Mrs J had a similar experience with guys

Neither of us got an Std in that whole period.

Not making any wild claims here. Just saying.

We now sleep with fewer strangers now that we are swinging than ever before."

Nice fair and balanced post

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By *argaidMan
over a year ago

glasgow

These threads always make me laugh at the sanctimonious attitudes abounding on Fab about STIs.

How many of those who say they NEVER go bareback and won't consider anyone who does thinks of all the possible permutations? Group sex in particular tends to make the use of condoms almost pointless. Why?

How many of you use dental dams or condoms during oral? How many wear gloves for fingering? How many put condoms on toys? Even if you do how many change them EVERY time you take the relevant appendage out of one partner before putting it in another?

Unless you're doing all these things you're no safer than going bareback during group sex. Even if you do the likes of HPV and herpes can still be transmitted.

Not to mention that if you have a cold and pass it on then that's technically an STI but no one gets holier-than-thou about catching a cold at an orgy, do they? What's the real difference?

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"These threads always make me laugh at the sanctimonious attitudes abounding on Fab about STIs.

Unless you're doing all these things you're no safer than going bareback during group sex. Even if you do the likes of HPV and herpes can still be transmitted.

Not to mention that if you have a cold and pass it on then that's technically an STI but no one gets holier-than-thou about catching a cold at an orgy, do they? What's the real difference?

Well said that man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with the majority here, condoms are a must. Don't get me wrong it's like taking a bath in your socks, but I'd far rather my knob didn't fall off

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By *ackemslutWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

i think condoms are probably more common in swingers... however let people live their lives how they want. play bare or dont just make it your choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm with the majority here, condoms are a must. Don't get me wrong it's like taking a bath in your socks, but I'd far rather my knob didn't fall off

OMG that is scary! What STI causes your nob to fall off?

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By *awtynNiceCouple
over a year ago

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We would always play safe for ourselves and our future playmates x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm with the majority here, condoms are a must. Don't get me wrong it's like taking a bath in your socks, but I'd far rather my knob didn't fall off

OMG that is scary! What STI causes your nob to fall off?

people just don't half like to exaggerate when it comes to bareback

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By *adysilkCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"I'm with the majority here, condoms are a must. Don't get me wrong it's like taking a bath in your socks, but I'd far rather my knob didn't fall off

OMG that is scary! What STI causes your nob to fall off?

people just don't half like to exaggerate when it comes to bareback"
yes they sure do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm with the majority here, condoms are a must. Don't get me wrong it's like taking a bath in your socks, but I'd far rather my knob didn't fall off

OMG that is scary! What STI causes your nob to fall off?

people just don't half like to exaggerate when it comes to bareback yes they sure do

Really? OMG!

I hear leprosy causes bits to drop off. Perhaps that should be redesignated a STI?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"I'm with the majority here, condoms are a must. Don't get me wrong it's like taking a bath in your socks, but I'd far rather my knob didn't fall off

OMG that is scary! What STI causes your nob to fall off?

STI of the mind.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

OMG that is scary! What STI causes your nob to fall off?

An angry, axe wielding husband coming home early??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG that is scary! What STI causes your nob to fall off?

An angry, axe wielding husband coming home early??"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've encountered lots of men that don't have condoms. I don't really care if that means they bareback or not. I always take my own and wouldn't use anyone else's anyway.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I talked to loads and loads of people off dating sites before coming here, and met a few people off POF, and it's a real mixed bag - some refuse to play with and some refuse to play without. I can remember talking to a young bisexual lawyer once - he said 'Oh yes I always use condoms with men, but never with girls.' Go figure. Perhaps that's why we never did meet.....

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London

In an established exclusive relationship it's fine .... for swinging purposes any suspician of bareback fills me with horror!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Condoms if not a regular "
What if you are one of 6 regulars he has?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Condoms if not a regular What if you are one of 6 regulars he has?"

Surely he wouldn't be lying?

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

It's a choice. Simple as that. We are all adults.

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By *izzlemoonMan
over a year ago

Bath

Slow goings on this site but as much as I love the feel o'naturale I wouldn't risk it unless I knew the people really well. I mean can you really trust a stranger. Also beyond sti's what if they were crazy and wanted to get knocked up.

maybe i'm being paranoid.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"If they want to play roulette with their lives it's up to them, you stick to your rules - at least until you know them

Sara"

That's the thing though, they're not playing "roulette with their lives". There are no STIs that are life threatening if treated, may not get rid of them, but they're manageable.

Even those diagnosed with HIV can still live for decades. This may explain why those that play bareback do what they do.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"These threads always make me laugh at the sanctimonious attitudes abounding on Fab about STIs.

Unless you're doing all these things you're no safer than going bareback during group sex. Even if you do the likes of HPV and herpes can still be transmitted.

Not to mention that if you have a cold and pass it on then that's technically an STI but no one gets holier-than-thou about catching a cold at an orgy, do they? What's the real difference?

All valid points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because those ladies were from vanilla life, they probably didn't have multiple partners, and probably didn't realise that you may have had multiple partners. Not that I'm defending, but in vanilla life perceived risk is much lower that in swinging life, because of the naive assumption that everybody is being faithful. And let's face it we all take calculated risks every day in all aspects of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do sometimes find swingers quite judgemental on the subject of bareback, to the point of it being dirty word. Of course nobody is foolish enough to fuck random people at a party without protection. However if someone has a regular partner on the scene, and a health and safety risk assessment has been done, then it's not for anybody else to judge. We all take risks every day in every aspect of life that nobody judges us on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These threads always make me laugh at the sanctimonious attitudes abounding on Fab about STIs.

Unless you're doing all these things you're no safer than going bareback during group sex. Even if you do the likes of HPV and herpes can still be transmitted.

Not to mention that if you have a cold and pass it on then that's technically an STI but no one gets holier-than-thou about catching a cold at an orgy, do they? What's the real difference?

Quite agree. A lot of swingers don't realise that chlamydia can be passed on by fingers. Obviously not a worry for those who only do private meets. But what about those who enjoy group sex and orgies? One could catch chlamydia from just having three women playing, no penetration. Nobody wears condoms on their hands do they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the GUM clinic tell them you're a swinger and come out with double the number of condoms for free."

Going to try this... But unsure they will believe me when I tell them about my sexual history lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the GUM clinic tell them you're a swinger and come out with double the number of condoms for free.

Going to try this... But unsure they will believe me when I tell them about my sexual history lol "

When I had my first sexual health screen since becoming a swinger, they seemed really shocked when I told them. It was as though they had never dealt with swingers before, which I find hard to believe. But maybe others don't tell them their lifestyle. Good thing is that they always kit me out with plenty of latex free condoms

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By *orny Biker NottsMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Having just been through all the tests because of a condom break.

GUM was fantastic & even suggested that as a swinger I get Hep vaccinated as that is on the increase.

I would still say glove up to be safe & if you have a breakage both get tested..

Have fun you naughty lot..

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Even though not one of them 'wanted' to use condoms are you sure they wouldn't have been ok for you to use them if you had asked nicely or was it a blunt no bareback no sex ?

Doggy style and slip the condom on

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By *urpurseCouple
over a year ago

North West

Think pregnancy is worth considering from mans point of view, after all sperm banks arent as full as they used to be these days!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they dont have sex regular with not swinging so dont feel they need condoms

im not saying its right or wrong but doing this does make you more awear of the risks

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By *rotiquexxxMan
over a year ago

Unquenchable Desires

How do you get four women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could not care less if it was mother Thresa

NO GLOVE NO LOVE - why can't people honour personal health safety

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By *estMidsHotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Malvern

These chats always follow the same template. Single guy posts, saying how loads of women offer it to him on a plate but he has to heroically turn them down as they all insist on bareback!

Couples retort with how they respect decisions of others and to do whats right for you. A few joke about roulette.

Other single guys think it will up their chances of a meet by proclaiming they would never go bareback "their health is worth far to much to them" or something similar.

Couples chuckle at the above posts as they see it all the time, but probably have had over a 100 messages from guys offering bareback despite profile saying safe sex and their posts in the forums.

And then finally couples like us come along who enjoy bareback, but will play however the right people want to, a couple who will now go on to receive PM from the single guys in the forum saying how special we are and that they will break their no bareback rule especially for us, if we would just consider meeting them!!

All in all a well templated forum thread xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my sexual life, I've been in a traditional, steady relationship. Not always with the same person, but, one for 6 years, one for 10. A couple of girl friends for 8 / 12 months or so.

Outside of the first, few, thrilling times, and after the birth control chat, it's always been bareback.

The few, one night stands, in my early 20's, some were protected, a couple were not. The stupidity of youth and the heat of passion.

So I've never been very promiscuous, and the people I've had sex with, I knew, well enough to make a judgement on knowledge and instinct.

So, most of the sex I've ever had has been bareback.

But, I do agree. No glove, no love

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"Personal choice but stds so are one thing. Maybe they want ur babies."

The majority of women I've had a relationship with very quickly got tound to saying they wanted a baby. Most hated condoms and those on the pill very soon talked about coming off it. I have so often heard them say "Go for it" or "Fill me up" or words to that effect. I'm not surprised that single parent familes seem to be the majority down here in London.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I think the reason why so many folk go bareback is, despite the Russian roulette claims, there is no STI you can catch that is actually life threatening, if treated/caught early.

The barebackers who get regularly checked are perhaps in a better position than the condomers who rarely do. And yes, condoms with regular checkups is the best way to go but I honestly doubt most on this site fall into that category.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outside of fab we bareback all the time but we have been married many years and don't sleep around vanilla street so think we are just about safe lol

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

for me ive never done bareback other than with partners, always been too worried that what i could catch and ruin your life, especially if you gave it to your partner aswell. ive been asked dozens of times to bareback people, its just you ask yes im clean checked other week, but you dont know if lies, i had one women other week say lets meet, and fuck bareback, im clean and cum inside me. been watching her profile is likes being used as a cum dump who knows what she has or even if she did get checked.

its hard if single i probably wouldnt mind so much as simple trip to docs, but if with someone safe is best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But there is no cure for herpes. Or is there ? "

Nope and even if u don't have symptoms u can be a shedder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But there is no cure for herpes. Or is there ?

Nope and even if u don't have symptoms u can be a shedder"

Same with cold sores.

So, who would admit to having a cold sore? And now who would admit to herpes?

See, STIs are far more scary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my experience of catching STIs, I find them not too bad lol...

I've had chlamydia twice, warts and herpes... You just start to get a few symptoms and then get yourself off to the Docs to be cleared up... No harm done..

I appreciate there's a risk of dying from AIDS......."

I bet your inbox is now full of meet requests!

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Must admit I do prefer without a condom, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These chats always follow the same template. Single guy posts, saying how loads of women offer it to him on a plate but he has to heroically turn them down as they all insist on bareback!

Couples retort with how they respect decisions of others and to do whats right for you. A few joke about roulette.

Other single guys think it will up their chances of a meet by proclaiming they would never go bareback "their health is worth far to much to them" or something similar.

Couples chuckle at the above posts as they see it all the time, but probably have had over a 100 messages from guys offering bareback despite profile saying safe sex and their posts in the forums.

All in all a well templated forum thread xxx"

Made me smile - but more than a grain of truth in this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cold sores are viral - anything that contains aciclovir like zoviraz is good to treat the lip sores - i take l-lysin daily and ive hardly had any the last 12-18 months since it was recommended to me

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"These threads always make me laugh at the sanctimonious attitudes abounding on Fab about STIs.

Unless you're doing all these things you're no safer than going bareback during group sex. Even if you do the likes of HPV and herpes can still be transmitted.

Not to mention that if you have a cold and pass it on then that's technically an STI but no one gets holier-than-thou about catching a cold at an orgy, do they? What's the real difference?

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

"I think the reason why so many folk go bareback is, despite the Russian roulette claims, there is no STI you can catch that is actually life threatening, if treated/caught early.

Hep C will kill you & is far worse than HIV in the fact they can't treat you, thankfully its not as common as most viruses.

There are some new super strength STD's which are treatable but take years rather than weeks to cure so it is a battlefield out there if you are clued up or never get tested.

Those who use condoms & never get checked are as high risk as barebackers that do have regular check ups, everyone should be checked if they are having regular sex with strangers condoms or not at least every 3 months.

I'm tested every 28 days & have been so for at least the last 14 yrs, i bareback with other monthly certed people for work purposes but have to always condom up when swinging as swingers are far riskier as hardly any get regular check ups.

It is inconvenient & some might get embarrassed to get regularly tested but if as people we want to have illicit sex with strangers we have to be reasonable about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go again..

Some people do, some people don't. It's really that simple! You do what suits your needs best.

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By *ranfondoMan
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

I guess it needs to be in context...a lot of married ladies have only had one sex partner in that age group...so.. it's really a decision you have to make...I'm not supporting it or agree with it... I've had the offer too and won't without a condom.. but if it's what they are used to with their hubby..but don't get it often, hence needing more... you kind of have to expect that from them.... It's your choice... for me I always do the Heath & Safety approach...

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"I always wear all 3 condoms from the packet. That's just how safe i am."

That - topped with a bin bag for extra security - is my minimum requirement when playing with strangers. Strangely, I don't get many offers....

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By *tongueMan
over a year ago

wrexham

What worries you about it?

Kids or STi s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok to bareback outside of swinging if that's what you fancy doing.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We're the opposite in that we shot bareback hardcore material with other certed pro adult workers & use condoms for swinging.

You as a person have a choice to decide what you do & how safe you are doing it.

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