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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

I'd have a rant if I were you.

That solves everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

"
that's the best way to deal with silly people your choice so grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is not a justification, but more so an insight as to why. I think some are so over hyped/horny/frustrated they just snap at someone, wrongly in my _iew.

The problem is far too many have far too high expectations of the site. People need to learn there is no mythical place that sexual relations are easily achieved. Once people understand that there expectations will be more realistic.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Blocking is a tool. If they block you, they won't be messaging again

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By *tillup4funMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

"

No one likes to be rejected I alwas reply with a "thank you for your reply" and block them so they don't keep coming up when I do a search in future saves time all round I find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is not a justification, but more so an insight as to why. I think some are so over hyped/horny/frustrated they just snap at someone, wrongly in my _iew.

The problem is far too many have far too high expectations of the site. People need to learn there is no mythical place that sexual relations are easily achieved. Once people understand that there expectations will be more realistic. "

Well said. I have the same issues as OP but from experience I just block now. Shame to be so blunt but it has to be done in some cases. I'm not on here for verbal abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd have a rant if I were you.

That solves everything. "

A rant is as good as a rest!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am always polite as rudeness solves nothing but am amazed at how many guys are still rude even when I always say a polite no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't generalize all men we are not all the same lol.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I do not wish to defend guys who get arsey when they are rejected but I shall attempt to offer a possible explanation.

There are 10 ladies for every man on here. Ladies often get full inboxes every day from guys messaging them. This almost never happens for guys, who might write 20 messages before even one lady replies. They may contact 50 or more ladies before one agrees to meet. It's ladies' choice here due to the numbers of men and women.

Now sometimes this can get upsetting for guys. Many men seem to think a swingers site is somehow guaranteed fun. After many rejections some men begin to get angry and instead of taking a step back and a break from Fab....they lash out. Or the other "tactic" is where men who have been politely rejected try to continue the conversation.

Not defending it, it's wrong and can be very unpleasant for the ladies concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor coping / problem solving skills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,, "

I wouldn't go as far as to say worse but it pisses me off when female site uses assume you will automatically be interested just because you are a single male. We are not all desperate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,,

I wouldn't go as far as to say worse but it pisses me off when female site uses assume you will automatically be interested just because you are a single male. We are not all desperate! "
That is right, we are not all desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't generalize all men we are not all the same lol."

tell em bro

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"I do not wish to defend guys who get arsey when they are rejected but I shall attempt to offer a possible explanation.

There are 10 ladies for every man on here. Ladies often get full inboxes every day from guys messaging them. This almost never happens for guys, who might write 20 messages before even one lady replies. They may contact 50 or more ladies before one agrees to meet. It's ladies' choice here due to the numbers of men and women.

Now sometimes this can get upsetting for guys. Many men seem to think a swingers site is somehow guaranteed fun. After many rejections some men begin to get angry and instead of taking a step back and a break from Fab....they lash out. Or the other "tactic" is where men who have been politely rejected try to continue the conversation.

Not defending it, it's wrong and can be very unpleasant for the ladies concerned."

I trust you mean 10men for every lady more like a 100:1

But otherwise your totally right.

But it does beg the question:-if it was the other way round, how many rejections would a female take before she got pissed off ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry won't do it again........

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By *heon_blueboyMan
over a year ago

Medway

Some people are just permanently angry and unable to interact normally with others. They'll be the same in normal life too, they'll be ones screaming at other motorists in their car and pushing to the front of any queue they find. It's just the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're probably excited to get a message back and think they're in for a fuck...

then see you said no thanks.

Don't need to make excuses for them, you was being polite and they were being dickheads.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

If i send a message.. i expect no response or a rejection.. that way I am not dissapointed or feel the need to vent

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Most men are polite except a few who carry on messaging me as if I havnt said anything so I have to block them.

Only sometimes do they get annoyed and I usualy have a good idea of the ones who will be like that.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being ginger I grew up with rejection so I can take it wonderfully now I am going grey everyone says am blonde so I will take compliments with as much grace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not something that bothers me. I accept that most of the profiles are fake. If they havent replied or read my utterances after a couple of days i just delete and block then i wont be bothering them again,,,simples.

I guess it can be very frustrating for a lot of straight guys though. Some of them are so driven made with desire that they turn to sodomy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,,

I wouldn't go as far as to say worse but it pisses me off when female site uses assume you will automatically be interested just because you are a single male. We are not all desperate! "
here here to right

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By *he Ladies of the ManorCouple
over a year ago

Swansea - Guildford

Oh there are many many bruised make egos on here when we say thanks but no thanks ! It's become so much simpler just to delete and block

Sad but forced upon you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol,,thousands of them,,pah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys are happy to get the "thanks but no thanks" response and message back to say so and wish us luck. Others don't respond when we decline but I think that's fine, it doesn't require a response. Some guys get quite pushy about it but to me that's what the block button is for. I don't waste time or effort thinking about them.

My hubby's had a single profile on here and some of the women can be really rude and quite up themselves. He decided it wasn't worth the hassle (particularly when they started to demand things like meals out or lingerie!). So although some men (by all means not all) can be a pain and be quite pushy some of the women on here aren't perfect either and don't always treat people with respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why worry about being blocked by people that you don't want to meet? Surely it's a good thing?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Hissy fits are the norm for many people on here, be it rejection, type of messages, perceived time wasters and a million other topics.....

I hope they make the author of any hissy fit feels better, I can see why it would but hey,

but it will change fuck all behaviour in others....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,, "

I have only been 'turned down' once so far. I found it refreshingly honest. Unfortunately, the man was new to the site, then found he couldn't get a meet that easily. Came back with offers of free meals/club entrances etc. It has been a five year on and off pestering since. He opens a new profile, I suss him out, block. He opens another.........

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By *ancscleanguyMan
over a year ago

Preston


"Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

"

How dare you. You don't want my massive dick and my over inflated ego? My jokes are superb, they must be as I laugh at them. You must want to hear my life story and how all those awful women that left didn't understand me?

I am the one and only.

I will hound you and bombard you until I'm blocked.

Do you mean that sort of shit?

I expect a reply and a fuck within the hour ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the " your loss" quote if you say no. Always puts a smile on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd have a rant if I were you.

That solves everything. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I count a message back a score no matter what the result haha it's all about volume

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

How dare you. You don't want my massive dick and my over inflated ego? My jokes are superb, they must be as I laugh at them. You must want to hear my life story and how all those awful women that left didn't understand me?

I am the one and only.

I will hound you and bombard you until I'm blocked.

Do you mean that sort of shit?

I expect a reply and a fuck within the hour ??"

No sorry I know I should be grateful and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,, "

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,,

"

No, youre a single guy and can be choosy, especialy if youre young and fit.

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By *he Ladies of the ManorCouple
over a year ago

Swansea - Guildford


"I love the " your loss" quote if you say no. Always puts a smile on my face "

Yes the perpetual :" your loss and I didn't really fancy you anyway. " message ! Why ? It dies get wearing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

"

I send a message, tear myself apart until they reply, or don't, the ones who don't I block, then I don't have to see them again and relive the frustration, I never ask why, it's personal to them why not, unless the tell me which I find rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

"

The simple answer is - There sad desperate wankers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are men and women who invest too much in this site and take it too seriously - it is they who seem to struggle with rejection. Treat it like the minor distraction or amusement that it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are men and women who invest too much in this site and take it too seriously - it is they who seem to struggle with rejection. Treat it like the minor distraction or amusement that it is. "

very true,

equality is a two-way street,

manners and respect works both ways,

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,, "

I really don't mind being turned down by the vast majority of guys on this site; honest, guv

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By *elson61Man
over a year ago

WELWYN GARDEN CITY


"

So although some men (by all means not all) can be a pain and be quite pushy some of the women on here aren't perfect either and don't always treat people with respect. "

That is true. I had the misfortune to have chatted with one recently on WhatsApp, arranged to meet, even on the day of the meet I was messaged and asked if the meet was still on, then no more heard from them. No response to my messages, no explanation, nothing.

Mind you, I did send a message by other means and got a big bite back

On the other hand, I have encountered a number of ladies on the site who have been polite and respectful and know how to communicate properly and I have enjoyed their candour and honesty.

The aforementioned timewaster (who I suspect has no intention of meeting anyone) could learn a lot from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

"

Because they're bellends.

I react the same online as I do in real life, if you politely spurned my advances I would thank you for your time and leave it there..

Oh and how yo doin???

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Guys...why take the hump when we don't wish to meet??? This happens a lot and it is really irritating! First there are the questions as to what is the problem and then no matter how polite I am I end up being blocked or having to block!!

"

You think it's exclusive to single guys?!!

If you read some threads by women and couples you'd know that's true. There's a proliferation of single men so some believe the chosen few should jump through hoops, bow down and be grateful for the pleasure.

Jesus wept! If a single man turns down the chance to bang a hot wife we never hear the end of it! The threads seeking validation of how hot, gorgeous the wife is and how rude the bloke is, is truly embarrassing and pathetic.

So let's not demonise single men: all site users have the propensity to throw their dummies out of the pram.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,, "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,,

"

Very true....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"There are men and women who invest too much in this site and take it too seriously - it is they who seem to struggle with rejection. Treat it like the minor distraction or amusement that it is. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I politely said "thanks, but no thanks" this afternoon to a guy and then blocked him because he carried on messaging me wanting to know WHY I said no.. The next thing I got a message from him on a different account telling me I was a jumped up little fat cunt and he didn't want to meet me anyway. Then HE blocked me haha... Arsehole!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I politely said "thanks, but no thanks" this afternoon to a guy and then blocked him because he carried on messaging me wanting to know WHY I said no.. The next thing I got a message from him on a different account telling me I was a jumped up little fat cunt and he didn't want to meet me anyway. Then HE blocked me haha... Arsehole!!! "

A large percentage of men experience sexual jealousy.... When they are refused/denied sex with someone then lashing out and calling names is a common reaction.

A sort of attempt to hurt your feelings, because at some point to them it feels like they have been hurt.

Not saying its right to do, but it is expected to happen really :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I politely said "thanks, but no thanks" this afternoon to a guy and then blocked him because he carried on messaging me wanting to know WHY I said no.. The next thing I got a message from him on a different account telling me I was a jumped up little fat cunt and he didn't want to meet me anyway. Then HE blocked me haha... Arsehole!!!

A large percentage of men experience sexual jealousy.... When they are refused/denied sex with someone then lashing out and calling names is a common reaction.

A sort of attempt to hurt your feelings, because at some point to them it feels like they have been hurt.

Not saying its right to do, but it is expected to happen really :/"

Why expected? We are ALL ADULTS or meant to be on here.

Someone saying no, does not give anyone the right to be derogatory towards another whether it be male to female or vice versa!

They are obviously insecure fools that thrive on belittling others!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I politely said "thanks, but no thanks" this afternoon to a guy and then blocked him because he carried on messaging me wanting to know WHY I said no.. The next thing I got a message from him on a different account telling me I was a jumped up little fat cunt and he didn't want to meet me anyway. Then HE blocked me haha... Arsehole!!!

A large percentage of men experience sexual jealousy.... When they are refused/denied sex with someone then lashing out and calling names is a common reaction.

A sort of attempt to hurt your feelings, because at some point to them it feels like they have been hurt.

Not saying its right to do, but it is expected to happen really :/

Why expected? We are ALL ADULTS or meant to be on here.

Someone saying no, does not give anyone the right to be derogatory towards another whether it be male to female or vice versa!

They are obviously insecure fools that thrive on belittling others! "

...With a sense of entitlement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I politely said "thanks, but no thanks" this afternoon to a guy and then blocked him because he carried on messaging me wanting to know WHY I said no.. The next thing I got a message from him on a different account telling me I was a jumped up little fat cunt and he didn't want to meet me anyway. Then HE blocked me haha... Arsehole!!!

A large percentage of men experience sexual jealousy.... When they are refused/denied sex with someone then lashing out and calling names is a common reaction.

A sort of attempt to hurt your feelings, because at some point to them it feels like they have been hurt.

Not saying its right to do, but it is expected to happen really :/

Why expected? We are ALL ADULTS or meant to be on here.

Someone saying no, does not give anyone the right to be derogatory towards another whether it be male to female or vice versa!

They are obviously insecure fools that thrive on belittling others! "

I say expected only because it is a reflection of primal behaviour. Yes I suppose insecurity does play a large part in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Calm down dear xx

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Block. Done.

Life goes on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always calm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm.

Just content yourself with the knowledge that you spotted this behavioural trait at the earliest stage and hadn't actually met them.

Declining someone's attention by message or whattsapp is infinitely easier than an uncomfortable scene at your first meeting.

Some of the 'gentlemen' on this site must have warped realities if they think harassment and constant bombardment will gain them a pleasurable first meet or even a meet at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are men and women who invest too much in this site and take it too seriously - it is they who seem to struggle with rejection. Treat it like the minor distraction or amusement that it is. "

this.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont get this problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, I'd hate to have to reject the vast majority of women who message me cause I just couldn't possibly keep up with the amount of pussy on offer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People in general don't take rejection well, can anyone actually say that being told no when they want to is nice?

It just depends how that person acts after, most take it on the chin, some act like children!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just the guys that take rejection badly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like being rejected. It's my kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not just the guys that take rejection badly!!"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection rants need to come to an end

Plenty more fishes in the sea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine if food could talk.... We would go to a smorgasbord .....

Mmmm no not that.... Too fattening.... Too sour... Too sweet.... Too tough... Too soft.... Don't like the look of that .... Oh a little if that one .... Oh juicy yes please..... On no bones...... Definitely just what I love ..... Darn they don't have what I like....

Imagine if the food could talk back to our comments..... Would it feel rejected or loved ....

It's just personal preference - nothing more X

Mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,,

I wouldn't go as far as to say worse but it pisses me off when female site uses assume you will automatically be interested just because you are a single male. We are not all desperate! That is right, we are not all desperate."

You're not??

That's me screwed then!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blocking is a tool. If they block you, they won't be messaging again"

This is correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,,

I wouldn't go as far as to say worse but it pisses me off when female site uses assume you will automatically be interested just because you are a single male. We are not all desperate! That is right, we are not all desperate.

You're not??

That's me screwed then!! "

I'm the opposite, I don't message women because I think they'll have the choice of all the men on here so why would they pick me!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Women are worse. How dare you turn me down. Your a single guy and cant be choosy..,,,

I wouldn't go as far as to say worse but it pisses me off when female site uses assume you will automatically be interested just because you are a single male. We are not all desperate! That is right, we are not all desperate.

You're not??

That's me screwed then!! "

or not

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