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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My girlfriend loves her arse being spanked and I find it a real turn on to hear her moan whilst spanking her arse ... It's very new though ... Any tips from anyone out there, particularly ladies ... What is good and what must I avoid? Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start off gentley and build it up, remember when you get harder to also soothe and rub her bum, spanking one cheek and rubbing the other is good.

So you just use hands or have you ventured into toys?

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By *heon_blueboyMan
over a year ago

Medway

It's all about the aftercare dude. Get some cooling cream for her. I'd also suggest getting used to hands before moving to paddles etc. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Start off gentley and build it up, remember when you get harder to also soothe and rub her bum, spanking one cheek and rubbing the other is good.

So you just use hands or have you ventured into toys?"

Thanks for the tips ... Just hands at the mo but I have bought a 'beginners flogger' ... Want to get hands right first though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's an art in spanking. Don't spank over broken skin, rashes or in sensitive areas and always ensure the other person is definitely keen! But be ready to stop immediately if they are not! I enjoy using canes, whips and school straps and my hand equally but I am VERY wary of spanking a guy who has never before expressed interest in the dom scene. But overall i do love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Search up and look out for subspace too, I get there through spanking and once I'm there I'm lost and have no way to communicate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's an art in spanking. Don't spank over broken skin, rashes or in sensitive areas and always ensure the other person is definitely keen! But be ready to stop immediately if they are not! I enjoy using canes, whips and school straps and my hand equally but I am VERY wary of spanking a guy who has never before expressed interest in the dom scene. But overall i do love it!"

Thank you Tracey ... Good advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Search up and look out for subspace too, I get there through spanking and once I'm there I'm lost and have no way to communicate "

Great advice too ... Thank you ... Will be ware of her enjoying things so much she cannot communicate so cannot say to stop x

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By *mnipotent_BehemothMan
over a year ago

near Merry Hill shopping centre

Sub space will be more about the aftercare you will need to offer, if she does go spacey she will be fine, but have a drink, blanket, chocolate and hugs around, sub drop is like cold turkey.

Floggers are lovely things and very sensual, more so than spanking to my mind, just go gental and build up, it's very hard to go wrong with most flogger avalible through normal sex shops etc, canes on the other hand need to be handled with care as they can do real long term damage.

A little thought should mean you get the best from this kink.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks omnipotent ...

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By *mnipotent_BehemothMan
over a year ago

near Merry Hill shopping centre

Just seen your in Telford, there used to be a monthly fetish Munch at one of the local pubs, a nice friendly group, worth looking up and dropping in for a pint and a chat, I know quite a few knowledgable folk who used to go to it.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Read everything you can. Technique, safe word, after care etc

When getting new toys, practice on a pillow to practice your aim and swing. Worth investing in toys made by people who are into kink themselves (usually found at fetish markets). A lot of mass produced stuff is nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing nicer than slapping a man's arse .

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By *mnipotent_BehemothMan
over a year ago

near Merry Hill shopping centre


"Read everything you can. Technique, safe word, after care etc

When getting new toys, practice on a pillow to practice your aim and swing. Worth investing in toys made by people who are into kink themselves (usually found at fetish markets). A lot of mass produced stuff is nasty"

Good point, get yourself down to the BBB it's only a few miles down the M54 you will find quite a few artisan makers and will have at least one demo a year on canes and impact play respectively

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The BBB ... What is that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Read everything you can. Technique, safe word, after care etc

When getting new toys, practice on a pillow to practice your aim and swing. Worth investing in toys made by people who are into kink themselves (usually found at fetish markets). A lot of mass produced stuff is nasty"

Good advice thank you ... What do you think the best progression is ... Spanking to ? To ?

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