FabSwingers.com forum: one for the single ladies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi, having had a bad meet recently with a guy who wanted to treat the meet like a 'lovey dovey' date, it got me wondering....ladies, as a single woman, how do u want your meets to go?

I have very firm mental boundries in order to protect myself and not get too attached to the guy.

This usually involves just having sexy fun, no socials (i have friends outside of swinging for that) keep the sex to good ole fashioned fucking not 'love making'.

Im finding i cant deal with the guys who want the whole 'spooning thing' and emotional lovemaking 'lets see eachother a lot, i really really like u'.

'fuck and leave' is my motto!

Am i the only one who conducts my meets this way?

Love to know ur opinions (go easy on me, im still a bit mentally bruised!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I meet someone who is what I would consider non-life partner material, then I would keep it to sex only, without any emotional attachment.

However, if I find I really like the gent, and that he has life-partner potentials, and he has shown signs to feel the same about me, then I am not afraid to let my sentiments known, in that I really like him, and would not mind having repeats and may even invite him home for long weekends etc...

If it does develop into romance, then so be it. If it does not, then I have a true friend with benefits!

Life is too short to say never never in my book.

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

to many men are like, oh i really like you etc etc. a lot of it is cos they get jealous and want you all to themselfs. pisses me off.

nothing wrong with respect and getting on with someone, but men should stick to what the person wants and thats it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Cornwall some men think you are there's no matter what and some will get jealous. Keep it as you said at the end of the day it's NSA sex nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing is cut and dried. People are people and have different effects on each other.

I meet for sex. Nothing more. I do not want a relationship and if I did it wouldn't be with someone i met from here.

Or would it ?

Surely it depends on forces outside of our control.

Different types of meets are possible. Splosh n Go , Stay a little bit Longer , Great company socialise sex stay the night then get lost.

Depends.

If you are getting emotional attention from someone that you do not want it from then just don't meet them again.

Unless you want to ?

It doesn't mean you're cold if you want emotionless sex. Maybe it's the only way he can relate to women.

Why worry anyway. The male to female ratio here is too heavily in your favour to worry about one bloke you are not attached to.

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

nothing wrong with enjoying there company, i mean ya got get on and even be friends.

i have a fuck buddy who is not on here, we are great mates and she is a great laugh.

its like we are best mates but we have great sex too.

thats how it shoud be.

not, lets gets married cos your hot, or i want you all to myself.

she often tells me about some guys she meets.

i just say, make sure you fuck his brains out and enjoy yourself ha ha.

nothing to get jealous over lol.

plus im a complete lesbian ha ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to get on with the people i meet, i need an attraction, but i dont need to be nor want to be wined and dined

I dont like repeat meets, i must prefure one offs, saying that i do expect to be treated with respect as a human being

I do expect my sex partner to be considerate towards my sexual need

I dont like social meets so far as meet for a drink then arrange a play meet another time if we get on, i really do not see the point in that, i do like to meet for a drink first tho so i know if i want to have sex with them, but if i do like them why not play that night? why arrange if for another night?

I just like to meet for a drink, go to arranged place for sex, have great sex and go home both happy

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

exactly naughty.

if you ladies wanted all that lovey dovey shit you would of went to match.com lol x

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I fully agree there as well but a lot of single fems amd cpls wont

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

...flits through thread like a butterfly...

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By *BW38jWoman
over a year ago

Dudley/Telford

"hi, having had a bad meet recently with a guy who wanted to treat the meet like a 'lovey dovey' date, it got me wondering....ladies, as a single woman, how do u want your meets to go?

I have very firm mental boundries in order to protect myself and not get too attached to the guy.

This usually involves just having sexy fun, no socials (i have friends outside of swinging for that) keep the sex to good ole fashioned fucking not 'love making'.

Im finding i cant deal with the guys who want the whole 'spooning thing' and emotional lovemaking 'lets see eachother a lot, i really really like u'.

'fuck and leave' is my motto!

Am i the only one who conducts my meets this way?

Love to know ur opinions (go easy on me, im still a bit mentally bruised!!)

nothing wrong with how you conduct this side of your life. i also want nsa fun. but 1 or 2 start to think thye are having a relationship, which i dont want. stick to your way its fun and ur not hurting any1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its ok until they start telling me what to do then I go cold. Sex yes but cant sleep when someone else is in my bed I have been known to get out and sleep on sofa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've known from others we have spoken to that some men want you to be exclusive to them only. Sod that if I was going to do that I would not be on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have someone I can ring up when Im horny and he can do likewise. We have known each other for years and we have very tender moments when we fall into a spoon but neither wants more nor expects more. You can have non commital sex and feel loving and cosy to that person and do nice things for each other without it meaning roses around the cottage door. You can't supress your nature but you can control the situation to suit both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a tricky one! lol

I see a lot of women here who swear they're only here for NSA and months later, They are:

A, Telling you to talk to their master.

B, Become part of a couple and happy.

C, Come back with a new profile after ending a relationship. (oh dear...)

D, Still pursuing NSA.

People will change their minds and we're allowed to. Just be honest and careful. We're all here for fun after all.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I am perfectly capable of being tactile, affectionate, warm and even what some people may call ‘loving’ in bed…. but it doesn’t mean I won’t kick them out of bed when I am done and get on with my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet at clubs thus avoiding this problem

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By *igman16728Man
over a year ago

Ellon

Jesus remind me never to meet any of you ladies lol. I do not want an everlasting emotional contract with a meet but i struggle with when you do have one that they can barely say hello, yet expect you to be instantly hard fuck them silly then leave all with very little conversation or anything else. I like to at least have a chat before and after. If i wanted straight in and out i'd pay for it and at least your guarenteed for her to act interested lol. I've had very very good meets and equally bad. The chatty ones are definately top for me

. Silent ones bring out mr floppy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have someone I can ring up when Im horny and he can do likewise. We have known each other for years and we have very tender moments when we fall into a spoon but neither wants more nor expects more. You can have non commital sex and feel loving and cosy to that person and do nice things for each other without it meaning roses around the cottage door. You can't supress your nature but you can control the situation to suit both. "

I have the same too, is lovely, good conversation, good sex and curling up intertwined dozing afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own.

Some peeps play and have fun with no intention of emotional attachment, while some would not say no if they find the right person.

Honesty is the best option IMHO.

If I truly like a playmate and would not mind our friendship to develop further, I would let him know, and risk loosing him as a playmate, rather than to let the chance of a meaningful/loving/lasting relationship to slip through my fingers.

To quote from someone else, I shall play with Mr. Wrongs until Mr. Right comes along!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop behaving like a man,its our job to do the fucking and leaving not yours,This equality thing has gone to far.

you will probably want to vote next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...flits through thread like a butterfly...

And stings like a bee

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By *andit BabeWoman
over a year ago

melton mowbray

I too like to get to know someone a little, I love repeat meetings and think that the best fun comes when you know your way around someone, what makes them tick and have a mutual trust in each other to try different things,

To me, a wham, bang, thank you ma'am leaves me feeling cold and if I am honest a little cheap. The best sex I have is with a good friend of mine who I see socially too, dinner and a movie is not out of the ordinary, nor is just a cuppa if we are passing, similarly neither is an out of the blue text and an hour later.....

The result? I have someone I trust completely, we enjoy each others company, the sex is fantastic and there are no pretences between us. We have the best kind of relationship in my book, we do cuddle up in bed to sleep and I still get to meet anyone I like!

It's whatever works for you really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However people conduct their meets is entirely up to them. And sometimes emotions are out of our control and if you strike a connection with someone, well these things happen.

Im not a single woman so therefore I dont get attached to any of the meets I have. As long as they have treated me respectfully and weve had a good time on the night, that is all I care about.

I never take anyones phone number and I never give mine out. On occasions we have given Chris's number, but this is only to be used for directions etc on the night. Its strictly a meet up, have a drink, have a good time, then home to bed and no emotional attachment whatsoever. I couldnt be doing with having guys text me, I have been passed phone numbers but I wouldnt dream of using them.

If I was single, I would never want to get into a situation whereby I really liked a guy, but I was constantly checking his profile and his verifications out to see who else he was meeting or wondering why he didnt ask me for a meet the night he played with someone else, worry about who he was messaging or checking out if he was extra nice to another woman on the forum etc etc. You have to remember that the majority of guys just want to fuck. They enjoy repeats because its hard as a single guy to get enough play, so they will tell ladies anything to ensure they have a fallback.

But im a cynical bugger to be honest - relationships have formed from the swinging scene so it can work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm always very clear that i like being single and that my life does not have room for a relationship and i will re-iterate that message if needed.

if the person tries to take it further then i will do the right thing and end it.

i like the people i am with to be friends too, couldn't contemplate it any other way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont want a man in a club to "make love to me", I want him to fuck me hard and leave. I have Hubby for love making and touchy feely, I want action in a club. I want wham bam thank you maam, and lots of it! I dont want someone trying to prove to me they are Mr Loverman!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll come back to this!

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