FabSwingers.com forum: Swinger dating forum

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have a friend. (Lol). Who wants to have a relationship as in non fuck buddy type but with a partner who also enjoys the swinging lifestyle. Are any mother people looking for "love" on here with a partner who swings? Would a dating site for swingers work? They say they would find it hard asking a person while on a date, if they liked swinging. Thoughts...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads here looking for life partners ,dates etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think any site has the potential to become just another fuck site really. seems to be happening everywhere else online...

but yeah dating specifically for swingers is needed, seen plenty saying they want a partner into it. they should be able to find it on here if everyone was honest and not lying coz they're desperate for a fuck.

i'm after a partner for other reasons, if i find one on here i'd be ok with that. its just sifting out all the liars along the way that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck.

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck."

This

Said but true

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well our friend has just commented in the thread in the lounge about dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes joke with an old school friend ( who knows what I get up to ) that swinging has institutionalised me. Whenever I use traditional dating sites I quickly get bored with it, although it could be argued that I haven't given it a fair chance.

I am not one for secrets so when I have felt confident enough to hint at my swinging or BDSM lifestyle the few women I did get chatting with or meet have either not been interested or ran for the hills in terror lol

On the flip side the women I chat with on here often have all kinds of guards up for obvious reasons. So my approach is to carry on having fun but also to not close my mind to the prospect of exploring something deeper with the right woman at the right time in her sexual journey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck."
initially I think attraction and carnal lust form the basis of most new relationships its as you get to know the person you find that feeling that no-one else will do

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"We have a friend. (Lol). Who wants to have a relationship as in non fuck buddy type but with a partner who also enjoys the swinging lifestyle. Are any mother people looking for "love" on here with a partner who swings? Would a dating site for swingers work? They say they would find it hard asking a person while on a date, if they liked swinging. Thoughts... "

I've made no secret of the fact I'd like to find something more substantial in my life, where I find that who knows but I'm looking

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

We could call it apply within!

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

If I could find someone who also wanted to explore swinging as part of a relationship would be ideal… not many dating sites offer this option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single mail me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bump

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck.

This

Said but true

Can you not tell by the chatting/messaging whether they are genuinely interested or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not for me, i'm not looking for love but if i was a swinging site would be the last place i'd look

i think lots of single people are looking for a swinging relationship though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck.

This

Said but true

Can you not tell by the chatting/messaging whether they are genuinely interested or not?"

I've had a guy say to me that if he'd met me anywhere except on here he could've seen us being together a long time, but apparently being on here makes me undesirable!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck.

This

What an idiot then.

Said but true

Can you not tell by the chatting/messaging whether they are genuinely interested or not?

I've had a guy say to me that if he'd met me anywhere except on here he could've seen us being together a long time, but apparently being on here makes me undesirable!"

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Sometimes the looking for love stuff can put off depending how the other person is about it.

If someone's just being honest and going with the flow, letting what might happen happen then cool. If and when that does happen, sexuality and personality totally combine, it's quite something

When some are not so go with the flow, over keen, smothering, trying to live in your pocket after one/two great meets it's a rather off putting.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck.

This

Said but true

Can you not tell by the chatting/messaging whether they are genuinely interested or not?

I've had a guy say to me that if he'd met me anywhere except on here he could've seen us being together a long time, but apparently being on here makes me undesirable!"

Madness! I suppose I'm biased being on here but I'd say that makes you even more desirable! I'd find a fellow swinger more attractive not less

But at least it's best to know up front if someone's got that sort of opinion of you

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Usually I meet for nsa sex which means little or no chat before and no cut afterwards. If I want chat and a conversation, I get that from my friends and my partner. My needs are met in that respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck."

This is exactly why I don't entertain the idea of dating right now.

I'd rather meet like minded people, with clear intentions. I find people I've met on fab are generally(!) very open, honest and candid about their intentions and expectations.

There's very little chasing and game playing, and altogether I have stronger friendships with these people than anything that could ever develop from a vanilla site.

I've been fucked over (scuze the pun) on tinder/okcupid/pof etc than I ever have been on here.

I love to just roll with it, keep an open mind and see what happens.

If I have expectations or a certain goal in mind- ie relationship or just sex chances are, I'll always get the opposite.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"I've had a guy say to me that if he'd met me anywhere except on here he could've seen us being together a long time, but apparently being on here makes me undesirable!"

That's so weird. I guess some guys still have that old fashioned complex where they have to have a 'good girl' for a relationship.

Personally I think having a partner who's on the same sexual wavelength seems like the better plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck.

This

Said but true

Can you not tell by the chatting/messaging whether they are genuinely interested or not?

I've had a guy say to me that if he'd met me anywhere except on here he could've seen us being together a long time, but apparently being on here makes me undesirable!"

I would have thought the honesty you find with most genuine members on here be more desirable ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

keep your emotions closed in until you feel you know anybody really well -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck."

Very true, I was fortunate I found my better half on a similar site, we were lucky that our friendship developed organically into a relationship. I believe for its meant to be it will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck.

This

Said but true

Can you not tell by the chatting/messaging whether they are genuinely interested or not?

I've had a guy say to me that if he'd met me anywhere except on here he could've seen us being together a long time, but apparently being on here makes me undesirable!"

Sadly there are lots of guys on here that are happy to fuck and play with singles/ couples but wouldn't want their own girlfriend to play. That's why we've seen a few singles become couples and suddenly they only play with women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone wanna set me up on a date can send face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't try looking for them on line! If get out there you may actually meet them and then you will know because it feels great. Fab is as easy way to meet people as any other site.

Too many people these days spend their time behind a screen waiting for Mr or Miss Right to turn up through their message filters.

Get out and meet the humans. You have to kiss (or fuck) a fair few frogs before you find your Prince but when you do, trust me, it is amazing!!!

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I'm looking for an alpha cuck.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to find a life partner/girlfriend to have some fun with, not sure if I met a girl in a pub or anything that I'd feel comfortable telling her I'd like to watch her getting fucked and I'd like to suck his cock after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually I meet for nsa sex which means little or no chat before and no cut afterwards. If I want chat and a conversation, I get that from my friends and my partner. My needs are met in that respect."
but it would seem you are in a small minority in that regard most want regular and social to and to know the person as a friend

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By *AA123Couple
over a year ago

Lichfield

Was the opposite way round for us.

We met to have fun (via another site). Instantly clicked with all sorts of likes and most importantly the right chemistry between us.

Four years on, married and very very happy

Moral of the story. Don't try too hard to look for love.

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By *heon_blueboyMan
over a year ago

Medway

I can relate to this. I'm single and I'd love a relationship. Though preferably with someone who wants to swing. Bonus points if they're into the BDSM lifestyle!

I fear that a regular relationship won't fulfil me now, so I'm stuffed!

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By *heon_blueboyMan
over a year ago

Medway

A dating forum is a great idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I sometimes joke with an old school friend ( who knows what I get up to ) that swinging has institutionalised me. Whenever I use traditional dating sites I quickly get bored with it, although it could be argued that I haven't given it a fair chance.

Good plan !!

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

There will never be a one size fits all answer (or almost never) as we are all multi-faceted and have more than one interest.

I might meet a female on here, fancy her rotten, and we both enjoy a good fuck (and watching each other having a good fuck). We might have nothing in common other than that which isn't the basis for a good relationship, but on the other hand we may have many similar interests and be 'made for each other'.

The same applies if you meet someone in a pub, on holiday, online dating or a forum about some other interest.

What it boils down to, I guess, is what you spend most of your spare time doing and if that is something you are both happy doing. If one of you likes something that 'freaks the other out' it's either a deal breaker, something to try out and accept or you re-evaluate what is most important to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good plan !!

Thank you I think it's a good way to go. Are you similarly minded?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look this is the same as any other social site people are looking for partners we've had a marriage recently and one coming up ,people are up for dates and prunes

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I want to be honest with people from the outset about being on here,however I'm finding it's backfiring on me and that's all they want to talk about. Think I'll keep my mouth shut in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to be honest with people from the outset about being on here,however I'm finding it's backfiring on me and that's all they want to talk about. Think I'll keep my mouth shut in future

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so no blow jobs then damn

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I want to be honest with people from the outset about being on here,however I'm finding it's backfiring on me and that's all they want to talk about. Think I'll keep my mouth shut in future

so no blow jobs then damn

Not until date number 10!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to be honest with people from the outset about being on here,however I'm finding it's backfiring on me and that's all they want to talk about. Think I'll keep my mouth shut in future

so no blow jobs then damn

Not until date number 10!"
awwwww jealous you sure you're in the right thread

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I want to be honest with people from the outset about being on here,however I'm finding it's backfiring on me and that's all they want to talk about. Think I'll keep my mouth shut in future

so no blow jobs then damn

Not until date number 10! awwwww jealous you sure you're in the right thread

You know what,I'm getting to the point of not knowing where the heck I am!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to be honest with people from the outset about being on here,however I'm finding it's backfiring on me and that's all they want to talk about. Think I'll keep my mouth shut in future

so no blow jobs then damn

Not until date number 10! awwwww jealous you sure you're in the right thread

You know what,I'm getting to the point of not knowing where the heck I am!"
women have just never been good at geography

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are already dating sites for swingers!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I want to be honest with people from the outset about being on here,however I'm finding it's backfiring on me and that's all they want to talk about. Think I'll keep my mouth shut in future

so no blow jobs then damn

Not until date number 10! awwwww jealous you sure you're in the right thread

You know what,I'm getting to the point of not knowing where the heck I am!"

It's true ladies can't read maps then..

I said it further up the thread ...I make no secret that I'd like someone in my life. So I'm out there and in here looking

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I want to be honest with people from the outset about being on here,however I'm finding it's backfiring on me and that's all they want to talk about. Think I'll keep my mouth shut in future

so no blow jobs then damn

Not until date number 10! awwwww jealous you sure you're in the right thread

You know what,I'm getting to the point of not knowing where the heck I am!

It's true ladies can't read maps then..

I said it further up the thread ...I make no secret that I'd like someone in my life. So I'm out there and in here looking

What's a map?!

. I have a wonderful sat nav that gets me from a to b most of the time! In all seriousness though I find dating and wanting someone that's at least a little open to the idea of swinging hard to marry up so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A swingers dating site would be a fantastic idea, its difficult to say what you want when your meeting someone the conventional way

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By *ittle Miss CheeksWoman
over a year ago

,Around Devon

Mmmm this an interesting subject.

Very rarely do I look or go on the Forums but bordem was setting in so thought why not and this was the second post I came across. I do see people's profile reflecting (in so many words) to say if people think they can have a relationship from meeting on Fab, then they are stupid

I personally don't understand why as I have met and known people within Fab to make relationships and are still together. For me personally, atm, I cannot think of anything better to have a vanilla and fab life all rolled into one! I would like to meet someone to swing with as makes for more fun but that said, I'm not going out of my way. If it happens great!

Wonder if Fab would ever be open to the idea of a Swinging Dating Site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am up for some dating ?? MSG me if you like what you see.

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By *obbly BitsWoman
over a year ago

Stone

Like most people here I'd love a relationship with mutual interest from here. Something can can develop into love etc as well as naughty fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If definitely be looking if such a forum was available. Having been in a swinging relationship previously I don't know if a vanilla one would work for me again. If I found someone on here, it would be great, and you never know, many couples have done so, married, had kids etc

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"I want love, but I found by broadcasting that I was looking to date on here (on my profile) I had guys lying to me about their intentions.

If they only want to fuck me, I'd rather them be honest about it than promise me the moon only to renege on their promises after a fuck."

Aye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think a vanilla relationship would work for me now either. A swinging relationship would be perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think a vanilla relationship would work for me now either. A swinging relationship would be perfect"

I'm of the same mind. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id like to find love on here but it seems impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone wants a date just mail me

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By *odg123Man
over a year ago

southampton

I'd give it a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Count me in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly if you're a single person sleeping with just other single people I and many don't class that as swinging.

Secondly the whole idea of swinging is surely couples who get together and after a while, decide to spice up their sex lives by getting into thressomes, group fun, etc.

Swinging and dating should never be mentioned in the same sentence imo ( I know I just did ) I realise I'm old fashioned and I've never been on a dating site so probably biased.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I don't think a vanilla relationship would work for me now either. A swinging relationship would be perfect"

I'm the opposite, no way would I entertain a full time relationship with a swinger, but there are plenty of people like me who would happily walk away from here if they met the right person.

Now what I want is a dating site with fab veris lol - what a pain it would be to date a guy then find out he is useless in bed!!

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