FabSwingers.com forum: Getting started

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, im a single guy looking to get into the swinging scene. I've got verified and have put a couple of pictures up.

Just wanted some advice really, what's the best way to go about this? I've sent a few messages introducing myself, nothing vulgar, but as yet no response.

Any tips would be gladly received!!

Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U are going against the masses... It's like ratio 100:1 men to women .... Women are spoilt and u are actually competing for attention ...

You can't just say want to meet or fuck now sort of thing... A hey how are you also does not work..

You need to read a profile, kind of figure out what one is looking for and then tailor a message to that really to get any sort of attention..

This is kind of like a dating site but with no attachments and woman do demand to be respected regardless of their liking for sex ...

I really can't say anymore ... Except you will get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is only one thing you need on this site to be an exceptional man that will achieve great things and many meets.

Patience

Actually there are two things you need to be an.............

Patience and Politeness

Hold-on... There are three things you need to be.........

Patience, Politeness and Pictures

Wait, Wait just a minute, there are four things you need

Patience, Politeness, Pictures and Personality

I could go on, but I guess what I am driving at is, be patient and respectful, if you message first, read the profile and construct an opening message that entices further conversation. If you get a rejection, take it on the chin (write a note next to that profile name to avoid further issues) and move on.

Happy Swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey S, thanks for the reply. Ive been reading profiles and I've been polite, simply introducing myself, but I was wondering if that was the wrong tact and women are looking for something dirty!

Thanks for the heads up, looks like I'll just have to be patient

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha, thanks Paul, all noted! I think I'm a polite and respectful guy. Looks like the patience is the area I'll need to work on!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hey S, thanks for the reply. Ive been reading profiles and I've been polite, simply introducing myself, but I was wondering if that was the wrong tact and women are looking for something dirty!

Thanks for the heads up, looks like I'll just have to be patient "

It may be that you are lumping women into one, homogenous group.

Like men, we all want different things so read the profile and taylor your message to that person you are interested in.

You may get lucky.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd love to meet you but you smoke.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey topsy, thanks for the heads up. Like I said, I do read through and have. Think about what to say. I need to be attracted too, so I like to think I'm not taking the scattergun approach.

Didn't realise how much the smoking thing would bother people. I'm keep myself smelling fresh and always have mints with me, but I guess this is another on the list of reason to give up!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I'd love to meet you but you smoke."
is he hot?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'd love to meet you but you smoke. is he hot?"

He's tall and attractive. You like that, don't you Steve

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hey topsy, thanks for the heads up. Like I said, I do read through and have. Think about what to say. I need to be attracted too, so I like to think I'm not taking the scattergun approach.

Didn't realise how much the smoking thing would bother people. I'm keep myself smelling fresh and always have mints with me, but I guess this is another on the list of reason to give up! "

Excellent attitude to have, the fact that you're not willing to stick your cock in anything just to get your rocks off.

As for the smoking thing, there are far more that don't mind, than those that do. I'm an ex smoker and all the showers and mints in the world won't hide the smell. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the compliment!

Yeah of course I need somebody that stimulates me. I think it needs to be more than a physical connection too

Yeah I understand that, I'll drop you a message when I finally give up ??

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thanks for the compliment!

Yeah of course I need somebody that stimulates me. I think it needs to be more than a physical connection too

Yeah I understand that, I'll drop you a message when I finally give up ??"

No harm in trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the key lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey topsy, thanks for the heads up. Like I said, I do read through and have. Think about what to say. I need to be attracted too, so I like to think I'm not taking the scattergun approach.

Didn't realise how much the smoking thing would bother people. I'm keep myself smelling fresh and always have mints with me, but I guess this is another on the list of reason to give up! "

I'd meet u... Smoking or not lol

Patience u will get there x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds good to me!!!

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By *isterC74Man
over a year ago

ely

Unfortunately there's no magic trick and often messages are bulk deleted unread or ignored,if your face fits (why face pics are asked for) your sorted , it's not fair on the ladies to expect a reply to every message because they are inundated, my wife's biggest complaint about being on site,

Just keep trying

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By *allyandJonCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Suggest you try a club like Chameleons on a Friday night its a real eye opener with like minded people your bound to find some fun. It takes a bit of courage to go to a club as a single but once your in its relaxed and you wonder around and see what is happening and get invited over.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Evening and thanks for the reply, I get what you mean the numbers are against me, but the concept of bulk deleting worries me as my intentions are not to message somebody more than once and hound them!

I'm a patient guy, cheers!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi S&J, your right with courage, I've considered going to a club, but seems very daunting! Being very new, I'm just not sure I'd know how to carry myself or what the right way of doing things is!

Like the idea of meeting a couple of people then heading to a club with some friendly faces!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Hi S&J, your right with courage, I've considered going to a club, but seems very daunting! Being very new, I'm just not sure I'd know how to carry myself or what the right way of doing things is!

Like the idea of meeting a couple of people then heading to a club with some friendly faces! "

Think of a club as a pub where some folk are naked occasionally and somewhere, there is sex going on. If you can chat in any social situation, you can chat in a club.

I'm sure you know what not to do in any social situation, don't do that at a swingers club and most of all, don't touch without asking.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

There is an unspoken golden rule about men's photos. No rugby shirts and absolutely not under any circumstances should you ever have a pic of yourself holding a fish

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hmmm, thanks topsy, I know what you mean but I would t go into a pub on my own! Maybe I'll need to bite the bullet and go for it!

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