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Couples, how did you start swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello,

I'd love to get my wife interested in this sexy world. I've told her she looks beautiful being fucked and that I'd love to see her get fucked. She's v occasionally asked me if I'd like to see her fucked. We've also talked about how hot it would be to see her kissing/stroking another beautiful lady etc. But nothing ever happens in reality.

For those of you who have been here, how did you make the transition from fantasy to reality when it comes to swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very slowly and keeping within our boundaries we set and of course others, we have played with others soft and kinky play but I for one love watching Jane playing and being played with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How did it start out for you? how did you take the 1st step?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

We had both been swinging as singles, so we know neither one nor the other was underhand or disrespectful about it. Neither of us had ever pressed previous partners into it because we both feel that would have been manipulative ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair enough. Ideal situation when you both know in advance what you're interesed in.

(For the record, I'd never pressure my mrs into anything she doesn't want to do. I'd like her to enjoy things.The way she sometimes talks, I think she would enjoy certain things in swinging. The problem is in getting it to happen for real.)

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By *limaxinnylonCouple
over a year ago

CHESTER

Have you ever asked what her fantasies are.... Once she has given them you may be able to go from there.... A few outdoor flash pics, maybe a little outdoor fun, whispering in her ear would love someone to catch us right now, get her involved with little things and go from there. Maybe talk about a profile with just meeting a woman if she wants to explore with a woman, don't involve yourself for the first meet other than watching so she feels comfortable and not wondering if you fancy the other woman etc.

If all goes well and you don't push her she may want to take further... Or she just may not be in to it at all!

All Jon had to say was.... Do you fancy meeting a couple with me and I was in... husband watched whilst we both fucked his wife and I had no worries or concerns after so I knew it was right and I loved it but not everyone is the same and jealousy gets in the way !

Good luck

Jayne xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good advice. Many thanks.

Horny recollections too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm thinking of going out with her dressed up. Wine and dine her. And when, inevitably, a guy or guys eye her, whisper it to her. Tell her how beautiful she is and that everybody can see it. Make her feel special and wanted. That way I can maybe see if she likes being wanted/admired by others with no pressure.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"We had both been swinging as singles, so we know neither one nor the other was underhand or disrespectful about it. Neither of us had ever pressed previous partners into it because we both feel that would have been manipulative .... "

This. We met as singles on here. After deciding we had fallen for each other and wanted to become a couple we stayed away from here for a while. After falling in love and completely trusting each other we decided we would like to do it together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looks like the way to go is no pressure and total honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first experience was so random we were drinking with another couple who we had known a while and when we were all pissed some suggested strip poker and then truth and dare lol so after that night we thought wow Wat an eye opening and then found fabs lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol sounds like you stumbled into this world d*unkenly

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Imho totally honest is a must. Its only natural to fancy other people but that is totally different to wanting to be in a relationship. We are both happy for each other to meet with other people as long as we tell each other but much prefer meeting together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sounds great.

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By *fcouple3343Couple
over a year ago

hamilton

Hi, We were in a similar position where we occasionally talked about it for quite a few years. My other half then sat me down a few days before my birthday and after a good long chat about boundaries etc we arranged a threesome. A year later here we are. Turns out neither of us really thought the other was serious! All that wasted time lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex wife was always fantazing about another man joining us, also about watching me with another woman when we had sex, but would never acted on it and do it for real.

Since we spit up, last July, I go to the swingers clubs I had private meets and having a time of my life, it's just a pity it was not with her.

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By *ipsxxCouple
over a year ago

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We talked about it a few times then we went to a club to see what it was all about and we was shocked as we did not really expect the amount of couples and singles our own ages. We felt really comfortable. The first time we just chatted to some really nice couples and singles and had a play on our own in a playroom. We really enjoyed it so we went back a few weeks later and we meet up with a sexy couple and had a chat few drinks and went and had a play it went from there really now we just can't wait to go out and have a play and a great night just take it slow no pressure playing at clubs really hope you find this useful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the replies. Gives me hope of finding a way forward.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

It just took a gentle push...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A gentle push into bed?

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By *heon_blueboyMan
over a year ago

Medway

I'd suggest you show her this site so she can chat to people. That's how my ex and I started, just playing around online.

However, does she know you're on here and created a couple profile with her description etc? If she views that as deceit, you'll have a mountain to climb.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She knows. I talked with her about this and showed her when setting it up. So far, though, she's humming and hahiing about even getting active on this website. It was my hope being on here could be a gentle intro for her.

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By *heon_blueboyMan
over a year ago

Medway


"She knows. I talked with her about this and showed her when setting it up. So far, though, she's humming and hahiing about even getting active on this website. It was my hope being on here could be a gentle intro for her."

That's cool then dude, good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ty. I hope we get to dive into this world some day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Www.mojoupgrade.com

Dual sexual questionnaire that matches up all your sexual likes and discards the dislikes.

You will only be able to see the things you've both matched on so no embarrassment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey that's great! ty v much. Will definitely try this with my wife.

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By *bacusMan
over a year ago

Walton on Thames


"Our first experience was so random we were drinking with another couple who we had known a while and when we were all pissed some suggested strip poker and then truth and dare lol so after that night we thought wow Wat an eye opening and then found fabs lol x "

Similar experince but i'm not yet at the next stage. I'm exploring this world in the hope she will follow my lead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Best of luck! Let us know how it goes.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"A gentle push into bed?"

No,to start swinging...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

;)

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By *untimes6969Man
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Some great advice, plus the interactive sex questionnaire is a great idea!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Agreed. Will ask her if she wants to do that tonight probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Www.mojoupgrade.com

Dual sexual questionnaire that matches up all your sexual likes and discards the dislikes.

You will only be able to see the things you've both matched on so no embarrassment.

"

Haha - this is brilliant, thanks! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When me and my FB first met we chatted about fantasies etc , she had been in a long boring relationship where the guy would only want a fmf 3sum whereas her fantasy was a mfm 3sum....we chatted more about it, and we both agreed if the opportunity arose innocently ( not pre arranged etc ) then we would go for it.

We were on holiday and got chatting to a couple of young guys staying in same complex....long story short.....our first 3sum was actually a 4sum ....mmmf and we loved it.

Was such a turn on and the first of many .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow talk about jumping in at the deep end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on here too which probably does make such discussions easier. Even once when we had our joint profile and started going to clubs it was probably another 6 months or so before we actively started to play with others. Often we just play together at clubs enjoying the heightened / charged atmosphere. I think what I've learned is that you should only do as much as you feel comfortable and saying no is absolutely fine. Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had sex for 15 years. Talked about sex a lot, and then we got really kinky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ty for all the good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We discussed it, poked about on websites like this one then went to a club first time we had no intentions of playing, the Mrs ended up involved in a fffff session but only lightly and that was that next time we both got involved and loved it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found chams on the net

asked her

fancy going this swingers club?

Yeah

we went

Simple

These men who can't openly talk to their women about it should consider why they are with women hey cannot talk with

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By *ogging coupleCouple
over a year ago

Derby

By watching her with a guy from her work..took ages to set up!

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