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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Social first or jump in head first ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Social

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Can I say social with benefits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Social with benefits ? Can you explain ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my meets are often social at the same time as sexual..

if the sex isnt happening, and we get on, we can have a laugh

sometimes its the opposite, and I can still pop in/be visited by friends I've known many years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social only the first time.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular


"Social with benefits ? Can you explain ? "

An initial social that leads to more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it both ways but I'm not big on socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I prefer to meet socially first and then see how it goes from there.M

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

not assed with socials. meet for sex

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I generally do a social - even if only ten minutes just to establish there is an attraction as I'm a fussy bugger (and they may well be too!)

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think others expectations of you depend on what you've communicated to them before you meet. If you'd made it clear that its social only I wouldn't expect any different.

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

I consider every meet just to be a social.

intimate fun is always a bonus

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

Most of my meets are 3somes or moresomes, so there's not a lot of socialising going on really. A meet usually involves 3 friends, Ashley, Tamsin and myself, plus 2 or 3 others. The 3 of us are friends and that rubs off well with our visitors, they see us comfortable with eachother and therefore they become comfortable their selves and just join in and enjoy the fun. I can't say I've ever had a bad tgirl party meet, they've all be great, with really nice girls.

I've made lots of new friends.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Meet up for a social then see when it is best to meet up for fun.

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By *ssexcokMan
over a year ago

southend

Social an see how it gos

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I don't do socials so for me a meet is a play meet

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By *assie48Woman
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

social

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ? "
can I jump in your heads are we talking brain damage ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good glad social coming out on top

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Good glad social coming out on top"

If it hadn't what would you have done?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats brill. I think a social first is important for safety reasons. Too many couple profiles are just single males

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Good glad social coming out on top"

Why are you glad they are coming out on top?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes first time socoal is important we think but it doesnt stop you from having socials after that and after the sexual meet. Friends can be made

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes leading to more but only if both parties are comfortable and like each other and accept the rules and boundaries

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes first time socoal is important we think but it doesnt stop you from having socials after that and after the sexual meet. Friends can be made"

Use the reply+quote button, we can see who you're replying to then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes but its for safety. What if you went to a house as a couple and was let in and you find its a single male and not what you were expecting ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thats brill. I think a social first is important for safety reasons. Too many couple profiles are just single males"

I've never had a problem with couples being just single men. They've always been a woman and a man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pass ? Thats not the attitude lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes i think thats the way it should be

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes i agree there has to be an attraction and there has to be safety

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not good. What if another male turned up pretending to be a female ? Uncomfortable ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never a social and it's never been a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes definitely. Obviously it could and would hopefully lead to more.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes definitely. Obviously it could and would hopefully lead to more. "

You really do need to use reply+ quote

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Not good. What if another male turned up pretending to be a female ? Uncomfortable ? "

If you're referring to my post (use the quote button) then no. Why would I want to have a coffee with a single bloke when I was expecting a couple? I'd tell him to fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes definitely. Obviously it could and would hopefully lead to more.

You really do need to use reply+ quote "

Where's the fun in that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social def...a nice coffee meet

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No expectations and either may happen.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes definitely. Obviously it could and would hopefully lead to more.

You really do need to use reply+ quote

Where's the fun in that? "

True, its like Quizzy Sunday

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok thanks got it lol first time in forum chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes and for safety as well.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I've never had a social and I have always been safe because I know how to say sorry I'm outta here if things went wrong, I have met some great guys and never had any trouble.

If you turned up to a couples house and it was only a guy there you can just walk back out the door, that's not awkward at all, it's common sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes definitely. Obviously it could and would hopefully lead to more.

You really do need to use reply+ quote

Where's the fun in that? "
the fun is seeing if any attraction and setting boundaries and then taking it further ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never had a social and I have always been safe because I know how to say sorry I'm outta here if things went wrong, I have met some great guys and never had any trouble.

If you turned up to a couples house and it was only a guy there you can just walk back out the door, that's not awkward at all, it's common sense "
yes you could walk back out but its time wadted and left feeling deflated and angry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes definitely. Obviously it could and would hopefully lead to more.

You really do need to use reply+ quote

Where's the fun in that?

True, its like Quizzy Sunday "

I like it....random replies and we have to guess who to

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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales


"Not good. What if another male turned up pretending to be a female ? Uncomfortable ? "

That's me buggered!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"my meets are often social at the same time as sexual..

if the sex isnt happening, and we get on, we can have a laugh

sometimes its the opposite, and I can still pop in/be visited by friends I've known many years"
socials must be important for safety ? Yes its good to at least get on and have a laugh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've done it both ways but I'm not big on socials"
why ? Surely you need to meet and see if you get on and if any attraction ?

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By *eteinhantsMan
over a year ago

Southsea

Quite like a social first just to see if there is a spark and see wha happens from there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer to meet socially first and then see how it goes from there.M"
yes good glafd to hear it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can never be certain its a play meet surely if its the first time you have met

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social with benefits ? Can you explain ?

An initial social that leads to more"
yes but if no attraction or you dont get on it probably wont lead to more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've done it both ways but I'm not big on socialswhy ? Surely you need to meet and see if you get on and if any attraction ?"

I chat extensively before agreeing to meet so i know all i need to beforehand. I've never been wrong about anyone yet. We all do things differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love socials first . I can't do meet then sex I have tried but it's not me . I like the going away then the build up to the next meet , I find that much more of a turn on for me X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ? can I jump in your heads are we talking brain damage ? "
brain damage lol ? A meet first has to be important ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?"
well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Depends on what everyone is happy with and has agreed on.

We're happy with social only, social with the option of more if all happy and in a few cases straight down to it and the social part after.

We have done all of that above and enjoyed them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not good. What if another male turned up pretending to be a female ? Uncomfortable ?

If you're referring to my post (use the quote button) then no. Why would I want to have a coffee with a single bloke when I was expecting a couple? I'd tell him to fuck off. "
yes but it means you wasted your time and effort and left feeling angry and deflated and humiliated. It would be uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social def...a nice coffee meet"
yes i agree with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I say social with benefits "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always suggest social first but respect what the lady wants or decides

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By *ack with a bangCouple
over a year ago

Hastings

Has to be a social first for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most of my meets are 3somes or moresomes, so there's not a lot of socialising going on really. A meet usually involves 3 friends, Ashley, Tamsin and myself, plus 2 or 3 others. The 3 of us are friends and that rubs off well with our visitors, they see us comfortable with eachother and therefore they become comfortable their selves and just join in and enjoy the fun. I can't say I've ever had a bad tgirl party meet, they've all be great, with really nice girls.

I've made lots of new friends. "
good glad you have success and great meets

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?"

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes definitely. Obviously it could and would hopefully lead to more.

You really do need to use reply+ quote

Where's the fun in that?

True, its like Quizzy Sunday

I like it....random replies and we have to guess who to "
got it sussed now lol first time in forum. Glad it got you all guessing and scratching your heads lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things."

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ? "

Neither. But thanks for asking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things."
so you would expect someone to turn up at yours have sex and walk away no meet first ? You could chat all you want before hand but if its a fake profile ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ? "

Neither....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not good. What if another male turned up pretending to be a female ? Uncomfortable ?

That's me buggered! "
lmao well it would be ok for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social every time, we like to get to know people first and the chemistry is OK before committing to anything but knows if we get on really well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... "
neither ? So club ? Or chat ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither. But thanks for asking "
your welcome lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet "
it cant be just about the sex ?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet "

Me too, I talk for months usually before I meet anyone, I think most of us know when it's a good choice and when to say no thank you

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet it cant be just about the sex ? "

Why can't it ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social every time, we like to get to know people first and the chemistry is OK before committing to anything but knows if we get on really well?"
yes thats how we prefer to do it and feel it would be safer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... "
neither ?

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

social first for us which has progressed to play same day in the past. However these days we solely use clubs, nice to have quick-ish chat in bar area before playing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet it cant be just about the sex ?

Why can't it ?"
we feel there has to be an attraction and connection and you need to get on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"social first for us which has progressed to play same day in the past. However these days we solely use clubs, nice to have quick-ish chat in bar area before playing"
yes i agree with you there. We mainly use clubs too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?but like i say what if its a fake account and winding you up and you go to their house and thete is a house full of scruffy ugly blokes who trap you ???

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet

Me too, I talk for months usually before I meet anyone, I think most of us know when it's a good choice and when to say no thank you "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We just get on with meeting in a way that suits us, we never explain or justify and don't expect anyone else to.

If anybody doesn't like how we go about things they simply don't meet us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet it cant be just about the sex ? "

Why can't it? That is ultimately why I'm here (when I'm meeting) i don't meet guys from here for any other reason....don't confuse that with just meeting anyone though. I chat very extensively with any potential meet.

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"social first for us which has progressed to play same day in the past. However these days we solely use clubs, nice to have quick-ish chat in bar area before playingyes i agree with you there. We mainly use clubs too"

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.so you would expect someone to turn up at yours have sex and walk away no meet first ? You could chat all you want before hand but if its a fake profile ? "

If thats what had been agreed on by all, yes.

We've met lots of couples & singles at their home without meeting them in a social place first. They have all been what they've said and 100% real.

Some we've been happy to get naked with after a drink and a chat and others we've just enjoyed a laugh with.

We've also had plenty of social only meets first.

Both are fine with us and as I've said before, we enjoy both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has to be a social first for us"
yes !! Were with you there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't do socials so for me a meet is a play meet "

Yep , this for us too .

If after a few messages and exchanging face pics we meet , there has to be the option to play if we all feel like it .

If it's a definate social only , so a definate no play we wouldn't meet .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... neither ? So club ? Or chat ? "

You aren't my type so I wouldn't waste your or my time with anything

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends on what everyone is happy with and has agreed on.

We're happy with social only, social with the option of more if all happy and in a few cases straight down to it and the social part after.

We have done all of that above and enjoyed them.

Well glad all your meets gone well so far. And agree with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... neither ? So club ? Or chat ?

You aren't my type so I wouldn't waste your or my time with anything "
thanks lol wasnt asking if we were your type or for a meet but good to know where we stand lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always insist on a social first as obviously you have to do introductions etc

but obviously if there is an immediate attraction I will play as well ...

If no attraction then it's cake and a chat so win win in my book

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet it cant be just about the sex ?

Why can't it ?we feel there has to be an attraction and connection and you need to get on. "

Yes and attraction to get on and have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... neither ? So club ? Or chat ?

You aren't my type so I wouldn't waste your or my time with anything thanks lol wasnt asking if we were your type or for a meet but good to know where we stand lol"

Your question says would you meet us...

If it was a general query you should have said would you meet anyone...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I wouldn't because I don't meet couples, but I have a social with single guys first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh sorry i thought all the answers had to refer to the OP couple. Not just a general do you do socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We just get on with meeting in a way that suits us, we never explain or justify and don't expect anyone else to.

If anybody doesn't like how we go about things they simply don't meet us. "
exactly the way we like to do things. But we never let anyone down

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up"."
so involve her and take her with you and you might even get more takers

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Social

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh sorry i thought all the answers had to refer to the OP couple. Not just a general do you do socials."
yes it was just a general question lol just wanted to see how people think and what their morals are concerning safety etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't because I don't meet couples, but I have a social with single guys first "
why whats wrong with couples ? Glad you do socials first glad people do think of safety

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... neither ? So club ? Or chat ?

You aren't my type so I wouldn't waste your or my time with anything thanks lol wasnt asking if we were your type or for a meet but good to know where we stand lol

Your question says would you meet us...

If it was a general query you should have said would you meet anyone..."
oh sorry lol. Were pretty new and been let down 3 times on meets that were organised even tho we drove a long way and just wondered if we were doing something wrong and wanted to hear how people prefer to do things ?

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over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... neither ? So club ? Or chat ?

You aren't my type so I wouldn't waste your or my time with anything thanks lol wasnt asking if we were your type or for a meet but good to know where we stand lol

Your question says would you meet us...

If it was a general query you should have said would you meet anyone...oh sorry lol. Were pretty new and been let down 3 times on meets that were organised even tho we drove a long way and just wondered if we were doing something wrong and wanted to hear how people prefer to do things ?"
this happens alot . I would always have a social meet the jump in head first lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... "
you just hard to get you are lol ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh sorry i thought all the answers had to refer to the OP couple. Not just a general do you do socials.yes it was just a general question lol just wanted to see how people think and what their morals are concerning safety etc "

So because we prefer to jump straight in you are suggesting we have loose morals , and no concern for our safety ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always insist on a social first as obviously you have to do introductions etc

but obviously if there is an immediate attraction I will play as well ...

If no attraction then it's cake and a chat so win win in my book "
that sounds a good way of doing things and obviously working well for you. I think we are right on insisting on socials first just for the introduction and knowing who you are meeting and feeling safe in their company and vica versa

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Our social consists of pleasantries and maybe a glass of water before we get down to it.....we have already decided before agreeing to meet that everyone is happy with the situation and finds everyone else attractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh sorry i thought all the answers had to refer to the OP couple. Not just a general do you do socials.yes it was just a general question lol just wanted to see how people think and what their morals are concerning safety etc

So because we prefer to jump straight in you are suggesting we have loose morals , and no concern for our safety ?"
no not at all obviously you must feel safe and enjoy doing things that waybut we would prefer to meet someone first in a public place and then play or arrange to meet again but it gives us that feeling of knowing who you are with and what they are like and whether we get on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our social consists of pleasantries and maybe a glass of water before we get down to it.....we have already decided before agreeing to meet that everyone is happy with the situation and finds everyone else attractive "
that sounds ok and like you say if everyone is happy but a least you had that bit of social first with each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Neither.... neither ? So club ? Or chat ?

You aren't my type so I wouldn't waste your or my time with anything thanks lol wasnt asking if we were your type or for a meet but good to know where we stand lol

Your question says would you meet us...

If it was a general query you should have said would you meet anyone...oh sorry lol. Were pretty new and been let down 3 times on meets that were organised even tho we drove a long way and just wondered if we were doing something wrong and wanted to hear how people prefer to do things ?this happens alot . I would always have a social meet the jump in head first lol "
ha ha i like your way of thinking but its social first going by a lot of the replies then jump in .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh sorry i thought all the answers had to refer to the OP couple. Not just a general do you do socials.yes it was just a general question lol just wanted to see how people think and what their morals are concerning safety etc

So because we prefer to jump straight in you are suggesting we have loose morals , and no concern for our safety ?"
your just naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh sorry i thought all the answers had to refer to the OP couple. Not just a general do you do socials.yes it was just a general question lol just wanted to see how people think and what their morals are concerning safety etc

So because we prefer to jump straight in you are suggesting we have loose morals , and no concern for our safety ?your just naughty "

Naughty but nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am too busy with the gym, so it would be a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have socials first. Wether this be in pub or at a home. You have to get on and see each other in person to know Wetherby your gonna have fun with them.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

We have done both and go with the flow. It should be relaxed and fun for all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have socials first. Wether this be in pub or at a home. You have to get on and see each other in person to know Wetherby your gonna have fun with them. "
i agree there with you its something that has to be done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have done both and go with the flow. It should be relaxed and fun for all"
yes it should always be fun with no pressures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh sorry i thought all the answers had to refer to the OP couple. Not just a general do you do socials.yes it was just a general question lol just wanted to see how people think and what their morals are concerning safety etc

So because we prefer to jump straight in you are suggesting we have loose morals , and no concern for our safety ?"

Yep. That seems to be what they are saying.... Didn't you know everything on here has to be one extreme or the other??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have socials first. Wether this be in pub or at a home. You have to get on and see each other in person to know Wetherby your gonna have fun with them. i agree there with you its something that has to be done"

Errrrr....

No it isn't .

It's great to see new people posting on here , but there is no 'has to be done' about it !

Some people happily meet people without seeing them before the meet , nor do they see them during or after . A blindfold meet , a dogging meet , a gloryhole to name but three .

It's the terminology I object to here - has to be done in your opinion would be better

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh sorry i thought all the answers had to refer to the OP couple. Not just a general do you do socials.yes it was just a general question lol just wanted to see how people think and what their morals are concerning safety etc

So because we prefer to jump straight in you are suggesting we have loose morals , and no concern for our safety ?

Yep. That seems to be what they are saying.... Didn't you know everything on here has to be one extreme or the other??"
no course not ive noticed quite a bit from one extreme to the other but then there is an in between too. Everyone has their way of doing things and know in their minds what they want whether or not their partners want the same. We talk to each other about our wants and needs and boundaries and it makes us so much closer and happier with what we do. A social meet for us first is a must. We think that is sensible

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have socials first. Wether this be in pub or at a home. You have to get on and see each other in person to know Wetherby your gonna have fun with them. i agree there with you its something that has to be done

Errrrr....

No it isn't .

It's great to see new people posting on here , but there is no 'has to be done' about it !

Some people happily meet people without seeing them before the meet , nor do they see them during or after . A blindfold meet , a dogging meet , a gloryhole to name but three .

It's the terminology I object to here - has to be done in your opinion would be better

"
yes i see where you are coming from and thats where the risks are. Yes its each to their own. Everyone has their own mind set. Some people like risky stuff and strangers and blindfolded surprises. But in their mind they must have trust in what they are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would argue that many of us that don't do social meets are far more vigilant that someone who does meet socially first as i have to be 100% sure about someone. I completely object to the assumption that i am putting myself at greater risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social first, but if that goes well, happy to play on first meet. We don't get to go out very often!

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over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".so involve her and take her with you and you might even get more takers "

Then who's going to baby sit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Public social generally with a possibility of more if it turns out like that.

I have done the turn up and instant oh no but been polite and chatted.

Also the turn up its a yes from us both and back to either place.

It all depends on the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always social first, but if that goes well, happy to play on first meet. We don't get to go out very often! "

We don't get to meet very often either so id rather get down to fun rather than a social where we find out you happen to be guardian readers or vegetarians or something else weird. I don't care which way you vote while you're sucking my Dick, but i don't might not want to share a beer with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can do social any time we have friends for that... swinging is for sex

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Good glad social coming out on top

If it hadn't what would you have done?well its just nice to find out peoples views but how can anyone expect to go and have an immediate sexual encounter without even seeing if u get on or anything ?

Because everyone does things differently and the social part isn't as important to everyone. It's purely about the sex.

Or they have spent ages chatting beforehand so know that they will hit it off in person.

No one is right and no one is wrong, just looking for different things.

I've given up explaining as apparently having a social is the only safe way to meet "

I have a long and occasionally drawn out interview process which finalises in Skype. Then it's just shaggy waggy times for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always jump in head first. Life is to short not too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up"."

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''"

No. That's sexy.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy."

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my meet today.

random guy messages me a few months ago(i wasnt avail),for an mmf.

messages me today, he messages me again for the same.

few messages back n forth.

he says slim n hot(slim isnt the dealbreaker )

I was still unsure..but thought fuck it..

so I went....and was greeted by a nice guy and his tasty as fuck fem pal(I hadnt seen), so long story short.

brill easter sunday shag session with a really hot woman.

wish we'd went for a coffee first tho...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. "
she should go and make him stay at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home. "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. "

I can dream

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"my meet today.

random guy messages me a few months ago(i wasnt avail),for an mmf.

messages me today, he messages me again for the same.

few messages back n forth.

he says slim n hot(slim isnt the dealbreaker )

I was still unsure..but thought fuck it..

so I went....and was greeted by a nice guy and his tasty as fuck fem pal(I hadnt seen), so long story short.

brill easter sunday shag session with a really hot woman.

wish we'd went for a coffee first tho..."
yeah then you would have got to know them and it would have lasted longer and maybe repeat action ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expect a social for first meet......but it rarely actually happens. Or if it does it tends to "develop". Is it just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out.

I can dream "

Jeez! I fixed the fucking dishwasher!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?"
cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I expect a social for first meet......but it rarely actually happens. Or if it does it tends to "develop". Is it just me?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my meet today.

random guy messages me a few months ago(i wasnt avail),for an mmf.

messages me today, he messages me again for the same.

few messages back n forth.

he says slim n hot(slim isnt the dealbreaker )

I was still unsure..but thought fuck it..

so I went....and was greeted by a nice guy and his tasty as fuck fem pal(I hadnt seen), so long story short.

brill easter sunday shag session with a really hot woman.

wish we'd went for a coffee first tho...yeah then you would have got to know them and it would have lasted longer and maybe repeat action ? "

Bless.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ? "

Oooooooh this is going to go pear shaped

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I expect a social for first meet......but it rarely actually happens. Or if it does it tends to "develop". Is it just me?"
nothing wrong with development at least you had a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ? "

Why do you think I'm cheating on her?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"my meet today.

random guy messages me a few months ago(i wasnt avail),for an mmf.

messages me today, he messages me again for the same.

few messages back n forth.

he says slim n hot(slim isnt the dealbreaker )

I was still unsure..but thought fuck it..

so I went....and was greeted by a nice guy and his tasty as fuck fem pal(I hadnt seen), so long story short.

brill easter sunday shag session with a really hot woman.

wish we'd went for a coffee first tho..."

I've missed your posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ? "

Social had experience of someone not being who they say they are get out of jail free card

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my meet today.

random guy messages me a few months ago(i wasnt avail),for an mmf.

messages me today, he messages me again for the same.

few messages back n forth.

he says slim n hot(slim isnt the dealbreaker )

I was still unsure..but thought fuck it..

so I went....and was greeted by a nice guy and his tasty as fuck fem pal(I hadnt seen), so long story short.

brill easter sunday shag session with a really hot woman.

wish we'd went for a coffee first tho...yeah then you would have got to know them and it would have lasted longer and maybe repeat action ? "

I was there from 3pm-6pm...on a whim meet..and most of that time was sex...thanks for the 'input' though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my meet today.

random guy messages me a few months ago(i wasnt avail),for an mmf.

messages me today, he messages me again for the same.

few messages back n forth.

he says slim n hot(slim isnt the dealbreaker )

I was still unsure..but thought fuck it..

so I went....and was greeted by a nice guy and his tasty as fuck fem pal(I hadnt seen), so long story short.

brill easter sunday shag session with a really hot woman.

wish we'd went for a coffee first tho...

I've missed your posts "

I've missed that tasty wee arse...and fucklicious face x

hopefully this is the female am addressing lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Oooooooh this is going to go pear shaped "

What a cheating blaggard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social definitely, but with the option of more if it feels right for all - although we meet with no preconceived ideas and just look forward to a great evening with some lovely people.

(We are really new to this though, so that maybe dictates our thought processes).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top"

What difference does it make to your swinging experience if social comes out on top from other people or not? You do whatever makes both of you comfortable and happy.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Oooooooh this is going to go pear shaped

What a cheating blaggard "

I think Clem is doing really well on this thread.....he hasn't lost his rag so far as I can tell.......and you are doing pretty good too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social definitely, but with the option of more if it feels right for all - although we meet with no preconceived ideas and just look forward to a great evening with some lovely people.

(We are really new to this though, so that maybe dictates our thought processes). "
i like your way of thinking and believe you have it spot on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Oooooooh this is going to go pear shaped

What a cheating blaggard

I think Clem is doing really well on this thread.....he hasn't lost his rag so far as I can tell.......and you are doing pretty good too "
lol no need for anyone to lose their rag its only a mild discussion about social first or not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love socials, so trying to make sure I dont come across the wrong way...

a social is great..but when thats ben difficult to arrange...and then the next meets difficult to arrange(ie kids,drinks,overnite), you start thinking...lets just meet..if we get on lets shag.

I never have ONE person I'm chatting with as my sole contact(I know for some its important), to me it isnt..chat chat ok..arrange meet..if not, meet someone else in the meantime(going both ways).

theres people I've chatted to for years..some are just outwith my distance, and things arent as easy to arrange...YUP..I'll act like a fucking nun and wait till theyre available..

nahhhh FUCK that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good glad social coming out on top

What difference does it make to your swinging experience if social comes out on top from other people or not? You do whatever makes both of you comfortable and happy.

"
exactly.. its about being happy and comfortable with your decisions and actions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I love socials, so trying to make sure I dont come across the wrong way...

a social is great..but when thats ben difficult to arrange...and then the next meets difficult to arrange(ie kids,drinks,overnite), you start thinking...lets just meet..if we get on lets shag.

I never have ONE person I'm chatting with as my sole contact(I know for some its important), to me it isnt..chat chat ok..arrange meet..if not, meet someone else in the meantime(going both ways).

theres people I've chatted to for years..some are just outwith my distance, and things arent as easy to arrange...YUP..I'll act like a fucking nun and wait till theyre available..

nahhhh FUCK that!"
lol maybe ? Yeah chat to others and keep your options open and go down different paths to achieve that meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"my meet today.

random guy messages me a few months ago(i wasnt avail),for an mmf.

messages me today, he messages me again for the same.

few messages back n forth.

he says slim n hot(slim isnt the dealbreaker )

I was still unsure..but thought fuck it..

so I went....and was greeted by a nice guy and his tasty as fuck fem pal(I hadnt seen), so long story short.

brill easter sunday shag session with a really hot woman.

wish we'd went for a coffee first tho...

I've missed your posts

I've missed that tasty wee arse...and fucklicious face x

hopefully this is the female am addressing lol x"
ha ha maybe you need a social first to find out pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"my meet today.

random guy messages me a few months ago(i wasnt avail),for an mmf.

messages me today, he messages me again for the same.

few messages back n forth.

he says slim n hot(slim isnt the dealbreaker )

I was still unsure..but thought fuck it..

so I went....and was greeted by a nice guy and his tasty as fuck fem pal(I hadnt seen), so long story short.

brill easter sunday shag session with a really hot woman.

wish we'd went for a coffee first tho...yeah then you would have got to know them and it would have lasted longer and maybe repeat action ?

I was there from 3pm-6pm...on a whim meet..and most of that time was sex...thanks for the 'input' though lol

"
your welcome glad you had a fab time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Oooooooh this is going to go pear shaped

What a cheating blaggard

I think Clem is doing really well on this thread.....he hasn't lost his rag so far as I can tell.......and you are doing pretty good too lol no need for anyone to lose their rag its only a mild discussion about social first or not ? "

No bad considering you prejudged me to be cheating. Thanks very fucking much.

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over a year ago


"Social first or jump in head first ?

Social had experience of someone not being who they say they are get out of jail free card"
oh dear not good and thats what i was trying to express that there are fake accounts and sometimes could get stung

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Oooooooh this is going to go pear shaped

What a cheating blaggard

I think Clem is doing really well on this thread.....he hasn't lost his rag so far as I can tell.......and you are doing pretty good too lol no need for anyone to lose their rag its only a mild discussion about social first or not ?

No bad considering you prejudged me to be cheating. Thanks very fucking much."

Hello Clem

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Why do you think I'm cheating on her?"
cos if she knew then you wouldnt think it was weird telling her. If she knew you did it then she would understand and know where you were going and for what

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over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Why do you think I'm cheating on her?cos if she knew then you wouldnt think it was weird telling her. If she knew you did it then she would understand and know where you were going and for what"

You dont think she'd think "well if he's off to the pub just for a social we could have both gone out and had a drink." nice one, so I've gone for a social to meet a couple of fucking oddballs without so much as a suck of a left tit and i get home to a pissed off wife to, yay.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i say, "I'm off out to see the shemale up the road to get my ass fucked" she understands totally.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Why do you think I'm cheating on her?cos if she knew then you wouldnt think it was weird telling her. If she knew you did it then she would understand and know where you were going and for what

You dont think she'd think "well if he's off to the pub just for a social we could have both gone out and had a drink." nice one, so I've gone for a social to meet a couple of fucking oddballs without so much as a suck of a left tit and i get home to a pissed off wife to, yay....."
oddballs ? Is that what you think of people you meet ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When i say, "I'm off out to see the shemale up the road to get my ass fucked" she understands totally. "
well at least she knows your not actually meeting a woman so she naybe feels thats ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's not enough time in the day for socials. Plus it's a bit weird telling my wife "I'm off out for a social, enjoy the washing up".

Isn't it even weirder saying ''I'm off out to fuck some stranger, enjoy the washing up?''

No. That's sexy.

I'd get him to do the washing up first before going out. she should go and make him stay at home.

Why?cos why should he cheat on her and not involve her ? What would he think if she did it to him ?

Why do you think I'm cheating on her?cos if she knew then you wouldnt think it was weird telling her. If she knew you did it then she would understand and know where you were going and for what

You dont think she'd think "well if he's off to the pub just for a social we could have both gone out and had a drink." nice one, so I've gone for a social to meet a couple of fucking oddballs without so much as a suck of a left tit and i get home to a pissed off wife to, yay.....oddballs ? Is that what you think of people you meet ? "

Some do come across that way dont they? But i don't need a social to work out who they are....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When i say, "I'm off out to see the shemale up the road to get my ass fucked" she understands totally. well at least she knows your not actually meeting a woman so she naybe feels thats ok"

Your wrong, a trans woman is still a real woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social if you must. But don't try and drag us all up to your level.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Social only first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having lived in Southampton, i agree that in this instance a social is necessary.

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