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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why do people find it sexually pleasing to be degraded ie written on spat at etc

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may not see it as being degraded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just like humiliation .... Not something for me ... But I can see why it appeals to others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being written on x don't know why but I do

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Why does anyone like anything?

They do and that is all that matters

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

To you it may be degrading.. but if both people are ok with it.. whats the issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is being written on degrading?

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofiaWoman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

Because they do?! I don't think spitting on a woman's cunt in the heat of things is a degrading thing to do...just adds extra lubrication and turns me on...I don't question why things turn me on but rather why things don't...humiliation doesn't do anything for me so I wouldn't be on the receiving or giving end of it but don't question why it floats the boats of others!

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

It's whatever turns someone on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love when mr degrades me, we like BDSM tho, I love when he takes control and knowing I'm his, that he can make me do anything he wants just because it pleases him, it feels freeing because I don't have to think or worry, I can just enjoy

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I agree with twistar, we play no-one is degraded, we have fun and respect each other. We have reached a place where we can do what we like to each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually an interesting question.

If we accept that certain actions by one person to another in the general view of society would be seen as degrading, why would some people find it pleasurable?

From a dom point of view as part of satisfying the subs desire it can only help to understand what fuels that subs need. Also from a societal level in showing the public that such needs are normal and do not arise due to abuse in the past but arise from an untapped need, and therefore the sub is not on a general level stranger than someone with a deep need to go fishing or play chess must be positive giving the negative way it is shown in the media.

I think its good to see what makes people tick, rather than say "because" and leave it at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it. I 'enjoy' the feeling of being inferior, the vulnerability of the whole situation etc

I dunno, difficult to explain really I suppose. But once you've been involved in that kind of stuff, going back to non kinky sex is all a bit plain!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I want to be written on too. I'd see it as a laugh not degrading.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Because we all have little evil in us. If that is what turns on a partner happy to dish out the punishment of course extreme varies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't really know a lot about it as it's not our kink. But who really cares? Clearly they don't because they enjoy it!

Besides, surely it's only degrading if the receiving person doesn't enjoy it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not see it has degrading at all .... why would you ?

So if you send your partner or spouse a message of

"Happy Birthday" on his/her birthday ... lets say across your Boobs or Tummy or Pussy or cock and send it him/her ... how would you feel and more importantly how would he/she feel after receiving it ??? .... Think you may be in for a very good night ??? ... xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a rather edgy permissioning roleplay?

If you believe it to be really true either as degrader or degraded walk away and get some help thats a bad headspace to be getting in to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is very much a trend on Fab that goes "whatever acts what we do are alright". There appears to me to be very little reflection on how "this is what we do, but general mores sees it differently". This is not to say that the behaviour in question should be of interest to society or judged by society. The reality of the situation is, it is, hence the recent law making it an offence to film and show abuse of women. Funnily enough fisting and other acts that non-vanilla people do and found pleasurable are now illegal to show.

The government has moves to make it illegal to emotionally abuse or use coercive behaviour towards your partner, it is very likely the test will be objective i.e. general society's view not subjective of the people involved. Therefore it is an important question to ask what is degrading or not, and why people enjoy it. Because if we ignore these questions subjectively pleasurable acts will be criminalised. As an example husbands organising gangbang nights or greedy girl night may be seen as abusing that woman. A husband who likes to see his wife with other men and introduces them to her may be seen as abusing his wife. A male partner writing on his wife the same.

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By *isselvieWoman
over a year ago

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It's sex...it's supposed to be different from day to day life...if someone called me a slut in the street or whatever, I'd slap them so hard and be utterly offended.

However, if I'm naked on my knees and sucking....well you get the idea....sexual humiliation can be very hot

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

There is a woman with photos on here if she went to the police,the person that had beaten her would have been done for gbh,and could have done time,but each too there own perving.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Could be a shutting down from the super ego and a release of the ID

Difference between domestic energy and free (Salka ) energy

However, it got to be respected in my world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gf was d*unk once and spat in my mouth while kissing once. It was incredibly sexy if you can believe that. It was completely unexpected and I didn't have a fantasy about it beforhand. My mind exploded. Despite me saying it was awesome she apologised and never did it again...such is my luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange one..but as a Dom fem I come across this all the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a woman with photos on here if she went to the police,the person that had beaten her would have been done for gbh,and could have done time,but each too there own perving. "

I have no concept of why women, or men, let their so called loving partners put them thorough what they do. Being taken naked etc to houses to let numerous people do what they want to them. Personally I think the "victim" needs psychology help and their partner investigated by police.

I know it's each unto their own and maybe I'm being prudish and leaving myself open to ridicle but there is sonethings loving people shpuld don't do or let happen to their loved ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a dom sub thinf i guess. I love abuse

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london


"I love being written on x don't know why but I do"

Right on!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"It's sex...it's supposed to be different from day to day life...if someone called me a slut in the street or whatever, I'd slap them so hard and be utterly offended.

However, if I'm naked on my knees and sucking....well you get the idea....sexual humiliation can be very hot"

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By *8pervMan
over a year ago

N lincs and the Isle

I love it. Both ways. Give or receive. Be in control, submit. Spit on me, piss on my face, make me eat my spunk out your hand, or anywhere else and in return I'll .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a woman with photos on here if she went to the police,the person that had beaten her would have been done for gbh,and could have done time,but each too there own perving.

I have no concept of why women, or men, let their so called loving partners put them thorough what they do. Being taken naked etc to houses to let numerous people do what they want to them. Personally I think the "victim" needs psychology help and their partner investigated by police.

I know it's each unto their own and maybe I'm being prudish and leaving myself open to ridicle but there is sonethings loving people shpuld don't do or let happen to their loved ones. "

I can assure you that outside of playtime I'm a totally, confident, independent lady. That's probably why I like the submissive play which you may think of as degrading. It actually makes me feel very feminine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strange one..but as a Dom fem I come across this all the time!"

don't u mean as a DOMME not Dom fem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a woman with photos on here if she went to the police,the person that had beaten her would have been done for gbh,and could have done time,but each too there own perving.

I have no concept of why women, or men, let their so called loving partners put them thorough what they do. Being taken naked etc to houses to let numerous people do what they want to them. Personally I think the "victim" needs psychology help and their partner investigated by police.

I know it's each unto their own and maybe I'm being prudish and leaving myself open to ridicle but there is sonethings loving people shpuld don't do or let happen to their loved ones.

I can assure you that outside of playtime I'm a totally, confident, independent lady. That's probably why I like the submissive play which you may think of as degrading. It actually makes me feel very feminine "

Okay, I did say each unto their own but you say you feel "very feminine" Emily Pankhurst must be spinning in her grave.

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By *isselvieWoman
over a year ago

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Think in some cases the site shouldn't be named 'fab swingers' but rather 'judgey prudes'

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"There is a woman with photos on here if she went to the police,the person that had beaten her would have been done for gbh,and could have done time,but each too there own perving.

I have no concept of why women, or men, let their so called loving partners put them thorough what they do. Being taken naked etc to houses to let numerous people do what they want to them. Personally I think the "victim" needs psychology help and their partner investigated by police.

I know it's each unto their own and maybe I'm being prudish and leaving myself open to ridicle but there is sonethings loving people shpuld don't do or let happen to their loved ones.

I can assure you that outside of playtime I'm a totally, confident, independent lady. That's probably why I like the submissive play which you may think of as degrading. It actually makes me feel very feminine "

I find 'humiliation' play, not that humiliating. It's actually really intimate and a release. Yet if I was to do some of the typical swinging activities, I personally would find them degrading.* Just minds work differently don't they.

* I'm not saying any swinging activity is degrading, just I would feel that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love being written on x don't know why but I do"
what if they cannot spell lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a woman with photos on here if she went to the police,the person that had beaten her would have been done for gbh,and could have done time,but each too there own perving.

I have no concept of why women, or men, let their so called loving partners put them thorough what they do. Being taken naked etc to houses to let numerous people do what they want to them. Personally I think the "victim" needs psychology help and their partner investigated by police.

I know it's each unto their own and maybe I'm being prudish and leaving myself open to ridicle but there is sonethings loving people shpuld don't do or let happen to their loved ones.

I can assure you that outside of playtime I'm a totally, confident, independent lady. That's probably why I like the submissive play which you may think of as degrading. It actually makes me feel very feminine

I find 'humiliation' play, not that humiliating. It's actually really intimate and a release. Yet if I was to do some of the typical swinging activities, I personally would find them degrading.* Just minds work differently don't they.

* I'm not saying any swinging activity is degrading, just I would feel that way. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like aspects of degradation in the right situation, eg name calling, face slapping etc. I've no idea why I like it. Spitting is a step to far for me, but I realise is on the same continuum.

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