FabSwingers.com forum: starting to think we are to fat to swing

By *aughtyangie OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

We are both on the big side and like to meet and play with intresting,fun and easy going people, but look at profiles of smaller size bodys and even if there sound just right for us we don't send a message cos "why would they want to meet us" or if we do we get nothing back and fell the same

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Being sexy is all in the mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

You've got 24 verifications so doesn't look like you struggle that much.

P.s I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a gym bunny and I certainly don't have perfect bod but no I wouldn't play with you. I don't find fat attractive.

Not to say that you won't be successful though. There are plenty of people would love to play I'm sure just keep looking.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

My first thought was go to a BBC night at a club. That will boost your confidence and help you realise how many people look for people with a bigger body size.

People all have different preferences.

My other thought is take some new pics. You haven't updated your photos for quite a while. Then join in on one of the fabbing posts.

Unless people specify on their profiles that they prefer skinny people, message who you want. They can either say yes or no can't they !

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

BBW night would be good too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My beer belly dont get in the way of me having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be you, be happy and enjoy life

Loved your cheeky pose in fact off to fab it..

Good luck and happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't knock yourselves try the club scene it's so much easier to meet people of the same size as yourselves sex is sexy it's not all about size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My beer belly dont get in the way of me having sex

nowt on ya! More meat on a butchers pencil

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By *urious and lookingCouple
over a year ago

cork

Guys, ye look fine. New pics and a few more fabs will give you the confidence to message the people you've previously hesitated to contact. You're an attractive couple with plenty veris and , no doubt, more sexy fun awaits. Enjoy!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I don't think that anyone is too fat to swing.

However while there is a good BBW scene there is no equivalent for big guys or big couples. And it's likely that some people will not find us big people attractive.

That said, there is plenty of fun to be had if you go with a confident attitude

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By *aughtyangie OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

Not to me it doesn't,it's a nice photo"

Thank you x

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By *aughtyangie OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

You've got 24 verifications so doesn't look like you struggle that much.

P.s I would

Like I said not a look at me post we do ok just asking for others options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm honestly surprised you're having trouble. While I personally prefer average to slim, I would say that most of the people I see in clubs are average to heavy. They don't seem to be having much trouble finding people to play with.

Take some new pictures, go to some clubs, and have fun.

Lots of people say no thanks to me and Marc and we just move on. Maybe it's less a case of your weight and more just a case of you looking for why you've been rejected? Everyone gets rejected, just keep looking

-Courtney

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By *aughtyangie OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

"BBW night would be good too !"

So bbw should only go to bbw nights ? So the fat loves know where to find us (light harted response )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

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By *aughtyangie OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Don't knock yourselves try the club scene it's so much easier to meet people of the same size as yourselves sex is sexy it's not all about size

Lol so your saying cos we are big we should only meet other big people that's a bit naff I like skiny 21 year olds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fat has never stopped me,, I'm not going to lose weight to please society and fit it,be a boring world if we all looked the same,no such thing as perfect people,who don't like or fancy you, don't worry about it,as there are plenty that will,it's the people you are not the skin your in

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

Beards - serial killers

There everywhere

We should inform the Police, a lot of murderers would be caught

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"BBW night would be good too !

So bbw should only go to bbw nights ? So the fat loves know where to find us (light harted response ) "

I suggested it, so that you would see there are loads of ladies there of similar size to yourself and bigger, dressed sexily and full of confidence. As a size 18 girlie I found it very empowering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "
you have 24 verifications. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm honestly surprised you're having trouble. While I personally prefer average to slim, I would say that most of the people I see in clubs are average to heavy. "

Maybe its like that up north, up north!! AbFabs is nicely balanced I'd say, something for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought - "works in IT" rather than serial killer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not to fat to swing, take a look around you ~ there are larger people on here as well as BBW's meeting up and having sex.

You may do better in a club where you can socialise 1st. As there's so much choice on here it's easy to be passed by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm honestly surprised you're having trouble. While I personally prefer average to slim, I would say that most of the people I see in clubs are average to heavy.

Maybe its like that up north, up north!! AbFabs is nicely balanced I'd say, something for everyone"

I dunno. It's just been my experience. I don't have a problem with it. I really enjoy clubs.

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By *andaCouple
over a year ago

co down

Fair play to you for being so brave to put the question out there. Keep at it though and I'm sure you'll find what you want from the site. You definitely need to change your pictures though. A little imagination works wonders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

It's a shame your all the way down in Brighton

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

"I'm honestly surprised you're having trouble. While I personally prefer average to slim, I would say that most of the people I see in clubs are average to heavy.

Maybe its like that up north, up north!! AbFabs is nicely balanced I'd say, something for everyone"

It's not all Flat Caps and Whippets'.

We like sex as well

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry"

24 is not a huge amount of verifications by any stretch of the imagination,they may have been on for a few. Just out of interest what do you feel is a good amount to have,what's that figure that you would say no I'm not meeting you no matter how hot you are you have to many veri's?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Nobody is too fat to swing. Well, unless they have reached the stage of being virtually unable to move about.

If you're not going to contact people because you expect them to say no then you're deciding that outcome.

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By *aughtyangie OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry"

Again nor a look at me but more "what so you think"

Like I said we do ok I am very confident yes I'm big and that's life Angie not so confident so we don't go to spa's and get naked

But we still have fun

Just wondered if people thought big should stick to big and if it ok for club to have "sexy people olny" party for us sexy is sexy and we don't see size as a big part we are more "the nicer the people the more sexy they are"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're both happy with yourselves then who cares what others think. You could have the perfect figure but lousiest personality. I know which I'd prefer to have. Personality is more important than a perfect figure

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

years*

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

I'm much bigger than you and Rich is a large guy too. We're never short of offers from people of all shapes and sizes. Looking at your veris, you seem to be doing OK.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Again nor a look at me but more "what so you think"

Like I said we do ok I am very confident yes I'm big and that's life Angie not so confident so we don't go to spa's and get naked

But we still have fun

Just go to clubs and parties plenty going on in southampton and surrounding area where you would be made to feel very welcome. ( despite the serial killer look ) I am sure it's the same in your area

Just remember as I found out there is always someone older fatter and uglier and to not worry about it

And if your really that worried look at the verifications of people that have organised parties and see what the people that visit are like

And see if you will feel comfortable with them

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Again nor a look at me but more "what so you think"

Like I said we do ok I am very confident yes I'm big and that's life Angie not so confident so we don't go to spa's and get naked

But we still have fun

I think you're projecting your insecurity on to other people. References to "gym bunnies" and "sexy people only" indicate that you assume you know what other people think of you. That said this is casual sex and despite the insistence by some that they go for personality above looks most people need attraction to have sex and we're all different in that respect. You're more successful than any on here, keep enjoying and doing what you're doing...good luck.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

*many not any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being sexy is all in the mind. "

First reply nailed it.

It wouldn't be your body shape that put me off you as a couple, but this thread would. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but I just think if you're the sort of person to think that about yourself you should know that it's not a very attractive trait.

One of the best meets I ever had was with a larger lady who'd recently underwent a mastectomy and had one of her breasts removed. You'd have thought after that she would be uncomfortable but you'd be wrong. She was an insatiable, confident, and I thought that was flipping amazing.

If you're unhappy then do something about it, but don't let others influence the way you feel about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fat and 11 years older than the woman and I do ok. You have plenty of verifications so I'm not sure if something has happened recently to put people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Size of people isn't the great turn on that a lot of people think

Sexy comes in all shapes and sizes

And by the way great ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

the amount of verifications for me, I admit puts me off, but more than that, I tend to look at who has verified "the verifier", they say if you sleep with a person, you also sleep with their past history, there are some people who I simply chose to avoid, im not saying a long list of verifications is a bad thing for everyone, its just not for me

everyone is different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look sexy ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I am to fit/ripped lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I'm slim and haven't had much luck looking for a bigger and more curvy woman and that's what I'm into big x someone for everyone just got to find them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say I am to fit/ripped lol

Really? I hadn't noticed.... Not like you bring it up that often

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say I am to fit/ripped lol

Really? I hadn't noticed.... Not like you bring it up that often

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Yes I have said it quite few times haven't I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

I feel the same... Sometimes I feel too fat for people when I look at their profile and think 'why would they want to meet me when they can get someone with a better figure that's probably more suited to them' but I would say everyone has a preference ... Some people like it... I personally as lovely as it is to look at muscles prefer a dad bod

but that's just me... So don't knock yourself ... Also no don't go to just BBW nights ... Go to any night and enjoy yourself

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By *ussexsocialMan
over a year ago

Billingshurst

Wow if people think 24 veri' are too much we're well and truely buggered then! You should always remember it's about the person , size doesn't make you more or less sexy than others it's your personality and confidence that counts

and we happen to know Afew people who would love to meet up with you guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow if people think 24 veri' are too much we're well and truely buggered then! You should always remember it's about the person , size doesn't make you more or less sexy than others it's your personality and confidence that counts

and we happen to know Afew people who would love to meet up with you guys

Forget what others think... U meet as many as u want ... Hell if some could they would have just as many lol

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By *isdirtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry"

If 24 verifications over five years, quite a few social only, puts you off then maybe a swinging site isn't for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's probably doesn't help that your pics are years old. people might worry about what you look like now.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

No, you're not too fat to swing. I've met you both socially and I enjoyed your company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

I'm fat and I have lots of fun...

Fat, thin we are all the same inside xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

Girl you got a fab booty!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been fat and I've been thin...

now I'm quite happy being average...

you cant please everyone so you may as well just please yourself and stop worrying about what others think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really gym bunnies but we won't meet fat people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say I am to fit/ripped lol

I wouldnt say ripped.fit yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fat. I generally like to meet more athletic types or at. Never had a problem with meeting. Some people don't like fat people. There's plenty that do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say I am to fit/ripped lol

I wouldnt say ripped.fit yeah "

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Don`t worry people should take you as you come, if not then their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah it's horses for courses. I like bbws and I'm not alone so some like larger some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beard, body mass, verifications (too many) would be the reasons why we'd pass you by but that's just our take on your situation, 24 verifications suggest our opinion is NOT universally held and quite rightly so! as has been said many times above sexiness is unquantifiable & is highly subjective! different strokes for different folks.

If you think being large/BBW is a limiting factor & swinging is such an important part of your life then you know what to do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple philosophy that we use Op.

Attempt to meet those who tickle you're fancy what's the worse that can happen?

They say no move onto to the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"BBW night would be good too !

So bbw should only go to bbw nights ? So the fat loves know where to find us (light harted response ) "

Accept that it's light hearted but, in all seriousness, if I was a bbw having a bit of a confidence crisis, as you claim to be, then I probably WOULD stick to bbw type events for a while until you get your confidence back - simply because people are going there because they find the larger lady beautiful - so you're less likely to get knocked back!

Once you've got your confidence back and aren't worried about getting rejected (I certainly get rejected sometimes) then you can go to any club night you like!

Get some new pictures up as people have suggested - and good luck!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm larger built & have no trouble with guys asking to meet, to a point that I can be quite selective!

All the guys I have met have been wonderful & I've thoroughly enjoyed my time with them.

Personally I don't like skinny/gym bunnies.... Ripped is nice to look at but I'm a tad scared I may break them!

I like to be thrown about a bit you see

At the end of the day, you are who you are. If you're willing to lose weight so you can swing more then that's one thing but otherwise just enjoy yourself!

It's what swinging is all about x

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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago

Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire.

Swinging should be all about consensual fun and not body weight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging should be all about consensual fun and not body weight."

Really? how do you reach consensus with polar opposite requirements?

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

Are people seriously saying that 24 verifications in 5+ years is too many? on this site? That's less than 5 a year. It's like swinging LITE. We call it a "lifestyle" for a reason.

The earlier comment about BBW nights at clubs - don't forget that these also attract people interested in meeting you! (whatever their own size)

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

People on a swinging site being put off by people swinging: you couldn't make this shit up!

Op, I'm much larger and never had a problem. What is off putting for me is insecure people. This is fun, I don't have time to massage ego's and pander to the needy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

We're not gym bunnies. And yes I would. In a heartbeat

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By *aughtyangie OP Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

I (male) was asking more about your thoughts on "does size really matter" and did you think there where more partys for "sexy people olny"

I wasn't really looking for what you thought of us BUT thank you all for the nice coments and the honest ones, we have been talking about photo updates just not had time

Don't think 24 verifications is many and as said it is a swing site. we go to clubs and party's but I do "sometimes" think twice about msg a size 10 but some of you are right just ask and enjoy

Tom

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Is now a good time to ask folk if they want to see my biceps?

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

"verifications (too many) would be the reasons why we'd pass you by but that's just our take on your situation, "

It's a site to meet and you think people meet too much!

They've got 24 verifications in 5 years - average just less than 5 a year. You've got 2 in 3 months - average 8 a year. At what point are you giving up because you've reached your quota.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I am fat and we have never struggled for meets...I am married to a chubby chasing gym bunny

I am also very body confident and that comes across when we meet people - so I believe confidence has a lot to do with if people find you attractive or not - if you don't think you are worth meeting why would anyone else?

On a separate note I have well over 140 veri's and have had sex with 11 people in my whole life.....10 of them in the last 2 years so I guess that makes a mockery of the judgemental slut shaming

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"You look sexy ??"

That's a bit rude.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

You have verifications, so your size is clearly not a issue, so there isn't a problem imho

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Just looked at the amount of veries you have.. if you were too fat how did they come about.

You can still be fat / old and sexy its all in the mind. enjoy what you are. have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah op i dont have a problem and im a lot bigger than you with a minging tum.

I get plenty of interest from 6 pack touting gym fans but thats rarely what i like. If it was though i could easily meet that type all the time.

Most of meets are repeats too!

And i probably have too many veris to the guy further up. Feel free to block me mate

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

here we go again....self pity inc.

nobody loves me cos I am fat

no on wants to meet me cos I am black

cant get sex cos I am single

I never get a shag cos I am old..

Its complete bollocks..

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We all not matter what shape or size have body issues.. In our own heads. We don't see what others see.

I personally have many and psoriasas, major break out,to boot.

So my point is if you feel sexy you..... You are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think you are too fat to swing? Then do something about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"verifications (too many) would be the reasons why we'd pass you by but that's just our take on your situation,

It's a site to meet and you think people meet too much!

They've got 24 verifications in 5 years - average just less than 5 a year. You've got 2 in 3 months - average 8 a year. At what point are you giving up because you've reached your quota.

Where in my post do I say that people meet "too much" ? How judgemental would that make us!

We truly don't care whether you've met 3 times, 24 times or 126 times, what peeps do is their business but we reserve the right to select playmates based on criteria we set, one of which happens to be volume of meets, a point I expressed in tandem with our preference concerning body shape in response to the OP's original question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My arse is BIG and it doesn't stop me... confidence is key x

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry"

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

But being honest, I am sick and tired of the "Real women have real curves" brigade... I am slim, petite and yes I spend 90 minutes every day in the gym staying that way, so don't insult me even more by calling me a "Gym bunny"!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)

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over a year ago

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)"

White knights are annoying for all i agree but theres a middle line of "Sorry i dont find fat attractive and beards arent for me either".Saying someones beard is weird is just being insulting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

We are exactly the same- both large. Some men out there are partial to a larger lady but the female halves of other couples very rarely a fan of larger males. This has caused issues for us also in getting meets. Just because we are on the cudlier side doesn't mean we don't know how to have fun

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Let's be honest, looks are almost always what generates an initial attraction. Everything else follows from that. Okay I admit, they're exceptions that'll shag anything. But more often than not we judge a book by its cover initially, and it is only natural for people to be conscious about the way they look.

Having said that, even though attraction isn't always settled on the physical, you can't just assume people won't find you physically attractive, because you never know.

Self confidence, the way you carry yourself, your sense of humour, grooming, intelligence, appearance, how you interact with people, etc etc can also spark an attraction where your looks alone didn't complete the job at first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without wanting to sound like a dick, the number of times that the word 'your' has been incorrectly used is unreal! #you're!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's be honest, looks are almost always what generates an initial attraction. Everything else follows from that. Okay I admit, they're exceptions that'll shag anything. But more often than not we judge a book by its cover initially, and it is only natural for people to be conscious about the way they look.

Having said that, even though attraction isn't always settled on the physical, you can't just assume people won't find you physically attractive, because you never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really can;t believe all the comments about too many verifications

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm a fatty but confident with who I am.

That seems to do me more favours than my big tummy.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

"I really can;t believe all the comments about too many verifications

I know!! Judgemental swingers, who knew

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I really can;t believe all the comments about too many verifications

I know!! Judgemental swingers, who knew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)"

Really?? Why, exactly?

It's precisely comments such as that from people of different body types that create the 'fat versus thin' mentality that seems to exist on here!

I go to the gym but I wouldn't see 'gym bunny' as an insult! It's entirely possible to tell someone you don't find them sexually attractive without insulting them!

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By *isdirtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"verifications (too many) would be the reasons why we'd pass you by but that's just our take on your situation,

It's a site to meet and you think people meet too much!

They've got 24 verifications in 5 years - average just less than 5 a year. You've got 2 in 3 months - average 8 a year. At what point are you giving up because you've reached your quota.

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)"

Have you tried kicking a homeless person on the street? Perhaps putting a cat in a washing machine?

Or don't you need to let those out yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a gym bunny and I certainly don't have perfect bod but no I wouldn't play with you. I don't find fat attractive.

Not to say that you won't be successful though. There are plenty of people would love to play I'm sure just keep looking. "
I found the first half of this message very refreshng, one honest opinon.

Of course the rest is just as patronising as most of the other replies on here. "you like fiiiine", "there's someone for everyone", and "there are other fat people out there like you too".

I have recently gone from a healthy BMI under 25 to 27-28. This definitely makes me go out less. But the insecurity isn't just based on a paranoid belief of mine, all the media still promote slim, fit and young. there is an external pressure from society. Yes, it does transfer slightly less to the club and party scene, but it is there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really can;t believe all the comments about too many verifications

I know!! Judgemental swingers, who knew

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Seems like High Horses come in all sizes too.

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

What's a BMI??

Does it have any relevance to this post??

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By *isdirtygirlCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

"What's a BMI??

Does it have any relevance to this post??

It's about a person's weight so yes Body Mass Index is relevant.

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)

Really?? Why, exactly?

It's precisely comments such as that from people of different body types that create the 'fat versus thin' mentality that seems to exist on here!

I go to the gym but I wouldn't see 'gym bunny' as an insult! It's entirely possible to tell someone you don't find them sexually attractive without insulting them! "

But they (the larger lady clan) can readily insult me as the "Scrawny old hag" or a "Gym Bunny" to their hearts content? Where is the equilibrium in that?

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Again nor a look at me but more "what so you think"

Like I said we do ok I am very confident yes I'm big and that's life Angie not so confident so we don't go to spa's and get naked

But we still have fun

Sexy is as sexy does. Continue to be proud of your woman, and of yourself. Life is short. Live it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people like different sizes and shapes as this place proves - plus you have verifications saying otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a size 10 lady I like the larger man.Also like women to be bigger than myself.but trying to be open mind in what I will try different shapes and size etc. Sometimes we have been checked out and nothing come from it happy swinging lol x??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a BMI??

Does it have any relevance to this post??

Yes it does.

It's simplistic measure based on height to weight that doctors like. However it will be entirely meaningless if you have much muscle on you. It's basically a completely inferior method to just doing the obvious thing and measuring body fat %.

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over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only" "

I (Mr) felt the same and thought I was holding Mrs back a bit, but I have come to learn that it is all in mind and that a positive outlook and just going with the flow is going to get us more meets, with amazing people.

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over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)

Really?? Why, exactly?

It's precisely comments such as that from people of different body types that create the 'fat versus thin' mentality that seems to exist on here!

I go to the gym but I wouldn't see 'gym bunny' as an insult! It's entirely possible to tell someone you don't find them sexually attractive without insulting them!

But they (the larger lady clan) can readily insult me as the "Scrawny old hag" or a "Gym Bunny" to their hearts content? Where is the equilibrium in that?"

Probably the hottest woman on fab posted in her status she had been called a stick by a group of women at quest. Comes down to jealousy, nothing else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate labels - have an in-built hatred, can't say where it comes from, but it's there. nobody in my opinion is too fat or too small or too anything to swing - the joy of swinging culture is, that it's a mind set and purely that [ or should be ].

Certain people will naturally find it more difficult to make connections [ I'd personally like a 9 inch schlong and a nice mid brown skin tone with blue eyes - but since wanting something doesn't mean it'll change...it's tough luck, I'll have to make do with what I have

]

There are so many swingers and people around into alternative lifestyles, not forgetting our hyper fast communications nowadays that there are more opportunities for liberated minds than there ever has been - I think.

keep plugging away and there's no reason why anyone should feel I'm too "_____" to swing....

best of luck....xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)

Really?? Why, exactly?

It's precisely comments such as that from people of different body types that create the 'fat versus thin' mentality that seems to exist on here!

I go to the gym but I wouldn't see 'gym bunny' as an insult! It's entirely possible to tell someone you don't find them sexually attractive without insulting them!

But they (the larger lady clan) can readily insult me as the "Scrawny old hag" or a "Gym Bunny" to their hearts content? Where is the equilibrium in that?"

They can't! That's what I'm trying to say Hun! I'd jump to the defence of slim people who were attacked just because they happen to be slim too!

I really don't see the point of tit-for-tat insults on either side!

I'm not sexually attracted to larger or ladies or men either. There are ways of saying that without being insulting though! X

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over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)

Really?? Why, exactly?

It's precisely comments such as that from people of different body types that create the 'fat versus thin' mentality that seems to exist on here!

I go to the gym but I wouldn't see 'gym bunny' as an insult! It's entirely possible to tell someone you don't find them sexually attractive without insulting them!

But they (the larger lady clan) can readily insult me as the "Scrawny old hag" or a "Gym Bunny" to their hearts content? Where is the equilibrium in that?

Probably the hottest woman on fab posted in her status she had been called a stick by a group of women at quest. Comes down to jealousy, nothing else "

Yep! She's also one of the nicest women on fab! Really wish id been there that night!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I despair. Couldn't this thread have just stayed on topic? No one is too big, thin, old, or young to swing on here if they are following site rules. People are attracted to various things in other people.

OP, keep at it and I'm sure you'll have a great time.

-Courtney

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over a year ago

"I despair. Couldn't this thread have just stayed on topic? No one is too big, thin, old, or young to swing on here if they are following site rules. People are attracted to various things in other people.

OP, keep at it and I'm sure you'll have a great time.

-Courtney "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)

Really?? Why, exactly?

It's precisely comments such as that from people of different body types that create the 'fat versus thin' mentality that seems to exist on here!

I go to the gym but I wouldn't see 'gym bunny' as an insult! It's entirely possible to tell someone you don't find them sexually attractive without insulting them!

But they (the larger lady clan) can readily insult me as the "Scrawny old hag" or a "Gym Bunny" to their hearts content? Where is the equilibrium in that?

Probably the hottest woman on fab posted in her status she had been called a stick by a group of women at quest. Comes down to jealousy, nothing else

Yep! She's also one of the nicest women on fab! Really wish id been there that night!

yep,same here.nikki would have told them where to go without doubt. horrible sort of thing to say to someone.

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over a year ago

"Frist let me say this is not at "look at me post" or "your not fat your fabulous"

How many of you gym bunny really don't care or is it "party time for sexy people only"

I suspect it IS a "look at me thread"

as you have a huge amount of verifications, the amount of verifications is what would actually put me off, sorry

Yes, us too (Mind you we have over 50)!

Would I (we) be interested in you? No. You are fat and your husband has a weird beard.

(Phew... Neeeded to let that out!)

Really?? Why, exactly?

It's precisely comments such as that from people of different body types that create the 'fat versus thin' mentality that seems to exist on here!

I go to the gym but I wouldn't see 'gym bunny' as an insult! It's entirely possible to tell someone you don't find them sexually attractive without insulting them!

But they (the larger lady clan) can readily insult me as the "Scrawny old hag" or a "Gym Bunny" to their hearts content? Where is the equilibrium in that?

Probably the hottest woman on fab posted in her status she had been called a stick by a group of women at quest. Comes down to jealousy, nothing else

Yep! She's also one of the nicest women on fab! Really wish id been there that night!

yep,same here.nikki would have told them where to go without doubt. horrible sort of thing to say to someone."

Indeed!

On a lighter note - just had another perve at your pics! Rather gorgeous!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Just have to push harder. The momentum then carries the swing back and forth

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By *laclkguyMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

"Just looked at the amount of veries you have.. if you were too fat how did they come about.

You can still be fat / old and sexy its all in the mind. enjoy what you are. have fun

mmm

I'd love to have some fun with you

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