FabSwingers.com forum: single men at swingers clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ive never been to a club, its high on my to do list, but as a single 'club virgin' male i cant help but feel daunted by the thought of actually doing it, the last tbing i'd want is to bump into somebody i know from the vanilla world in there, think i'd die inside a bit. Has anyone got any advice or tips on being a first time club atendee?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry too much. If they're there you both have the same interests and at worst it'll be a nod and wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bring enough for the entrance fee.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't worry too much. If they're there you both have the same interests and at worst it'll be a nod and wink. "

Ive thought about that, but even still i dont think i could face them back in the vanilla world knowing that... is that bad? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's way I probably wouldn't go to any clubs in Manchester and close surrounding areas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go wider afield or do some careful research of the club and its patrons.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

It's a risk you take, recognising someone. You either let the thought of it put you off or you don't. Going to clubs a bit further from home can help.

We've been to our local a few times and haven't been recognised. Ultimately you're an adult going to a place adults go to socialise and hopefully have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and the vanilla people you hope to avoid will being going further afield too possibly...there is no real solution but just to go to the club that suits you and just take a "risk"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Seems like the general concensus is that i should just say fuck it and jump in at the deep end then. Also is there normally a roughly even mix of single guys to couples/single women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like the general concensus is that i should just say fuck it and jump in at the deep end then. Also is there normally a roughly even mix of single guys to couples/single women?"

You have a very good club on your doorstep VA. Plus a couple of others nearby.

Do your research about what night to go as most clubs manage a ratio on singles nights. Clubs are great they open lots of doors.

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By *adyboy-DaddyCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Go along and enjoy yourself. Go with no expectations of sexual activity and the hope that you will meet some new friends and won't go far wrong.

There is almost always vastly more single men than couple or girls and you will have you work cut out standing out from the crowd.

Here's a tip. Many, maybe even most guys think that the way to go is to be a "wanking zombie"

They don't talk or interact in way. They avoid eye contact and wait until a couple start having fun and then stand near them with no conversation or eye contact, just hoping that the sight of their cock being pushed ever closer will make the couple "give in" and let them join in.

That never, ever works for us.

What does work is a guy who chills out. Says hello. Starts a normal conversation and chats as you would in a social situation.

Next thing you know we feel a connection, and we're having some fun.

Maybe not how it works for others but it's what works with us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seems like the general concensus is that i should just say fuck it and jump in at the deep end then. Also is there normally a roughly even mix of single guys to couples/single women?

You have a very good club on your doorstep VA. Plus a couple of others nearby.

Do your research about what night to go as most clubs manage a ratio on singles nights. Clubs are great they open lots of doors. "

It was the VA that scared me in the first place, i realised from facebook that ive got a mutual friend with a regular there, and shes the sort of mutual friend who probably attends with her partner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go along and enjoy yourself. Go with no expectations of sexual activity and the hope that you will meet some new friends and won't go far wrong.

There is almost always vastly more single men than couple or girls and you will have you work cut out standing out from the crowd.

Here's a tip. Many, maybe even most guys think that the way to go is to be a "wanking zombie"

That never, ever works for us.

What does work is a guy who chills out. Says hello. Starts a normal conversation and chats as you would in a social situation.

Next thing you know we feel a connection, and we're having some fun.

Maybe not how it works for others but it's what works with us. "

A wanking zombie haha love it, that would creep the hell out of me, i couldnt stand around a couple wanking myself in the hope of getting an invite anyway

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Go along and enjoy yourself. Go with no expectations of sexual activity and the hope that you will meet some new friends and won't go far wrong.

There is almost always vastly more single men than couple or girls and you will have you work cut out standing out from the crowd.

Here's a tip. Many, maybe even most guys think that the way to go is to be a "wanking zombie"

That never, ever works for us.

What does work is a guy who chills out. Says hello. Starts a normal conversation and chats as you would in a social situation.

Next thing you know we feel a connection, and we're having some fun.

Maybe not how it works for others but it's what works with us. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems like the general concensus is that i should just say fuck it and jump in at the deep end then. Also is there normally a roughly even mix of single guys to couples/single women?

You have a very good club on your doorstep VA. Plus a couple of others nearby.

Do your research about what night to go as most clubs manage a ratio on singles nights. Clubs are great they open lots of doors.

It was the VA that scared me in the first place, i realised from facebook that ive got a mutual friend with a regular there, and shes the sort of mutual friend who probably attends with her partner"

Then make a night of it and go somewhere further afield like Abfabs or even Libs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seems like the general concensus is that i should just say fuck it and jump in at the deep end then. Also is there normally a roughly even mix of single guys to couples/single women?

You have a very good club on your doorstep VA. Plus a couple of others nearby.

Do your research about what night to go as most clubs manage a ratio on singles nights. Clubs are great they open lots of doors.

It was the VA that scared me in the first place, i realised from facebook that ive got a mutual friend with a regular there, and shes the sort of mutual friend who probably attends with her partner

Then make a night of it and go somewhere further afield like Abfabs or even Libs.

If you guys are attending i'd be there in a shot lol

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