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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wanted to get your opinion,,,, is it always vital to have a social first ?

If you've been sending each other pics and vids as proof of identity would you be happy to Meet and let the passion explode straight away ??

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I need a warm up...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find its different when u meet someone in person....

I always say a social first and if something happens it happens.

some of the times I find regardless of all the flirting, I meet them and think no not for me and never see them again past that social.

Some people I end up having sex there and then and others I meet again for fun...

But I think u do need to just have that opportunity to meet and talk to someone ...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Socials first for me always. I've met guys for a drink who I've chatted to but didn't look like their pics before! I don't rule out playing if everyone is happy though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me pictures of ppl etc can be totally different to them in person. I tend to meet socially 1st so that both parties are happy then if so the rest is naughty time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMO, yes. I doubt that you'll truly know how well you get along til you meet face to face. Pictures, videos & fantasies can be different to the reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"IMO, yes. I doubt that you'll truly know how well you get along til you meet face to face. Pictures, videos & fantasies can be different to the reality."

Verrrry much so x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanted to get your opinion,,,, is it always vital to have a social first ?

If you've been sending each other pics and vids as proof of identity would you be happy to Meet and let the passion explode straight away ??"

I may have fucked people without having a social first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And there's nothing wrong with that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's not vital but i've had a couple of bad meets so i tend to want a social now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People vary on this I think. I like to make my mind up, then just haul them up the stairs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at it soon as door closes social maybe afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first as prefer to actually meet in person plus the chances are fairly high of getting stood up and if you've gone to all that trouble to get ready it is really annoying

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

As a single female I will now always do a social meet in a public place due to a bad experience.

Also sometimes pictures do not give you the full picture and what they are about, so a social means no expectations for all involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whether it's vital isn't really the issue. The reality is most women want them and men who don't are just creating themselves an unnecessary hurdle.

As well as chemistry and attraction there is usually a reason men don't want to risk a social somewhere public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever had 1 social with a guy and it taken long for it to be more.

We don't have a lot of free time so its tricky to get time for a social and another time to play. So either we arrange a club meet so you can socialise first or if its a hotel meet I make it clear we have a couple of drinks in a bar first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't one person without a social but it was a very specific fantasy for both of us and there had been awful lot of talking and planning around that. I'm glad I did it but wouldn't play like that normally

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"Social first as prefer to actually meet in person plus the chances are fairly high of getting stood up and if you've gone to all that trouble to get ready it is really annoying "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always do a social first. You just can't always tell from chat, photos and even cam, how you'll click when you meet. Then there's no pressure to play on either side.

It's worked well for us, to date.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wanted to get your opinion,,,, is it always vital to have a social first ?

If you've been sending each other pics and vids as proof of identity would you be happy to Meet and let the passion explode straight away ??"

If we're meeting then we consider much of the groundwork already done. A 30-60 minute social is enough to then move onto stage 2!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer a social first to see if there is any physical attraction / connection in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll meet in public.. And have a coffee or JD.. As long as I then get sex

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Our socials usually consist of being offered a drink or doing introductions before we get naked. I have already decided if I like someone or not before we agree to meet and we have done all the likes/dislikes before hand so it's all good to go

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Just wanted to get your opinion,,,, is it always vital to have a social first ?

If you've been sending each other pics and vids as proof of identity would you be happy to Meet and let the passion explode straight away ??"

Most of our meets have been at someones house and are see how it goes, no pressure.

We have a drink and chat and if all happy, then we'll happily get it on.

If after a drink, we or them aren't happy we go our separate ways.

Saying that,we have had a couple of meets where it's been straight down to it, no social interaction at all (until after!) but thats been certain scenarios and discussed in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Socials first for me always. I've met guys for a drink who I've chatted to but didn't look like their pics before! I don't rule out playing if everyone is happy though "

Same here I like a no expectations quick social meet for a coffee or a drink sometimes too though, but obviously that's not always practical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a social first, that way there's no pressure and if we don't click with that then nothing happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every 'social first' meet we've had led to sex straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love socials, never meet without them, even when I meet in clubs I usually don't play unless I've met before and chatted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a good social,part of build up n excitement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials are completely impractical for me. They take up precious time.....especially as there are no guys local to me. I prefer to put the time in messaging and chatting first. I guess I'm lucky in that i can tell without meeting who i will click with. I've been wrong once in 4 years....and that was because i rushed it. Never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to have a social first. Get to see the person in real before jumping into bed with them and to see if we click. Being in a relationship is different to singles.

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By *ayman2002Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Socials are completely impractical for me. They take up precious time.....especially as there are no guys local to me. I prefer to put the time in messaging and chatting first. I guess I'm lucky in that i can tell without meeting who i will click with. I've been wrong once in 4 years....and that was because i rushed it. Never again."

You're also lucky that you're very easy to chat to and a smart cookie too, so it's easy (I know from experience) to get to know you that.

Socials are just another preference. I like them for multiple reasons, not least because I enjoy face to face contact/flirting.. call it what you will. My best meets have come from my most relaxed & fun socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer socials first x but am hoping to meet a friend in another country so social wont be possible as im only in the country for 5 days x

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