FabSwingers.com forum: Recovering from Fabacide?

By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

Sometimes there are some of us who start a thread or post a comment on a current thread that doesn't seem to go down well with other forumites.

That event eventually leads to "Fabacide". It happens in other forums on other sites too I'm sure.

Have you ever done it and have you ever fully recovered? How did you bounce back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes there are some of us who start a thread or post a comment on a current thread that doesn't seem to go down well with other forumites.

That event eventually leads to "Fabacide". It happens in other forums on other sites too I'm sure.

Have you ever done it and have you ever fully recovered? How did you bounce back?

very new to forums lol please explain

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By *outhessex14Man
over a year ago

basildon

"Sometimes there are some of us who start a thread or post a comment on a current thread that doesn't seem to go down well with other forumites.

That event eventually leads to "Fabacide". It happens in other forums on other sites too I'm sure.

Have you ever done it and have you ever fully recovered? How did you bounce back?

Like above new to using the forum so much so nothing to report yet, but I shall try not to commit it haha

Have you then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are a little forum mafia. who like to blank new forum users. sometimes you will see a thread thats going well. a newby will add a comment then the rest leave the thread or gang up and put them down . i just find it very funny,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes there are some of us who start a thread or post a comment on a current thread that doesn't seem to go down well with other forumites.

That event eventually leads to "Fabacide". It happens in other forums on other sites too I'm sure.

Have you ever done it and have you ever fully recovered? How did you bounce back?

Like above new to using the forum so much so nothing to report yet, but I shall try not to commit it haha

Have you then?"

Negative lol

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"there are a little forum mafia. who like to blank new forum users. sometimes you will see a thread thats going well. a newby will add a comment then the rest leave the thread or gang up and put them down . i just find it very funny,"

I've not seen that as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that just sounds rude lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry . but yes think there are some rude people on the forums,

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By *outhessex14Man
over a year ago

basildon

I can't comment on that but I am on forums for interests away from fab and you do get some groups like that everywhere so doesn't bother me that much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well that's just shitty, everyone has a right to there opinion and a right to say something lol idk im to new to say whats what!

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

To me Fabacide is really just getting on the wrong side of the majority of forumites on that thread at the time.

It happens, I think I have been close to it a few times, just on the cusp of it, but someone always seems to reel me back in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me Fabacide is really just getting on the wrong side of the majority of forumites on that thread at the time.

It happens, I think I have been close to it a few times, just on the cusp of it, but someone always seems to reel me back in

hahahah atleast you got reeled back in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure I've been either really close or it has happened already

sometimes things on here get very heated and its hard not to comment on something that you're passionate about, although I'm learning to bite my tongue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who really cares??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people just have stand by profiles. Make a fool of themselves on one. Delete, carry on with other profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes there are some of us who start a thread or post a comment on a current thread that doesn't seem to go down well with other forumites.

That event eventually leads to "Fabacide". It happens in other forums on other sites too I'm sure.

Have you ever done it and have you ever fully recovered? How did you bounce back?

I used to think it was just me but now I realise it happens to most people at some point...not all posts have legs and often there is only so much you can say about a subject and they reach a natural conclusion....or they get revived 6 weeks later....shit happens

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Who really cares??"

Well you care enough to comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who really cares??"

Seriously. Only those that have a life revolving around the forum notice. The rest don't. And couldn't give a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One does not give a fuck what people think.

I'm finding it increasingly difficult to hear some people from their seat atop a high stallion.

The John Lewis thread was a prime example of the general atmosphere of the forums lately...in my opinion anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who really cares??

Well you care enough to comment

Not about what others do on here. It has no bearing on my life...i just wondered if anyone does care?

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"Who really cares??

Seriously. Only those that have a life revolving around the forum notice. The rest don't. And couldn't give a shit."

Well you're little miss sunshine aren't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who really cares??

Seriously. Only those that have a life revolving around the forum notice. The rest don't. And couldn't give a shit.

Well you're little miss sunshine aren't you?

I'm realistic about what this is. Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who really cares??

Well you care enough to comment

And you mistake my entertainment for caring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who really cares??

Seriously. Only those that have a life revolving around the forum notice. The rest don't. And couldn't give a shit.

Well you're little miss sunshine aren't you?

I'm realistic about what this is. Yes."

yes this is a forum...a place where anyone can air their views and hopefully get others to comment thus starting a discussion....

well it works in theory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

I ask this because in social media opinions are often open and varied. Fab is just another medium. Certain statements or ideas may not always agree with the majority and sometimes things are said to create shock value. Tweets or FB status' may carry this too, often it can cause controversy and ruin the reputation of an individual. Which sometimes isn't their intention and sometimes (especially those in the public eye) require PR help.

As the fab forums are a smaller venue, I just wondered how people handled a situation like that in that context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who really cares??

Seriously. Only those that have a life revolving around the forum notice. The rest don't. And couldn't give a shit.

Well you're little miss sunshine aren't you?

I'm realistic about what this is. Yes.

yes this is a forum...a place where anyone can air their views and hopefully get others to comment thus starting a discussion....

well it works in theory

Apparently my view isn't acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ask this because in social media opinions are often open and varied. Fab is just another medium. Certain statements or ideas may not always agree with the majority and sometimes things are said to create shock value. Tweets or FB status' may carry this too, often it can cause controversy and ruin the reputation of an individual. Which sometimes isn't their intention and sometimes (especially those in the public eye) require PR help.

As the fab forums are a smaller venue, I just wondered how people handled a situation like that in that context."

It can't be compared. We are mostly anonymous.

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

As the fab forums are a smaller venue, I just wondered how people handled a situation like that in that context.

It can't be compared. We are mostly anonymous."

Yes mostly, but not entirely as some forumites do meet each other and frequent forum posters have a certain train of thought that in turn allows other to get an idea of how that person thinks.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide."

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me Fabacide is really just getting on the wrong side of the majority of forumites on that thread at the time.

It happens, I think I have been close to it a few times, just on the cusp of it, but someone always seems to reel me back in

If you're on the wrong side of most people on here.. you're probably on the right side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure I've said things that haven't gone down well. I'm sure I've said things that have.

It's the nature of a group of people discussing many and sometimes emotive subjects.

Can't say that I bother tracking my standing on the forums on some perceived scale of popularity though or going about trying to claw back favour after saying anything that didn't go down well. That's just odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on."

I think insurance is digital and not typed up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the fab forums are a smaller venue, I just wondered how people handled a situation like that in that context."

I just suck it up and move onto killing the next post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the fab forums are a smaller venue, I just wondered how people handled a situation like that in that context.

It can't be compared. We are mostly anonymous.

Yes mostly, but not entirely as some forumites do meet each other and frequent forum posters have a certain train of thought that in turn allows other to get an idea of how that person thinks."

I still don't see it as a big deal. If anyone says anything that bad that it's going to offend those they are "friends" with then maybe they are better off not being "friends"?

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on.

I think insurance is digital and not typed up

I have a printer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes mostly, but not entirely as some forumites do meet each other and frequent forum posters have a certain train of thought that in turn allows other to get an idea of how that person thinks."

Ah sycophants. Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on."

Nice callipygian ass though.

Most of the guys i've met i've never even seen in here but have met a few because of the forums. They were totally different people on meets than what you'd see of them in here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on.

I think insurance is digital and not typed up

I have a printer"

Can i borrow it? Mine's fucked!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on.

I think insurance is digital and not typed up

I have a printer"

You'll get an inky bum

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

You just take it on the chin and keep on posting.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on.

I think insurance is digital and not typed up

I have a printer

Can i borrow it? Mine's fucked!!"

As it's you, yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just take it on the chin and keep on posting. "

like forum bukkake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i decided not to post threads no more, as a certain few like nothing better than picking a thread apart and creating nastiness and i decided a want no part of their negativeness, plus a high number for fear of the moderators maybe banning them decide its fine to send vile messages in private. so for my own self and happiness a decided to maybe follow threads and post comments in a positive way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just take it on the chin and keep on posting.

like forum bukkake"

That just sounds messy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just take it on the chin and keep on posting.

like forum bukkake

That just sounds messy

I'm a giver, not a taker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just take it on the chin and keep on posting.

like forum bukkake

That just sounds messy

I'm a giver, not a taker

Me too

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on.

Nice callipygian ass though.

Most of the guys i've met i've never even seen in here but have met a few because of the forums. They were totally different people on meets than what you'd see of them in here too."

The not being the same as on here? Is that a bad thing? Cos I'm presuming part of the reason you met them is because you liked them from the forums?

And thank you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost all forumites couldn't give a shit whether I post or not so nothing I say on the forums these days is of any consequence. Fabicide is a concept that is meaningless in the context of this site, in the sense that only those, that think the forum has any bearing on successfulness on the site, consider it important. The reality is it's bollocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Almost all forumites couldn't give a shit whether I post or not so nothing I say on the forums these days is of any consequence. Fabicide is a concept that is meaningless in the context of this site, in the sense that only those, that think the forum has any bearing on successfulness on the site, consider it important. The reality is it's bollocks"

Except that bollocks serve a purpose. And I quite like mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm firmly in camp Bollocks ....and bloody lovely it is too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Except that bollocks serve a purpose. And I quite like mine

Pah just excess elbow skin housing a couple of plums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm firmly in camp Bollocks ....and bloody lovely it is too

You mean Camp excess elbow skin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on.

Nice callipygian ass though.

Most of the guys i've met i've never even seen in here but have met a few because of the forums. They were totally different people on meets than what you'd see of them in here too.

The not being the same as on here? Is that a bad thing? Cos I'm presuming part of the reason you met them is because you liked them from the forums?

And thank you..."

You're welcome.

Well, they're more easy going and fun than on the forums because on the forums they get attacked and end up defensive on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm firmly in camp Bollocks ....and bloody lovely it is too

You mean Camp excess elbow skin

Whatever it is i like it and I'm not moving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see what you're driving at OP, its an interesting question along the lines of popularity and the 'hive mind' of the forums. A portion of the forums dont really care what the group consensus is and usually seek to subvert that. Some people do care what others think of them, I think its very hard for the former to be judged by the latter in any meaningful sense, hence fabicide is just a phrase bandied around for forum gossip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm firmly in camp Bollocks ....and bloody lovely it is too

You mean Camp excess elbow skin

Whatever it is i like it and I'm not moving

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see what you're driving at OP, its an interesting question along the lines of popularity and the 'hive mind' of the forums. A portion of the forums dont really care what the group consensus is and usually seek to subvert that. Some people do care what others think of them, I think its very hard for the former to be judged by the latter in any meaningful sense, hence fabicide is just a phrase bandied around for forum gossip"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother with the forums usually, I'm a foot in mouth kinda guy, so I'd rather just make a twat out of myself to single people rather than a forum full .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't bother with the forums usually, I'm a foot in mouth kinda guy, so I'd rather just make a twat out of myself to single people rather than a forum full ."

I shouldn't worry being a twat on here is an occupational hazard, so much so that I answer to Twat now :--D

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"there's like 50 people use the forums and a few pop in then fuck off for good.

no such thing as fabicide.

Agreed. There are some, usually the ones who block you for expressing an opinion that differs from theirs, who think you'll never get a Fab related shag if you commit so-called "fabicide".

I have not had sex with anyone that uses the forums. I have with one or a few that don't though.

As for "Forum Insurance"; I wipe my callipygian arse on the paper it's written on.

Nice callipygian ass though.

Most of the guys i've met i've never even seen in here but have met a few because of the forums. They were totally different people on meets than what you'd see of them in here too.

The not being the same as on here? Is that a bad thing? Cos I'm presuming part of the reason you met them is because you liked them from the forums?

And thank you...

You're welcome.

Well, they're more easy going and fun than on the forums because on the forums they get attacked and end up defensive on here."

Ahhhh, gotcha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me Fabacide is really just getting on the wrong side of the majority of forumites on that thread at the time.

It happens, I think I have been close to it a few times, just on the cusp of it, but someone always seems to reel me back in

You're a doll, ignore them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't bother with the forums usually, I'm a foot in mouth kinda guy, so I'd rather just make a twat out of myself to single people rather than a forum full ."

I'm always posting dumb things on here and saying dumb things in real life. I don't bounce back as such, I just flail along oblivious to the fallout.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Fabicide' for me is like the 'clique' term that's banded around so in general it's absolute bollox and means nothing.

Using this term for me is an indication of almost forum snobbery, loads post shite on a daily basis, some more than others, some less popular than others ~ hence the 'fabicide'.

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Interesting thread.

In all honesty, "Fabicide" mostly exists in the mind. Anything short of criminal behaviour or flagrant violation of site rules will be forgotten about in time and, even if it isn't, many people don't even look at the forums, anyway.

What's more, a forum is supposed to be a place in which debates are sparked. Debates that, crucially, revolve around opinions. So it's only inevitable that occasionally, feathers get ruffled.

And on top of that, it has to be remembered that opinions don't really matter, in the grand scheme of things. So if anyone's willing to get upset over an opinion that isn't a direct, targeted attack that singles them out, they should really calm down. An opinion without any actual effect is like a fart in the wind. Or a cock-shot on a computer screen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fabicide.....lol i don't think it would matter to us, we are not that popular anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't give a fuck if the majority of forum users blank me,hate me,don't want to fuck me. I flit about so much I don't know who is doing what,most of the time anyway.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

As the fab forums are a smaller venue, I just wondered how people handled a situation like that in that context."

Generally I find if you're polite and reasonable you can say pretty much what you like on here. It only seems to become a problem if you start to get abusive or annoyed. So, even if others are abusive and rude to you, remain polite and reasonable back and you'll have few problems.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Who really cares??

Seriously. Only those that have a life revolving around the forum notice. The rest don't. And couldn't give a shit.

Well you're little miss sunshine aren't you?

I'm realistic about what this is. Yes.

yes this is a forum...a place where anyone can air their views and hopefully get others to comment thus starting a discussion....

well it works in theory

Apparently my view isn't acceptable."

Your view is always acceptable to me scarlet!!

In fact I wish you'd view me more.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

As the fab forums are a smaller venue, I just wondered how people handled a situation like that in that context.

I just suck it up and move onto killing the next post

I like the sound of that. he he

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"i decided not to post threads no more, as a certain few like nothing better than picking a thread apart and creating nastiness and i decided a want no part of their negativeness, plus a high number for fear of the moderators maybe banning them decide its fine to send vile messages in private. so for my own self and happiness a decided to maybe follow threads and post comments in a positive way"

If anyone is personally abusive to you, even in a private message, you should report them to admin. They will deal with any abuse. Don't hesitate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"fabicide.....lol i don't think it would matter to us, we are not that popular anyway"

Same here... It's like we're invisible.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

"'Fabicide' for me is like the 'clique' term that's banded around so in general it's absolute bollox and means nothing.

Using this term for me is an indication of almost forum snobbery, loads post shite on a daily basis, some more than others, some less popular than others ~ hence the 'fabicide'.

Yep, fabicide is for the forum elites that sit atop mount fablympus and shun eachother when they commit it. Being that most of my posts are ignored anyways, i wouldn't notice if i were to commit fabi kari under their steely gaze

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm 55 years old with an opinion of my own. I've been on the site seven years and I still get people who say things like "that's not the first time you've said that" in an accusatory way, and the rest of the pack joins in.

Do I give a fuck?!! Yeah...right!!!

I can't abide suck ups/people that sit on the fence scared to stick their head above the parapet. There are people who's opinions I seldom agree with on certain issues but they state their opinion regardless of the backlash: they have my respect.

I don't seek to be popular (gee how bereft of friends/a life must you be to actively want to be popular on an Internet sex site?!!), I comment on threads that interest me and ignore those that don't.

There have been those that on occasion followed me around the forums making comments expecting some reaction from me, unable to ascertain their opinions mean diddly squat to me.

"Fabacide" is simply not agreeing with the masses: they get over it!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Who really cares??"

In a nutshell.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Who really cares??

Seriously. Only those that have a life revolving around the forum notice. The rest don't. And couldn't give a shit.

Well you're little miss sunshine aren't you?

I am too then as I wholeheartedly agree with her.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm sure I've said things that haven't gone down well. I'm sure I've said things that have.

It's the nature of a group of people discussing many and sometimes emotive subjects.

The word you're looking for is "sad!"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabicide can be a good two way filtering process. People might block you but then you know if anyone is going to get unnecessarily upset over a forum thread to the point of blocking you then it's no great loss anyway.

Just carry on as normal afterwards. Be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabicude doesn't exist. And the sort of posters who suggest it does tend to be the ones I have the least interest in.

As others have said, who gives a fuck? Post what you want, what you believe and what you feel. Accept some people will like it and agree with you while others won't.

You have to go some to get a permanent ban on the forums and even then the vast majority of the site will be completely unaware of what you've posted

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

I do love how everyone thinks. From the "who cares", to those that have opinions regarding the word and what it means to them.

The OP was to elicit at least a response that was hopefully different from the usual monotonous topics. And the way people have answered reveals the tone in which way they response to a question whether relevant or not. It's interesting to see how people think. I don't really care about "fabicide", I've been banned, blocked and ignored on the forums. This is just a thread different from your usual "kiss, fuck, avoid" threads. You can either choose to ignore, post an opinion on the thought or topic, or say "who gives a shit". I'm not holding you back. I suppose with most things say away from insulting people because then that's pointless really (that's generally, not particular to this thread).

Carry on... or don't. You can move along, there isn't anything to see here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not yet. Thankfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you are getting at OP. However Fabicide is usually brought to the table by those who spout all that "popcorn" pulls up a chair bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just serve my forum ban every now and again then carry on regardless.

Him

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"To me Fabacide is really just getting on the wrong side of the majority of forumites on that thread at the time.

It happens, I think I have been close to it a few times, just on the cusp of it, but someone always seems to reel me back in

If you're on the wrong side of most people on here.. you're probably on the right side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ive been a knob head I just post more photos and distract people with thighs and abs

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By *requent_FerryersCouple
over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth (by river)

Seen it happen here often! We just put it down to the fact that they are so fulfilled with their own company, alone and at home (Billy-No-Mates) that they get themselves off by exercising their minuscule brains in a folorn quest to impose their intellectual superiority over newbies!

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To me Fabacide is really just getting on the wrong side of the majority of forumites on that thread at the time.

It happens, I think I have been close to it a few times, just on the cusp of it, but someone always seems to reel me back in

If you're on the wrong side of most people on here.. you're probably on the right side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes there are some of us who start a thread or post a comment on a current thread that doesn't seem to go down well with other forumites.

That event eventually leads to "Fabacide". It happens in other forums on other sites too I'm sure.

Have you ever done it and have you ever fully recovered? How did you bounce back?

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hehe me ,no never

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"I know what you are getting at OP. However Fabicide is usually brought to the table by those who spout all that "popcorn" pulls up a chair bollocks.

It makes me cringe when people do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If ive been a knob head I just post more photos and distract people with thighs and abs

Thighs?

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've (somewhat ephemerally on the whole) used forums, of one sort or another, since the days of clicky-button phones. (Who remembers Mopilot? You know what I'm talking about.) One thing all forums have had in common is the cliquey element, the mob mentality. A group of people using any sort of chat medium will develop a sense of community in exactly the same way that, say, a group of regulars in a pub do. Their paths rarely cross outside of the four walls of The Cock & Balls, they know little of each other's lives away from the boozer, but when they're in there they're tight. They shake hands firmly, hug tightly, kiss cheeks, laugh at each other's jokes raucously... well, you know what I mean. This same group dynamic applies in the digital world, forumites that interact with each other every day develop the firm bond and sense of security you see in "real life." And just like a group of regulars in a pub, they tend to be suspicious of outsiders and newcomers, and will band together like pack animals in an instant, if one of their number takes exception to the outsider in question. Web forums are actually quite an interesting microcosm to observe group dynamics, if you're the type to stay detached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what you are getting at OP. However Fabicide is usually brought to the table by those who spout all that "popcorn" pulls up a chair bollocks.

I almost posted about that similarity too. It's a style of posting I find cowardly and slightly pathetic, those posts are always designed to goad the OP and steer a thread in a particular direction with the subsequent contributions.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever it isn't, fabicide is certainly an opinion splitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do love how everyone thinks. From the "who cares", to those that have opinions regarding the word and what it means to them.

Carry on... or don't. You can move along, there isn't anything to see here.

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yes but in a nutshell you've described a forum hehe a load of people who think they are right ,they have an opinion , some successfully debate it others resort to insults but some employ humour ,we in forums are just the minority on this site so it matters not

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"fabicide.....lol i don't think it would matter to us, we are not that popular anyway

Same here... It's like we're invisible.

Who said that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what you are getting at OP. However Fabicide is usually brought to the table by those who spout all that "popcorn" pulls up a chair bollocks.

It makes me cringe when people do that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I've ever started a thread that I've bothered too much about nor have I ever felt that ive commited some sort of forum faux pas if its been ignored,I've never used the fabicide comment which makes me cringe as much as the antagonistic popcorn and haribo comments

Some threads roar along with loads of interest and some don't, it's not always the fault of the poster,I saw a thread revived the other day that had been ignored and then all of a sudden people started posting on it was popular,no rhyme or reason why

It's only an internet forum,I find people take a huge chunk of life on here really seriously and personally too,then seem to always be huffy with everything they post

I've been on and off these forums for over 7 years,despite there having been a change of people coming and going and the regulars changing cyclically,the comments about forum mafia and cliques have never been any different,yet the perceived people in those cliques can never been the same people,they were all newbies putting their first post up once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I did pretty well answering the question considering I'd had one too many last night...

OP, you seem a little put out by the way the threads gone but people have contributed from a variety of angles re the term 'fabicide'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here.. And if I did commit 'fabicide' I really wouldn't care as I won't arrange to meet forum users anyway..

What people think of me on here has no baring on my fab use or my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people just have stand by profiles. Make a fool of themselves on one. Delete, carry on with other profile."

That's an interesting thought process....

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I've not seen that as such"

Nope, nor me, and I've done a fair bit of forum-cruising in the 7 years we've been on here!

I'm not sure where this "gang up" thing comes from, I think its highly unlikely that the regulars in here all pvt msg each other saying things like "Have you seen that post on the such'n'such thread, shall we attack it?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm 55 years old with an opinion of my own. I've been on the site seven years and I still get people who say things like "that's not the first time you've said that" in an accusatory way, and the rest of the pack joins in.

Do I give a fuck?!! Yeah...right!!!

I don't seek to be popular (gee how bereft of friends/a life must you be to actively want to be popular on an Internet sex site?!!), I comment on threads that interest me and ignore those that don't.

There have been those that on occasion followed me around the forums making comments expecting some reaction from me, unable to ascertain their opinions mean diddly squat to me.

"Fabacide" is simply not agreeing with the masses: they get over it!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know what you are getting at OP. However Fabicide is usually brought to the table by those who spout all that "popcorn" pulls up a chair bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not seen that as such

Nope, nor me, and I've done a fair bit of forum-cruising in the 7 years we've been on here!

But it does happen.. Intentional or not

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Just remember its a thread, if you post something and it gets everyone back up.

Just carry on as normal and keep posting threads, unless your a troll and purposely go out of your way to!start contentious threads then its soon forgotten about.

We've all done and said something when we've been lynched for it but just carry on. The golden rule is, once you type something and post send your not I'm control how it!will be received. Sometimes the most simplest thing can cause world war three.

But an less its something really bad most people will have forgotten the next day amyway

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"To me Fabacide is really just getting on the wrong side of the majority of forumites on that thread at the time.

It happens, I think I have been close to it a few times, just on the cusp of it, but someone always seems to reel me back in

Oh, I thought "Fabicide" was going UNLOS after getting slated in the forums!

Well, then I must confess, by this new definition, I am A Fabicide survivor!

(Looks round the circle of other FA (Fabicide Anonymous)attendees).

Hi, my names Martin, and this is my first meeting. It's been....erm... well, I dunno when I last stormed into a thread, dropped my trousers and did a huge steaming pile of verbals, 'cos it happens so often!

I'm an unrepentant truthsayer (well, my version of the truth lol), so there's a good chance I'm going to fall off the wagon any second now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not seen that as such

Nope, nor me, and I've done a fair bit of forum-cruising in the 7 years we've been on here!

But it does happen.. Intentional or not "

I agree.

I wouldn't think people PM each other to 'organise an attack' but i wouldn't dismiss the notion that people message and say 'check out thread XYZ in the lounge'....

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"I'm sure I've said things that haven't gone down well. I'm sure I've said things that have.

It's the nature of a group of people discussing many and sometimes emotive subjects.

Amen brother

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

If someone sends you a shitty message off the back of a forum thread, you can copy n paste that to admin with a short description of what is going on, they take a dim view of that sort of thing.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Also unless it's something silly and actually connected to the OP most people are replying to what's written on the thread not because of who the op is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really enjoy watching one of my threads burn. Half the time I'm trolling anyways, but occasionally I'll genuinely want people's input. And yeah, there are some incredibly stupid people on here who love to be offended. They're my favourite

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I don't think I've ever started a thread that I've bothered too much about nor have I ever felt that ive commited some sort of forum faux pas if its been ignored,I've never used the fabicide comment which makes me cringe as much as the antagonistic popcorn and haribo comments

It's only an internet forum,I find people take a huge chunk of life on here really seriously and personally too,then seem to always be huffy with everything they post

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

OP, you seem a little put out by the way the threads gone but people have contributed from a variety of angles re the term 'fabicide'.

That's the impression I have too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone sends you a shitty message off the back of a forum thread, you can copy n paste that to admin with a short description of what is going on, they take a dim view of that sort of thing."
i did not realise that.. thanks

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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago

London

OP, you seem a little put out by the way the threads gone but people have contributed from a variety of angles re the term 'fabicide'.

That's the impression I have too."

How's that then?

I have accepted all meaningful contributions that were constructive to this thread whether positive or negative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you get the popcorn and tin hat phrases used on most forums.

But the whole forum insurance thing is the biggest crock of shit on here, it might be said in a joking way. But it's got a lot of truthful undertones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Fabicide' for me is like the 'clique' term that's banded around so in general it's absolute bollox and means nothing.

Using this term for me is an indication of almost forum snobbery, loads post shite on a daily basis, some more than others, some less popular than others ~ hence the 'fabicide'.

It's often forum regulars who use the term Fabicide when a new poster starts a thread. It's usually a thread that doesn't involve their kind of approved topics,usually sexual. Then they talk about not being "vanilla"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started using the forums a few years ago I noticed, on quite a few threads,the same group of people commenting and not being particularly positive. I looked at one prolific poster and noticed they had all met at a social or two,therefore had formed a friendship. Those people never said a bad word to each other or disagreed. Maybe they all really did think as one and have the same views on everything or maybe they didn't like to upset friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you seem a little put out by the way the threads gone but people have contributed from a variety of angles re the term 'fabicide'.

That's the impression I have too.

How's that then?

I have accepted all meaningful contributions that were constructive to this thread whether positive or negative."

It's just my observation from what's been said that's all, my interpretation rightly or wrongly.

Interesting thread though

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