FabSwingers.com forum: Rudeness to single guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is supposed to be a fun site .. If couples and the lady's aren't interest .. That's fine .. Instead your message gets deleted . It takes just as much effort to delete as it does to write "sorry not interested ". If couples and the lady's do not wish to have contact from guys .. Then block us. Even if you a verified in every way.. This is just rudeness end of...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This type of post is brought up every few weeks.

So - as a bit of market research, for 24 hours only I raised a ladies profile. 35 bisexual and looking a couple or single people. I didn't show a photo and didn't contact anyone at all.

Boom - within 2 hours, 270 messages.

I now see where ladies and couples come from.

Some of the pish messages that I received were incredible. I put an age limit of 35-50.

The messages from younger and older were numerous.

I deleted the profile after 6 hours and I didn't reply to anyone.

I won't complain if a lady deletes my message again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People have three photos private for a reason .. In my case .. My job.. But yet it's ok for couples and females to have no photos public ? Double standards

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

OP, if you bothered to read the FAQs, or use the forum search box, you would find that the answers are right there.

Every single day there are single blokes bemoaning the fact that some people don't reply to their messages. The FAQs clearly state that no one is owed a reply, and to take it as a no.

I'm so tired of these constant threads that wouldn't even be clogging up the forums if people would just use the search box. It's a site tool, that's what it's there for!

Not being rude, merely exasperated at the amount of people who don't use the tools provided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't block single guys. Because when the mood takes........... But if we feel lazy we may delete a message with no reply if it's a shit one.

It's not rude op you don't fit what they want.

It's in the FAQ's after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are far ruder responses on this site than a deleted message

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"This type of post is brought up every few weeks.

So - as a bit of market research, for 24 hours only I raised a ladies profile. 35 bisexual and looking a couple or single people. I didn't show a photo and didn't contact anyone at all.

Boom - within 2 hours, 270 messages.

I now see where ladies and couples come from.

Some of the pish messages that I received were incredible. I put an age limit of 35-50.

The messages from younger and older were numerous.

I deleted the profile after 6 hours and I didn't reply to anyone.

I won't complain if a lady deletes my message again.

Very interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite clearly state the kind of man I am looking for so when I get a message from someone who doesn't meet my requirements, I get a bit snarky. I think it's worse to message someone ignoring everything they've written. I could use my filters but then I wouldn't get messages from the guys who do meet my requirements.

A delete is a no thank you and one of the more polite ones.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"This is supposed to be a fun site .. If couples and the lady's aren't interest .. That's fine .. Instead your message gets deleted . It takes just as much effort to delete as it does to write "sorry not interested ". If couples and the lady's do not wish to have contact from guys .. Then block us. Even if you a verified in every way.. This is just rudeness end of..."

It takes a lot less time to delete than reply. Anyway, site FAQs state no reply=no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

juat rudeness .. You wouldn't like it if couples and females deleted your messages.. You may go on to say that your not bothered .. But you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Demanding a response, even a no thank you, demonstrates a sense of entitlement which is not an attractive trait to have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

FAQs.... Just rudeness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"juat rudeness .. You wouldn't like it if couples and females deleted your messages.. You may go on to say that your not bothered .. But you are"

Nope we count no reply as a no thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"juat rudeness .. You wouldn't like it if couples and females deleted your messages.. You may go on to say that your not bothered .. But you are"

Don't sweat the little things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FAQs.... Just rudeness"

There's a reply and quote button to help you direct your responses to who you're replying to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yet couples and women have the entitlement

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As I said I knew you would say this .. Rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"juat rudeness .. You wouldn't like it if couples and females deleted your messages.. You may go on to say that your not bothered .. But you are

Nope we count no reply as a no thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do usually block males from messaging me. When i open filters and allow them to message i can choose who i want to chat to and do that.

Whoever i reply to cannot be blocked once i block all males again, whoever i ignore can be blocked.

There's some logic to not replying and there are plenty of other reasons why people don't reply.

Just because you're used to people using manners does not mean you're entitled to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.

If you are so annoyed maybe this site isn't for you.

You've been here for 2 weeks - not a long time.

Get in the chat rooms - go to any socials in the area.

Or persevere and be patient.

Out of every 20 messages you send if you get a couple of replies you are doing well - unless you are me and get 100% replies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yet women and couples have the entitlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This type of post is brought up every few weeks.

So - as a bit of market research, for 24 hours only I raised a ladies profile. 35 bisexual and looking a couple or single people. I didn't show a photo and didn't contact anyone at all.

Boom - within 2 hours, 270 messages.

I now see where ladies and couples come from.

Some of the pish messages that I received were incredible. I put an age limit of 35-50.

The messages from younger and older were numerous.

I deleted the profile after 6 hours and I didn't reply to anyone.

I won't complain if a lady deletes my message again.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet couples and women have the entitlement "

Do they? Is there a list?

People with a sense of entitlement be they men, women, anywhere on the gender spectrum, couples, fwbs are not nice people to be around. People who stomp their feet and pout when they don't get a reply to a message are laughable.

Take a teaspoon of cement and harden up!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"juat rudeness .. You wouldn't like it if couples and females deleted your messages.. You may go on to say that your not bothered .. But you are"

Men delete my messages all the time. I do get bothered (especially if they're hot) but not that much. Its not the end of the world, and I move on to someone else.

Tell me how an inbox full of 'No thank you's is better than an empty inbox?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Respect !!!!!!!!

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By *aurenkaWoman
over a year ago

London

Actually it takes much more time.

And if guys are writing, like majority of them, clearly not reading profile - I find it personally offending.

So I may sound nicer if I simply don't answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet women and couples have the entitlement "

Ooh what we entitled to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

RESPECT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find these threads very useful in finding out who to block.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I find these threads very useful in finding out who to block."

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Your entitled to more respect from users

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not being respected here. You've decided the way we do things is wrong and disrespecting us that way.

So yeah i'm done here.

As usual, another guy who doesn't give a fuck about anyone but himself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Point made .... Single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried that Hun and all I got was...

Why not

What's wrong with me

Don't you like my cock

Why don't we just meet and see if we click

So it's easier just to delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your entitled to more respect from users "

And I'm entitled to other users reading my profile, respecting my profile and not messaging when they don't match what's written in my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet women and couples have the entitlement

Ooh what we entitled to? "

Cake

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Your entitled to more respect from users "

No-one is entitled to anything on here. Not a wink, friend request, message, reply, chat, meet, or verification. Once you get that, you'll enjoy the site a lot more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guts prefer it if you don't delete .. If messages are persistent .. Then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your entitled to more respect from users "

You should see some of the abuse we get for simply politely declining people. It makes you think delete first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it personally , women are spoilt for choice on here , as men if we get rejected we keep our heads up & keep it moving

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Keep telling yourself that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet women and couples have the entitlement "

You've some issues sir.

Can't go getting annoyed because people don't reply.

Grow up

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Your entitled to more respect from users "

No one is 'entitled' to anything. Respect is earned, not demanded.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nothing about rejection .. It's about respect

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I find these threads very useful in finding out who to block."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just say what guys are thinking .. Sheeeeep

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"We're not being respected here. You've decided the way we do things is wrong and disrespecting us that way.

So yeah i'm done here.

As usual, another guy who doesn't give a fuck about anyone but himself."

Because he's not getting any fucks, apparently

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you earn respect then ? Talking by any chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't expecting this from a 30 year old

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By *r an Mrs xMan
over a year ago

liverpool

195 messages today ....... It's a hard sell for a single guy x

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By *angbang junkieCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston

Think you may need to alter how you view this place. No reply=no thanks. Thats it. Its really is very simple. Then you move on. You think couples and women don't delete our messages too?

Are you that conceited?

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"This type of post is brought up every few weeks.

So - as a bit of market research, for 24 hours only I raised a ladies profile. 35 bisexual and looking a couple or single people. I didn't show a photo and didn't contact anyone at all.

Boom - within 2 hours, 270 messages.

I now see where ladies and couples come from.

Some of the pish messages that I received were incredible. I put an age limit of 35-50.

The messages from younger and older were numerous.

I deleted the profile after 6 hours and I didn't reply to anyone.

I won't complain if a lady deletes my message again.

Very interesting"

Very interested indeed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Discrimination by any chance ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing about rejection .. It's about respect "
then respect peoples right to delete without reply. Its just how it is.

Often a no thank you is met with abuse... So many women and couples stop replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing about rejection .. It's about respect "

And you have none for the way the site works. The site you chose to join without bothering to read the rules.

People will never agree with you so pick your dummy back up. Your starting to look childish now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was chatting to a woman last night who winked at me and she seemed fairly keen on a meet but then she deleted my last message without response which was a bit strange as I had only been respectful to her. At the end of the day no one on this site is entitled to anything so dust yourself off and move on. Don't pin all your hopes on one woman and throw a hissy fit if she ignores you. Keep your options open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Discrimination by any chance ??"

You should phone the relevant authority immediately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just say what guys are thinking .. Sheeeeep"

You don't speak for me.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"Sorry not interested"...

A: it takes a lot more effort than just clicking delete. Delete is one click. Replying is a click then the effort of being nice then another click to press send

B: it usually ends in abuse such as "well fuck you you pathetic fat whore"...

So stop being such a baby and realise that women and couples get more messages than men and some of us don't want to reply to everyone!

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"This type of post is brought up every few weeks.

So - as a bit of market research, for 24 hours only I raised a ladies profile. 35 bisexual and looking a couple or single people. I didn't show a photo and didn't contact anyone at all.

Boom - within 2 hours, 270 messages.

I now see where ladies and couples come from.

Some of the pish messages that I received were incredible. I put an age limit of 35-50.

The messages from younger and older were numerous.

I deleted the profile after 6 hours and I didn't reply to anyone.

I won't complain if a lady deletes my message again.

Very interesting

Very interested indeed."

*interesting*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You actually come across as immature now. And you're projecting your own issues, where you don't actually respect other people, onto them.

Not a good look.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

Sorry not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The site will do it for me

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

UNLOS in 10, 9, 8....

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Cry me a river.

No reply = not interested

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Immature for voicing an opinion .. That's immature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waaahhhhh! crying like a baby OP

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If someone ( man, woman or couple) doesn't reply to a message we send, we take that as a no thanks, not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply = no thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing i will say when chatting to couples you can usually tell who your speaking with. i allways chat to both and respect them but a few times i find the mr hostile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Point made .... End of thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"juat rudeness .. You wouldn't like it if couples and females deleted your messages.. You may go on to say that your not bothered .. But you are"

For goodness sake read the FAQ, then you will see that not answering messeges and deleting them isn't rude at all !!

You are the rude one expecting everyone to reply to you when they clearly aren't interested, if they were interested then they would have replied !

Remember that here on this site its not rude to not answer messeges

I have never messeged someone asking to meet them but if i did and they weren't interested then i wouldn't get mardy i would just get on with life lol

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"Immature for voicing an opinion .. That's immature "

Immature for being juvenile ABOUT your opinion. And throwing your dummy out of the pram because everyone else knows the rules and you don't. Grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Point made .... End of thread "

Which point would that be x

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

A couple of months back, in one evening I received 11 messages from a guy I said no thanks to. In the end I blocked him. He returned with a new profile to message again.

This morning I logged on to yet another message from a guy I have previously said no thanks to.

Again this morning I received 4 winks from a guy I have said no thanks to. Each time I deleted, he sent another.

Every day I receive endless messages who do not fit what I am looking for and I think I pretty much make it perfectly clear on my profile.

Are you seriously telling me I should spend my days replying to these people who cannot or will not take no for a answer????

I think not. I will continue to just 'delete' where necessary. It is not rude, it's the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet women and couples have the entitlement "

No they don't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Point made .... End of thread "

175 posts until the end unless a mod steps in

Cheer up though you've had loads of attention from this which is better than being deleted is it not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Every single guy has understood the point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its supposed to be a fun site, then I think I'd find it a lot less fun spending X amount of time replying to guy I'm not interested in every day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you know you aren't interested ? Pahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing about rejection .. It's about respect "

You will gain no respect from women here if you behave like this lol

Read the FAQ then you will see that no reply = no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If its supposed to be a fun site, then I think I'd find it a lot less fun spending X amount of time replying to guy I'm not interested in every day."

Good to see you back sarah.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

FAQs Horta love them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"UNLOS in 10, 9, 8...."

That was exactly my thinking!

Op, I would say I am reasonably successful on here, others may disagree. But the vast majority of messages I send, whether to couples or single females are deleted with no reply. That's after I have read their profile, match their criteria, verified, experienced etc. It just means that I am not who they are looking for. The sooner you realise that, you can relax and maybe come across that way. Then possibly, just possibly you will have the reply you are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Point made .... End of thread "

No we are entitled to keep commenting on this thread until it fills up or a mod deletes it

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

OP if you are this butthurt and angry after 2 weeks, this may not be the right site for you.

You're seeing this from your own perspective only and completely ignoring everyone telling you the very good reasons why women and couples do this.

You're not speaking for all men. You're speaking from a place of entitled selfishness because you are angry you aren't getting what you want.

You're making yourself look very immature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Point made .... End of thread "

point made but was it heeded?

Still sounds like your convinced your right but know nobody will change their minds so have stomped your feet and folded your arms.

Either way..whatever..I'm out..I don't care enough if you are or aren't having a strop.

Enjoy the site

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hahah

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Seriously, 'reply +quote' is right there on the bottom right. Press that and then type your reply.

If you can't even grasp that simple instruction then clearly this is not the place for you.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If its supposed to be a fun site, then I think I'd find it a lot less fun spending X amount of time replying to guy I'm not interested in every day."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know you aren't interested ? Pahaha"

Because we look at a profile and decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This type of post is brought up every few weeks.

So - as a bit of market research, for 24 hours only I raised a ladies profile. 35 bisexual and looking a couple or single people. I didn't show a photo and didn't contact anyone at all.

Boom - within 2 hours, 270 messages.

I now see where ladies and couples come from.

Some of the pish messages that I received were incredible. I put an age limit of 35-50.

The messages from younger and older were numerous.

I deleted the profile after 6 hours and I didn't reply to anyone.

I won't complain if a lady deletes my message again.

I think this is the definitive answer and ought to be last word on the subject.

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By *outhessex14Man
over a year ago

basildon

Been here years, made some good friends but accepted I'll never meet everyone's requirements so if it's deleted I just move on

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Every single guy has understood the point "

Some guys have actually told you they don't agree with you!

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By *ruegent101Man
over a year ago

down by the river side

"People have three photos private for a reason .. In my case .. My job.. But yet it's ok for couples and females to have no photos public ? Double standards "

I did a thread on this alone let week lol? What the hell do you do for a living ? Are you a secret agent ? Don't get me wrong at least they are private and you can share with who you choose ! But in my opinion that's the worst excuse ever lol !

And in reply to the OP just take it on the chin and move on so what if they don't contact you back mate obviously you weren't what they were looking for ! And probably are flooded with messeges from all sorts of guys so probably just bulk delete no need to get offended

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

People don't .. Straight delete

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By *ERGIE6Man
over a year ago

irvine

There is no entitlement to anyone who messages

Some people only get a certain amount of messages

Woman and couples get more than fair share of messages and to reply to everyone would take hours

If you don't get a reply it means they aren't interested

You move on and don't dwell on it

Let's face it not everyone is going to meet you it's nature of the site

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Have you considered trying Instashag?

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"People don't .. Straight delete "

A lot of people go to the profile, read it or see the pics and decide... No.

Delete.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you considered trying Instashag?"
have you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply to a message is like an unwritten protocol...."you're not for us" and this is for single males/ females and couples, we don't distinguish. It's not personal or rude. If we send a message and don't receive a response , it's an understanding that for whatever reason we're not for them, it doesn't need explaining. When we receive a message we take time to read the profile first and work from there. If you want to chat, there's the chat rooms. None of us are everybody's cup of tea and believe we have the right to respond when we choose. This is swinging , fun not drama

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Incorrect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You really are so funny lol

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"Have you considered trying Instashag? have you ?"

With 128 meets, I doubt they need to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single guy has understood the point "

Have you read this thread?

Not one agrees.

We have a clue how the site works and know it doesn't revolve round us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You really are so funny lol

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aim to please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People don't .. Straight delete "

Yes they do i delete without reading messages and I block delete weekly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

2 single guys commented ??? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well this thread has put us in communication with a nice chap so it's not a total loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People don't .. Straight delete

Yes they do i delete without reading messages and I block delete weekly"
proud of you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well this thread has put us in communication with a nice chap so it's not a total loss. "
I'm a very nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this thread has put us in communication with a nice chap so it's not a total loss. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Btw what's "big" about you....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Btw what's "big" about you....

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my belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has got to be a wind up???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well this thread has put us in communication with a nice chap so it's not a total loss. I'm a very nice guy "

You have demonstrated it.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Have you considered trying Instashag? have you ?"

Don't need to, we're doing just fine here thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People don't .. Straight delete

Yes they do i delete without reading messages and I block delete weekly"

We have done. Sometimes the avatar or lack of will mean we have no interest.

Just stop taking offense Op .. No reply = not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every single guy has understood the point

Some guys have actually told you they don't agree with you!

Explains a lot. He probably messages profiles with preferences explained that exclude him, he chooses to message them anyway then moans when they don't reply!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well this thread has put us in communication with a nice chap so it's not a total loss. I'm a very nice guy

You have demonstrated it. "
voicing an opinion .. Answering your responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op I used to reply to all but dont any more , I have def learned not to . You might think that a polite no thanks to a message works but it doesn't ? What it does do is open up a dialogue that didn't need opened . I am not entitled to any better treatment on this site than you we are all equal . Please stop your whining and bleating it's not becoming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If its supposed to be a fun site, then I think I'd find it a lot less fun spending X amount of time replying to guy I'm not interested in every day.

Good to see you back sarah.

Why thank you! Good to be back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Every single guy has understood the point

Some guys have actually told you they don't agree with you!

Explains a lot. He probably messages profiles with preferences explained that exclude him, he chooses to message them anyway then moans when they don't reply!"
incorrect

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ace this .. Work soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 08/03/16 15:04:37]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If its supposed to be a fun site, then I think I'd find it a lot less fun spending X amount of time replying to guy I'm not interested in every day.

Good to see you back sarah.

Why thank you! Good to be back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ace this .. Work soon "

Bye than

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you know you aren't interested ? Pahaha

Because I don't like their pictures

Because they can't accommodate

Because they have things on their profile that are specific turn offs of mine

Because they've met people I don't overlap with

Because they've got shit tattoos

Because they've got too many dick pics

Because they're too skinny

Because they're too fat

Because they're too short

Because they're too tall

Because one thing I am entitled to is to be as picky as I fucking we choose to be

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you must be lovely to spend time with xx

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Every single guy has understood the point

Some guys have actually told you they don't agree with you!

Explains a lot. He probably messages profiles with preferences explained that exclude him, he chooses to message them anyway then moans when they don't reply!"

Probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know you aren't interested ? Pahaha"

Because I don't like their pictures

Because they can't accommodate

Because they have things on their profile that are specific turn offs of mine

Because they've met people I don't overlap with

Because they've got shit tattoos

Because they've got too many dick pics

Because they're too skinny

Because they're too fat

Because they're too short

Because they're too tall

Because one thing I am entitled to is to be as picky as I fucking well choose to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" you must be lovely to spend time with xx"

Every one of my meets would confirm that bbz. Don't be bitter, just get better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site only works for a few. Being single I now get is a problem but there seems to be a lot of women, and couples looking for single men but are just far too picky. A lot of books get judged by their cover here for no reason at all.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Still, I expect lots of people have now blocked the OP, thus saving him from having to get irate when he messages and gets no reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" you must be lovely to spend time with xx

Every one of my meets would confirm that bbz. Don't be bitter, just get better "
one seems up ones bottom

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This site only works for a few. Being single I now get is a problem but there seems to be a lot of women, and couples looking for single men but are just far too picky. A lot of books get judged by their cover here for no reason at all. "
thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Still, I expect lots of people have now blocked the OP, thus saving him from having to get irate when he messages and gets no reply.

"
correct

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Uh no, they're declined because the potential reader doesn't like the cover, not for "no reason". Obviously there is a reason.

For a NSA read, it's usually fairly important that the cover is appealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Still, I expect lots of people have now blocked the OP, thus saving him from having to get irate when he messages and gets no reply.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

" you must be lovely to spend time with xx

Every one of my meets would confirm that bbz. Don't be bitter, just get better one seems up ones bottom "

And you seem really angry and bitter. Getting nasty when you aren't getting your own way is not an attractive trait.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They get millions of emails aday and it is impossible to send no to all the men, they would need to be online all day lol.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Are you implying, everyone should just meet everyone and not pick n choose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To a degree I sympathise with you OP. You've only been on a short while and have discovered that the site perhaps hasn't met your initial expectations, crashing back down to reality in any situation can be unpleasant.

However, now that you have realised that not every message will illicit a response you can retune your approach and expectations accordingly and make the site work better for you. It certainly took me a good few weeks to get my head round it and not be totally freaked out by the whole thing.

Long and short of it is that people will make a snap yes/no judgement based on pics, profile wording and message content without engaging in back and forth messages. And absolutely, no reply means no thank you.

If you find this stark fact angers you I'd suggest either taking a break from Fab or trying another avenue as it's not going to change.

Personally, I get exactly what I want from Fab, but it's taken time and effort to find my path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" you must be lovely to spend time with xx

Every one of my meets would confirm that bbz. Don't be bitter, just get better one seems up ones bottom "

So far from it actually, maybe you shouldn't rush to judge people if that's what you're so annoyed by in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" you must be lovely to spend time with xx

Every one of my meets would confirm that bbz. Don't be bitter, just get better one seems up ones bottom

And you seem really angry and bitter. Getting nasty when you aren't getting your own way is not an attractive trait."
angry ? I'm the calmness person going .. Nothing like a good debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, if you bothered to read the FAQs, or use the forum search box, you would find that the answers are right there.

Every single day there are single blokes bemoaning the fact that some people don't reply to their messages. The FAQs clearly state that no one is owed a reply, and to take it as a no.

I'm so tired of these constant threads that wouldn't even be clogging up the forums if people would just use the search box. It's a site tool, that's what it's there for!

Not being rude, merely exasperated at the amount of people who don't use the tools provided.

This thread is found somewhere in the Bible...under moan moan moan I don't get!

Sorry OP but if the single guys would even bother to care and read profiles 90% of messages would never be written and therefore the rate of replies would increase.

To your moaning of pictures.. I point out that ours were stolen and put on a different website - from a single. So happy now ??

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole

"This type of post is brought up every few weeks.

So - as a bit of market research, for 24 hours only I raised a ladies profile. 35 bisexual and looking a couple or single people. I didn't show a photo and didn't contact anyone at all.

Boom - within 2 hours, 270 messages.

I now see where ladies and couples come from.

Some of the pish messages that I received were incredible. I put an age limit of 35-50.

The messages from younger and older were numerous.

I deleted the profile after 6 hours and I didn't reply to anyone.

I won't complain if a lady deletes my message again.

I too did this a couple of weeks ago, it was up for about one hour and Flossy received Fifty messages from people outside the age range I set

So know complaints from Me if someone deletes' my message

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Are you implying, everyone should just meet everyone and not pick n choose?"

Of course we should. We're on a sex site. We should meet anyone who wants sex. How dare we want there to be a physical attraction? That's, like, so unfaaaaaiiiiirrrr.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To a degree I sympathise with you OP. You've only been on a short while and have discovered that the site perhaps hasn't met your initial expectations, crashing back down to reality in any situation can be unpleasant.

If you find this stark fact angers you I'd suggest either taking a break from Fab or trying another avenue as it's not going to change.

Personally, I get exactly what I want from Fab, but it's taken time and effort to find my path. "
I was on for 5 years ... New profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This has got to be a wind up???

Definitely. I have never quite 'got' trolling, bit it seems to amuse some, to each their own I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OPs green arrow is intresting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This has got to be a wind up???

Definitely. I have never quite 'got' trolling, bit it seems to amuse some, to each their own I suppose."
oh yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OPs green arrow is intresting

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5 meets.. Some people like an opinionated guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about judging a book for its looks cock and humour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been here TWO WEEKS! you will work it out eventually, either that or go UNLOS ... until then as soon as you send a message, delete it yourself, you will never know if it's been read or deleted that way.

Try being a little more polite, respect EVERYONE, you may just get it in time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You actually sound like just the man to start questioning why it's a no thanks.. And then revert to abuse......

No reply = no thank you

Respect.. Respect the site and go read the rules and advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about judging a book for its looks cock and humour? "
answer for everything .. I like you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You actually sound like just the man to start questioning why it's a no thanks.. And then revert to abuse......

No reply = no thank you

Respect.. Respect the site and go read the rules and advice"
abuse ?? Not sent one offensive or rude statement

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

We recently opened up our profile for singles too; We put on a fairly clear description on our (admittedly too long for the average reader) profile, asking people to contact if they matched what we're looking for and to include appropriate pictures, which they sometimes don't.

We have two copy+paste messages to save a lot of time, one which surmises what we're looking for (and only interested if they include pics), and another thanking for their message and politely declining.

Copying and pasting either of these takes moments, after which we delete the message.

Of course replying to those which are actually interesting takes longer and a more personal reply! Many of those which replied back to our first response with requested pics have actually been rather lovely, so as much as it might be easier to just delete rather than reply, it's been worth the marginal effort.

We haven't had a single moaning 'why' in response to our declination, in fact rather a number of nice "thanks for letting me know!" kind of responses.

Perhaps our profile attracts a certain kind of single more than others, but our experience doing this has been quite positive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about judging a book for its looks cock and humour? answer for everything .. I like you xx"

Delete

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about judging a book for its looks cock and humour? answer for everything .. I like you xx

Delete

"
fancy a social ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We recently opened up our profile for singles too; We put on a fairly clear description on our (admittedly too long for the average reader) profile, asking people to contact if they matched what we're looking for and to include appropriate pictures, which they sometimes don't.

Copying and pasting either of these takes moments, after which we delete the message.

We haven't had a single moaning 'why' in response to our declination, in fact rather a number of nice "thanks for letting me know!" kind of responses.

Perhaps our profile attracts a certain kind of single more than others, but our experience doing this has been quite positive!"
your profile mainly attracts a guy with a penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You actually sound like just the man to start questioning why it's a no thanks.. And then revert to abuse......

No reply = no thank you

Respect.. Respect the site and go read the rules and advice"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You actually sound like just the man to start questioning why it's a no thanks.. And then revert to abuse......

No reply = no thank you

Respect.. Respect the site and go read the rules and advice abuse ?? Not sent one offensive or rude statement "

I didn't say that

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By *anklerMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

" you must be lovely to spend time with xx

Every one of my meets would confirm that bbz. Don't be bitter, just get better one seems up ones bottom

So far from it actually, maybe you shouldn't rush to judge people if that's what you're so annoyed by in the first place?"

Very true Sarah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the ladies of fab getting rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I love the ladies of fab getting rude

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oh yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about judging a book for its looks cock and humour? answer for everything .. I like you xx

Delete

fancy a social ? "

No.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about judging a book for its looks cock and humour? answer for everything .. I like you xx

Delete

fancy a social ?

No. "
thanks for replying

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By *anklerMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

Learn to live with it.

From talking to women and couples here I know how overwhelming their inboxes can be.

When they are getting tons of messages within minutes of logging in and tons more while they are sifting messages, is it any wonder that they just delete?

Especially when the bulk of them are from types they are not looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman were to reply and say "no thanks" would it really make you feel better about yourself than if she deleted your message and there was no correspondence. Both end with the same result?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about judging a book for its looks cock and humour? answer for everything .. I like you xx

Delete

fancy a social ?

No. thanks for replying "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a woman were to reply and say "no thanks" would it really make you feel better about yourself than if she deleted your message and there was no correspondence. Both end with the same result?

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yes

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

On a previous thread on this subject someone compared it to junk mail. If someone gets messages they are not interested in, as they don't meet their requirements, it's like getting a load of junk mail in the post. OP do you write a little message to inform the sender's of junk mail at home that you do not require double glazing or solar panels? I guess you bin them. Not respectful, or common sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I replied to a message this morning ,saying politely he wasn't my type only to get one back saying, actually you're not my type! !!....that ended up with a block. ...a no reply should really tell you all you need to know! !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many messeges does it get to before it gets stopped ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to this thread I have a meet .. The true purpose of this thread .. Thanks for your posts and entertaining me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yay the thread can now and, OP I do suggest you read the FAQ in full, it explains everything there

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