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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have been on the site a year now and although we have made lots of friends who are couples but still cant seem to find a genuine single female to get to know,we go to different clubs but have never seen any single females in the clubs either,always seems to be timewasters or fake profiles on the site, trying to plan a ffm naughty night and getting nowhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the most difficult meet to set up I had a female friend who tried for 6/7 months to get a meet with a couple/woman she left in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im having the same problem

Cant get 1 fem never mind 2

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

hi they are around just keep looking, think on trying a club or social meet..connie x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's the most difficult meet to set up I had a female friend who tried for 6/7 months to get a meet with a couple/woman she left in the end "

So many profiles saying looking for couples but either look REALLY dodgy or just doesn't come off...just a meet i'd really like! Mrs x

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover


"Im having the same problem

Cant get 1 fem never mind 2 "

maybe something to do with your profile being hidden ?? connie x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hi they are around just keep looking, think on trying a club or social meet..connie x "

Thanks, oh i will im not giving up on this one!! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My opinion too many couples who want to meet a female, don't have any or hardly any male pics on there profile .should be equal or couple together .If I was part of a couple that's what I'd do .But everyones different .

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover

or try a party meet..in three years on here only meet two single woman who where looking for a ffm, but at parties most women are more open to a ffm or even a fff ..connie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are around. We have had numerous experiences with 1 lovely lady, however at the moment, she isn't meeting. We have another set up. However, we have been participating in the lifestyle for almost 3 years and those are the only 2 single women we have met in that capacity. They are a rarity, but it is possible to find.

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By *aria123999Woman
over a year ago

conwy

to far away for me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My opinion too many couples who want to meet a female, don't have any or hardly any male pics on there profile .should be equal or couple together .If I was part of a couple that's what I'd do .But everyones different ."

Well when the male has very distinctive tattoos and the couple are in a professions where discretion is a must, its not always possible, as you say everyone is different...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the most difficult meet to set up I had a female friend who tried for 6/7 months to get a meet with a couple/woman she left in the end

So many profiles saying looking for couples but either look REALLY dodgy or just doesn't come off...just a meet i'd really like! Mrs x"
I think looking at it from a very positive stance helps make that prospective woman feel comfortable maybe go out of your way a little to help her feel comfortable ,let the woman of the couple lead the messaging and get a phone call in early to establish the two women as a connection

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"or try a party meet..in three years on here only meet two single woman who where looking for a ffm, but at parties most women are more open to a ffm or even a fff ..connie x"

Thanks connie, may try a party instead only used clubs, been invited to a couple of parties but not been able to go x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have been on the site a year now and although we have made lots of friends who are couples but still cant seem to find a genuine single female to get to know,we go to different clubs but have never seen any single females in the clubs either,always seems to be timewasters or fake profiles on the site, trying to plan a ffm naughty night and getting nowhere "

Seriously??? Which clubs are you going to in North West that have no single fems playing with couples? I go. Alot of my friends do. It seems that it's easier to blame external factors. No pics of the male, is he not playing then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My opinion too many couples who want to meet a female, don't have any or hardly any male pics on there profile .should be equal or couple together .If I was part of a couple that's what I'd do .But everyones different .

Well when the male has very distinctive tattoos and the couple are in a professions where discretion is a must, its not always possible, as you say everyone is different...x"

Could show body parts that Arnt covered in tattoos as long as together ,blur them out .Alot are are in professions and are discreet and still show pics together .Shouldn't moan about it your obviously doing something wrong if can't get ffm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single looking for couples. I find the timings of mtg difficult. So not easy for us too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, the reason I don't meet couples is because often the male wants it more than the female, the female wants to put on a show for the male and also for a full on 3some ffm finding a couple in which the single female is attracted to both parties is extremely hard to do so.

I wouldn't play with a couple who I didnt find I'm both attracted to, and as someone above said, having pics of both people on the profile is essential to that to many single ladies.

A lot of couples seek single ladies to play with, single ladies are the smallest group on here, especially bi single ladies who meet couples but there are some around, but you do have to be patient and understanding about it.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover


"Thanks connie, may try a party instead only used clubs, been invited to a couple of parties but not been able to go x"

pop over to our next one on the 18 june ..will be fun,,connie x

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"My opinion too many couples who want to meet a female, don't have any or hardly any male pics on there profile .should be equal or couple together .If I was part of a couple that's what I'd do .But everyones different .

Well when the male has very distinctive tattoos and the couple are in a professions where discretion is a must, its not always possible, as you say everyone is different...x"

As a single female, I would agree with this.. I would want to see both in a couple

There are single women in clubs, I've played with couples a few times after going to clubs alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the male going to be taking part in play?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have been on the site a year now and although we have made lots of friends who are couples but still cant seem to find a genuine single female to get to know,we go to different clubs but have never seen any single females in the clubs either,always seems to be timewasters or fake profiles on the site, trying to plan a ffm naughty night and getting nowhere

Seriously??? Which clubs are you going to in North West that have no single fems playing with couples? I go. Alot of my friends do. It seems that it's easier to blame external factors. No pics of the male, is he not playing then?"

We send pics privately of us both and on our friends only pics, as I already said there is a reason there are no public pics of my husband, not "Blaming external factors" thats just our experience we arent out every weekend in clubs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had the good fortune to meet many a single lady both privately and many times at clubs x

We go to many socials and tend to have met people there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the male going to be taking part in play? "

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That should of been.. Is.. Nit if...

Can you see his tattoos through clothes?.. They on every part of his body?..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me, the reason I don't meet couples is because often the male wants it more than the female, the female wants to put on a show for the male and also for a full on 3some ffm finding a couple in which the single female is attracted to both parties is extremely hard to do so.

I wouldn't play with a couple who I didnt find I'm both attracted to, and as someone above said, having pics of both people on the profile is essential to that to many single ladies.

A lot of couples seek single ladies to play with, single ladies are the smallest group on here, especially bi single ladies who meet couples but there are some around, but you do have to be patient and understanding about it."

Yes completley xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no problem at all finding single bi females who want to meet us .

But we aren't specifically looking for them . They approach us .

Not once have we made the first move , and in just over a year we have had the pleasure of ffm 12 times ..... And fffm twice .

We don't go to clubs , and rarely go to parties .

So our advice would be to stop looking so hard and let the single bi females come to you

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By *ause and EffectCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


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So many profiles saying looking for couples but either look REALLY dodgy or just doesn't come off...just a meet i'd really like! Mrs x"

If it's something you're looking for Mrs OP - why don't you look for a couple near you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the male going to be taking part in play? "

Yes if everyone was comfortable with that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If the male going to be taking part in play?

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That should of been.. Is.. Nit if...

Can you see his tattoos through clothes?.. They on every part of his body?.."

Yes they are on every part of his body, sleeves, neck, hands, full back and legs. Like i said thats our choice on our profile/pics etc, its not something we will be changing as we always swap pics on first chat anyway x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have no problem at all finding single bi females who want to meet us .

But we aren't specifically looking for them . They approach us .

Not once have we made the first move , and in just over a year we have had the pleasure of ffm 12 times ..... And fffm twice .

We don't go to clubs , and rarely go to parties .

So our advice would be to stop looking so hard and let the single bi females come to you "

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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So many profiles saying looking for couples but either look REALLY dodgy or just doesn't come off...just a meet i'd really like! Mrs x

If it's something you're looking for Mrs OP - why don't you look for a couple near you? "

The similiar couples to ourselves that we chat to only play together.. im sure it will happen at some point in time! Xx

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

I find clubs the best place to meet, I play as a single female and it's not as easy as people think to get a meet where everyone gets on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the male going to be taking part in play?

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That should of been.. Is.. Nit if...

Can you see his tattoos through clothes?.. They on every part of his body?..

Yes they are on every part of his body, sleeves, neck, hands, full back and legs. Like i said thats our choice on our profile/pics etc, its not something we will be changing as we always swap pics on first chat anyway x"

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OK.. But you may find that many bi females.. Myself included.. Will want to see both on the profile before they engage in any chat..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find it strange when people say that they cant find a single bi female, they're everywhere! Of the meets that I've had only 2 have been with a straight female!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have struggled to get a meet over the last 6 years! absolutly zero, nadda, nothing! honestly i did better when i was a single man ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women who are bi love cake or malt loaf with butter mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very hard finding couples who are genuine and looking for single women. But they are out there. I tend to meet them in clubs to be honest and then stay in touch and meet one to one later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are struggling for single guys, yet gotta ffm within a month, we were lucky obviously

And yes it's because we have certain criteria for a mmf we know it should be easier, but funny how many guys have an excuse for the days we want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have struggled to get a meet over the last 6 years! absolutly zero, nadda, nothing! honestly i did better when i was a single man ffs"

Dump her if she's stopping you getting laid.

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton


"My opinion too many couples who want to meet a female, don't have any or hardly any male pics on there profile .should be equal or couple together .If I was part of a couple that's what I'd do .But everyones different ."

We have pics of us together and separately on our profile. We haven't met anyone yet, people look and that's all

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover


"We have pics of us together and separately on our profile. We haven't met anyone yet, people look and that's all "

OP just an idea, how about adding 5 years to your age limits ? connie x

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By *nfamyMan
over a year ago

Goole


"We have been on the site a year now and although we have made lots of friends who are couples but still cant seem to find a genuine single female to get to know,we go to different clubs but have never seen any single females in the clubs either,always seems to be timewasters or fake profiles on the site, trying to plan a ffm naughty night and getting nowhere "

I'm two short of a threesome

I can't for the life of me think why

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

We have met and played with quite a few single ladies in various clubs. They are definitely out there. Good to be friendly and chatty with a wide variety of people in clubs, as they then might introduce you to others who may be more your type. Don't just ignore others in clubs waiting for a single lady to show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im having the same problem

Cant get 1 fem never mind 2 "

I'll second this one!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the long members list lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always wanted to try mff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a FFM but wouldn't with a couple. It's something I explored when I was first on the site but just couldn't get the dynamic right with any couples, it didn't feel right.

Are you going to clubs on the right nights? E.g. if you go on couples type nights there are likely to be fewer single women there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we have struggled to get a meet over the last 6 years! absolutly zero, nadda, nothing! honestly i did better when i was a single man ffs

Dump her if she's stopping you getting laid. "
dump my wife? no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hit the jackpot of finding a single female on our last visit to infusion......she really wanted a bi experience so Sarah was willing to oblige.

An ffm suits us as we don't swap... Just FF so this was the perfect setup for us.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if a wife swap type thing would work example... a couple have met before as a foursome... then next week the wife meets the other couple alone then following week the other lady meets the other couple alone.

At least that way in theory everyone already knows everyone ect..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the male going to be taking part in play?

..

That should of been.. Is.. Nit if...

Can you see his tattoos through clothes?.. They on every part of his body?..

Yes they are on every part of his body, sleeves, neck, hands, full back and legs. Like i said thats our choice on our profile/pics etc, its not something we will be changing as we always swap pics on first chat anyway x

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OK.. But you may find that many bi females.. Myself included.. Will want to see both on the profile before they engage in any chat.. "

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"It's the most difficult meet to set up I had a female friend who tried for 6/7 months to get a meet with a couple/woman she left in the end

So many profiles saying looking for couples but either look REALLY dodgy or just doesn't come off...just a meet i'd really like! Mrs x"

We find they normally tell us after 2 messages they have an fb that they meet with. Don't understand why they don't make a couples profile lol.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the most difficult meet to set up I had a female friend who tried for 6/7 months to get a meet with a couple/woman she left in the end

So many profiles saying looking for couples but either look REALLY dodgy or just doesn't come off...just a meet i'd really like! Mrs x

We find they normally tell us after 2 messages they have an fb that they meet with. Don't understand why they don't make a couples profile lol.

B"

We have done exactly that

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"It's the most difficult meet to set up I had a female friend who tried for 6/7 months to get a meet with a couple/woman she left in the end

So many profiles saying looking for couples but either look REALLY dodgy or just doesn't come off...just a meet i'd really like! Mrs x

We find they normally tell us after 2 messages they have an fb that they meet with. Don't understand why they don't make a couples profile lol.

B

We have done exactly that "

It's appreciated, at least then things are more honest. We understand people have not long got together and haven't had chance to change the page yet, but sometimes it feels like they use the single bi-fem page as bait which feels a little dishonest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the most difficult meet to set up I had a female friend who tried for 6/7 months to get a meet with a couple/woman she left in the end

So many profiles saying looking for couples but either look REALLY dodgy or just doesn't come off...just a meet i'd really like! Mrs x

We find they normally tell us after 2 messages they have an fb that they meet with. Don't understand why they don't make a couples profile lol.

B

We have done exactly that

It's appreciated, at least then things are more honest. We understand people have not long got together and haven't had chance to change the page yet, but sometimes it feels like they use the single bi-fem page as bait which feels a little dishonest."

See I have a single page because I like meeting alone. Bu I find sex with couples better when one of my partners is there too so I direct them to our couples page.

It's not dishonest - it's just about preferring different situations with different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never experienced meeting a couple on my own. But I want to, but sometimes in a couple they don't always want the same and it can be one sided. I would love to find a couple that want the same thing and enjoy sharing a woman together. When I meet a couple I want fun with them both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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We find they normally tell us after 2 messages they have an fb that they meet with. Don't understand why they don't make a couples profile lol.

B

We have done exactly that

It's appreciated, at least then things are more honest. We understand people have not long got together and haven't had chance to change the page yet, but sometimes it feels like they use the single bi-fem page as bait which feels a little dishonest."

We had this exact thing recently she contacted us asking if we fancied meeting her, both were up for it but she didn't do full swap (fine) sent her a face photo didn't fancy me (m, fine) still happy to play 1on1 fine. Then we'd be meeting at her fwb's house (hmmm) then it was we'll do 1on1 when finished he'll play with Lou and I cannot touch. Soon as I said I don't think so the whole thing was cancelled by her as she'd found someone better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's down to how you get along and if you fancy each other and it has to work 3 ways and if you all click it's great on all aspects

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton


"We have pics of us together and separately on our profile. We haven't met anyone yet, people look and that's all

OP just an idea, how about adding 5 years to your age limits ? connie x "

Distance lol

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