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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Bearing in mind this is a Swingers site not a sex site, I've been surprised how many people don't like sharing.

I've had guys who are happy to meet and play, but then start trying to put constraints on me - say I don't want you to meet anyone else. Or woe betide you suddenly have a new veri and didn't tell them all about it beforehand.

I get it - if you're in a relationship that you should tell all- but if you're single and enjoy meeting men, women and couples. Shouldn't you be free to meet who you want, when you want - without any recourse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as everyone is happy and enjoying it share away x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm crap at sharing anything

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Ilove getting shared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what's being shared, I can be a little territorial when it comes to percentage duvet coverage and woe betied anyone expecting me to share Jaffa Cakes

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Bearing in mind this is a Swingers site not a sex site, I've been surprised how many people don't like sharing.

I've had guys who are happy to meet and play, but then start trying to put constraints on me - say I don't want you to meet anyone else. Or woe betide you suddenly have a new veri and didn't tell them all about it beforehand.

I get it - if you're in a relationship that you should tell all- but if you're single and enjoy meeting men, women and couples. Shouldn't you be free to meet who you want, when you want - without any recourse? "

Of course you're free....I guess they are showing their insecurities and maybe are actually looking for a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea I don't share food well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been ok for me on here in that sense, no guys trying to stop me fucking other guys, in fact most of my regulars often want to know what i've been up to (with all the dirty details).

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Insecure people need to be avoided.....you are your own person .....dont let others tell you what you can and carnt do

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"It's been ok for me on here in that sense, no guys trying to stop me fucking other guys, in fact most of my regulars often want to know what i've been up to (with all the dirty details). "

Same here, I have been surprised about guys being into sharing me - love it tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never share my jaffa cakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even tell my established and long-term partners if I'm meeting someone. If a new casual partner expected to know if I was meeting someone... they would quickly find themselves not meeting me any longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i honestly dont care

its very rare i stay in contact with people after we have met, i couldn't care less who they meet after me

most of my meets are one offs i prefer it that way its just simpler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't and don't meet often. Those people i meet I get to know really well and I consider them good friends.

1) I wouldn't expect them to wait for me.

2) As friends, I want them to have the best times with the sexiest fellas they can find.

3) and if they pick up some new tricks to show me, even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of people on here that don't like sharing! Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm owned so took a while getting used to veris popping up from master and not being allowed meets with men only women myself. But I suppose sharing is caring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of females that won't allow their other half's to touch another fem But it's alright if they have sex with other guys Come across this few times in messages. Think its more control issues than some sharing

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"Bearing in mind this is a Swingers site not a sex site, I've been surprised how many people don't like sharing.

I've had guys who are happy to meet and play, but then start trying to put constraints on me - say I don't want you to meet anyone else. Or woe betide you suddenly have a new veri and didn't tell them all about it beforehand.

I get it - if you're in a relationship that you should tell all- but if you're single and enjoy meeting men, women and couples. Shouldn't you be free to meet who you want, when you want - without any recourse? "

I find that ridiculous. One sex meet just that - a sex meet. A couple of sex meets with the same person is just that - a couple of sex meets and NOT a relationship. I can't fathom why someone would think of putting constraints on a sex partner.

That said, here's a personal story. A couple of years ago I met a bloke through work (pharmaceutical rep). He was pretty hot, I flirted with him and invited him to mine for a drink with a wink. Good sex. Then we had a second meet and a week after that I started getting messages of the "thinking of you" sort

Then some days later he asked me to go with him to see something. He wouldn't tell me until we got to a nice house. He took me to show a house he was buying. FFS !! I had to be rude and clear the air that we were just having sexy fun and it didn't go so well but I'm glad I nipped that one in the bud. But I bet constraints would have followed had I not. Moral of the story: some blokes (and I suspect women too) get "serious" inappropriately quickly

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own


"Bearing in mind this is a Swingers site not a sex site, I've been surprised how many people don't like sharing.

I've had guys who are happy to meet and play, but then start trying to put constraints on me - say I don't want you to meet anyone else. Or woe betide you suddenly have a new veri and didn't tell them all about it beforehand.

I get it - if you're in a relationship that you should tell all- but if you're single and enjoy meeting men, women and couples. Shouldn't you be free to meet who you want, when you want - without any recourse? "

You should be yes. However it's not always that simple sadly.

I'd have no issue meeting and then that other person meeting others. It's the nature of the site.

That said feelings of jealousy and such like are at times inevitable. It's how those are handled that matters most I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't and don't meet often. Those people i meet I get to know really well and I consider them good friends.

1) I wouldn't expect them to wait for me.

2) As friends, I want them to have the best times with the sexiest fellas they can find.

3) and if they pick up some new tricks to show me, even better "

I'm much the same, the amount of time it can take to get all my ducks in a row means that I could be in contact with a potential meet for months. I always like hearing about their meets (details not included) but I have no claim to their time nor affections, they're friends nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the first pieces of advice we were given is don't meet a single man more than twice as the couple found most started getting possessive after that and it wasn't worth the hassle

We've not met any single men yet so we don't know if this is true but seems like sound advice

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

Chocolate,I don't share Chocolate

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would actively encourage others to fuck other guys couples

But mini spring rolls I am not sharing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I always share my haribos, who want some cola bottles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I always share my haribos, who want some cola bottles?

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead

I was bought up very well, so am very good at sharing.

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By *weeteamCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Loved to watch my wife sharing her body .Real turn on.And Zoe loved sharing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sharing my wife xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite happy sharing if we weren't we wouldn't be one here lol would be no point surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love sharing lily, sharing is caring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I grudgingly share Jaffa Cakes, but I try to eat them at least one tube at a time to minimise the risk of someone else spotting them and getting in on the action.

Happy for people to meet my boyfriend though. In fact I think he's off to meet a couple tonight! :P

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm quite good at sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the first pieces of advice we were given is don't meet a single man more than twice as the couple found most started getting possessive after that and it wasn't worth the hassle

We've not met any single men yet so we don't know if this is true but seems like sound advice "

Some can get like that, they don't last very long as a regular guy. Most of the single guys I've met more than once completely understand the boundaries and it hasn't been a problem. I Guess this isn't gender specific though.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like it when people I have sex with have sex with other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very good a sharing ... so good in fact I share my wife with suitable guys

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Bearing in mind this is a Swingers site not a sex site, I've been surprised how many people don't like sharing.

I've had guys who are happy to meet and play, but then start trying to put constraints on me - say I don't want you to meet anyone else. Or woe betide you suddenly have a new veri and didn't tell them all about it beforehand.

I get it - if you're in a relationship that you should tell all- but if you're single and enjoy meeting men, women and couples. Shouldn't you be free to meet who you want, when you want - without any recourse?

I find that ridiculous. One sex meet just that - a sex meet. A couple of sex meets with the same person is just that - a couple of sex meets and NOT a relationship. I can't fathom why someone would think of putting constraints on a sex partner.

That said, here's a personal story. A couple of years ago I met a bloke through work (pharmaceutical rep). He was pretty hot, I flirted with him and invited him to mine for a drink with a wink. Good sex. Then we had a second meet and a week after that I started getting messages of the "thinking of you" sort

Then some days later he asked me to go with him to see something. He wouldn't tell me until we got to a nice house. He took me to show a house he was buying. FFS !! I had to be rude and clear the air that we were just having sexy fun and it didn't go so well but I'm glad I nipped that one in the bud. But I bet constraints would have followed had I not. Moral of the story: some blokes (and I suspect women too) get "serious" inappropriately quickly "

A lot of people have difficulty clearly distinguishing between the physical and emotional and invariably throw them in the same bag. It happens quite frequently, which is why communication should be crystal clear. If it's to be purely physical, that's how it should remain; no ifs ands or buts. If he, or she, can't cope with that, then tough. We shouldn't compromise what we want (in this regard), to accommodate someone else's expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sharing is caring....unless you try to take a crispy duck pancake then the caring soon drains from my body.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't and don't meet often. Those people i meet I get to know really well and I consider them good friends.

1) I wouldn't expect them to wait for me.

2) As friends, I want them to have the best times with the sexiest fellas they can find.

3) and if they pick up some new tricks to show me, even better "

And that makes perfect sense to me and is how I see it should work.

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France


"I don't even tell my established and long-term partners if I'm meeting someone. If a new casual partner expected to know if I was meeting someone... they would quickly find themselves not meeting me any longer."

Same: I have some " long term"/ semipermanent relationships / partners: who have their own set of relationships.

No one is interested in what anyone else is doing ( except if we need to tell each other if we are " unavailable". - which could be for any number of reasons ; not just sexual)

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By *aynelionWoman
over a year ago

Fakenham


"Depends what's being shared, I can be a little territorial when it comes to percentage duvet coverage and woe betied anyone expecting me to share Jaffa Cakes "

I never share my jaffa cake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the reverse to the OP...as in women I've met on here can throw a wobbler if I then have another meet/verification.

Happened so often on my previous profile...found it much more so with younger women....hence my age limit now being 25!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Personally I do not think that putting constraints on play partners as to who else they can see has any part to play in swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fantasy is to share Mrs, she has shared me. We also wanna couple to share with at same time lol

Just we awkward soda when we can meet

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Am I a good sharer? Well as someone who is polyamorous as well as enjoying casual sex, yes I share well.

But I've been involved in conversations where X won't allow their partner to play with Y for no reason other than jealousy.

From occasional play partners through to my wife, I never place restrictions on who they can play with unless I feel someone is being hurt/damaged by the situation. And then it would be a conversation about the situation (it's happened just once).

I'm happy to tell regular play partners, my wife and my girlfriend when I am seeing someone if they want to know...but none of them would dream of forbidding me.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I shag and go.....

I have no further interest in who they shag or who they shagged before me.

Hopefully we both had fun and goodbye

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I am, I don't get jealous or anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a sharer. I like hearing about my men's other women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who on earth would share Jaffa cakes?! I know there's some fairly depraved stuff on here, but really, there's a limit surely?!!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Who on earth would share Jaffa cakes?! I know there's some fairly depraved stuff on here, but really, there's a limit surely?!!!"

I wouldn't share Jaffa cakes, I'd give them all away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who on earth would share Jaffa cakes?! I know there's some fairly depraved stuff on here, but really, there's a limit surely?!!!

I wouldn't share Jaffa cakes, I'd give them all away "

You may be the perfect woman!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was single there were some guys i met who didn't want me to meet others, to just meet them however they thought it was ok for them to meet others !

I just stopped seeing them, that didn't go down to well either but they soon got the messege

Until i met they guy who is now my hubby there wasn't any other guy that could keep up with me anyway lol.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We love sharing.... especially enjoy groups of three or four couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not got a problem with sharing.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I am another who enjoys it when my wife or girlfriend tells me about what they get up to with others.

I have come across situations in clubs where I have heard "if you play with x, y won't see you" and to be honest I find it tedious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am another who enjoys it when my wife or girlfriend tells me about what they get up to with others.

I have come across situations in clubs where I have heard "if you play with x, y won't see you" and to be honest I find it tedious. "

Lots of people do that though. I won't play with X if they have played with Y. I don't think that's tedious, is can be for any number of reasons completely unrelated to jealousy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The non sharing / jealousy side isn't gender specific, that's for sure.

If you're not into 'sharing' and get hung up on the person/s you like meeting others / displaying veri's etc, then this really ain't the place for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do sharing very well!

I admit I'm insecure and can be jealous..that's just me!

Maybe I'm in the wrong place..But I'm having fun finding out!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Don't play with x because they have STIs" is perhaps sound advice but what I hear is more to do with personal gripes. "If you play with y then I won't play with you because y once pissed me off". I"d rather find out first hand if y is an arse. Or "don't play with z as they are my playmate"

There are people in the scene who have pissed me off at times nut I would never forbid my partners to play with them.

I agree that if you know you get jealous of playmates then this is not the place for you.

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