FabSwingers.com forum: Couple meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're finding it difficult to find a couple where we fancy both the male and female and I, Mrs Time wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't fancy, although we are aware this wouldn't bother some people. We've chatted to some sexy couples but they either can't meet in the day or they live too far away. Dilemma central. Am I being too fussy and should I just put a bag over my head and hope for the best

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I only meet with attraction and personality that matches, hence I have now had a dry spell for nearly 6 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult, but not impossible

Never compromise yourselves

Take time

It's not a race

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time, don't drop your standards! Anticipation and all that

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

We found it difficult to find 4 people who are happy with each other, so much so that we mainly play separately now.

But never say never.

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

Definitely don't meet someone you're not really attracted to. How are you going to truly enjoy it if the attraction isn't there?

We've had times when both myself and Mr T haven't been attracted to one half of a couple, we wouldn't dream of meeting in those circumstances.

Keep looking, I'm sure you'll find a couple where the attraction is there for both of you soon.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"It's difficult, but not impossible

Never compromise yourselves

Take time

It's not a race "

100% this

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's difficult, but not impossible

Never compromise yourselves

Take time

It's not a race "

Can't say any more than this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens. Keep trying its part of the fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only meet with attraction and personality that matches, hence I have now had a dry spell for nearly 6 months

Oh dear, I don't know how you cope but I'm with you there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm like that when I've been to a club with a friend. He never has an issue finding attractive women, whilst I spend most of the night saying...hmmmm, no, not really, is there anyone else.

He teases me that I'm fussy but I don't care, I'm not having sex with someone I don't find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm like that when I've been to a club with a friend. He never has an issue finding attractive women, whilst I spend most of the night saying...hmmmm, no, not really, is there anyone else.

He teases me that I'm fussy but I don't care, I'm not having sex with someone I don't find attractive."

I really don't know how people can do it and I certainly wouldn't be able to cum with someone I didn't fancy. Definitely has to be an attraction. Nice pics by the way x

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By *ittenbutnotshyCouple
over a year ago

North Manchester

"We're finding it difficult to find a couple where we fancy both the male and female and I, Mrs Time wouldn't have sex with someone I didn't fancy, although we are aware this wouldn't bother some people. We've chatted to some sexy couples but they either can't meet in the day or they live too far away. Dilemma central. Am I being too fussy and should I just put a bag over my head and hope for the best

It's difficult, that's for sure and can be frustrating when one or the other doesn't fancy the counterpart. Wouldn't be fun if you or they "took one for the team" though.

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By *ullbackbuttMan
over a year ago

Purton

"I only meet with attraction and personality that matches, hence I have now had a dry spell for nearly 6 months

Distance does not help that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really odd. I don't form any attraction to people I play with. I certainly don't pick people I think are mmmm but I cant think ewww...

Its more important that Mr is into the lady but the guy cant be many things ...

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Can agree OP its very difficult. We did meet a great couple who we agreed to meet again for some fun only for them to split up inbetween arranging another meet was very dissapointing. Im sure there will someone out there

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

This is why we only like to watch and be watched, no one has to take one for the team that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We found it difficult to find 4 people who are happy with each other, so much so that we mainly play separately now.

But never say never."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can agree OP its very difficult. We did meet a great couple who we agreed to meet again for some fun only for them to split up inbetween arranging another meet was very dissapointing. Im sure there will someone out there

Oh that's just typical!

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Give it time and you'll click with someone, probably just when you least expect it OP

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I only meet with attraction and personality that matches, hence I have now had a dry spell for nearly 6 months

Distance does not help that matter.

It doesn't that is for sure, I do get approached from some great guys just visiting during the week and as I only meet weekends due to work, it does get very frustrating

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I only meet with attraction and personality that matches, hence I have now had a dry spell for nearly 6 months

Oh dear, I don't know how you cope but I'm with you there x"

With great difficulty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op.. I can be very fussy despite what I have said in my previous post... Yet two of our best meets were with people we just met and clicked with... Yet no way would we have met had we gone on profiles on here x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Op.. I can be very fussy despite what I have said in my previous post... Yet two of our best meets were with people we just met and clicked with... Yet no way would we have met had we gone on profiles on here x "

I think maybe a daytime club meet may be in order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we only do couples in clubs. I'm suuuuuuper fussy so tends to be spur of the moment not based on photos.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is why we only do couples in clubs. I'm suuuuuuper fussy so tends to be spur of the moment not based on photos. "

Sounds like a plan and some people aren't photogenic and always look better in the flesh!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is why we only do couples in clubs. I'm suuuuuuper fussy so tends to be spur of the moment not based on photos. "

Great pics! All fabbed

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By *ack with a bangCouple
over a year ago

Hastings

Better to be choosy than to have regret after. From day 1 we both agreed both have to be 100% happy and a social meet first. Then due to let downs settled on socials at club's so if no shows still guaranteed a good night out. Don't play as much as we would like too but when we do it has always been a night to remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is why we only do couples in clubs. I'm suuuuuuper fussy so tends to be spur of the moment not based on photos.

Great pics! All fabbed

Awh thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't just meet anyone. I've turned loads down due to no connection by chatting at socials or no physical attraction.

I'm sure you will find the perfect match in time where everyone involved has a mutual attraction.

Like the other poster said it's not a race. Just take your time and I hope in time you will meet the right people

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Attraction is a big thing for us and if Em doesn't like the look of someone then it doesn't get any further than a polite reply saying no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm like that when I've been to a club with a friend. He never has an issue finding attractive women, whilst I spend most of the night saying...hmmmm, no, not really, is there anyone else.

He teases me that I'm fussy but I don't care, I'm not having sex with someone I don't find attractive."

This is typically what we find at clubs too.

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

Never compromise on what you want. Either you find them attractive or you don't.

We find it difficult too. Arranging meets around work lives and family stuff can be a proper pain in the backside but it's worth it when it happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never compromise on what you want. Either you find them attractive or you don't.

We find it difficult too. Arranging meets around work lives and family stuff can be a proper pain in the backside but it's worth it when it happens.

Your on the we both fancy list but live miles away lol

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple
over a year ago

North West

"Never compromise on what you want. Either you find them attractive or you don't.

We find it difficult too. Arranging meets around work lives and family stuff can be a proper pain in the backside but it's worth it when it happens.

Your on the we both fancy list but live miles away lol

Well we might be worth the trip then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never compromise on what you want. Either you find them attractive or you don't.

We find it difficult too. Arranging meets around work lives and family stuff can be a proper pain in the backside but it's worth it when it happens.

Your on the we both fancy list but live miles away lol

Well we might be worth the trip then

Taxi !!!

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

"This is why we only do couples in clubs. I'm suuuuuuper fussy so tends to be spur of the moment not based on photos. "

Same here, Mrs rarely gets a pic on here where she is attracted to them, then when she is they don't meet in clubs or any one of a number of other issues.

When we have been to parties and clubs it seems easier with more possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on why one swings .

When we began this , 5 years ago , we were very much like most of the posters on here . There had to be a strong 4 way attraction . We would go to clubs and come home without playing time after time as one or other of us wouldn't feel the necessary attraction .

Then we had a epiphany , and realised that we do this for fun , and the fun came from variety . Did we drop our standards ? Hell no , but we changed our perspective . And since doing so we never looked back . The page 3 types and Adonis like guys that we used to seek , became less of an obsession and we started playing with people just like ourselves . And that's when the fun really started

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

We find the same as you so we mainly go to club for more choice . If we don't find a couple we have fun in mmf and very few mff . We do play separately on the odd occasions . Wife with two guys we have got to know . And I on the odd occasion . May join other couples for cuck fun but we prefer to play at club together .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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yes far too fussy just grin and bare it for the team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like many have said on here we feel there has to be an attraction for us both but sometimes that isn't just based on looks sometimes personality and a sense of humour can be more attractive that's why we always insist on a social first.its easy to say things behind a keyboard and big yourself up but we have found when we finally meet they become like shrinking violets not sexy at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think where there's 4 people involved meeting socially is crucial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think where there's 4 people involved meeting socially is crucial "

There is equally more of a reason not to play or meet again after the social , as more thinking time tends to lead to more reasons not to .

And to think what could have been

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one should lower the standard and never take one for the team lol

My Mrs would be very popular on here if it were not for me

Still some ladies are kind and like me so thanks to our wonderful friends you know who you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is why we only do couples in clubs. I'm suuuuuuper fussy so tends to be spur of the moment not based on photos.

Same here, Mrs rarely gets a pic on here where she is attracted to them, then when she is they don't meet in clubs or any one of a number of other issues.

When we have been to parties and clubs it seems easier with more possibilities."

We're going to have to hit a club, something we've never done as a couple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the solution. Meet single people,then there is only one person to agree about.

Caution:There might be some bias behind my suggestion.

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