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"as opposed to?" As opposed to lower standards? I don't follow.... Standards are standards....as a guy I don't change mine! | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though" | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though " .. Double | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though" What about extremely skinny women? Or is it ok for them to have standards? | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online" No. I retain the same standards as offline. | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though .. Double " And again | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though .. Double " Oh God... another wankpuffin. | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though .. Double Oh God... another wankpuffin." .. I was going to write that.. But didn't want to steal it from you ... | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though .. Double And again " and again | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though" I'm not skinny. But I have standards. Like for example I wouldn't touch you on fab or in "real life" and that's not because I'm fat. | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though I'm not skinny. But I have standards. Like for example I wouldn't touch you on fab or in "real life" and that's not because I'm fat. " What about if he wore a wig | |||
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"And again the OP is too much of a coward to follow up with his original thread " wat do you mean? | |||
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"Anyone can have a bunch of requests, whether they are realistic or not remains to be seen." this is what i mean a lot of you are extremely unrealistic | |||
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"I don't. Despite being overweight. But, more importantly, how come your profile pic is so teeny tiny? " It's not but 3/4 of it is a blank page so it looks tiny. If that makes any actual sense? I might try that in future to make my thighs look smaller. | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though I'm not skinny. But I have standards. Like for example I wouldn't touch you on fab or in "real life" and that's not because I'm fat. What about if he wore a wig " I'll bop you if you're not careful | |||
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"Anyone can have a bunch of requests, whether they are realistic or not remains to be seen. this is what i mean a lot of you are extremely unrealistic" But are they still getting meets?! If so then they're not being unrealistic. | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though I'm not skinny. But I have standards. Like for example I wouldn't touch you on fab or in "real life" and that's not because I'm fat. What about if he wore a wig I'll bop you if you're not careful " | |||
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"Anyone can have a bunch of requests, whether they are realistic or not remains to be seen. this is what i mean a lot of you are extremely unrealistic But are they still getting meets?! If so then they're not being unrealistic. " | |||
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"I don't. Despite being overweight. But, more importantly, how come your profile pic is so teeny tiny? It's not but 3/4 of it is a blank page so it looks tiny. If that makes any actual sense? I might try that in future to make my thighs look smaller." Ah ok. I've never seen one that small before | |||
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"I don't. Despite being overweight. But, more importantly, how come your profile pic is so teeny tiny? It's not but 3/4 of it is a blank page so it looks tiny. If that makes any actual sense? I might try that in future to make my thighs look smaller." I'm going to try this idea too. Thanks | |||
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"as opposed to?" being ignored in the city in the real world perhaps | |||
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"I don't. Despite being overweight. But, more importantly, how come your profile pic is so teeny tiny? It's not but 3/4 of it is a blank page so it looks tiny. If that makes any actual sense? I might try that in future to make my thighs look smaller. Ah ok. I've never seen one that small before " I bet its bigger now after seeing that bum | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though" Yeah fat birds should be greatful for whatever they can get, how dare they have preferences. Must really hurt when they knock you back OP? | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online" Quite the reverse. Here, I will have sex with practically anyone as long as he meets my basic requirements In the vanilla world, I would be much more choosy when arranging a dinner date. Then, in addition to his physical attributes, his education, career path, family background, intelligence, economic strata, will all be equally important | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online Quite the reverse. Here, I will have sex with practically anyone as long as he meets my basic requirements In the vanilla world, I would be much more choosy when arranging a dinner date. Then, in addition to his physical attributes, his education, career path, family background, intelligence, economic strata, will all be equally important" finally someone mature enough answering the question | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online Quite the reverse. Here, I will have sex with practically anyone as long as he meets my basic requirements In the vanilla world, I would be much more choosy when arranging a dinner date. Then, in addition to his physical attributes, his education, career path, family background, intelligence, economic strata, will all be equally importantfinally someone mature enough answering the question" .. Or everyone is different | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online Quite the reverse. Here, I will have sex with practically anyone as long as he meets my basic requirements In the vanilla world, I would be much more choosy when arranging a dinner date. Then, in addition to his physical attributes, his education, career path, family background, intelligence, economic strata, will all be equally importantfinally someone mature enough answering the question" which question would that be exactly as you kind of changed it mid thread.....? | |||
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"I answered it too; Q: "do you have higher standards online"; A: "no"." It's not the answer he's looking for, me thinks | |||
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"I answered it too; Q: "do you have higher standards online"; A: "no"." As did I - or so I thought! | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online Quite the reverse. Here, I will have sex with practically anyone as long as he meets my basic requirements In the vanilla world, I would be much more choosy when arranging a dinner date. Then, in addition to his physical attributes, his education, career path, family background, intelligence, economic strata, will all be equally importantfinally someone mature enough answering the question" Mature and sensible because they write an answer that you already believed? | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online Quite the reverse. Here, I will have sex with practically anyone as long as he meets my basic requirements In the vanilla world, I would be much more choosy when arranging a dinner date. Then, in addition to his physical attributes, his education, career path, family background, intelligence, economic strata, will all be equally importantfinally someone mature enough answering the question Mature and sensible because they write an answer that you already believed? " I read the response by this woman to be completely the opposite of what rellz14 already believed. Maybe I have misunderstood your posting. | |||
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"Anyone can have a bunch of requests, whether they are realistic or not remains to be seen. this is what i mean a lot of you are extremely unrealistic" It's not your problem, so I'm not sure why you're so upset about it. Unless... They're rejecting you and you think that you're actually entitled to fuck them because they're fat. Men who believe they're entitled to sex with someone... There's a crime statistic for that. | |||
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"Nope.. exactly the same .. I'm attracted to what I'm attracted to.. Why would they be higher? " | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though" I'm extremely over weight and I have more guys wanting to meet me than I could ever handle... Weight isn't an issue, standards are standards wether you are fat or thin. I think what you were really trying to say was ... In real life would a fat chick get the option to be choosy? My answer to that is hell yes! I choose who I want to fuck and who I don't want to fuck my size 18 arse has nothing to do with it | |||
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"Anyone can have a bunch of requests, whether they are realistic or not remains to be seen. this is what i mean a lot of you are extremely unrealistic It's not your problem, so I'm not sure why you're so upset about it. Unless... They're rejecting you and you think that you're actually entitled to fuck them because they're fat. Men who believe they're entitled to sex with someone... There's a crime statistic for that." I fear this is the case for a lot of men on this site. It's a dreadful attitude to have but helps me decide who not to meet, as you can normally spot them a mile off. | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online Quite the reverse. Here, I will have sex with practically anyone as long as he meets my basic requirements In the vanilla world, I would be much more choosy when arranging a dinner date. Then, in addition to his physical attributes, his education, career path, family background, intelligence, economic strata, will all be equally importantfinally someone mature enough answering the question Mature and sensible because they write an answer that you already believed? " Actually, she just totally contradicted what he said. I don't think he read her answer correctly. People often don't when they're not looking for a discussion, just a validation of their already fixed opinion... | |||
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"I think it is slightly skewed on here .... because of the ratio of men ( some desperate for a shag ) Compared to women .... Women have the pic of the bunch & can afford to be choosey , whereas in real life they probably wouldn't get a second glance from some of the guys on here . " No one is forcing these guys to remain online chasing after these so called 'picky unrealistic women'. Nothing is stopping these guys going back to the 'real world' to fuck what you're suggesting is a better standard of women. If men didn't tend to think with their dick (and I'm not saying all do) then we wouldn't be discussing this now. | |||
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"Anyone can have a bunch of requests, whether they are realistic or not remains to be seen. this is what i mean a lot of you are extremely unrealistic It's not your problem, so I'm not sure why you're so upset about it. Unless... They're rejecting you and you think that you're actually entitled to fuck them because they're fat. Men who believe they're entitled to sex with someone... There's a crime statistic for that. I fear this is the case for a lot of men on this site. It's a dreadful attitude to have but helps me decide who not to meet, as you can normally spot them a mile off." And there are some men who are always hiding behind 'ratios' when the fact is that they would lessor in demand in the vanilla world than they are over here. Here they atleast have a chance to get away with it based on their physical attributes only. Out there, I would not dream to be seen with some with a single brain cell | |||
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"I think it is slightly skewed on here .... because of the ratio of men ( some desperate for a shag ) Compared to women .... Women have the pic of the bunch & can afford to be choosey , whereas in real life they probably wouldn't get a second glance from some of the guys on here . No one is forcing these guys to remain online chasing after these so called 'picky unrealistic women'. Nothing is stopping these guys going back to the 'real world' to fuck what you're suggesting is a better standard of women. If men didn't tend to think with their dick (and I'm not saying all do) then we wouldn't be discussing this now." ^ This. Also, if you believe that some of the women here "wouldn't get a second glance [in real life] from some of the guys on here", and so by implication they *are* getting a "second glance", then surely that speaks more about the guys' standards "lowering", rather than the women's "raising"? | |||
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"Don't shoot the messenger but I think the OP is trying to say that he's getting turned down by women on here that he thinks he'd have a chance with in an everyday face to face situation. Fab however is a buyers market for women due to the sheer number of men so they can set the bar as high as they like, it's capitalism in practice. There's even a few women trying to corner the market by offering group discounts " Lol@ group discount. Yeah, I think that's exactly what he's saying. And like Wasp Hunter said above that kind of entitlement is pretty disgusting. :D Like, "I wouldn't even fuck you in real life, how dare you turn me down online." is kind of a really shitty attitude to have. | |||
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"Don't shoot the messenger but I think the OP is trying to say that he's getting turned down by women on here that he thinks he'd have a chance with in an everyday face to face situation. Fab however is a buyers market for women due to the sheer number of men so they can set the bar as high as they like, it's capitalism in practice. There's even a few women trying to corner the market by offering group discounts Lol@ group discount. Yeah, I think that's exactly what he's saying. And like Wasp Hunter said above that kind of entitlement is pretty disgusting. :D Like, "I wouldn't even fuck you in real life, how dare you turn me down online." is kind of a really shitty attitude to have. " | |||
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"I'd feel horrible if I thought someone was "lowering" themselves to meet me. In fact I go out of my way to avoid anyone who gives off even a hint of that in their attitude to women on fab. I agree that there are men who hide behind the ratios argument. Oh, so you can't compose a decent message or profile, have few social skills and thought a blurry photo of your cock was the best way to introduce yourself? I bet you're a hit in clubs and bars too. " Yup, same. It's when they flippantly and immediately ask for All The Nudes. Or when you say you don't want to do something they respond with "Why not?!", as if you definitely should be willing to do everytime. Yeah, fuck off. Lol | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though" Why? Do you think the internet is imagination land and in real life overweight women don't get desired? | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? " This is so so true, more like you read my mind on this issue perfectly and I don't usually see the gym fit ones coming out in their numbers when such topics are brought up. No wonder some can't keep away from fab even if they tried. | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? " Very eloquently put !!! ....which is what I was trying to explain in my earlier post if it wasn't for the fact I'm such a meat head | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? Very eloquently put !!! ....which is what I was trying to explain in my earlier post if it wasn't for the fact I'm such a meat head " Rather a hot meat head though - from what I can see! | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online" I understand what you mean I think, I would sometimes maybe not look twice at face pic of an average looking male and carry on scrolling. Face to face you see personality, charisma, twinkly eyes, chemistry etc , much more chance of an attraction which alters your perception. Xx | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? " I think you've just laid bare the dilemma of us single guys on here. We in fact outnumber women by a good 10:1 ratio from what I've been able to observe. That allows you to pick and choose the cream of the crop from your perspective. And I agree certain qualities you tend to overlook because, as someone single who is on here, you're looking for sex. Of course appearances matter. If you wanted a relationship, you'd be on elite singles, not fab. How I wish the roles were reversed lol | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? I think you've just laid bare the dilemma of us single guys on here. We in fact outnumber women by a good 10:1 ratio from what I've been able to observe. That allows you to pick and choose the cream of the crop from your perspective. And I agree certain qualities you tend to overlook because, as someone single who is on here, you're looking for sex. Of course appearances matter. If you wanted a relationship, you'd be on elite singles, not fab. How I wish the roles were reversed lol " So, I have a sensible question If the guys here are such a catch, why don't they chat up women in the vanilla world where the ratio is almost 1:1 | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? I think you've just laid bare the dilemma of us single guys on here. We in fact outnumber women by a good 10:1 ratio from what I've been able to observe. That allows you to pick and choose the cream of the crop from your perspective. And I agree certain qualities you tend to overlook because, as someone single who is on here, you're looking for sex. Of course appearances matter. If you wanted a relationship, you'd be on elite singles, not fab. How I wish the roles were reversed lol So, I have a sensible question If the guys here are such a catch, why don't they chat up women in the vanilla world where the ratio is almost 1:1" Ha! I wonder the same! Perhaps because most of these dudes have delusions of grandeur and are lacking basic social etiquette. They come on here thinking it's free prostition, too thick to see the difference between a woman who is sexually liberated - and a hooker. | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though" As lady you have described as, above, yes I have high standards on here and also out in the real world. Oddly enough, I can pull easier in a supermarket or hospital than online. My personality comes alive in real life situations, whereas on here, I've no patience and can become quite rude to the wankers who think that because I'm fat, I'm easy, or because I'm online, I wanna meet NOW to empty some blokes balls. I'd rather do without sex for the rest of my life, than to fuck some entitled dick. | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? I think you've just laid bare the dilemma of us single guys on here. We in fact outnumber women by a good 10:1 ratio from what I've been able to observe. That allows you to pick and choose the cream of the crop from your perspective. And I agree certain qualities you tend to overlook because, as someone single who is on here, you're looking for sex. Of course appearances matter. If you wanted a relationship, you'd be on elite singles, not fab. How I wish the roles were reversed lol So, I have a sensible question If the guys here are such a catch, why don't they chat up women in the vanilla world where the ratio is almost 1:1 Ha! I wonder the same! Perhaps because most of these dudes have delusions of grandeur and are lacking basic social etiquette. They come on here thinking it's free prostition, too thick to see the difference between a woman who is sexually liberated - and a hooker." That is what I thought too but I didn't want to say it | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? I think you've just laid bare the dilemma of us single guys on here. We in fact outnumber women by a good 10:1 ratio from what I've been able to observe. That allows you to pick and choose the cream of the crop from your perspective. And I agree certain qualities you tend to overlook because, as someone single who is on here, you're looking for sex. Of course appearances matter. If you wanted a relationship, you'd be on elite singles, not fab. How I wish the roles were reversed lol So, I have a sensible question If the guys here are such a catch, why don't they chat up women in the vanilla world where the ratio is almost 1:1 Ha! I wonder the same! Perhaps because most of these dudes have delusions of grandeur and are lacking basic social etiquette. They come on here thinking it's free prostition, too thick to see the difference between a woman who is sexually liberated - and a hooker. That is what I thought too but I didn't want to say it " *prostitution! Don't worry, I'll face any impending wrath alone You can tell by the tone of a lot of the messages 'come mine now' 'come hotel now' 'fancy a fuck'....not a single flipping thought for what we are currently in the middle of! Abandon everything and go running! | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online" I disagree, i go for exactly the same type of man online as i do offline | |||
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"Ok! I appreciate what the op's saying - and it's been said many times before in an abundance of ways! The fact is there are at least ten times as many single guys on here as women! This gives women the upper hand - whether we like to admit it or not! I think many of us DO meet men who are visually more appealing than the men we'd date in the real world! This is partly because there are a lot of hot single guys on here (thank you God!) and very few women - so we do get to pick and choose (but don't forget we each have different criteria that we pick and choose with - one size doesn't fit all!) It's also - though - and this is often forgotten - that some of us concentrate on the physical attributes (holds hand up unashamedly here) simply because we're NOT looking for someone to have a long term relationship with - so the usual (sensible) attributes of intellect, trustworthiness, kindness, career path, compassion, ambition, - ie finding a potential sole mate - just don't apply! Now let's just imagine for ONE MINUTE that the stats were reversed and fab was 90% fems. Guys - would you seriously say to yourself 'I'm not shagging that model-lookalike because she seems pretty fickle - I'm going to shag the woman with the lank, hair, moustache and acne because she seems SOOo much nicer? I think you've just laid bare the dilemma of us single guys on here. We in fact outnumber women by a good 10:1 ratio from what I've been able to observe. That allows you to pick and choose the cream of the crop from your perspective. And I agree certain qualities you tend to overlook because, as someone single who is on here, you're looking for sex. Of course appearances matter. If you wanted a relationship, you'd be on elite singles, not fab. How I wish the roles were reversed lol So, I have a sensible question If the guys here are such a catch, why don't they chat up women in the vanilla world where the ratio is almost 1:1 Ha! I wonder the same! Perhaps because most of these dudes have delusions of grandeur and are lacking basic social etiquette. They come on here thinking it's free prostition, too thick to see the difference between a woman who is sexually liberated - and a hooker. That is what I thought too but I didn't want to say it *prostitution! Don't worry, I'll face any impending wrath alone You can tell by the tone of a lot of the messages 'come mine now' 'come hotel now' 'fancy a fuck'....not a single flipping thought for what we are currently in the middle of! Abandon everything and go running! " I try and go through some of my mail at 6 am; "wanna f**k now?"; time-stamped, three hours ago; but, of course Glad to learn that I'm not being singled out for this kind of VIP treatment | |||
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"not speaking for everyone but i do believe many women have higher standards online In the vanilla world, I would be much more choosy when arranging a dinner date. Then, in addition to his physical attributes, his education, career path, family background, intelligence, economic strata, will all be equally important" | |||
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"I think it is slightly skewed on here .... because of the ratio of men ( some desperate for a shag ) Compared to women .... Women have the pic of the bunch & can afford to be choosey , whereas in real life they probably wouldn't get a second glance from some of the guys on here . " I'm so glad I didn't message you back. | |||
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"I think it is slightly skewed on here .... because of the ratio of men ( some desperate for a shag ) Compared to women .... Women have the pic of the bunch & can afford to be choosey , whereas in real life they probably wouldn't get a second glance from some of the guys on here . I'm so glad I didn't message you back." Your must have the wrong guy ...i never messaged you | |||
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"Whys that then op? when i see extremely overweight women with a bunch of requests...i ask myself if they're the same in real life nothing wrong with having requirements though" Actually, I'd say my standards are much higher away from here in the real world. On here, I make allowances that they wouldn't get in real life Being an overweight woman has no bearing on anything, apart from when you knock back guys that think like you.... | |||
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"As fat people we are obviously incredibly grateful to people like the OP that they even acknowledge our existence, it goes without saying that we grab any chance of sex with absolutely anyone willing to lower their standards enough." | |||
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