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How did you start/first get in to swinging?

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

Mainly for couples, but anyone more than welcome to contribute. I'm curious to know how you came to start swinging. Did you both meet as swingers and got together? Were you together in a completely exclusive relationship and then decided to swing? If so, who brought the desire up and how was it initially received? Did your partner have to be convinced and eventually came around to your way of thinking/decided they actually really liked it or were you both secretly thinking and wanting it anyway?

Apologies if this has been asked many times before. Did a quick search, but couldn't find anything recently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I first started when I was married

I was in a sexless relationship because my ex no longer found me attractive so we used to meet other couples and do different room swap

It really was as basic as that for me

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"I first started when I was married

I was in a sexless relationship because my ex no longer found me attractive so we used to meet other couples and do different room swap

It really was as basic as that for me "

Who first brought up the subject of having sex with others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met online, got together through a non swinging site, but once we got together we were very open and honest about our desires with me being Bisexual and wanting to play with women too, swinging seemed like a good option to try to live out our fantasies and enjoy our sexuality together. And it happened to work for us, so here we are 5.5 years later still swinging, we have broadened our horizons and we love playing with couples now too.

Px

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

We were having a nice little session together, I was on all fours giving him a BJ and he just said 'wouldn't it be fun if someone was fucking you from behind right now?'. I said yes instantly, he asked if I was serious, I said yes. We looked up swingers clubs, abfabs was first on the list, we booked a visit and have been pushing our boundaries ever since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I first started when I was married

I was in a sexless relationship because my ex no longer found me attractive so we used to meet other couples and do different room swap

It really was as basic as that for me

Who first brought up the subject of having sex with others?"

It was something we had talked about a few times, we knew another couple in our personal life who did it, but I was always unsure

But after years of no sex I though fuck it if he don't want to fuck me I'll find somebody who does

So it was me who bought it back up after a few years of it not being mentioned

I basically said to him I though we should have an open marriage as I wanted sex and if he didn't want to give it me we may as well both look else's where

I suspected he was getting it from other women anyway though I never had any proof of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my girl a year ago she said one day I've always wanted to taste a woman hmmm I thought nice lol as I had been on this site as a single guys many years ago we put a profile on fab a few weeks later we paid a visit to clubf and last week achieved our goal. it is together and all about what we want to do... finding real people with no inhibitions we are growing as a couple and are stronger for our experience cheers

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"We were having a nice little session together, I was on all fours giving him a BJ and he just said 'wouldn't it be fun if someone was fucking you from behind right now?'. I said yes instantly, he asked if I was serious, I said yes. We looked up swingers clubs, abfabs was first on the list, we booked a visit and have been pushing our boundaries ever since "

I can imagine he took a deep breath before asking that! Quite a risk I would have thought, even though I don't know you guys at all.

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"We met online, got together through a non swinging site, but once we got together we were very open and honest about our desires with me being Bisexual and wanting to play with women too, swinging seemed like a good option to try to live out our fantasies and enjoy our sexuality together. And it happened to work for us, so here we are 5.5 years later still swinging, we have broadened our horizons and we love playing with couples now too.

Px"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we got together we asked each other what we have enjoyed previously and it turned out it was swinging and playing with other couples. That led us onto this site and a club visit is going ahead at VA on 1st April.

We often talk about it and fantasise about when when we are together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tray told me she was bisexual from the start of our relationship and it's taken over 12 months of discussing it before we took the plunge into the lifestyle and loving every minute of it especially the social side of it making lots of new friends some of whom we have played with and some we have not but remain good friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy [strait] who was married and a natural swinger all his life...he convinced me to hold a small party at my place...we all met in a pub first so I could check them out..I took the plunge and they all came back..some single women and couples....it went well..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dropped my keys, bent over to retrieve them and

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By *UN TIME COUPLECouple
over a year ago

redditch

Fucked our neighbour in a fmf lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After my divorce I met a a lady while on holiday in Greece. We hit it off from the start. Once back in the UK we met up and still do meet up occasionally but never commit too each other. I like the freedom of it all.

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

I started about 5 years ago met some lady not off here

met her for a drink and we got on then she said I am bi is it ok with me I said yes we got half d*unk and we both new we were having the night together when we got to the room her mate was standing out side and it went from there so here I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really thought about it. Grow up knowing my mother was a swinger and it seems normal for me to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it was a dare

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

We met on a dating site and eventually found we were both as kinky as each other when it came to sex. Suggestions were made by both of us which led us to visit our first club to see what it was all about. We just thought, why didn't we do this years ago?! Lol!

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We have a story in the stories and fantasies section put on last week in 4 parts called

How this way in life started for us many year,s ago we tried to write it the best we could

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill

I had dabbled a little when living in the states and when I met Ang back here and mentioned it she was very intrigued. So we went to a club and voila !

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"I dropped my keys, bent over to retrieve them and "

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"We have a story in the stories and fantasies section put on last week in 4 parts called

How this way in life started for us many year,s ago we tried to write it the best we could

"

Wow! That was an amazing read. Thanks for sharing. What a lucky guy Karl was! Wish I had a story like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy and told him about all my fantasys. He told me he had swung before, so we joined as a couple, We split a week later as he couldn't go through with sharing me. He's on here now as a single; with no luck!!

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"I met a guy and told him about all my fantasys. He told me he had swung before, so we joined as a couple, We split a week later as he couldn't go through with sharing me. He's on here now as a single; with no luck!! "

Aww, I feel for him in a way. I'm not sure how I'd react if I met a woman on here or similar that I just wanted to be exclusive/monogamous with (and she didn't, obviously). Not easy.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

is it me or do tge comments in this thread follow a common theme?

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

for me horny looking for sex, just happened to browse across this site, i admit i was underage when i joined here before. and took off from there.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Started with a previous partner to spice things up a bit then when we broke up, decided to have an account as a single guy just to see how it goes,

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I met N on a "normal dating"site. I think he realised I was a bit more adventures than he first thought. He asked could we join as a couple and, I said yes. I am enjoying it

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By *ack with a bangCouple
over a year ago

Hastings

Messaged hubby at work one day that I just woke up and been dreaming bout another woman and he replied do I want to do something about it . We already had a very active sex life and quite varied one and this just seemed quite a natural extension to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a girl on tinder and she said she was a real horny fucker and loved cock.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I caught my girlfriend cheating on me at a party getting fucked by 2 guys!

Was angry, hurt and very turned on!

Watched quitely for few minutes...seemed like ages... Confronted them, one guy took off scared shitless, gf was sheepish, other guy arrogant... So I joined in!

Spoke about it next day and agreed we are not in love enough to get married but enough to explore more!

Spent the next 10 months having the best 3sums, group and swinging fun ever!

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I got talking to a married woman when I was going through radiotherapy, next thing you know we were in bed every chance we got.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My teacher at high school introduced me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started in July last year after me and my wife spit up after years of marriage, and never looked back , I have meet loafs of lovely couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met each other in a sex club and it went from there, the stories behind how we both into swinging before each other are long and varied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I first started when I was married

I was in a sexless relationship because my ex no longer found me attractive so we used to meet other couples and do different room swap

It really was as basic as that for me "

He shud of gone to spec savers x

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We got married very young Paul was my first started reading girly magazines in bed the stories and letters turned us both on message me if you want to know more

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"When I caught my girlfriend cheating on me at a party getting fucked by 2 guys!

Was angry, hurt and very turned on!

Watched quitely for few minutes...seemed like ages... Confronted them, one guy took off scared shitless, gf was sheepish, other guy arrogant... So I joined in!

Spoke about it next day and agreed we are not in love enough to get married but enough to explore more!

Spent the next 10 months having the best 3sums, group and swinging fun ever!"

That almost sounds like a porn film scenario!

For me, I think there would have been quite a gap between being angry, shocked and then possibly turned on.

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"We met each other in a sex club and it went from there, the stories behind how we both into swinging before each other are long and varied."

I'm sure we've got time and the inclination to read them if you've got the time and inclination to write them

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"I first started when I was married

I was in a sexless relationship because my ex no longer found me attractive so we used to meet other couples and do different room swap

It really was as basic as that for me

He shud of gone to spec savers x"

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby used to talk about seeing another guy kiss me if we were out and d*unk lol and we got talking about whether it was a fantasy of his, years of fantasising about and I thought we should at least see if it was something we both enjoyed so as a surprise I booked a hotel at a club and off we went!

We met when I was 16 so he had been my only partner hense why it took us so long to bite the bullet!

We never looked back

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

D*unk with a friend sum girly fun and hey presto X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all Robson Greene fault lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv always been bi and experienced threesomes and other things also fuck buddies before my partner so one day i asked him if he wud b interested and he was sooo the fun began lol x

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By *exypair99Couple
over a year ago

salisbury

Gosh I think we would get judged too much if we told everyone lol

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By *atcher80Man
over a year ago

The

Had always been intrigued by the dogging/voyeur fantasy but after my divorce( not my doing) got seriously chatting to couples. Started off with cam sessions and then met a few choice couples and single ladies. Met my first couple in pub, then back to hotel... Then it was home visits adter that... Lol. Truly loved it and sometimes miss it now im back in relationship, but still love the voyeuristic element!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gosh I think we would get judged too much if we told everyone lol "

Now I really want to know...

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By *reykiwi500 OP   Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"Gosh I think we would get judged too much if we told everyone lol "

Go on, tell us

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By *agicfingerslovelyMan
over a year ago

Rugby

Always was intrigued about - think sex is very much about having a laugh and well as great orgasms - lovely gf more in bdsm and role play but not really into swinging, me more into swinging so permission all round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it was catching my ex wife having an affair! Got the details from her during an honest discussion realised I was harder than ever! Then it began!

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By *UN TIME COUPLECouple
over a year ago

redditch

Wife and the female next door nieghbour got d*unk started kissing ended up as mff 3sum that was around 8 yrs ago x

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By *oooshCouple
over a year ago

jct 4 M5

I alway knew I was bi so I told my bloke the I need pussy every now and again ,so that's how we started first with bi fem couples then soft swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust, communication and a very naughty curiosity x

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