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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You know when you get those messages that go something like this...

"Are you up to much today?"

"No, just an easy weekend for me."

"Would you like to organise a meet?"

And you're like... that's it? Two lines of conversation and you want me to meet you for sex?

Does this actually ever work? I mean I know a very, very small handful of people get off on almost blind meets, but does this tactic actually get people laid more often than not?

And what's with the assumption that if you're not busy then you must always be looking for sex? Hasn't anyone heard of relaxation, damnit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're soooooo picky ...

This is a sex site - if you're online you must always be "up for it "

A couple of lines of chat is enough message ping pong!

Timewaster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

"

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!

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By *ouple36DDCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I received a message yesterday from a guy saying he was in Holloway and would I like to come down and fuck him in the back of his lorry.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Sad really...... Although I admit that if I could have been free last night there was someone within a quarter mile away who I may well have gone for after 2lines (thanks to a huge horn hitting me) - but I wasn't free, so it's by the by!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!"

When we go out together ( 2 or 3 times a week ) we happily meet people after one or two messages like you have described .

If the pic looks good and they're preferences match ours , it's all good .

We are more likely to turn down those who want to play e mail ping pong .

But that's us .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!

When we go out together ( 2 or 3 times a week ) we happily meet people after one or two messages like you have described .

If the pic looks good and they're preferences match ours , it's all good .

We are more likely to turn down those who want to play e mail ping pong .

But that's us ..... "

I was thinking of you as my exception. But then, you make it clear on your profile that that's how you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a lot of replies these days with only two or three words in and it really pisses me off especially when I have taken the time to write a nice, friendly message in the first instance comprising of at least three or four sentences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!"

Many guys think this is how sex should be on here, and i almost agree with them. NSA sex is exactly the above, and would be just checking each other out than arranging to fuck and not bothering with each other until next time you want a fuck with each other.

I always used to get told, 'this is what fab should be about' when i met this way. This implies, to me, they aren't getting it easily from that many people but also aren't desperate enough to change the way they do things.

Nobody likes to feel used, so yeah it tends not to work. You've got to have a very hard skin or be a user yourself (or both) for NSA to work.

Like i said i don't mind meeting guys this way but it'll tend to be a one off now because although you might have enjoyed being used and using someone at that time, when it becomes a repetitive pattern between you and someone else it starts to become more obvious that it's hollow and seems unfulfilling. This is the reason why when repeat meets only talk about sex i block them. Plus other people can give me more than sex as well as sex, and i prefer that.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Are we being judgey about people who enjoy spur of the moment meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I received a message yesterday from a guy saying he was in Holloway and would I like to come down and fuck him in the back of his lorry. "

Could have been worse, he could have been in the prison and wanted you to meet in a caravan...

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"Getting a lot of replies these days with only two or three words in and it really pisses me off especially when I have taken the time to write a nice, friendly message in the first instance comprising of at least three or four sentences

"

So what !

Almost 3 words ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting a lot of replies these days with only two or three words in and it really pisses me off especially when I have taken the time to write a nice, friendly message in the first instance comprising of at least three or four sentences

"

Two words = "no thanks"?

Three words as in "not for me"?

Four words? As in "thanks but no thanks"?

Lots of guys here complain if they get no reply at all. At least your messages seem to be polite enough to get a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never chat and expect anything its a process of getting to know the person with a view to meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!

Many guys think this is how sex should be on here, and i almost agree with them. NSA sex is exactly the above, and would be just checking each other out than arranging to fuck and not bothering with each other until next time you want a fuck with each other.

I always used to get told, 'this is what fab should be about' when i met this way. This implies, to me, they aren't getting it easily from that many people but also aren't desperate enough to change the way they do things.

Nobody likes to feel used, so yeah it tends not to work. You've got to have a very hard skin or be a user yourself (or both) for NSA to work.

Like i said i don't mind meeting guys this way but it'll tend to be a one off now because although you might have enjoyed being used and using someone at that time, when it becomes a repetitive pattern between you and someone else it starts to become more obvious that it's hollow and seems unfulfilling. This is the reason why when repeat meets only talk about sex i block them. Plus other people can give me more than sex as well as sex, and i prefer that."

I think it's more like, these guys expect just to meet and have fantastic sex. There's no discussion of 'what do you like in bed' or 'am I what you're interested in' or 'I don't enjoy oral, is there anything you don't enjoy'. They just want to turn up, plough you without seeing what you're interested in, and then leave.

I mean, it seems strange to organise "sex" when you don't actually know what that might entail. Especially on my profile where I'm actually looking for something quite specific.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting a lot of replies these days with only two or three words in and it really pisses me off especially when I have taken the time to write a nice, friendly message in the first instance comprising of at least three or four sentences

So what !

Almost 3 words ...lol "

Yes that pretty much sums it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think they have the wrong idea about the type of site. Can't blame them for trying though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Getting a lot of replies these days with only two or three words in and it really pisses me off especially when I have taken the time to write a nice, friendly message in the first instance comprising of at least three or four sentences

Two words = "no thanks"?

Three words as in "not for me"?

Four words? As in "thanks but no thanks"?

No, you've got the wrong end of the stick, these aren't rejection messages these are someone's attempt at a conversation.

Lots of guys here complain if they get no reply at all. At least your messages seem to be polite enough to get a reply."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are we being judgey about people who enjoy spur of the moment meets? "

Not judgey at all, no. If people enjoy it - then good for them!

I just get alot of these kind of messages and it implies (by volume) that this must be a technique that works. I suppose I'm just amazed that so many people must be into "three message meets" when the profiles I see about don't generally seem to be into that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never chat and expect anything its a process of getting to know the person with a view to meeting "

Got to agree with you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!

Many guys think this is how sex should be on here, and i almost agree with them. NSA sex is exactly the above, and would be just checking each other out than arranging to fuck and not bothering with each other until next time you want a fuck with each other.

I always used to get told, 'this is what fab should be about' when i met this way. This implies, to me, they aren't getting it easily from that many people but also aren't desperate enough to change the way they do things.

Nobody likes to feel used, so yeah it tends not to work. You've got to have a very hard skin or be a user yourself (or both) for NSA to work.

Like i said i don't mind meeting guys this way but it'll tend to be a one off now because although you might have enjoyed being used and using someone at that time, when it becomes a repetitive pattern between you and someone else it starts to become more obvious that it's hollow and seems unfulfilling. This is the reason why when repeat meets only talk about sex i block them. Plus other people can give me more than sex as well as sex, and i prefer that.

I think it's more like, these guys expect just to meet and have fantastic sex. There's no discussion of 'what do you like in bed' or 'am I what you're interested in' or 'I don't enjoy oral, is there anything you don't enjoy'. They just want to turn up, plough you without seeing what you're interested in, and then leave.

I mean, it seems strange to organise "sex" when you don't actually know what that might entail. Especially on my profile where I'm actually looking for something quite specific. "

I'm afraid that this is the legacy we're reaping from the absolute obsession with porn...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Itst really difficult as I guy as at tge end of the day all us guys wanna do is meet. Some women want it no strings and on a plate, others want a bit of a verbal chase, others don't get time to read the message as they're inundated. So I get why guys do it as sometimes it's pointless writing an essay not to be read. Personally I like a few messages exchanged before a meet is suggested.X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm afraid that this is the legacy we're reaping from the absolute obsession with porn..."

No, I don't agree. I'm utterly porn obsessed. I view *alot* of porn. Probably over an hour a day in total (and often quite a bit more).

The more porn people watch the more specific they tend to be - there are journal studies that seem to support this. So if a guy is looking for the kind of sex that is like porn, then he would generally be looking for something quite specific and wouldn't just send a generic message (yeah, I get those too - and they're much more interesting!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Itst really difficult as I guy as at tge end of the day all us guys wanna do is meet. Some women want it no strings and on a plate, others want a bit of a verbal chase, others don't get time to read the message as they're inundated. So I get why guys do it as sometimes it's pointless writing an essay not to be read. Personally I like a few messages exchanged before a meet is suggested.X"

Me to, wouldn't be interested otherwise I like to have some friendly banter first and then some naughty messaging before meeting, it sets the scene

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

The art of conversation is Dead, as far as some people are concerned.

Eg., only this morning, I'd an approach message from a female. Her second message asked me for my cock size? I've heard of straight to the point but subtlety wasn't her strong point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!

Many guys think this is how sex should be on here, and i almost agree with them. NSA sex is exactly the above, and would be just checking each other out than arranging to fuck and not bothering with each other until next time you want a fuck with each other.

I always used to get told, 'this is what fab should be about' when i met this way. This implies, to me, they aren't getting it easily from that many people but also aren't desperate enough to change the way they do things.

Nobody likes to feel used, so yeah it tends not to work. You've got to have a very hard skin or be a user yourself (or both) for NSA to work.

Like i said i don't mind meeting guys this way but it'll tend to be a one off now because although you might have enjoyed being used and using someone at that time, when it becomes a repetitive pattern between you and someone else it starts to become more obvious that it's hollow and seems unfulfilling. This is the reason why when repeat meets only talk about sex i block them. Plus other people can give me more than sex as well as sex, and i prefer that.

I think it's more like, these guys expect just to meet and have fantastic sex. There's no discussion of 'what do you like in bed' or 'am I what you're interested in' or 'I don't enjoy oral, is there anything you don't enjoy'. They just want to turn up, plough you without seeing what you're interested in, and then leave.

I mean, it seems strange to organise "sex" when you don't actually know what that might entail. Especially on my profile where I'm actually looking for something quite specific. "

I agree. And it is pretty much that, just vanilla sex. No discussion needed really because you're being spontaneous and just going with how you feel at that time, you aren't that bothered about what sex you get and saying no to something suggested at the time (like oral or anal) is easy enough to say and the other person is fine with that. It's how come one night stands often happen with a lot of people as well.

But yeah if you're looking for something in particular and not interested in just going with the flow then it won't work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know when you get those messages that go something like this...

"Are you up to much today?"

"No, just an easy weekend for me."

"Would you like to organise a meet?"

And you're like... that's it? Two lines of conversation and you want me to meet you for sex?

Does this actually ever work? I mean I know a very, very small handful of people get off on almost blind meets, but does this tactic actually get people laid more often than not?

And what's with the assumption that if you're not busy then you must always be looking for sex? Hasn't anyone heard of relaxation, damnit! "
haha thought I was reading one of my messages then. The worse thing you can do is answer them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree. And it is pretty much that, just vanilla sex. No discussion needed really because you're being spontaneous and just going with how you feel at that time, you aren't that bothered about what sex you get and saying no to something suggested at the time (like oral or anal) is easy enough to say and the other person is fine with that. It's how come one night stands often happen with a lot of people as well.

But yeah if you're looking for something in particular and not interested in just going with the flow then it won't work. "

I've had a *lot* of one night stands in my life... and I've always had more conversation than "Are you free tonight, do you want to fuck?" I mean, you at least converse with them for a little bit generally and get a feel for their personality (and whether you can stomach spending half an hour with them in private...)

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By *enard ArgenteMan
over a year ago

London and France

Certainly not for me; I don't necessarily want to discuss the whole list of preferences and " styles" but I have to have a connection; so if I have seen someone interesting; I may send a fairly succinct message, but I like a bit of chat.

I met someone from here not long ago; we messaged quite a lot; actually more than half the messages were actually about art, not sex;

OP started this with the question about one liners opening; but there is also the one word / two word reply;

If I get monosyllabic replies,( even positive ones) I tend to give up ; though I had one woman who sent back short replies; I gave up messaging her; she fired me a quite angry message saying " why have you stopped?"

I refrained from saying " you are hard work and boring" ; so just said that I didn't think we would be compatible. ( which was actually true; I like people with some character and interest.)

I am, of course, in her eyes, now one of those " bloody timewasters and fakes"

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By *eachyPairCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"I agree. And it is pretty much that, just vanilla sex. No discussion needed really because you're being spontaneous and just going with how you feel at that time, you aren't that bothered about what sex you get and saying no to something suggested at the time (like oral or anal) is easy enough to say and the other person is fine with that. It's how come one night stands often happen with a lot of people as well.

But yeah if you're looking for something in particular and not interested in just going with the flow then it won't work.

I've had a *lot* of one night stands in my life... and I've always had more conversation than "Are you free tonight, do you want to fuck?" I mean, you at least converse with them for a little bit generally and get a feel for their personality (and whether you can stomach spending half an hour with them in private...)"

Half an hour!!!!! u fuck them 4 times??? ooops just me that don't last long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm afraid that this is the legacy we're reaping from the absolute obsession with porn...

No, I don't agree. I'm utterly porn obsessed. I view *alot* of porn. Probably over an hour a day in total (and often quite a bit more).

The more porn people watch the more specific they tend to be - there are journal studies that seem to support this. So if a guy is looking for the kind of sex that is like porn, then he would generally be looking for something quite specific and wouldn't just send a generic message (yeah, I get those too - and they're much more interesting!)."
if he were looking for something based on porn he would be looking for something manufactured the furthest thing from my own desires ,I don't watch porn anymore I'm into reality ,real people ,real conversations ,knowing the name of the person ,knowing something about them and actually liking them and them me before I'm intimate with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Certainly not for me; I don't necessarily want to discuss the whole list of preferences and " styles" but I have to have a connection; so if I have seen someone interesting; I may send a fairly succinct message, but I like a bit of chat.

I met someone from here not long ago; we messaged quite a lot; actually more than half the messages were actually about art, not sex;

OP started this with the question about one liners opening; but there is also the one word / two word reply;

If I get monosyllabic replies,( even positive ones) I tend to give up ; though I had one woman who sent back short replies; I gave up messaging her; she fired me a quite angry message saying " why have you stopped?"

I refrained from saying " you are hard work and boring" ; so just said that I didn't think we would be compatible. ( which was actually true; I like people with some character and interest.)

I am, of course, in her eyes, now one of those " bloody timewasters and fakes""

I am in touch with someone like that and I am very close to sending back a similar message, so my last message is would you like to meet up some time for a coffee and a social, her reply is yes, so I send a list of some evenings when I am free and I get back, work Fridays.

I give up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!

When we go out together ( 2 or 3 times a week ) we happily meet people after one or two messages like you have described .

If the pic looks good and they're preferences match ours , it's all good .

We are more likely to turn down those who want to play e mail ping pong .

But that's us ..... "

Same here.

We aren't interested in anything other than meeting to play so we don't need to know anything other than that they want the same things out of a meet as we do so a few messeges between us is fine if they match our preferences and vice versa.

Plus meeting in a club means that if they either don't turn up or turn out to be crap there is still fun to be had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!

Many guys think this is how sex should be on here, and i almost agree with them. NSA sex is exactly the above, and would be just checking each other out than arranging to fuck and not bothering with each other until next time you want a fuck with each other.

I always used to get told, 'this is what fab should be about' when i met this way. This implies, to me, they aren't getting it easily from that many people but also aren't desperate enough to change the way they do things.

Nobody likes to feel used, so yeah it tends not to work. You've got to have a very hard skin or be a user yourself (or both) for NSA to work.

Like i said i don't mind meeting guys this way but it'll tend to be a one off now because although you might have enjoyed being used and using someone at that time, when it becomes a repetitive pattern between you and someone else it starts to become more obvious that it's hollow and seems unfulfilling. This is the reason why when repeat meets only talk about sex i block them. Plus other people can give me more than sex as well as sex, and i prefer that.

I think it's more like, these guys expect just to meet and have fantastic sex. There's no discussion of 'what do you like in bed' or 'am I what you're interested in' or 'I don't enjoy oral, is there anything you don't enjoy'. They just want to turn up, plough you without seeing what you're interested in, and then leave.

I mean, it seems strange to organise "sex" when you don't actually know what that might entail. Especially on my profile where I'm actually looking for something quite specific.

I'm afraid that this is the legacy we're reaping from the absolute obsession with porn..."

I disagree ... i never watch any porn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a woman, if my mind isn't engaged then my body isn't. I like a message flirt, suggestion can be very erotic. If I like the profile then a one liner may get a response, the follow up has to be good though.

Someone once asked if I would meet at his hotel late at night on first message. No idea of swinging protocol let alone personal safety!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree. And it is pretty much that, just vanilla sex. No discussion needed really because you're being spontaneous and just going with how you feel at that time, you aren't that bothered about what sex you get and saying no to something suggested at the time (like oral or anal) is easy enough to say and the other person is fine with that. It's how come one night stands often happen with a lot of people as well.

But yeah if you're looking for something in particular and not interested in just going with the flow then it won't work.

I've had a *lot* of one night stands in my life... and I've always had more conversation than "Are you free tonight, do you want to fuck?" I mean, you at least converse with them for a little bit generally and get a feel for their personality (and whether you can stomach spending half an hour with them in private...)"

I've fucked guys i've only just met on nights out, the talk happens after (or not).

Well i guess if you've never done it that way then you won't get it. If it's not for you there's nothing wrong with that, was just trying to explain how it works that way.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!"

Either that or they are just too dumb or too lazy to think of another strategy! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a spare 20 minutes later today,anyone fancy a shag

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By *eachyPairCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"I have a spare 20 minutes later today,anyone fancy a shag

"

20 mins is 2 and a half shags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I received a message yesterday from a guy saying he was in Holloway and would I like to come down and fuck him in the back of his lorry. "

Did it have a mattress and pillows in the back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a spare 20 minutes later today,anyone fancy a shag

"

Let's have a cuppa instead

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Are we being judgey about people who enjoy spur of the moment meets?

Not judgey at all, no. If people enjoy it - then good for them!

I just get alot of these kind of messages and it implies (by volume) that this must be a technique that works. I suppose I'm just amazed that so many people must be into "three message meets" when the profiles I see about don't generally seem to be into that."

Or maybe it actually doesn't work for most and that's why there are so many guys on here whinging they can't pull!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You know when you get those messages that go something like this...

"Are you up to much today?"

"No, just an easy weekend for me."

"Would you like to organise a meet?"

And you're like... that's it? Two lines of conversation and you want me to meet you for sex?

Does this actually ever work? I mean I know a very, very small handful of people get off on almost blind meets, but does this tactic actually get people laid more often than not?

And what's with the assumption that if you're not busy then you must always be looking for sex? Hasn't anyone heard of relaxation, damnit! "

We get the same

"Hi how are you,what you up to"

"Ok,not a lot just chilling out doin family stuff"

"Do you want to meet?"

"You want me bring the 5 year old?"

Most get the hint but some carry on.

Sometimes feel rude with the replies I send but then think.so what.I didn't ask them to message me.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Just block ......

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

Sorry OP but there are many ladies who scream "Am not looking for a relationship just sex" and an average guy would see it as well, let's fuck then.

I don't see what's wrong with it, and the truth is you'll never know someone fully until you meet them in flesh.

Why should I be interested in knowing what job you do, your favourite meal and how many kids you got? It's that not what you do with a potential date (boyfriend).

The only thing I agree with you is the let's meet today (being the day of first contact) as its not always that easy to just go on a meet, but if it's then why not?

As for those not looking for a one off, to be honest that's just a relationship in disguise. I've been there, done that. Women can be crazy when you stop putting them as no 1 when it's just swinging.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

*stares a thousand-yard stare*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Makes sense really. They ask if you're free, and when they find out you are free they ask if you wanna meet. If you were busy it'd be pointless asking. I don't really like the question in the first place, it's a bit nosey/personal from someone you don't know.

I don't mind meeting and fucking someone i don't know, it's rare i do this now but when i'm desperate for a fuck i will do this.

It's just the huge amount of people who seem to assume that people just want to meet and fuck after exchanging three lines of conversation. I'm surprised that so many people try it as a tactic - because if so many people are trying it, it must work enough times for it to be worthwhile!

When we go out together ( 2 or 3 times a week ) we happily meet people after one or two messages like you have described .

If the pic looks good and they're preferences match ours , it's all good .

We are more likely to turn down those who want to play e mail ping pong .

But that's us ..... "

I like you guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As for those not looking for a one off, to be honest that's just a relationship in disguise. I've been there, done that. Women can be crazy when you stop putting them as no 1 when it's just swinging. "

You are incorrect.

And you have clearly just been meeting women that are incompatible with you. Women aren't crazy if they want monogamy...

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"The art of conversation is Dead, as far as some people are concerned.

Eg., only this morning, I'd an approach message from a female. Her second message asked me for my cock size? I've heard of straight to the point but subtlety wasn't her strong point. "

This will most likely have been a man posing as a woman on here

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"As for those not looking for a one off, to be honest that's just a relationship in disguise. I've been there, done that. Women can be crazy when you stop putting them as no 1 when it's just swinging.

You are incorrect.

And you have clearly just been meeting women that are incompatible with you. Women aren't crazy if they want monogamy..."

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"The art of conversation is Dead, as far as some people are concerned.

Eg., only this morning, I'd an approach message from a female. Her second message asked me for my cock size? I've heard of straight to the point but subtlety wasn't her strong point. "

You hit the nail on the head - the art of conversation seems to be dead and buried! If I had a penny for the number of times I have gotten a message with only three words or so or asking about my cock size. Mind your business, I always think,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone can only be bothered to write a three word message, would they make as much effort with the sex?

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"*stares a thousand-yard stare*"

You only get that when you've been in 'Nam!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry OP but there are many ladies who scream "Am not looking for a relationship just sex" and an average guy would see it as well, let's fuck then.

I don't see what's wrong with it, and the truth is you'll never know someone fully until you meet them in flesh.

Why should I be interested in knowing what job you do, your favourite meal and how many kids you got? It's that not what you do with a potential date (boyfriend).

The only thing I agree with you is the let's meet today (being the day of first contact) as its not always that easy to just go on a meet, but if it's then why not?

As for those not looking for a one off, to be honest that's just a relationship in disguise. I've been there, done that. Women can be crazy when you stop putting them as no 1 when it's just swinging. "

I'm after a particular type of relationship yeah (and not with just anyone), but i'm happy with fwb as well while i'm waiting.

Wouldn't expect to be no.1 with a fwb, but NSA gets me down a bit coz like i said it seems a bit too hollow for me. I'm a person with feelings, none of them jealousy or entitlement to ownership, just don't wanna feel like i'm fucking someone who doesn't give a shit about me.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury


"*stares a thousand-yard stare*

You only get that when you've been in 'Nam!"

Does Pecknam count?

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

What's friends with benefits?

What's nsa sex?

You can have someone over from time to time for sex but sending each other texts every time, going to a pub on more than one occasion or going to clubs together is what people call friends with benefits and trust me it's not what most guys on here want as it gradually feels like he needs your approval to go chat up someone else when you 2 are together which leads to jealousy and someone coming to the forum to rant lol.

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