FabSwingers.com forum: cock failure on a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sometimes when meeting fab folk for sexual pleasures ---- for no apparent reason my cock refuses to rise to the occasion .. any suggestions how to overcome this dilemma in order to have an erection and enjoy the reason for meeting

I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

"sometimes when meeting fab folk for sexual pleasures ---- for no apparent reason my cock refuses to rise to the occasion .. any suggestions how to overcome this dilemma in order to have an erection and enjoy the reason for meeting

I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx"

This is really common and I have had it happen on a meet loads. I don't think there is anything wrong with taking a little blue pill or a similar product. The last thing you want is erectile dysfunction on a meet, as the lady/gent may take it badly, thinking it is something to do with them, let alone the embarrassment for you. So taking precautions and popping a pill to make sure you are raring to go will keep all parties happy!

On this scene, taking erectile meds is so common in the young and older swingers so you shouldn't feel like a failure or anything

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By *ohnkezCouple
over a year ago

shefiield

I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx

On this scene, taking erectile meds is so common in the young and older swingers so you shouldn't feel like a failure or anything

xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a wonderful orgy with 2 other couples a few years ago. It was absolutely wild. The girls were stunning and utterly depraved. Even Mrs J found herself caught up in the sexual buzz and found herself doing things in the moment that she had always said she would never do.

Sadly however it all proved too much for one of the guys and his erection just failed him.

The 3 girls were really sympathetic and all tried to help. Two were sucking his cock whilst Mrs J was rimming him (always the naughtiest!!)

Nothing would work and the poor guy ended up sitting watching whilst the rest of us all had fun. In retrospect I am a little embarrassed as I recall how we all took turns fucking his hyper enthusiastic wife in front of him oblivious that he was watching

She even did clean up duties from the girls pussies and still he couldn't get hard.

She said that this was his biggest fantasy but nerves overcame the poor guy when it happened for real.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx

On this scene, taking erectile meds is so common in the young and older swingers so you shouldn't feel like a failure or anything

xx"

I'm absolutely no expert at all and have never taken anything to help me stay hard, but it might be an idea to ask a GP to check if there's any medical reason for you not to take them. I've heard (again, no great knowledge on this) that it can either raise or lower (forget which!) blood pressure. All I'm saying is proceed with a bit of caution. It might not be right for everyone.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"We had a wonderful orgy with 2 other couples a few years ago. It was absolutely wild. The girls were stunning and utterly depraved. Even Mrs J found herself caught up in the sexual buzz and found herself doing things in the moment that she had always said she would never do.

Sadly however it all proved too much for one of the guys and his erection just failed him.

The 3 girls were really sympathetic and all tried to help. Two were sucking his cock whilst Mrs J was rimming him (always the naughtiest!!)

She even did clean up duties from the girls pussies and still he couldn't get hard.

She said that this was his biggest fantasy but nerves overcame the poor guy when it happened for real."

Poor guy. Must have been a bit too much for him nerves-wise. I was in a situation not dissimilar to that last year in a room at a club with three women and another guy. All three women were bisexual and playing with each other as well as playing with me and the other guy. I was hard initially but for some reason just couldn't sustain it even though I was really into what was happening. I can only put it down to first time in that kind of situation. I spent a while just watching and wanking my semi-hard cock. Was still an amazingly hot experience and I eventually came, but would have loved to have joined in more fully. It happens.

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By *heorgasmaddictMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Happened at my last meet. Not sure why - think I put it down to tiredness, having other things on my mind, and - having met them before - not actually being teribly excited.

Saying all that, we still did a lot of naughty things haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does happen. Cocks are the most frustrating bloody things. They just will no do as they are told sometimes.

I think this poor guy must have been in tears afterwards. We have been swinging many years and nights like this when everything just clicks happen very, very rarely indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have met with couples where the male half could not get his soldier in line, but it was no big deal, when it happened 4 times in a row with different guys I began to think it was my (fem) fault, but we soon realised it was just performance anxiety, the couples we were meeting with hadn't had much experience in the scene. The other thing which we found didn't help was when it was too hot in the room we were playing in. Even Mark struggled to keep it hard when the room was too hot.

If you find you have this problem regularly then speak to your GP they may be able to give you some Viagra to help with the issue if it is an underlying medical problem. If it isn't then just make sure you are comfortable and don't put too much pressure on yourself to perform, we are all there for fun and if the little guy doesn't want to play then there are toys, mouths, hands that can pick up the slack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx"

Oh man this has happened a few times. Quite embarrassing especially when I've talked a big game

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx"

From a ladies point of view ive met men either on a first meet or even guys ive known for years n the body does not always cooperate with the mind ,either mine or the guys. Clearly more obvious when the guys but womens can play tricks on us too.

Much easier said than done but try to divert attention away from the situation n play in ways that do not require errectionz and sometimes that be enough as its a vicious circle n breakin it can be all it takes ,mind over matter.

Thiz of course does not always work but who u with plays a part in the outcome too. Yes its frustrating for them too but they should show u respect and be supportive not make ur upset worse

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"It does happen. Cocks are the most frustrating bloody things. They just will no do as they are told sometimes.

I think this poor guy must have been in tears afterwards. We have been swinging many years and nights like this when everything just clicks happen very, very rarely indeed."

"They just will no do as they are told sometimes" Haha, love it

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

I do enjoy meeting guys and gals tv CD for raunchy sex ---- preparation is all part of the expectation xxxx

Thiz of course does not always work but who u with plays a part in the outcome too. Yes its frustrating for them too but they should show u respect and be supportive not make ur upset worse "

Not that it's happened a lot, but whenever it has happened I've never had anything other than a really supportive attitude. In a really strange kind of psychological way it makes me put even more pressure on myself because their niceness about it attracts me even more to them!

I definitely focus more on the things that don't require me to be hard, which usually doesn't get any complaints

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly however it all proved too much for one of the guys and his erection just failed him.

The 3 girls were really sympathetic and all tried to help. Two were sucking his cock whilst Mrs J was rimming him (always the naughtiest!!)

She even did clean up duties from the girls pussies and still he couldn't get hard.

She said that this was his biggest fantasy but nerves overcame the poor guy when it happened for real."

Sounds like an amazing party!!id never talk to my cock again lol

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By *orrado76Man
over a year ago

Banbury

Yep, been there myself fella so you have my sympathy. First MMF I'd ever had, I started out strong with the husband happily snapping pictures of me fucking his younger wife but as soon as he joined in my soldier fell asleep on duty.

Maybe it was the couple of glasses of wine before we started, maybe it was too hot in the hotel room or perhaps more likely, despite being orally bi, he didn't do anything for me and that was that. Took me at least half an hour with his wife in the shower with me before I was able to get hard and make her climax before I finally did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Viagra / kamagra is a winner if you suffer from nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be cos of various things to, for example, the woman don't suck the cock as good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop wanking. I stopped 3 weeks ago and used to wank every day sometimes twice a day. I eventually learned to sleep through the night..I did it because I found it hard to cum. Now I can cum inside a woman and yesterday I had my first porn style cumshot. I get aroused by anything now....oh god there he goes again!!

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Stop wanking. I stopped 3 weeks ago and used to wank every day sometimes twice a day. I eventually learned to sleep through the night..I did it because I found it hard to cum. Now I can cum inside a woman and yesterday I had my first porn style cumshot. I get aroused by anything now....oh god there he goes again!!"

Does it help you stay harder for longer?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It does happen and, although I'm not a man, I guess that worrying about it makes it worse.

So try not to worry

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"It does happen and, although I'm not a man, I guess that worrying about it makes it worse.

So try not to worry

Can be 'hard' not to though (groan)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it help you stay harder for longer?"

I am rock hard until I cum but then I am spent and cannot do another round as I am only used to Cumming once or twice a week. I never thought I could give up wanking but it has changed my life (also given me at least an extra hour every day).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a gangbang we attended a little while ago one of the guys could'nt get an erection no matter how much "encouragement" he was given. Poor bloke sat it out for a while and then made his apologies and left.

We felt really bad for him but the occasion got the better of him.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"It does happen and, although I'm not a man, I guess that worrying about it makes it worse.

So try not to worry

Can be 'hard' not to though (groan)"

Of course

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By *van ArdenMan
over a year ago

Coleford, Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire.

Your cock looks pretty full on to me my friend !

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By *ne hung loMan
over a year ago

gloucester

Only once put it down to tiredness been okay since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try black ant pills bud i think there awesome sometime nerves gwt the better off us but them.bad bous will defo not let it happen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never fail with my wife. I do remember years ago on holiday not being able to rise though. Poor girl sacked me off for hours and it still didn't work.

Had to wait till I was solid in the morning to get her fill. Don't think she complained once. What a girl.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

Does it help you stay harder for longer?

Yeah I think I might try that. As funny as it possibly sounds, I'm getting the impression I've been wanking too much, although we're only talking 3-4 times a week. Maybe it just needs a decent rest for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it help you stay harder for longer?

Exactly, you will be amazed what a difference it makes. It's harder to stop than cigs but I hope never to start again. I have just as high a drive but someone else is always giving me the relief. On the downside I have to podcast the archers every day to fall asleep too. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will throw my proverbial hat in the ring, never had that problem, but I guess being used to being on stage in my band and stuff helps you just say fuck it and go with it.

First time doing something new is always a risky thing in that you can just end up either not getting. Hard or cumming in 5 seconds. It's basic physiology really. I rarely wank and cum quick, so always now manage that.

What I will say that is its critical not to focus on in. Think that shit happens and come back bigger and stronger. Soon as you focus on it, your mind will get involved and that where real problems start. It's all about conditioning. We all have the odd failure. Chalk it up, crack on, get back into the same situation and nail it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

mmmn many thanks for advice re pills to enhance my cock avoiding disfunction!!

black ant pills look good --- are Viagra pills from the Dr bettein performance than pills bought on the net???

any advice where best to get them ,,

text if you prefer 07580807266 D x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my 1st and only meet from a swinger site (wasn't this one), despite being really into it and performing lots of oral I just couldn't get and stay hard.

This lead to the woman going home in tears as she took it very personally which really knocked my confidence.

Being very worried I got checked by the doc and did some research on the net and came to the conclusion it could be porn/wanking ED. Since cut out the porn and trying not up masturbate and there's been a definite improvement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"mmmn many thanks for advice re pills to enhance my cock avoiding disfunction!!

black ant pills look good --- are Viagra pills from the Dr bettein performance than pills bought on the net???

any advice where best to get them ,,

text if you prefer 07580807266 D x"

There no longer sold in shops so if you dont know who your getting them off then stick with *vigrx plus* they can be bought from almost anywhere and work just as well.many places sell them even amazon i think there just as good

and recomend them

as done me good used be a one time cummer but with supplement as long as your in the right mind to carry on after ejaculating and carry on your erection will not let you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some men it seems to be the presence of other men with erections that give them erectile failures. Although it has not happened much with me I feel sorry for them and try to help all i can. It is nothing to make fun of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well guys your not alone in this department

After going to a swingers club for almost 7 months, every time the little chap tells me to fuck off as he is asleep, I have now found out what my problem is.

Diabetes is a problem, this can affect the little chap to the extent that he wants a sex change!

Although im into the people when I play, I have had several occasions where it's oral only due to him downstairs not wanting to participate fully.

Can I suggest to all with a problem getting hard to ask your doctor for a diabetes check? It's worth digging deeper to see if you have underlying problems

Now I know my problem, lets see of I can do something about it

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple"

Lies lies lies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple"

Not always

If only was that simple. Be far fewer distressed men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple"

What a complete load of bollocks!

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple"

Thanks for clearing that up, which university was your medical degree from again?

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

well I don't think so its so easy you see some one and your solid

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

not got one but no this some guys no the truth hurts them god how hard is this you get a hard on WHEN YOU ARE TURNED ON simple

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

I think your wrong mate ok next time you go to club watch people fuck and see but when you see some one that turns you on you will be rock hard and want her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"not got one but no this some guys no the truth hurts them god how hard is this you get a hard on WHEN YOU ARE TURNED ON simple"

Are you always a dick or is it just on posts like this?

Not getting hard is definitely NOT due to not being turned on, sometimes it's quite the opposite! Ever heard of stage fright?

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

never a dick im just saying what I think that's all we can all have our say on here

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

yes I have heard of it but it will only happen for a min or so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never a dick im just saying what I think that's all we can all have our say on here"

Can you at least try and get your facts right then please.

There are several people that would love to get hard at the flick of a switch, but it's not always possible no matter how turned on you are.

Do your research before condemning others for their short fall.

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

o and the person that stared the thread is not new to swinging if he was and his first time I would not have said what I did but he has been doing it over a year now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinks you may need to change your username! Haha

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

we are not talking about other people here we are taking about him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nerves, tiredness or just not really being turned on are generally the main causes, alcohol is also a bad thing which can affect performance, if its a regular thing then a trip to the GP might be a good idea.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

"well I don't think so its so easy you see some one and your solid"

Is that with the help of blue pills? As you posted on a recent thread. There are many reasons why a man can not get,stay hard. Sometimes the mind is willing but the body isn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

start a thread about penis issues, you'll always get the odd penis talking bollocks in it. .

it's happened to me, and the lady in question was very attractive... luckily she was very easygoing and had a sense of humour.. gave me a chance to practise giving her some oral pleasure, followed by a nice relaxed oil massage... managed to send her to sleep, so let myself out...a nice afternoon for all, and a text afterwards to say " thank you for a lovely time, you should advertise the massage"..haha!

More to life than the old " in and out"..

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple"

Rubbish, I think it must be really difficult for guys in a group situation or mmf situation.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple"

Totally untrue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you don't get hard it means the people your with don't turn you on simple"

It's their fault then? Simple. And you did not choose to meet them? You did not make an excuse and leave before the sex started when you knew you were not attracted? Interesting.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"well I don't think so its so easy you see some one and your solid

Is that with the help of blue pills? As you posted on a recent thread. There are many reasons why a man can not get,stay hard. Sometimes the mind is willing but the body isn't."

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I'm glad that more of us are prepared to admit that we can get performance issues or "stage fright" at times and that bit isnt a stigma to worry about too much.

There are plenty more things to indulge in during a play meet than just penetrative "in and out "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Green arrow shows soo much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your wrong mate ok next time you go to club watch people fuck and see but when you see some one that turns you on you will be rock hard and want her"

And back on planet earth where the ladies are more understanding and empathetic to mens plight...your user name could not be more wrong

How do u think guys who struggle feel reading what u put. Show some sensitivity !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your wrong mate ok next time you go to club watch people fuck and see but when you see some one that turns you on you will be rock hard and want her

And back on planet earth where the ladies are more understanding and empathetic to mens plight...your user name could not be more wrong

How do u think guys who struggle feel reading what u put. Show some sensitivity !!!!!"

I'm sure we take everything he says with a pinch of salt.

Looking back on his posts he needs the little blue pill,and also offers them to others.

Not soo turned on now is he?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think your wrong mate ok next time you go to club watch people fuck and see but when you see some one that turns you on you will be rock hard and want her

And back on planet earth where the ladies are more understanding and empathetic to mens plight...your user name could not be more wrong

How do u think guys who struggle feel reading what u put. Show some sensitivity !!!!!

I'm sure we take everything he says with a pinch of salt.

Looking back on his posts he needs the little blue pill,and also offers them to others.

Not soo turned on now is he? "

I not looked. Thank you i will look now

i just couldn't believe such insensitivity about blokes issues from Another bloke

I know n meet guys with such difficulties one off difficulties and permanent,n id hate them to see that coz they amazing guys

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

no its not I don't need them I was just saying I can get them that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thinks you may need to change your username! Haha"

I was thinking that too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta laugh AT You tbh, why would you even have them in your possession?

We all have problems now and again, just your too ashamed to admit it!

Be a man, there's no need to hide behind anything on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah dose it really matter that much, it happens, you can still have lots of fun, the more you worry about it , the more it may happen,I've had it a couple of times, with guys I've met, you just got to be understanding as it can't be easy for the poor guy

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

just because I sell fags does not mean I smoke them does it

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

sorry I give my view on this now so sorry to any one I up set thought the thread was to any one to have there say

I got it all wrong will only agree with people from today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think we have found a failed cock on here...

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

yes we have haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and just because you seem like a dick doesn't mean you don't get a floppy one sometimes, lad... accept and embrace it...

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

I only get floppy when not turned on easy

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Well I think we have found a failed cock on here... "

lol....yes

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"I only get floppy when not turned on easy"

I think this is getting silly now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only get floppy when not turned on easy

I think this is getting silly now

Think he who protests too much....

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By *ice guy 44Man
over a year ago

wrexham

end of easy I will shut up now

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"end of easy I will shut up now"

Thanks for message, such a charmer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose if people (men/women) have a meet when they are not feeling particularly horny, this could have an effect on their performance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose if people (men/women) have a meet when they are not feeling particularly horny, this could have an effect on their performance."

Oh god don't you start too! Haha

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"yes I have heard of it but it will only happen for a min or so"

No friends, only one veri from a female

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over a year ago

"yes I have heard of it but it will only happen for a min or so

No friends, only one veri from a female"

And one from an admiring male too... don't forget that one! LOL

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over a year ago

Moving on and trying to help "op" and others, there are lots of reasons this can happen. Most are psychological but diet, health and exercise can also contribute. I think porn is one of the biggest problems too. I gave up wanking and porn as I couldn't wank without porn and then found it hard to cum when I was with a woman. Retrain your brain and your body.

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over a year ago

"sorry I give my view on this now so sorry to any one I up set thought the thread was to any one to have there say

I got it all wrong will only agree with people from today"

No one is saying you can't give your opinion. However if you give your opinion here you have to be prepared to have others giving THEIR opinion and disagreeing with you !

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over a year ago

Most problems with "stage fright" really are just in the head, and most physical issues are down to diet, but it's definitely a problem that you should seek professional help on sooner rather than later (I mean a doctor, not a brass) as it's easy to sort the diet for example, but then the brain can get involved and complicate things.

To give you a musical example or two, our singer still needs the lyrics for Come Together after singing it for 7yrs!! My one was that after years of playing the intro to Brown Eyed Girl, I made a fuck up, which was nothing, but next time the singer made a joke, bit of pressure, and it got to the point I was worrying about it when it came to doing it.

Now I'm a pretty decent guitarist I guess, but this just caused me problems for ages. So I ended up doing something a bit different for the first half, then the proper bit for the second. After a few gigs doing that, all issues gone and now it's a bit of banter at the start of the song.

Basically, take the pressure off yourself, be that by not having alcohol, drugs, smoking etc... Or by changing the way you play when you get to a meet. Think about if there are any points where you typically get nervous, try and understand why, then make even the smallest change.

I have major body and image issues, have done for years, so I have made changes to diet, exercise, and whilst I'm not "there" yet, I'm not scared that getting my kit off will result in heart failure or fleeing by my playmates.

Sorry for the long post!

Ritchie.

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

"Moving on and trying to help "op" and others, there are lots of reasons this can happen. Most are psychological but diet, health and exercise can also contribute. I think porn is one of the biggest problems too. I gave up wanking and porn as I couldn't wank without porn and then found it hard to cum when I was with a woman. Retrain your brain and your body. "

I can imagine that wanking a lot, especially to porn (very subjective as to what 'a lot' is) most likely desensitises the penis physically but also the mind psychologically. You might well be on to something there and I'm certainly going to try it. It doesn't happen all the time with me, but just enough not to be able to dismiss it as 'one of those things'.

As far as diet and exercise goes, absolutely, although funnily enough my occasional failure to rise to the occasion has co-incided with probably the healthiest period in my adult life diet and exercise-wise. For two years now I've been reasonably mindful and careful about what I eat and a regular gym goer (and lost 20kg over the first 6 months of last year in doing so). It's only been in the last two years that I haven't always 'performed' as I'd like. Different for everyone, I guess.

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over a year ago

We have had it.ended the meet. Big promises small on delivery

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over a year ago

sometimes people talk a good game, other times it's a genuine condition.

As long as they aren't laughed out of the building and people have some understanding then it's all good. I think if it's something everyone can laugh at at the time, then that will help the guy out and not let the situation escalate.

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over a year ago

Nerves i suspect its happened to me and will prob happen again

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