FabSwingers.com forum: What is too young, what is too old

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age doesn't matter for me, be between 18 to 93 and you are ok

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I don't base it on age gap, I base it on mutual attraction and maturity level.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't base it on age gap, I base it on mutual attraction and maturity level."

But if based on their profile you don't get to assess personality, only pics. Saying that I do think you get an intelligence level from their pics

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I don't base it on age gap, I base it on mutual attraction and maturity level.

But if based on their profile you don't get to assess personality, only pics. Saying that I do think you get an intelligence level from their pics "

Yes you can tell quite a bit from pics but it's the messages that tell more of the story.

Plus I meet for a social first and that tells all. Also, despite being with someone for 22 years, I've not had children so I don't have those issues about meeting younger guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

18 too young for me, have to be 21+ and 45 top age.. For him he wouldn't say no to a pretty 18yo and and an older busty older woman of 50 lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When searching we look at age and pass them by if they are both in there 30's, is this wrong or do we have a confidence issue

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just seen your pictures and 30's will be fine

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"When searching we look at age and pass them by if they are both in there 30's, is this wrong or do we have a confidence issue"

Only you know the answer re confidence! And as for being 'wrong' it's your choice.

Personally I won't meet under 25 (prefer 30 as a min age) or over 50 (prefer 45 or under).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since joining Fab I've come to the conclusion that age is pretty much irrelevant. In fact nowadays I don't even bother looking on the profile. Great people come in all shapes, sizes and ages, as do idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As i have a 27 year old it has to be at least 5 years older than her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As i have a 27 year old it has to be at least 5 years older than her x "

Is there a reason though

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?"

Old enough to be my kid is too young, old enough to be a parent is too old for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?

Old enough to be my kid is too young, old enough to be a parent is too old for me"

Now that's a class answer, will adopt that from now

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By *irty Girty From No 30Woman
over a year ago

Burbage

"Age is just a number "

No its not, age is a representative of how many years you have been alive, hence it called age.

Birthdays wouldn't exist if it was merely just a number.

This is one of the most ridiculous thing men can possibly say in my eyes when they are trying to say your age preference don't matter cause age just number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd base it less on age and more on how we connect in person, when we are in a club someones age is irrelevant as it's all about attraction and finding common ground. But chatting on here as a general rule I would be less interested in under 25's and over 50's. I'd feel uncomfortable with someone aged 18-21 as it just seems so very young

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Age is just a number

No its not, age is a representative of how many years you have been alive, hence it called age.

Birthdays wouldn't exist if it was merely just a number.

This is one of the most ridiculous thing men can possibly say in my eyes when they are trying to say your age preference don't matter cause age just number"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As i have a 27 year old it has to be at least 5 years older than her x

Is there a reason though "

I dont feel comfy playing with around the same age as her or younger x just me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd base it less on age and more on how we connect in person, when we are in a club someones age is irrelevant as it's all about attraction and finding common ground. But chatting on here as a general rule I would be less interested in under 25's and over 50's. I'd feel uncomfortable with someone aged 18-21 as it just seems so very young"

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?"

Age isn't something that I select on - it's whether there is a mutual attraction.

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

They have to be at least double my eldest sons age usually.

As for oldest age is a number it's down to attraction. There are some men in their late 40s I think are great. There are others in their early 40s who I just think no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?

Old enough to be my kid is too young, old enough to be a parent is too old for me"

I've always said this too. Anyone closer to my children's ages than mine just makes me feel uncomfortable.

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By *aguarxfsCouple
over a year ago

Fleet

Age is not important if everyone gets on and is attracted and there is a connection then it makes no difference x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When searching we look at age and pass them by if they are both in there 30's, is this wrong or do we have a confidence issue"

I'm 22 and you're hotter than me! You guys have nothing to worry about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have to ask to see ID, they are too young

If they need their vegetables mashed at mealtimes they are too old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's different for woman and men,

I prefer older women myself and I don't shy away from women my own age.

I think it's just a matter of attraction and attitude

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I won't sleep with someone under 18 and over 65. Generally I love much younger and much older guys but since there are more blokes in my age group, I've ended up sleeping with more guys in that group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go through fazes. But in general it's how I connect with someone that counts. Age isn't just a number. It's a measurement. But it isn't an accurate measure for whether or not I will get along with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally I have a 15 year age gap, where it's 5 years younger and 10 years older ....

However saying that in exceptional circumstances I have extended to the odd 20yr old or the 46 yr old

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By *iverpoolad2000Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Age is just a number I think but I wouldn't go with someone 20years older than me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As cliché as it sounds, age really is just a number.

The last woman I slept with was 22. The one before her, 44.

If the chemistry is there, you're both on the same wavelength and turn eachother on, then that's all that should really matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a formula - n/2 + 3, where n is a your age....

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By *urhamgentMan
over a year ago

durham

For me this is more a question of maturity

I have known women of all ages and found some in there 20's far wiser and more mature than those in their 50's

Oh and let's face it most men on here would be classed as still in their teens

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

I just know I don't have any interest in anyone younger than me. They just keep prooving how immature they are. I'm looking for mature men, a young "lad" (oh I hate that term) does not fit this and apart from maybe 2? all have thrown their toys out the pram when I have said I'm not interested.

Older guys are the same; I go by who attracts me and what age range they happen to be in and add a couple of years just incase I miss any older who are aging well and that's my top age range.

It all depends on what you are looking for and what you are comfortable with (for example if you have children the same age as the person interested in you). I don't have children so that isn't an issue for me, I just know what I like and younger guys just do not fit that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age 24- to a fit 65 for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?"
this is an easy one 17 is too young sorry but its illegal and 99 really I have pants younger than that

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

It's all to do with attraction for me. Whether that be physical or personality wise. Age doesn't come into it.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?

Old enough to be my kid is too young, old enough to be a parent is too old for me

Now that's a class answer, will adopt that from now "

Yes that seems a sensible guideline....and has more relevance than the trite "age is just a number" incantation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Age is just a number

No its not, age is a representative of how many years you have been alive, hence it called age.

Birthdays wouldn't exist if it was merely just a number.

This is one of the most ridiculous thing men can possibly say in my eyes when they are trying to say your age preference don't matter cause age just number"

And funnily enough the ones that tend to say this come across as really immature...funny that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 49 and seeking 30 - 65.

People who have 18 - 99 on their profiles I do wonder which planet they're on.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Younger.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

"We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?"

No more than 30 years younger and occasionally a few years older if in exceptionally good nic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a formula - n/2 + 3, where n is a your age....

For me that would be reducing my lower age range to 30, 25 years younger so no thanks, am far more comfortable with 10 years either side

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By *irtydaddyfor youMan
over a year ago

corby

luckily, there are girls of all age, that like the thoughts and act on them for an old guy. They feel secure.

Then of course there are those that thinks its disgusting. So folks the usual horses for courses in all of us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They have to be at least double my eldest sons age usually.

As for oldest age is a number it's down to attraction. There are some men in their late 40s I think are great. There are others in their early 40s who I just think no.

Good way of putting it and totally true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel free to call it 'trite,' but personally, I've always believed that age is 'just a number' (usual legal caveats notwithstanding.)

To be honest, I really couldn't care less if you're 18 or 118. What matters to me is if we share a connection, and whether you're willing to keep an open mind.

People can't do anything about their age: far better to base your choices on things that they can exert an influence over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

G is 9 years older than me at 44, I'm 35. We have set the age as 24-52 at my request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They have to be legal, not look like a child, not act like a child and be attractive to me (which considering I like facial hair on men means they have to be old enough to grow a decent scruff). That's the only lower age limit I have, however hubby has nearly 10 years on me so I understand that his lower age limit is a little higher than mine so on here we come to compromise.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me has to be mental age....which is hard to guess - some people behave more mature than their age some quite opposite... NUMBER in that case can be very useful and can be treated as a guide.

For example, for me, people 28 and under are ADD generation, addicted to video games...so...it's a big fat NO from me.

People 58 and plus are generation of 'Woman get me a sandwich while you're scrubbing that floor', generation where men thought women live to please them and they always always have to agree with them...

But Obviously there are always little rebels who don't follow others like a sheep

So yeah. That's how I look at it

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

we are the same age as each other and generally go for people 10 years plus or minus our age. It's not set in stone, but we feel its a guide that works well for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we are the same age as each other and generally go for people 10 years plus or minus our age. It's not set in stone, but we feel its a guide that works well for us. "

More or less the same rule that I apply. It seems to work.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I wouldnt go lower than 28 and upper age 52 /53.I dont feel much connection with people alot younger.Miss.

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By *reenEyedWifeCouple
over a year ago

Market Harborough

"We all get messages and winks but how many look and say to young, to old. What age gap do you consider being acceptable from your age, 5 years, 10 years ?"

On this profile I have mine set 30 to 45 (so up to 22 years younger) but that's purely to curb the deluge of mail. Some 29 year olds (and younger) are delicious and some older guys are as well - it's the brain and the attitude (in addition to a decent face and a hard cock) that do it for me. It's a superficial arena I'm afraid . . .

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By *ogsdangliesMan
over a year ago

Washington

I think we all agree it's about the attraction or connection, my last ex was 20 years younger, but I still find older women very sexy

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By *pal2Man
over a year ago

cumbria

Was just thinking that hundreds of years ago before records and calenders you wouldnt actually know a persons precise age. There would be no legal age of consent and no real way to judge age except based on maturity and looks. That sais you were probably dead at 25 killed by a sabre tooth tiger and so on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go below 18. Have slept with some 19 year olds recently.

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By *aryoonMan
over a year ago

southampton

Age gaps are pretty irrelevant to me, I've been with much younger and much older, it's the person or people that matters not their ages, that's where the attraction lies

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

illegal too young,dead too old ..anything in between is ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"illegal too young,dead too old ..anything in between is ok

And who says men are not fussy

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"When searching we look at age and pass them by if they are both in there 30's, is this wrong or do we have a confidence issue"

It's for you to decide but, when I was in my 20's I had a very nice relationship with a woman in her 40's. Carried on well into my 30s and her 50s. I always thought she was very attractive and she was also quite naughty to. So you shouldn't have any confidence issues either; looking at your profile pics you look like a very hot, sexy woman to

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"luckily, there are girls of all age, that like the thoughts and act on them for an old guy. They feel secure.

Then of course there are those that thinks its disgusting. So folks the usual horses for courses in all of us"

No one has any right to think it's disgusting. It's a choice like everything else is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"illegal too young,dead too old ..anything in between is ok

Rather bluntly put but, in my opinion, well said.

I've been told by some people that it's a bad idea to have your age limits set at 18 to 99, because it suggests that you're just looking to shag 'anything with a pulse.'

However, just because you don't care about someone's physical age doesn't mean that you have no standards. It just means that I see a person's interests, outlook and attitude to be far better criteria for judging their suitability as a partner.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"luckily, there are girls of all age, that like the thoughts and act on them for an old guy. They feel secure.

Then of course there are those that thinks its disgusting. So folks the usual horses for courses in all of us

No one has any right to think it's disgusting. It's a choice like everything else is

But, if they are disgusted by it then they are. Although I've no idea why they should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Age doesn't matter for me, be between 18 to 93 and you are ok

Same here x

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"I don't base it on age gap, I base it on mutual attraction and maturity level."

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"illegal too young,dead too old ..anything in between is ok

Rather bluntly put but, in my opinion, well said.

I've been told by some people that it's a bad idea to have your age limits set at 18 to 99, because it suggests that you're just looking to shag 'anything with a pulse.'

Same here. I don't put an age limit but that doesn't mean I'm not fussy. I look for intelligence and charisma mostly, that has no age limit. I have found over time that I have more fun with people who with 10 years of my age than others.

All that being said, a few pints on a Friday night and my standards slip and could wake up with almost anyone. LOL

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

"illegal too young,dead too old ..anything in between is ok

Rather bluntly put but, in my opinion, well said.

I've been told by some people that it's a bad idea to have your age limits set at 18 to 99, because it suggests that you're just looking to shag 'anything with a pulse.'

All that being said, a few pints on a Friday night and my standards slip and could wake up with almost anyone. LOL"

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