FabSwingers.com forum: 3sum question

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay.. this may sound odd.. but until recently we had very quick meets, in, play and out..

Anyway, we have started to have slightly more intimate plays, and have guys stay for a coffee before and after and things..

But I suddenly realised.. if we were having a 3sum with Master, What does the other guy do, when Master has me to himself after..

Does he go make a drink, disapeer quietly off into the night???

It may sound silly, but in all the times I have thought about it, I have never really considered this.. as pretty much in the past.. Cumming meant by, see you again maybe.

Its not an issue if I have two guys and Master watches.. lol as they tend to have one end each.

I am talking about the times that the first guy has me first.. and after he has cum, Master carries on with me.

You dont want to leave the guy like a gooseberry...

Advice???

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give him a camera and ask him to record/take pics till Master has finished.

Up to you if there is any film or memory card in it, just keeps him busy busy, and view it as an added turn on!. xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Give him a camera and ask him to record/take pics till Master has finished.

Up to you if there is any film or memory card in it, just keeps him busy busy, and view it as an added turn on!. xxx "
That is one option I guess.. lol

DO others just send them home at this point???

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

You can keep both guys busy at the same time you know

When we have 3sums, both guys share and then one may watch or ill be doing something with one of them while the other one is playing with me and vice versa

The possibilities are endless,if one guy has come I give him some time to recover and concentrate on the other one until the first one is ready again

But it all depends on what you both want out of the play really,does your master want you all to himself after the other guy has finished,or is he happy to let the other guy stay around and keep joining in?

Ill play for hours and hours but not everyone is the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually have a cuppa and a fag with them afterwards but if there still there after an hour of us having sex then I make my feelings known by yawning my head off and saying it's bedtime never had a meet stay the night wouldn't dream of it but that's me

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

"You can keep both guys busy at the same time you know

When we have 3sums, both guys share and then one may watch or ill be doing something with one of them while the other one is playing with me and vice versa

The possibilities are endless,if one guy has come I give him some time to recover and concentrate on the other one until the first one is ready again

Ill play for hours and hours but not everyone is the same"

i agree with this keep him joining in and u can still be having sex with ur master

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Okay.. this may sound odd.. but until recently we had very quick meets, in, play and out..

Anyway, we have started to have slightly more intimate plays, and have guys stay for a coffee before and after and things..

But I suddenly realised.. if we were having a 3sum with Master, What does the other guy do, when Master has me to himself after..

Does he go make a drink, disapeer quietly off into the night???

It may sound silly, but in all the times I have thought about it, I have never really considered this.. as pretty much in the past.. Cumming meant by, see you again maybe.

Its not an issue if I have two guys and Master watches.. lol as they tend to have one end each.

I am talking about the times that the first guy has me first.. and after he has cum, Master carries on with me.

You dont want to leave the guy like a gooseberry...

Advice???

Katie. x"

How about getting him finish your ironing and the washing up only

only kidding let him reload then join in again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I normally when I have a 3sum keep both men busy.. but if Master and I have full sex with others there it tends to be that I get so wrapped up with each other that there would be no chance for the other man..

I certainly wouldnt want to play for hours with another guy.

Really if I play with two men and one is Master after the first guy has cum I want my Master to have me all to himself...

We also do get very lost in the reclaim time after.. I dont think I would want the guy to stay around and rejoin in.. but its just never really come up.

As last few times Master and I have played together the guy has cum and left and let himself out.. lol but that was when we did quick meets, with no kissing, foreplay etc..

Katie. x

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

what about if he sits and watches?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"what about if he sits and watches?"

For a short while.. but on average reclaim takes about 3-4 hours lol :D and can turn very BDSM related.. :D

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if anyones been so rude to say after sex "you know where the door is now do one" ??? Crossed my mind a few times LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably can't see anyway (blindfolded)

That's an idea

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By *inky24big35Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

"what about if he sits and watches?

For a short while.. but on average reclaim takes about 3-4 hours lol :D and can turn very BDSM related.. :D

Katie. "

if u find the right man and explain it to him they might be ok with that just sitting and watching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your guest is experienced with meeting couples for 3 sums he will not feel awkward a 'gooseberry' in any way. He will go with the flow knowing he is enhancing your sex life as you are his. The key question is whether you feel once he's cum it's then your man and finish, or you like the idea of repeat play.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"what about if he sits and watches?"

When it's time for me to play, "He"

sits and watches / goes off for a fag / makes a cuppa etc., etc.,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If your guest is experienced with meeting couples for 3 sums he will not feel awkward a 'gooseberry' in any way. He will go with the flow knowing he is enhancing your sex life as you are his. The key question is whether you feel once he's cum it's then your man and finish, or you like the idea of repeat play. "

I think that once he has cum, that it would be just Master and I... I dont really like the idea of repeat play.. on average my meets last from 30mins to an hour..

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"what about if he sits and watches?

For a short while.. but on average reclaim takes about 3-4 hours lol :D and can turn very BDSM related.. :D

Katie. "

Then you need to say that after the first guy has had his time then its time for you two to be alone together

Unless you don't mind him staying to watch but just warn him it may not be for the fainthearted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wonder if anyones been so rude to say after sex "you know where the door is now do one" ??? Crossed my mind a few times LOL"

I used to always say that.. lol.. but I would make it clear before.. that after sex, its get dressed and go. :D

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what about if he sits and watches?

For a short while.. but on average reclaim takes about 3-4 hours lol :D and can turn very BDSM related.. :D

Katie. "

3-4 hours sitting and watching is probably unreasonable for most. Probably best to explain prior to playing then your guest won't feel strange when it's time to leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I take it that its not bad ettiquette to basically ask a guy to recover, but then make his own way out while the couple carries on..

To be fair it would be with one of the people we meet with regular, but its just its never really been something I have had to think about as its normally been Me, Master and 4-5 other guys.. and Master would wait for them all to go...

3sums I normally have with two other guys, and they both leave.. :D

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

If you have explained to him before hand then there should'nt be any misunderstanding when its time for him to go,especially if its someone you have met before

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you have explained to him before hand then there should'nt be any misunderstanding when its time for him to go,especially if its someone you have met before

We always make it clear what we look for first.. but having changed the way we play a bit lately to allow more contact we were not sure..

We never leave any surprises.. but I spend lots of time talking to or writing stories for Master on that topic... and suddenly realised I always totally excluded any chat of the other guy after orgasm lol.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in many 'situtaions' usually swingers tend to be friendly and if you all get on and trustworthy, many options.

I've stayed over or had people stay over (breakfast too) depends and some have committments.

Fantasy - roleplay can be totally different though.

Think it's rude to just leg it after usually. A brew is always good at least before and after.

Had nights out on the town too - until meeting in real, people don't always realise if they're comfortable with them hanging around.

Sadly some have presented immediate 'doubt' in all.

Respect thing really too,if a man is happy to let a man take his wife etc it's taking the pee to run off with the TV too !!

Personally I think anyone who enters or allows entry into ones home they should have immediate respect wether it be for friends,family or of another nature.

Only ever been guilty of the leaving the Loo seat up which seems to upset some even lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I definately would never consider someone stopping over...

and I would be happy if they wanted to make themselves a quick cuppa while we carried on..

I do tend to prefer people to kinda go as soon after as possible.. and even when I play without Master present.. wouldnt cuddle up.

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay.. this may sound odd.. but until recently we had very quick meets, in, play and out..

Anyway, we have started to have slightly more intimate plays, and have guys stay for a coffee before and after and things..

But I suddenly realised.. if we were having a 3sum with Master, What does the other guy do, when Master has me to himself after..

Does he go make a drink, disapeer quietly off into the night???

It may sound silly, but in all the times I have thought about it, I have never really considered this.. as pretty much in the past.. Cumming meant by, see you again maybe.

Its not an issue if I have two guys and Master watches.. lol as they tend to have one end each.

I am talking about the times that the first guy has me first.. and after he has cum, Master carries on with me.

You dont want to leave the guy like a gooseberry...

Advice???

Katie. x"
anything is good if its what u and master wants

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

I suppose I don't understand the whole 'reclaim' thing but could you not spend 30 minutes with them after, the three of you having a chat and a drink, say your goodbyes then get on with it?

We always play alone after a meet but wouldn't turf anyone out to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I definately would never consider someone stopping over...

and I would be happy if they wanted to make themselves a quick cuppa while we carried on..

I do tend to prefer people to kinda go as soon after as possible.. and even when I play without Master present.. wouldnt cuddle up.

Katie.x"

Nothing wrong with that,I do like a cuppa after but I carry a stove etc anyway

Cuddling up is a bit OTT - ideally I like to find out as much as possible prior to ensure everyone is happy and enjoys.

There is nowt wrong in your choices - just as long as people are aware and people don't always ask and assume.

I've fantasies of a lady just turning up and ... then that aint happened as yet lol.

Although I've met ladies before who have fantasies of leaving the door open and someone just walking in.

They haven't managed it yet after years of leaving themselves to 'abuse'

The ones who have mentioned this have suggested it after (bit late then) so may be it's best kept to couples for safety reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our threesomes we always play together, there isnt usually a time when one is sat doing nothing. I prefer it that way. Swinging to me is something to be enjoyed by the two of us ie; if one guy is busy at my nether regions, the other is at my top end being catered to.

And if the single guy we're playing with is spent (ooo theres an old fashioned word lol) then I usually use him to hold onto - they never mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In our threesomes we always play together, there isnt usually a time when one is sat doing nothing. I prefer it that way. Swinging to me is something to be enjoyed by the two of us ie; if one guy is busy at my nether regions, the other is at my top end being catered to.

And if the single guy we're playing with is spent (ooo theres an old fashioned word lol) then I usually use him to hold onto - they never mind

Oh I am normally busy but when it comes to "cum" for the boys.. The guest always does first... its what you do with them after they have lol

I think what we have worked out is that if the other guy is okay with leaving after.. that it will be someone that we know... and he will be happy to go make a drink.. and then we can either say bye.. or let him shut the door on the way out. :D

Katie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I suppose I don't understand the whole 'reclaim' thing but could you not spend 30 minutes with them after, the three of you having a chat and a drink, say your goodbyes then get on with it?

We always play alone after a meet but wouldn't turf anyone out to do it."

The reclaim is something that I could not imagine not having.. its the time my Master basically makes love to me and reclaims me.. because another guy has had me.. I dont think I have ever spent 30mins after with a playmate.. As after is just for us.. ( even when its just me and Master is on cam watching..)

Katie.x

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By *hatsthisMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By *hatsthisMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

All the more reason to watch then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole Master thing makes me laff out load

cant take it serious, but each to their own hey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The whole Master thing makes me laff out load

cant take it serious, but each to their own hey

He is my Husband and the man I pledged my life too.. whats to laugh about?

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having read some of your other posts, i understand the importance of 'reclaim' for you and master. I wonder if it would spoil reclaim if the other guy just hangs around? Would you be able to stall play with master for 5-10mins, let the guy get dressed and say ur farewells?

This is what happens with me when i play with couples, as it is obvious that they are wanting time alone together.

I never mind this, as i understand that my play is part of their relationship. So im happy to 'fuck & go'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh I dont have a problem with it lol its just personaly I cant do role play without bursting out laffing, Ive been married 11 years but Id never see my hubby as my master more as my equal jmo

Ruby X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"oh I dont have a problem with it lol its just personaly I cant do role play without bursting out laffing, Ive been married 11 years but Id never see my hubby as my master more as my equal jmo

Ruby X"

oh see thats where the confusion comes in, its not role play.. its a lifestyle choice.. its not something I play at... Its something that defines who I am.. and how we are as a couple.

Who says Master and I are not equals.. Master is just in charge..and it means I dont have to make decisions, although I get a say.

Anyway.. on reading this thread I think that either getting the guy to watch for a little while and both saying bye.. or him knowing the score and heading off shortly after will work..

Guessing like with anything else its all about Communication.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh I dont have a problem with it lol its just personaly I cant do role play without bursting out laffing, Ive been married 11 years but Id never see my hubby as my master more as my equal jmo

Ruby X

oh see thats where the confusion comes in, its not role play.. its a lifestyle choice.. its not something I play at... Its something that defines who I am.. and how we are as a couple.

Who says Master and I are not equals.. Master is just in charge..and it means I dont have to make decisions, although I get a say.

Anyway.. on reading this thread I think that either getting the guy to watch for a little while and both saying bye.. or him knowing the score and heading off shortly after will work..

Guessing like with anything else its all about Communication.

Katie. x"

Maybe this should be another forum discussion lol " Do you class the Master/sub scenario role play or a life style " ?? I know what i think again jmo lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe this should be another forum discussion lol " Do you class the Master/sub scenario role play or a life style " ?? I know what i think again jmo lol

Feel free to start it as last time this lifestyle was discussed many people were enlightened.. its as much role play as you being your husbands wife..

Katie.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh I dont have a problem with it lol its just personaly I cant do role play without bursting out laffing, Ive been married 11 years but Id never see my hubby as my master more as my equal jmo

Ruby X

oh see thats where the confusion comes in, its not role play.. its a lifestyle choice.. its not something I play at... Its something that defines who I am.. and how we are as a couple.

Who says Master and I are not equals.. Master is just in charge..and it means I dont have to make decisions, although I get a say.

Anyway.. on reading this thread I think that either getting the guy to watch for a little while and both saying bye.. or him knowing the score and heading off shortly after will work..

Guessing like with anything else its all about Communication.

Katie. x"

I don't know much about master/mistress/slave lifestyle.

But I do know it is that, a serious life choice not roleplay, and from what I've gathered it's the slave who has the ultimate control. They choose how much they acquiesce, subjugate, to their owner.

I find your posts and glimpses into your lifestyle informative Katie, I learn something each time you do so. Thank you. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can keep both guys busy at the same time you know

When we have 3sums, both guys share and then one may watch or ill be doing something with one of them while the other one is playing with me and vice versa

The possibilities are endless,if one guy has come I give him some time to recover and concentrate on the other one until the first one is ready again

Ill play for hours and hours but not everyone is the same"

Ooooooo i like your style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh I dont have a problem with it lol its just personaly I cant do role play without bursting out laffing, Ive been married 11 years but Id never see my hubby as my master more as my equal jmo

Ruby X

oh see thats where the confusion comes in, its not role play.. its a lifestyle choice.. its not something I play at... Its something that defines who I am.. and how we are as a couple.

Who says Master and I are not equals.. Master is just in charge..and it means I dont have to make decisions, although I get a say.

Anyway.. on reading this thread I think that either getting the guy to watch for a little while and both saying bye.. or him knowing the score and heading off shortly after will work..

Guessing like with anything else its all about Communication.

Katie. x

I don't know much about master/mistress/slave lifestyle.

But I do know it is that, a serious life choice not roleplay, and from what I've gathered it's the slave who has the ultimate control. They choose how much they acquiesce, subjugate, to their owner.

I find your posts and glimpses into your lifestyle informative Katie, I learn something each time you do so. Thank you. xxx "

I agree Laine I love reading your posts Katie and I admire your relationship.

Usee xxx

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"Okay.. this may sound odd.. but until recently we had very quick meets, in, play and out..

Anyway, we have started to have slightly more intimate plays, and have guys stay for a coffee before and after and things..

But I suddenly realised.. if we were having a 3sum with Master, What does the other guy do, when Master has me to himself after..

Does he go make a drink, disapeer quietly off into the night???

It may sound silly, but in all the times I have thought about it, I have never really considered this.. as pretty much in the past.. Cumming meant by, see you again maybe.

Its not an issue if I have two guys and Master watches.. lol as they tend to have one end each.

I am talking about the times that the first guy has me first.. and after he has cum, Master carries on with me.

You dont want to leave the guy like a gooseberry...

Advice???

Katie. x"

So putting their feet up and watching TV for an hour or two is out the question then?

I would be happy just saying a quick goodbye and letting myself out if that's what a couple wanted afterwards. I would also be happy to stay and take pictures or chat as well.

I appear to be becoming 'Mr Flexible' lol

The way I see it is that its your playtime and your home so you can call the shots. I certainly would't be offended to be asked to leave if that was part of your way of playing.

All hypothetical of course...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would be happy just saying a quick goodbye and letting myself out if that's what a couple wanted afterwards. I would also be happy to stay and take pictures or chat as well.

I appear to be becoming 'Mr Flexible' lol

The way I see it is that its your playtime and your home so you can call the shots. I certainly would't be offended to be asked to leave if that was part of your way of playing.

All hypothetical of course...

Your reply just made me laugh.. lol.. You know where the kitchen is.. and tv lol and laptop haha..

And haha at Mr Flexible, you are indeed a man of many talents.. now moved on to chaperone and body guard haha..

Katie. x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

"I would be happy just saying a quick goodbye and letting myself out if that's what a couple wanted afterwards. I would also be happy to stay and take pictures or chat as well.

I appear to be becoming 'Mr Flexible' lol

The way I see it is that its your playtime and your home so you can call the shots. I certainly would't be offended to be asked to leave if that was part of your way of playing.

All hypothetical of course...

Your reply just made me laugh.. lol.. You know where the kitchen is.. and tv lol and laptop haha..

And haha at Mr Flexible, you are indeed a man of many talents.. now moved on to chaperone and body guard haha..

Katie. x

...and I can waggle my ears too, there truly is no end to my talents.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...and I can waggle my ears too, there truly is no end to my talents.

Omg really.. wow.. then truly you are indeed talented..

Katie. x

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

...and I can waggle my ears too, there truly is no end to my talents.

Omg really.. wow.. then truly you are indeed talented..

Katie. x"

*blushes with false modesty*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

*blushes with false modesty*

I would say you blush never, but I bet I know a few girls that can make you blush hahaha

Katie..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what about if he sits and watches?

For a short while.. but on average reclaim takes about 3-4 hours lol :D and can turn very BDSM related.. :D

Katie. "

mmmmmm reclaim , love that.

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